| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/20/2005 10:14:52 AM | Kitkat my EX walked out when my son was one,he's now nine and i have loved every day of it.
She now has two kids to her new man and saw my son last year!she pays nothing,says nothing and to tell you the truth it would of been better if she had died.
My son never ask's after her but i can see him with tears in his eyes when he see's other mum's outside school. So there are some cold harted cow's out there! Number one is called SHARON PATTERSON of LONDON. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/20/2005 9:59:01 PM | | i guess i'm still new at this my children are 3 and 18 mos. whats the big deal about getting support or not getting support, my 3 year old lives with me 75% of the time and my 18 month old likes with me 45% no custody orders, no support orders. their mom works making good money, i work making a slight bit more. even when i was with her i wouldn't take her money, in fact i never take any money from females, it's just not right to me. but see she buys groceries, and i buy diapers and toys. what more could a 3 year old ask for? | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/21/2005 12:02:48 AM | samhonolulu
sounds like you should get together with all the ex's and start a war party!!!
I know once mine kicks the next one to the curb I'll be there to help him on his feet.
Good luck with the court date. But as it's been stated take the kids and run with it. Either the money will come or it won't, as the kids get older, they figure it out. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/21/2005 12:06:32 AM | slammed
I disagree only to the aspect of how everything has panned out. It sounds like you and your childrens mom seem to work things out pretty well. Actually probably better the most. But if you role reversal, she wants everything and tries to take you for it, then when things don't go her way and say the dad gets custody, shouldn't she be obligated at that point to step up.? She thought it was right for her, why shouldn't she have to do the same if things don't go her way. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/21/2005 12:53:19 PM | | Good luck samhonolulu, I am in pretty much the same situation, I have my kids full time and am still paying child support! worst part is I'd feel bad asking for child support from my ex. even though she sure didn't have a problem trying to get all she could get when she had them 50% of the time! I hope everything works out for you in the end and remember that it's not the money, but the children's health and well being that really matters! Keep us posted. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/22/2005 10:53:49 AM | | My county is one of the worst in the country for collecting support, they just want their government checks themselves and do not care about their responsibilities, but as you can see from this thread the odds are not in favor of the custodial parent. I don't agree that the courts are biased against fathers in family law, except when it comes to collection of child support. I will say this, have them pay through the clerks office, not directly to you, and never turn to an outside collection agency. You can pay a one time fee at the prosecutor's office when back child support reaches a set amount, which you can find out with a quick phone call, but you will have to stay in fairly regular contact to keep them motivated. One thing I noticed a few people say was that the non-custodial parent was absent for extended periods (The_Tinman). When you have a case like that try to get the exchange set up at a county sponsored exchange site so they can keep official records of visitation/non-visitation, and generally a year is considered abandonment. You might not get their rights completely taken away, but you should be able to get their visitation severely restricted. Personally, I don't miss the child support I am supposed to receive because I never have, so I have pretty much stopped worrying about it. Congratulations on being awarded custody Sam. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/22/2005 11:40:32 AM | Wow - I applaude all you single men out there  and also all the single women . Why do people have to be so petty and immature? Slammed_aries - you are a lucky person to have two responsible people in the relationship, who care about the CHILD(REN) and not being petty over money.
What I REALLY don't understand is when people try to see their kids, and the other party stops them (or tries to stop them) from participating in their kids' lives - it really isn't right. It hurts the child as much, if not more, than the parent.
my 2 cents worth 
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/22/2005 6:22:23 PM | Hey everyone!
Actually a very good friend of mine....is paying child support for her 3 children....(well no so good anymore but u know what i mean)...And she pays a hefty chunk also...but she hasn't complained about it, and pays it the thing is she doesn't see her children...doesn't even attempt it no more..hence the reason why we aren't good friends..she pretty much abandoned her children..but the father is doing an AMAZING job raising those lil ones...I applaud all single dads out there...(well single moms to, but we here it way to much where the single fathers don't..and they should)
Lish | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/22/2005 10:57:31 PM | | Thanks for all the responses. Court is alway fun! Maybe fun isn't the best word, always interesting. the ex wil be paying $50 bucks a month! I didn't expect anything. Every bit helps. The good news is she's probably off the drugs, but still gets supervised visitation until next court date in January to review visitation. Aloha | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/23/2005 7:58:11 PM | Great! Congrats Sam!
Expect nothing - but still try - then you won't be disappointed, and often you will be surprized with what actually you can get.
Keep us posted - and hang in there. I'm sure your kids appreciate all you are doing for them (or if they are too young to appreciate it now, they will when they are older).
~K. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/25/2005 1:31:49 AM | I never tried to get any child-support. My ex is a deadbeat sponger timewasting little... you get the score... and she never earnt a penny in her life anyway. All her money used to come from me, and now from however many boyfriends she has.
Good luck to you, I hope the court case goes well! | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/25/2005 11:27:17 AM | Hey kitkat...
"I simply cannot believe that a Mommy could just up and walk away from her kids! "
I hear you but it happens all the time. Ontario has some child support laws that are very unbiased, based totally on a formula of your income and it has nothing to do with your gender.
Still...I do know some nice guys that are being burned. They have full custody and no child support from their dead beat partner. Is it just me or does it seem that guys tend to be less likely to push the issue? | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/25/2005 11:27:25 AM | Hey kitkat...
"I simply cannot believe that a Mommy could just up and walk away from her kids! "
I hear you but it happens all the time. Ontario has some child support laws that are very unbiased, based totally on a formula of your income and it has nothing to do with your gender.
Still...I do know some nice guys that are being burned. They have full custody and no child support from their dead beat partner. Is it just me or does it seem that guys tend to be less likely to push the issue? | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 9/25/2005 11:27:43 AM | Hey kitkat...
