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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 8:42:46 AM | It's not that they think you're interested. They just think you might be. Older gals are great for these young bucks. They'll pay for dates; give them lots of really great sex; say yes to almost anything; the list goes on. The ones who do say yes are just what these guys are looking for...and more power to both of 'em. They're going to have a whole lot of fun together.  
BTW, you can set the system so only certain ages are allowed to message you. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 9:02:33 AM | I met a very nice Marine this weekend. He's 36. He's a little too young for me, but than again, I feel a very strong desire to support the troops. We've all got to do our parts. I'm feeling very patriotic now. 
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 9:15:12 AM |
I don't think the young men think we're interested...I think they are looking to fullfill a fantasy of being with the older woman is all
If I could find an older woman that looked like jcnotasuperstar, I'd forget completely about the numbers.
Some women do have a timeless beauty.
Problem is, most are already spoken for.   | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 9:57:52 AM | I have no filters on my profile restrictions, that I know of, and yet I state in my profile about a desire to meet someone my age or younger. Don't ask me why, Iv'e dated women older by a year or two, and in some cases, 10 yrs older. I would again if the right girl came along.
But the fact remains, I simply do not get emails from women in, say, their 30's, which I might reasonably "expect", at least to some degree. Yet it never happens. I would date an attractive woman age 45-50, or above, if she's attractive and well spoken, yet the vast amount of "those" are already spoken for. By and large, though, the majority of women I get emails from are older, overweight(BBW/few extra) and have not really been good to themselves. "Many.....not all, but .MANY" ..... just look like they've been worn hard and put up wet too many times, irregardless of how much personality they possess.
manerider ..... it's not just me then , since that has been my experience as well .
Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
I think that young guys have hormones -a - raging and they've heard so much about "cougars" that they are just giving it a shot.
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 10:03:46 AM | jcnot wrote - I don't think the young men think we're interested...I think they are looking to fullfill a fantasy of being with the older woman is all.
Nah I think that is more stereotype then fact. Young men today are like young men 20 years ago. They are more likely sick of putting up with the head game crap that so many teenies and 20 somethings get into. Older women on the surface dont seem to have time for that kind of dramatic crap, and it tends to show in how they move through life and how they act around it. Mind you us older guys know that in private they are still gurlie gurls at heart 
Take the attention as compliments. It means they probably respect what you are for more then just how you look. The few that just want sex out of it are probably pretty obvious to pick out anyhow.
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 11:53:53 AM | Arugula: I'm not telling anyone what they mean. It's obvious. If we have the ability to set our email to limit age and women come in saying they don't want emails from younger men yet they get them all the time, then you don't have to be a rocket scientist to figure out the reasons for these types of posts.
Also I have no idea what the statement below me means but at no time would I date you. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 12:01:52 PM |
I'm not telling anyone what they mean. It's obvious. If we have the ability to set our email to limit age and women come in saying they don't want emails from younger men yet they get them all the time, then you don't have to be a rocket scientist to figure out the reasons for these types of posts.
OK, and just to let you know....if I was 65 - 80, I'd be hitting on you. And I'm sure you'd be all about dating me. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 1:37:38 PM | | I know what you mean. I have been talking to a guy for a few months and he cant get over i will not date him and just want to be friends. I tell him he is a good friend because he listens and that i enjoy talking to him but i will not date him because he is too young for me. He is 25 and i am going to be 36. I dont want to hurt his feelings and i keep telling him to find someone his own age. I would hate to lose him as a friend. Holly | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 2:04:44 PM | | Well, to be honest here, I decided that I wanted a long term partner and decided that I would only look for men my age (im 48). Men of 'my age' seem to have found a new way of meeting women (i.e. internet dating) and I have dated 2 older men who have lied about their age/pictures/marital status etc. At least younger men (not too young obviously) are up front and have the confidence to be who they are and to be fairly truthful about themselves and their circumstances. I would say go for it, if you want to. Choose carefully, get them to wear a condom and only meet where there is candlelight if you are scared of revealing 'wrinkles'. Young men love older women as they know they will not only have a sensible friend to talk to, but also have a little bit extra in the love department through years of experience. lol | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 2:11:29 PM | | Im 48 and I am attracted to younger men. Didnt ever think it would happen but it did. I actually dated a man much,much younger from this site and he happened to be the most honest and mature one that I have found on hear. Im sure that plenty of them arent...but you never know. