| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 11/19/2007 11:48:17 PM | Yea, just be polite about it...And umm, you'r lucky as well.
if I were you ,and nothing is coming you'r way anyhow..
try one out, you might really change you'r mind, and have a really good time also.
Don't think older means better or more experienced, or even more mature far as that goes.
Had a 53 year old boyfriend that was 12 years old in his maturity level,
Had one nine years younger than myself ..that was a whole lot more mature
than the 53 year old!!
Not to mention ..I learned a lot more sexually from the younger one..
It's all conditioning and myths, It's just now being realized that younger men do like older women. And not a Damn thing wrong with that anymore than some old guy after the young chick.
Sure I do have some age limits, but I dont think it was ever written as some SIN in the of age categories!
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 11/21/2007 9:46:22 PM | I had the opportunity to date 2 different ignificantly youner men..one was 15 years younger and onewas only 13 years younger and what they brought to me was enthusiasm.....when they came to see me...they came to see ME...they didt ome to complain abotu a boss that didnt give them a raise of moan abotu somethign else...they wanted to be with me...and spoil me...
th eone down side for the most part financially they werent as secure as i would have liked them to be ...and i did mother them in some regards by getting them to make sure that tehy followed the legal rules such as getting their cars legal and making sure that they took care of their student loans... Im rather a cheap date so finances really have little to do with the price of tea in china...the only time that the age eer came to be a problem was when i was incapacitaed due to reonstruction surgery and the older one of the younger men...came over to spend time while i recovered from my surgery. and the children all voiced their opinions about him being sooo young..
the last young man i dated continues to pop in and out of my life...he just doesnt have the ability to settle down and i really would love to be able to get beyound the age factor with him but he plans on having shildren down the road...as a 27 year old would want....and not only do i not plan on having children I am unable to have children....but we enjoy each other's comapany and occassionally get physically carried away....but we both know that there is no future...ar 42...and 27 we doo not have a future in the long run....if i were guranteed to be dead and buried for about 3 years where he woudl be young enough when i would be happy to end my life with hiim...and he would be able t enjoy our time and he would be able to move on after Im dead and burried and have children and marrya girl his age. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 1/26/2009 6:47:39 AM | I too get alot of emails from 'younger' men. I'm unsure of the exacts but have been told that they prefer 'mature' or 'experienced' women. I'm guessing that younger guys are seeking guidance & reassurance more than anything but I also think that there's prolly some mature men of younger years as well.
Personally, I won't date any man under 40y but prefer 45y or older. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 1/26/2009 8:22:29 AM | | So, judging from a lot of what I'm reading, one of the main reasons women want to date someone younger is because they make older women the focal point of attention and never want to talk about themselves. Seems a tad selfish in a relationship that it should always be about what one side wants and one side needs. Seems like women are looking for a lap dog that will do whatever they want without ever putting much effort into the relationship themselves. This does seem to be a common theme with women. It's always about what the man did or didn't do to satisfy the woman. Mature people realize there are actually TWO people in a relationship. I didn't know that men with absolutely no self respect were so appealing. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 1/26/2009 9:34:10 AM | | Some women like myself generally do prefer younger men. If you aren't interested in a younger man, then put age restrictions on your profile or politely tell him that "we're not a match". There is no need to automatically assume that he is immature or only looking for sex because of his age. Those things can apply to men from all ages. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 1/26/2009 12:12:21 PM | mgs1----Yes I experienced this at my job and at clubs, I party with these younger guys for I can do their moves on dancing hiphop etc..and their energy matches me. If they are hitting on me I will tell them that I like single older man the same my age. And they back off, so I have no problem with younger men. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 1/26/2009 1:03:16 PM | I think your response 'says it all'. I think it also says that you can't read.
Women do not - necessarily - want to date younger men - but if one comes along - appeals - then we might. The big issue is - we have the 'freedom of choice' now without the confines/restrictions of the past. If you don't like/can't deal with that - tough. Please don't try to 'blame us' for your inadequacies - we're not 'buying' any more. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 1/26/2009 1:29:35 PM | qoute -- --- I think your responses 'says it all'.I think it also says you can't read. women do not -necessarily -want to date younger men----------------------If you don't like /can't deal with that- tough.Please don't try to 'blame us' for your inadequacies- we're not buying any more.
Hmm,enteresting respond,but it does not make sense to me. I enjoyed all the Subjects and Messages but is one does not grab me.. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 1/26/2009 2:10:59 PM | The attraction to age isn't so much an issue as maturity level and level of establishment in life. Many guys get tired of the games younger girls play, and want someone that knows what life is really all about is more mature minded, etc., etc. Someone who knows what she wants versus what all her girlfriends told her she is "entitled to". Someone that's had her fun and games, partied her party's, probably tried marriage and seen it's not the "happily ever after" she believed/expected it should be and is ready for something real, something better.
