| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/1/2007 1:11:17 PM | ^^
Actually, that statement is pretty much spot on. According to the American Heart Association, more men than women are overweight. There will always be people who don't take care of themselves for whatever reason, but as for the weight issue, an overweight person is more likely to be a man than a woman. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/1/2007 5:16:24 PM | | CW35, I've noticed that you post here regularly. Is there a particular reason why? I don't know where you live, but if you were in Atlanta, you'd see some drop dead gorgeous older women. It has nothing to do with being self-centered. Why assume that women who are beautiful are ugly on the inside, and if I understand you correctly, you're seeing that with the women online. How many have you actually dated to arrive at such a generalization? Maybe you need to re-think your obsession with this topic. You say "if the attitudes of older women keep going in the direction they are...." What does that mean? Give it a rest. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/1/2007 5:56:25 PM | blondee....
Overweight does not define unattractive in males. Given the opportunity to select a body type women, on average pick about 15-20% overweight. Myself, I'm tecnically overweight at about 185. Women find me most attractive at about 200. We were talking about being attractive and your stats don't really speak to that at all. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/1/2007 7:15:06 PM | | mypeach: I see. So it's okay for you to make assumptions about older men and say that dating younger men should continue but when I notice similarities about most of the older women on dating sites (ie women my age and up and yes I've talked extensively with and dated many) and say maybe more men should do the same suddenly you're defensive about it. Very hypocritical on your part but it was exactly what I expected. I think you're the one that should give it a rest. I'm entitled to my viewpoint every bit as much as you're entitled to yours but it seems everyone has to share your opinion. Unless you don't know how to read, you can't possibly look at some of the attitudes in the profiles and not see what I'm talking about. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/2/2007 1:10:34 PM | Overweight does not define unattractive in males. Given the opportunity to select a body type women, on average pick about 15-20% overweight. Myself, I'm tecnically overweight at about 185. Women find me most attractive at about 200. We were talking about being attractive and your stats don't really speak to that at all.
Author: shyblondee
Actually, I was responding to ManeRider, who said most older women stop caring about their physical appearance/weight. Truth is, more men than women stop caring about their weight. I do think women are more forgiving of a few extra pounds, which is probably why men don't care as much about their appearance. I would be willing to bet that if you gained weight and weighed 240, fewer women would be attracted to you. Personally, I work hard to stay at my ideal weight and don't want to date a man with a beer belly. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/11/2007 1:33:07 PM | This seems like a stupid question like with anything people ask because there are people on the other end looking for the very thing they are asking for. For the people that have a problem getting emails from younger guys set your damn email settings or don't complain, the fact is you probaly enjoy the attention but you don't want to admit it.
It's no different then with the guy going to 100 women and asking for sex and 1 out of that hundred saying yes, don't blame the guy blame that one women for making it worthwhile to do.
Thirdly most of the complaints I read where that the older women can't see why a younger guy would be intrested in them, truth be told your obviously lacking in self esteem, men are primarily physical so obviously they found you physically appealing, Women are more mentaly based which also explains why more women can held back by misconceptions about younger guys.
Many older women seem to assume that younger guys think of them as deseprate, and easy who really thinks that older women have been around alot more then younger women they have heard all the tricks in the book so really I don't see how anyone could possibly think that.
fourth age does in no way equal maturity sexual peak is not always accurate it's just a well known fact that some men and some women enjoy sex more then others. I can understand some of the problems older women have with dating younger guys kids same age or same age as the mother. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/11/2007 1:57:33 PM | shyblondee,
Women aren't more forgiving of a few pounds, the research shows they like a few more pounds. To be attractive to women as a man is to be overweight according the heart association.
