| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/10/2005 8:47:28 PM | back when i had to pay if my payment was even one day late they was up my ass about warrants for my arrest [nw arkansas] .i'm hoping they treat her the same way my lawyer say's i've got a slam dunk case with her not seeing the kids in over a year .she dont live but seven miles from us i geuss it's to far to go to see her kids maybe her new man is more important than her kids don't knowkids are to the point know they dont want to see her no more . i hope she has to at least pay something i will up date you on my case monday the 14th if this posting is still going good luck to you and all single fathers out there stay strong my brothers  | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/10/2005 10:20:50 PM | | hay my x just left me and my kids on july 30th2005 she disapeard for 5 days to go meet some one that she met on this thing and no she dos not pay any suport to me she says that she dosnot have any money in canada i cannot do anything to get some money from her.this is so wrong its the kids that suffer from it with winter comeing it is so hard to get all the things that my girls need not want but what thay need and she dosnot cear but when she is with the girls she tells them that she loves them and thay get mad at her for not helping me with some money to take cear of them. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/11/2005 12:43:40 AM | After reading this post I had to drop in with my two cents.
When my ex and I first separated she had the kids, and from day one without question she got a part of my paycheck every two weeks. We decided on an amount and without fail every two weeks she got what I promised her for the kids.
After a year or so it became abundantly clear she couldn't handle it and we went to court again so I could get "day to day" care of the kids. At the time money wasn't a huge issue so we left support alone. Now 3 years later I am on my own with two kids and making less than I was then. I have trouble keeping food on the table let alone a roof over our heads. So now I have asked her for a little bit of help, so that I can get out of the hole I'm in. She has promised me all kinds of payment arrangements yet every time the day seems to come and go with no money.
My question is why do mothers get away with it? If I hadn't payed I would have been considered a "dead beat". Why are mothers not treated the same? Why do they not have the same obligations as fathers?
Things should be even, and mothers should be equaly responsible, period. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/11/2005 1:02:07 AM | it is over in Australia... whomever the resident parent the payer has to pay 18% of their wage... and that can be done privately or thru the agent... most people go thru the agent as they keep the records... so it is done evenly and equally here... unless and only unless the payer has the kids more then 108 nights in their care.. then the agency will work out something else for the payer to pay... if they are not working... it gets taken right out of their govt payments ok its only $10 a fortnight regardless if you have 1-10 kids together... every family gets a family tax benefit each fortnight when seperated the resident parent get its... but also.. if the payer has the kid/s for more then the 108 nights in their care they can get part of the family tax benefit...
seems easy doesnt it....lol... im actually thinking we have the fairest family system about ... | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/11/2005 2:11:15 AM | I’ve had custody of my daughter for 6 years now.
Her mother has never paid a single penny towards her upkeep.
Court isn’t interested and so I stopped pursuing it a long time ago.
One benefit comes out of it, at the end of the day I can sleep soundly knowing my baby is fine and taken care of, By me.
Good luck. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/11/2005 5:23:28 AM | Had to bring this thread up again! I think society should log on to a site like this to get a real eye opener! The number of men that have posted here.....I myself had absolutely no idea how many Moms ditched their kids and have left the Daddys to care for them! As I have said before, the legal system wherever you are needs to be changed to reflect what is really going on today! Kudos to all you superdads! Thank God your kids have you to care for them! | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 11/11/2005 5:38:32 AM | our family laws have been updated few years ago to suit what its going on over here... the family law courts will not be fronted unless you have had at least 3 conferences/mediation sessions... parent counselling... and only if one or both parents have breached the orders which we agree to ourselves... if you cant come to an agreement within 4hours then it will be rest again... if it is brought infront of the courts... it is mostly coz there is a parent that keeps breaching... in that... the person breaching regardless of mum or dad... can get a $6000 fine or jail...
I have just gone thru my 2nd consent conference... in which i got what i wanted this time... as the first one i bent over backwards for the father and he breached everything on there.. but coz he breached within the first month the courts wouldnt have looked at it... now... for my sons father to have anything to do with his son... it is up to him to make the arrangements he agreed on as i had to make my own arrangements and i have already done it... that was a month ago... and im still waiting to sign the formal papers so they can be sighted at the courts... before we leave the conference we both had to sign off on the draft.. the payments for child support dont even come into these conferences... as that is a seperate issue and we have a very capable govt agent that handles that. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 10/29/2006 8:35:01 AM | Sort-of.
I'm by no means an "ex-Mom"; however, while I'm in school my ex has my daughter during the week, and I pay out my ass, seriously. I've sent him thousands of dollars in the past year. I take my daughter on weekends, and whenever I can. I buy her all her necessities.
And yet, he's taking me to court for support on Wed morning. What an ass. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 10/29/2006 10:15:25 AM | Wow, you're setting your goals too low, dude!!! I have custody of my kid, and I get a whopping $50.00 per month from my ex in child support!! And that was with a woman judge!!!! Don't sell yourself short, go into the courtroom, and DEMAND from your attorney you get at least $50.00 per month, or you're going to appeal!!