"I simply cannot believe that a Mommy could just up and walk away from her kids! "
I hear you but it happens all the time. Ontario has some child support laws that are very unbiased, based totally on a formula of your income and it has nothing to do with your gender.
Still...I do know some nice guys that are being burned. They have full custody and no child support from their dead beat partner. Is it just me or does it seem that guys tend to be less likely to push the issue? | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/9/2005 12:31:40 PM | WWW.NOMARRIAGE.COM
F*C**K ALL THESE HOES! To all you men out there. BE A F'in MAN! its about TIME.
Look at these ladies lists of wants and needs. Far exceeding YOURS.
Look at the women in their 30's and 40's on these forums!
Dudes. Also do not find women in Russia or other countries. They are JUST as bad.
Focus on finding a young woman, then use all the lessons you learned from your past and make her happy and make yourself happy.
Watch out for women who go "I'm not worried about keeping my man, but my man better be worried about keeping me"
good luck to all you guys, I am getting a serious Prenup before I get married :) | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/9/2005 7:34:16 PM | | My ex earns a lot more than I do, and she had moved into the house her boyfriend/father of her first child without telling her lawyer, so when it came time for the parenting plan or go to court meeting, my lawyer ground her down to paying support to equalize the difference between our two households. All she pays is $148.00/mo (she has plenty left over to buy horses and keep her boyfriend in the style he enjoys), but it's the victory that counts. It really helps our ends meet over here, too. So good luck. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/10/2005 2:50:34 AM | | I find it hard to imagine a guy lookin for support i have not had my kids in 10 yrs other than visits and as they get in thier mid teens the visits get less, i think whoever asked about gettin the kids and support??? thank god everyday u got the kids i pay my support each month and think nothing of it its goin to my kids that love me as i love them ,,, the system isnt anywhere near fair but if you have your kids livin with 24/7 be thankful and forget the few bucks she likely hasnt got and courts are in no hurry to get her in there to force her to pay,,,, pretty lucky having the kids..............my 2 cents,,,,, a dad without his kids!!!! | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/10/2005 6:24:02 AM | @Mr. Clean! What is wrong with a woman in her 30's or 40's? Absolutely nothing! That was not a nice generalization you made.......not to mention I really didn't think your post had much to do with the topic at hand....
OT: I could go on about not being paid anything either, but then, that makes me the norm as in woman complaining about the dead beat Dad! However, actually, though I am female, I have been treated like a male in the court system simply because I married a low life with no desire to get/keep a job.....In 18 years of marriage, I basically supported him along with my two kids so I guess I set precedent for having to pay him spousal support! I told him I would quit my job before I ever paid him a cent, and that would not be good for the children! Now, I sole support mine and an damned happy to do so.....as far as visits with his kids??? Son he sees when he feels like playing Daddy and he does not bother with my daughter at all.....we all have these children, thus we are ALL responsible for taking care of them emotionallly, physically and spiritually! Those that choose to walk away are gutless wonders who put themselves before anyone else! Blows my mind it does! | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/10/2005 8:43:17 AM | Suprising to see this thread pop back up.
Turned out that the court orders were changed by our judge and sent through to reflect me paying the ex! Second time. I get letters from child support stating that they are not responsible for the 'over payments' and must collect it myself. restraining orders are in effect - which makes it impossible. Additionally, mom is still on drugs and testing positive, so, in effect, I'm paying for her drug use!
( But most importantly, I've got my girl - and she's doing great - safe, happy, and leading a normal life)
Went back to court to stop the payments - but took 1 month and had to miss work again.
Aloha.
Still 'fighting' false charges of tro violation and phys/sxl abuse by the ex.
pick your mates carefully!!! | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:05:21 AM | God Sweetie! My heart aches for you! Somehow the legal system wherever you are....hardly is ever fair is it? All I can say is hang in there! Glad that your daughter has someone who loves and cares for her! Sendin a big hug your way!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/10/2005 4:17:50 PM | Sam, I hear you on the false charges... The cops and DFS in this area (SW Missouri) are very understanding of drug and alcohol abuse. She has tried twice to get me arrested and have the kids taken away..... No luck on her part....LOL Rotfl ...... Oh btw we are still in the procces of the fight..... divorce that is... My children are with me (12yrs & 13yrs), they don't want anything to do with her...... They got a bellyfull growing up..............
Hang tight......... | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/10/2005 4:28:17 PM | I have had my two sons for almost six years now my ex was ordered to pay 100.00 a month for both I have to date recieved 167.00. But I don't need the money its jsut the fact that if the roles were reversed and I fell behind in support then I would be made to sit in jail untill I caught it up or i would be sent to prison on some lame work release scheme. This is not pure speculation I have served over 10 years in the prison systems and have seen this so many times that no one can tell me different. There is truly a double standard to the mother and the fahther who has custody.
It's worth doing without the moiney to know I sont have to put up with her. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/10/2005 4:45:38 PM | | ^^^ Dane! Now that is not something I agree with at all! If you have full custody, then whover the other half is should be made to pay support, whether male or female! And for the guys who have custody of their kids 100% but still have to pay support???WTF??? Society has changed immensley what with Daddies becoming full time parental givers...the laws in both Canada and the U.S. need to be updated for Gods sake! | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/10/2005 8:26:36 PM | | going to court on monday to try and get my ex to pay .I've had the kids full time for over two years i paid her until last october .i finally got that stopped kids haven;t seen her since nov.no birthday cards ,chirstmas presents no nothing i'm going for full custody and child support the works .i hope she will at least have to pay somthing if not it don't matter we get along just fine without her around. she's been on drugs for years [pot] kids dont even want to see her now. good luck to you sam i hope you get everything your seeking. | |
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