But more directly to the point of the falsehood you perpetrate, those statistics do not in any way indicate men don't care as much about their weight as they age. In fact they could be construed to suggest just the opposite. I see lots of men heading to the gym every day who women would regard not just as fit, but as having fantastic bodies, that would be considered medically overweight. Women work out to lose weight almost exclusively. Men will often exercise to gain it. So, even just sampling the portion of the population that is most fit will show men tend to be technically overweight (on BMI for example). Therefore, statistics showing men tend to be overweight more than women do little or nothing to prove the fact that men take care of themselves as they age less than women. A man taking care of himself will often have sufficient muscle mass to be clinically overweight. It really doesn't take much. Do you know how skinny a guy at 6'2" and 185 is? (where I'm technically overweight).
BTW, what I would look like at 240 (which was actually pretty good) is irrelevant. Look at the body shot I posted on my site, not only am I technically overweight in that but my BMI is 28 where clinically obese is 30. Technically overweight is a joke, especially for men.
Find some other way to prove your point. The statistic you cited only indicates that men tend to be overweight more, not how they got there, not whether its unattractive, and not whether their failing to take care of themselves. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/11/2007 5:31:06 PM | | I'm extending the olive branch. I don't want you to think that ill of me for my opinions nor will I think ill of you. And certainly, I don't expect everyone to agree with me. You're a nice looking fellow, and I imagine you're also a nice person, so I'm giving it a rest. How about you? | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/11/2007 6:30:02 PM | | It's so funny. When I was much younger I always wanted to be with older men. Now that I find myself SIXTY, it's amazing that I look at younger men. Well, let's face it, those OLDER men are now in their eighties. So now young men in their FORTIES look fantastic to me. On the other hand, when I've actually been approached by a younger man, I get a little freaked out, like I can't keep up sexually or any other way. Does a younger man necessarily think that I'm so EXPERIENCED? | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/11/2007 11:02:45 PM | | I know there are things saying that men dont take care of themselves. I know in my life I always worked out since I was in college and even in high school I worked out. I weigh 240 and very very lean and have a low bodyfat. I believe it is all about preferance on what a person want. I mean some young men look to the older women to see if they can connect with them and vice versa. I know in my life lately it seems that is all who will connect with me is the older women. I mean this month has been a wierd one for me because it seems everywhere I go some older women are giving me wisdom on just the simple things in life and I am not even hitting on them. I know personally there are great older women out there to get to know and great women in my age group but alot of times it is hard to find what a person is looking for if a person dont want to take the time to get to know you. We can focus on a person's looks all the time but in the end the looks fade. So we need to sit and wonder what do we really want in a relationship. I mean not all young men want older women but most of the time it seems that is all some men can get to talk to them is older women if the women in that person's age group dont want to talk to them. I know on this site in lately that is all who message me is the older women. Have a great day. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/12/2007 11:29:11 AM | Yes I do....Very young, it is almost all of my mail, weel maybe not....Some of the young men are obssesed. I am talking about from 17 to 21.. They have a fantasy..........I have ask younger men why they like older women... I mean ages 35 on up.. They tell me,
because older women have less baggage..that could mean alot of things, like they know how to take care of themselves or maybe we are desperate...Are you? NAH..ME EITHER. I think some means no baggage means no children?????????????
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/12/2007 11:35:52 AM | I do agree that more women take a man as he is... they look at the over-all picture..
not all,but alot of men it is visual....I agree, there are so many drop dead beautiful older women........I do care what I look like.......Although I do run to the corner store for milk in my sweats at time, but I make sure I have my earrings on lol
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/12/2007 11:41:51 AM | Actually, 25 year old men and 45 year old women probably have a great deal in common, sexually speaking - and I think that the men have figured that out. I don't have children even in their teens, so I don't have that "son" repulsion - my only inhibitions are social expectations, which I'm starting to think are just nonsense anyway.
If you're looking for a relationship, with someone to share your everyday worries, and who likes the same kind of music, and who knows what it's like to be a single parent, and all that jazz, then a 20 something might not stimulate you at all. But, if you're looking for a great escape and a crazy adventure - then, you might let your hair down and go with the flow. They're young, not stupid, and I think we could learn alot by keeping our minds open. Be respectful and sincere - and expect the same in kind, and maybe you'll have an experience you won't soon forget. On the other hand, a polite, "no thanks" will work just fine.