All things equal will never happen. When was the last time you heard of a man having child support set anywhere below a couple hundred a month?
And my ex makes more money than me. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 10/29/2006 10:23:56 AM | creehazy:
Why is he an ass... Would you not take him to court if you felt he was not paying the right amount of support? You say your paying thousands of dollars... Well how much are you paying based on your income... Most students attending full time school can barely affoard to feed and cloth themselves...
This attitude from NCP who are women drives me batty... That because they are mom.. Dad should feel lucky that he was even granted custody of his kids... Let alone having the mom pay...
My ex gave me the reasoning that I even with my son I make more money then her... So why should she have to pay a proper amount of support.. I've come to the conclution I will never see anything from her.. But it still does not change the principle of the matter.
If you an NCP, you should pay CS. And it needs to be calculated properly. Why should you be held a different set of rules because your in school. Heck who knows the amount you have been paying might be considered to much... and you will be ordered to pay less..
You are more then welcome to pay more... But your ex cannot ask for anything more then what is ordered by the courts... Sometimes the orders help protect the NCP as much as it protects the CP. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 10/29/2006 10:40:06 AM | | I went ass backwards on this, I got the divorce first, verbally aggreeing to support issues, well, bit my self in ass for that one, summer went by, and she took off with new boyfriend, breaking promises to the kids, well back to the drawing board, contacted lawyer, papers are in the process of being served, going to be a long battle I presume, do I expect money in the end, yes with the decision, based on income levels, actually receiving it.... when hell freezes over...lol | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 10/29/2006 10:44:40 AM | My ex was evicted several months after I left because he wouldn't scoop the dogshit out of his back yard. I paid for his new place, and damage deposit. I gave him money when he couldn't pay his hydro bill and telephone bill even though I know he had a bag of weed kicking around somewhere. I was paying him $350 a month for child support over and above all of this, when my income calculation states that I should give him $150.00 (the online child-support calculator) a month. I still to this day give him $350 a month. Every month.
Also, I buy all her school clothes, supplies, winter clothes (and I don't buy the zeller's snowsuit...I buy quality clothes that I KNOW will last), halloween costumes, etc. I also pay her transportation between our places every time.
Also, when I left him I took only my clothes and make-up...well, a few of my treasured family possessions. That's it. I left him everything plus the car.
I've started over again and in a much better position for my daughter and myself.
Not to mention, he is now common-law with a woman. Their household is worth twice mine.
That's why he's an ass. I pay all my dues. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 3/6/2007 10:38:34 AM | I first posted to this about a year and a half ago, guess how much support I have recieved in the past year and a half? If zero is your answer then you are the big winner. I also share custody of my other two sons I have four sons I have two with me full time and two with my ex, now ask me in the past year and a half how much have I paid out in support. If you guessed thousands of dollars then once again you are the big winner. But I am not complaining about the support I pay for my two younger sons. It just irritates the hell out of me the threats I have to endure if I fall even just a lil bit behind. Oh well the price we pay to be men and to be able to look at ourselves in the mirror everyday and say I still have respect for myself. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 3/6/2007 10:56:30 AM | Why would it be any different getting support form a mom than a dad? No difference to me, do a thread search and look for answers there. The problems women face getting support from fathers are the same as getting support from mothers.
The child support guidlines in Ontaro are not gender specific. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 3/8/2007 6:35:39 AM | | i live in ky,the laws here can be harsh.if you dont want to pay childsupport dont come to ky. i went to the childsupport division and filed,took about a month,now she pays 500 a month,comes right out of her paycheck.hang in there and keep trying,i know its hard. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 3/8/2007 3:51:40 PM | | I just have to wonder sometimes why the prevelance of non-payment of support by mothers is not reported in the media more. We know that on a percentage basis the rate of non-payment is significantly higher, but that doesn't get reported. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 3/8/2007 3:59:32 PM | Usually isn't much for some reason while they like to stick it to the fathers.
it isnt that at all - in every state in the us, the child support guidelines are gender nuetral..and binding on the courts -they are income based and not gender based | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 3/8/2007 4:04:52 PM | back when i had to pay if my payment was even one day late they was up my ass about warrants for my arrest [nw arkansas]
under arkansas law, no arrest warrant could be issued for "one day late". in fact, arkansas law defines default as the accrual of one months arrears. arrest warrant can only be issued after an indictment for criminal non support which usally requires a prior finding of civil contempt for non payment. | |
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| Any guys successful in getting ex-Mom to pay child support?
Posted: 3/8/2007 4:26:41 PM | I would thnk because the overwhelming majority of NCps who DON'T pay are fathers.
For example, if there are 10 NCPs ordered to pay support and 5 don't, statistically that is 50%. But is the amount of fathers who are NCPs are more like 1000 and 500 don't pay support, that is still 50% but quite different numbers overall. 5 to 500? I would report the 500 children who don't get supported over the 5. I did a cursory look and could not find any reference to any stat on NCP mothers who do not pay support. I figure it's because there are not enough of them to warrant such a statistic. I don't put any faith in statistics on either side anyway, but if this were in fact a reported stat I would really like to review it and the criteria. | |
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