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 2:20:30 PM | | Everyone has an opinion on age. I don't think age is just a number, if your number is too low or high it's a problem for me. However, emails don't bother me. I think an older woman with a younger man is short lived, I think he'll lose interest. I also think an older man with a much younger woman is short lived. If he is 45+ not only does he have to secure college educations for his children, he also has secure retirement. Not to mention will he be physically capable of playing ball with his children. I think a young woman looking for an older man is looking for financial security and he will need to provide that. There happen to be alot of young men who can provide financial security both my nephews are making 6 figures, I would think young woman would find them most appealing. Not to mention those woman who want to share the financial burden. All I'm saying is when older seeks younger there is a reason. I don't think it's the norm. I'd also like to add if your not receiving the responses you think you deserve do a thread and ask why. My ex-boyfriend is on POF and he is finding attractive women to date. He gets lots of responses from women.Of course he is very attractive himself. Just my thoughts..... | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 3:06:16 PM | | I'm interested in them if there's something to be interested about. It's not the age. I clearly state on my profile that age and race aren't an issue. They're certainly not. If you're 70 and act and think much younger and are great to be with, alright. If you're in your late 30s and you're the hunkalicious I'm interested in at that particular time, and you're interested in me, alright now! I'm gonna go for it if it appeals to me. That's MY bottom line. If the vibe's there, bring it. I'm not on here looking for a husband, though, I can tell you that right now. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 3:38:27 PM | | Most young men who have contacted me admit to being interested in me for "the experience" factor, and sometimes also because they think older women are less of game players. I have nothing against younger guys, and I'm flattered by their interest, for whatever reason, because many of them are quite attractive. And I've dated mostly younger men in my past, though not huge differences. There is no controlling or accounting for "chemistry" or attractiveness issues. The problem is, if they are too young?..Most want to eventually get married and have children. Since, I'm looking for something fairly long term, at least, why would I get involved with someone who is going to leave me at some point? I usually tell them this very thing, but one thing I will say, they are very persistent. (lol) And, oddly enough, I get more attention from younger guys. I will even say that there is so much in life they have yet to experience, that I've already been there, done that. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 3:42:54 PM | I get quite a bit of email from the younger ones. I let them know they are sweethearts, and should be perusing nice young girls instead of an old bag like me. I really don't know why they would bother. It must be the cougar movement I guess. It's not for me. I will go 5 years younger and that's it. No cradle robbing for this Nana. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 9:41:14 PM | | CW35: Do you really think women are putting older men down? Maybe you're right. That begs the question--why? A lot of older men aren't taking care of themselves, whereas many older women are. Take a good look and you'll see what I mean. Look at Demi Moore, Goldie Hawn, Sharon Stone, and the list goes on and on. And not just in Hollywood. I've been married twice, both times to men much older than I am, still am in fact. If I were to choose someone now, he'd have to be at least five years younger than I am. Old men lose their zest, their libido, their interest in living. It's sad really. Women eat right, exercise and stay vibrant. And women aren't looking for financial security the way they once did. They're looking for a real companion, not a meal ticket. That's the reason for this new trend. It's here to stay. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/30/2007 10:23:27 PM | | From what I have experienced in my life it is all about finding someone to connect with me in every area of life and someone who respects you as a person. I know recently in my life I seem to connect with older women but it is not about what others think. I know from me doing alot of speaking in front of groups from all ages and walks of life I just have been blessed with the gift to communicate to others no matter what. There are some great older women out there I would not mind meeting and there are some great women my own age I would not mind meeting but in my life it is for me about meeting the women who wants to connect with me no matter if that women is older than me or younger than me. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/1/2007 4:27:10 AM |
Men dont look at age restrictions in profiles, i have one in mine but i still get mail from men 57 plus
Actually, since you have your filters set to no older than 45, no one who is 46 or older can email you...period.
The reason many of us get email from much younger, and much older is because we do not have the age filter set. I don't because I get email from people of all ages in the forums. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/1/2007 4:40:54 AM | Because some of us are interested.. lol I was pursued for a while by a younger man from this site actually. So, I figured what the heck.. and I met him for coffee. We really hit it off at least in a physical way, and let me tell you, it was incredibly flattering to have someone much younger than me take an interest! However, I took things much too seriously too soon and I expected more from him than he was able to give because underneath the "maturity" I thought I saw, there was definitely still a man 15 years younger than me without much life experience compared to me. I didn't want a fling, and I don't believe he really wanted one either, but I think he realized that he just wasn't up for the responsibility of being involved with an older woman, especially one with children. I never pressured him, but I believe he started to really consider what life might be like further down the road with someone that much older than he ...