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/12/2007 12:29:54 PM | | Well I for one am attracted more to guys that are younger than me than older. I have been told I don’t look my age and I know I don’t feel or act my age, I still like to go out dancing and have fun. I will say though that it is hard for me to overcome my thoughts on the lack of anything in common with 20 year olds enough to actually date one although I have had offers. I try to keep myself in shape and frankly I don’t see enough guys my age that take good enough care of themselves….granted this is not all guys….so the younger set is what I am physically attracted to. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/12/2007 1:20:41 PM |
Actually, that statement is pretty much spot on. According to the American Heart Association, more men than women are overweight. There will always be people who don't take care of themselves for whatever reason, but as for the weight issue, an overweight person is more likely to be a man than a woman.
The statistics I'm looking at right now from americanheart.org state that while more men than women are overweight (by about seven percent), more women than men are obese (by about five). The last set of statistics I saw on obesity.org, which are no longer available that I can see, said pretty much the same thing. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/30/2007 6:39:39 AM | | I am 22 and tend to only date older. I seem to get plenty of dates from older and have no issues with it. I enjoy the more mature woman, less games and more honesty. Furthermore I think we find each other more sexually attractive. Just my opinion. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 10/30/2007 9:05:14 AM | | My close-friend is dating an older women 15+ years and he's a pretty young guy, 23. It started with him meeting cougers at his local drinking hole who would then support him as he was in a bad situation. He eventually found a nice one (one who wasn't just using him as a toy" and they have been together for 8 months now, tho she has broken up with him a few times and is currently evaluating their relationship as she wants an equal to support her and her kids while he parties every other night. She knew what she was getting though, my friend has quite the reputation now, lol | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 11/19/2007 8:28:27 PM | ummm, dontmakecookies:
Look at the body shot I posted on my site,
Where'd it go?! I was sooooooo uninterested in this thread, then..... you're mean!
Ok, on topic: my experience tells me that young men think we "old women" are somewhat desperate & will bank on their sexual stamina. For me, not the case at all, as I know better, but, hey , it's a preference, to each their own! As far as the physical, with all else aside, I do prefer a man to be comparably over to under weight. If you can wear my jeans, well, thats kinda creepy! | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 11/19/2007 9:23:09 PM | In looking back, when I was 16 to 28 years old, all of my male friends an I liked being with an older woman. During that era, we felt that it was a huge notch on our belt and a sure thing.
Today there are groups and younger men that play a game in which they accumulate points for different aged women and for how far they get with the woman. X amount of points are rewarded for going out with a woman 10 years older and single. (XY more points) are rewarded if going out with a married woman 10 years older. The point system takes into account the age of the woman, her marital status and how much you are able to do and get from the woman, both physically and materialistically.
There are seminars which are very successful which teach you men how to get into an older woman's pants, how to act, what to say, how to treat different personalities, compliments anything one can dream of. These seminars have male and women speakers and are so successful that DVD's are sold giving examples and showing and explaining how to seduce an older woman.
Do a search on "How to date an older woman" How to seduce an Older woman" ETC...
It's the same old game but more in the open and provides a national point system to compare yourself with guys that you do not personally know.
julie_wildrose message 392.... I was going to message you but I'm to old.... dang... Any who, attraction is key to most relationships but I find little in common with a woman who's main thoughts are about going out, partying and have no clue as to who they are or what is going on in the world.
hmmmm... Idea for a thread...... | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 11/19/2007 10:57:29 PM | | lady just take it as flattering.its still a compliment so take it that way and stop making fun of theyre age and yes they most likely just wants sex cause a 19 year old guy has nothing in common with a 44 year old women. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 11/19/2007 11:36:20 PM | Ok, I'm not reading this whole ding dang thread but I will say!
It's because us "older" ladies are supposedly desperate and horny.
Especially the fat ones!
I can't deal with way younger guys. Sorry. That's what the age restrictions are for on here and I am eternally grateful that they exist. | |
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