It was fun while it lasted, but I am definitely not going down that road again... live and learn! lol | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/1/2007 4:57:12 AM | | Dear Sierra. YOU are the "odd one out" so to speak! You whine that 19 to 27 yr olds keep replying to your profile. GET REAL Sierra! I'd say 90% of the females on here (many for YEARS and YEARS!), WANT a "toyboy"! As a veteran of these dating sites, I have noticed that NOT MANY of the females on here are actually "real"! They WANT LeoDecaprio's LOOKS - Jesus' QUALITIES - he MUST LOVE their kids (and THEIR DOG!) - HER life is "fabulous", "happy" and "great" THEREFORE HE must "bring" the relationship TO HER and fit-in with HER life (coz she ain't budgin outta her 'comfort-zone' and surroundings) - OVER 90% of females want YOUNGER guys (because THEY are so "ravishingly beautiful" you understand! lol and, "all my friends say I don't look my age"..) So Sierra - you are whining about RECEIVING what 90% of other females ARE AFTER! THAT's WHY - for years and YEARS - every time you get a "your latest matches notice", you see the same old familiar faces again and again, month in, month out, year in, year out... I don't believe they have ANY INTENTION of dating a "REAL" DTE guy! Certainly, only about ONE in 20 will even BOTHER to reply to a message..! (and it's usually a knockback!) | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/1/2007 5:43:41 AM | To be honest I have no idea why. I will say this much for younger men though. When they do email you most of them have taken the time to actually read your profile, they don't send the form letter like older men do. They also do not respond back with I wouldn't want you anyway you old whore when you politely say no thank you. hmm
*rethinking the younger guy thing* | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/1/2007 5:56:40 AM | I have a friend from high school that is in my age group who lives with a boytoy in his mid 20's. She has been married twice, has three kids, and has been used and abused for most of her life. Knowing her for as long as I have, I have talked with her very frequently about this. Her state of mind is that there is no such thing as LOVE, and seems to have adopted a philosophy of "I will never again put myself in a position to be hurt". Keeping this in mind, by being with a guy damn near 20 years her junior, she is able to call the shots, or wear the pant's. Her house is a dictatorship where she is the dictator. Her children can't stand this guy because he is a very poor provider, wakes and bakes (smokes weed), is incredibly lazy, and not very smart in the ways of the world, and willing to put up with her crap. When we talk, I point out where she is in life, (not in a hateful way, but in sincerity) how she is not happy, lives in a state of perpetual poverty ALWAYS scrounging or borrowing from family members in order to survive and make ends meet, and I ask her if this is what she truly want's in life.
Her response is always the same: I will not be hurt again. In conclusion, it appears to me that it is about power and control, same as it has always been. When we as a species learn to treat each other with the love and kindness that we all so desperately seek, then perhaps we will learn that life is not always about power and control. It is a shame that her life has been marred by a handful of jerks and poor decisions on her part (Nobody can put 100% of the blame on others). What really is tragic about this whole conversation is that sooo many people have the same attitude, instead of learning from past mistakes and poor judgement, they just develop a hard shell around themselves and are willing to SETTLE with having complete control of a truly dysfunctional relationship because it is easier that way, and they have control. It should come as no great shock to learn that people that take this route very rarely find true happiness, or true love and that is a lesson that I hope everyone can learn from, and see the truth for what it is. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/1/2007 7:07:21 AM | | mypeach: I don't think that older women look better than any of the older guys I've seen. Possibly they eat healthier (or think they do) at times but if you're talking about looks I see no evidence of it here. There are definitely a lot of older women with large egos who THINK they look incredible. Haven't seen any Demi Moores around here though. (Goldie and Sharon are scary examples so you may want to rethink them). Don't get me wrong. I don't tend to have a fixation on just the physical when I'm interested in someone but I refuse to date a self centered woman who's ugly on the inside. Unfortunately from my personal experiences, I'm getting a sense that there are a lot of women my age and older who fit that description in the online dating world. I also find them more cynical and unromantic in a lot of cases. From that aspect it may be smarter for men to date younger more often as well. If the attitudes of older women keep going in the direction they are, I think the "dating younger" trend may be the only option for men as well. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/1/2007 11:07:25 AM |
Look at Demi Moore, Goldie Hawn, Sharon Stone, and the list goes on and on. (mypeach)
So, Tom Cruise, Harrison Ford, George Clooney and Michael Douglas (et al) are nothing but what, swiss cheeese?
At 45, I'd have to say I've weathered the aging storm fairly well. And given the types of women, who approach me on POF, for the vast majority , I'd say they've long since stopped caring about their physical appearances/weight.
Forgive the imposition, but me thinks the picture you paint of men vs women's aging is just slightly off target, although I've met a handful of older women who really surprised me when I found out their age.
I hope the trend, as you say, is as easy for others to see through as it is for me.
The trend is that some women have forced this mentality (in true feminist fashion) outwards and the media promulgates it further.
Lordy Lordy, when will the madness end!!! | |
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