It really is kinda the same reasons why women go for older guys. The difference is usually where we aren't looking for a woman to "take care of us/provide for us" in the monetary / material sense that young women so often look at older guys for. We pretty-much are hard-wired not to need anyone to provide for us in those ways. Maybe cook me a nice meal, or do my laundry sometimes. That's always nice, NEVER "expected" but nice. Sorta like it's nice if I bring flowers or pay for dinner at a restaurant sometimes.
It's just less socially acceptable for a man to allow a woman to provide for him than it is for a woman to do the same exact thing. That doesn't mean it's right or wrong. What's been good for the goose for thousands of years, should be good for the gander. Personally, I just don't like the idea of trusting anyone else to provide for me. I do alright. Taking care of me and me of you in little ways is totally different. There's no "dependency". That keeps my side of the street clean, and keeps me in sincere relationships with the right kind of women for the right reasons.
So yeah, age is just a number where relationship compatability is concerned. In terms of sex it makes even more sense for older women to be with younger men simply because men and women reach a sexual peak at different stages in their lives. Women tend to peak in their 30's and 40's where men tend to peak in their late teens and early 20's. It's kind of natures cruel little "joke" since us guys have all that pent-up sexual energy, yet we still don't know what the heck we're doing!!
I wish I'd have had an older teacher to show me a thing or three at that age. Then again, I was too pre-occupied with my own age group. For some reason, I didn't start finding older women attractive until I got older myself. Not sure if that's genetic.
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 1/26/2009 5:38:32 PM | I think young men think older women are interested in them because theyve watched one too many of those "high quality movies" with the riveting plot lines
In all seriousness though,I think I would be most comfortable dating men between the ages of 27 to 42.(Im 35:)Of couse there are exceptions,but I think once the age gap becomes much greater than that ,common interests and similar goals wouldnt be as in sync . As far as why younger men message older women is concerned,maybe you look younger and they missed your age in the profile..Its possible the two of you have alot of common interests..or perhaps it goes back to my original "high quality movie" commentO:) | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 1/30/2009 5:25:16 PM |
Its's rude and disrespectful when a guy 20 years or so younger hits on you. Go pay for a prostitute, and give her a tip as to not insult her as well. Within 10 years or so is OK
Maybe I got it all wrong...but, I find it flattering...even if it is all about what they think I know or can do...lol...
Obviously, guys in the 20's ,no matter how hot, we are just worlds apart in where we have been and where we want to go...
But, guys from their mid thirties on.... with a lot of them I don't find any glaring differences...I tend to not decide by the age...but, by if he fits my other criteria...and by how mature he is, and like any guy of any age...is he looking for the same things as I?
I have never, even when I was young, been attracted to men older than me, or not by much...it isn't deliberate, just the way it always worked out... | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 1/30/2009 5:36:28 PM | Having worked in bar for many years when I was younger, there would be lots of women who would entertain younger men. And for various reasons.
Sometimes the reason would be that he was just a boy toy, the woman just wants the physical aspect without the commitment.
Sometimes it was an ego boost, feeling like they must look much younger in order to attract someone of that young an age, without the knowledge that the guy is mainly responding of her willingness to advances. Some young guys learn that flattery of an older woman is a tactic that works to get laid, and go "cougar" hunting as a result. It's bragged about by young guys in bars all the time.
Sometimes it's legitimately because they appreciate the maturity. I've always liked older women, often dating up to 10 years older (when I was younger). I value the maturity, but nowadays will not date someone much more than 5 years older. I have a much harder time relating to someone 5 years younger than older. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 1/30/2009 5:53:40 PM | | Well for the record I am a 33 year old male and my dating range is from 27 to about 40 . Its my opinion that thats the age group that I get along best with personality wise and lifestyle wise. Its a total preference of each person.To each thier own .But i would if i was you change my mail settings and the mail will calm down. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 1/30/2009 8:31:55 PM | I just cut my hair, so as to be in some way similar to my photo on my drivers licence, and it is getting close to spring, and you know what, one of my friends, who has red hair, and it is springy, went to Florida this winter, but her's is red, mine is blond, mousy colur, but it feels nice,
older women are interested in some younger men, but not for the same reasons that younger women are interested in older men,
although there some exceptions,
in to rest,
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 1/30/2009 8:47:13 PM |
I just cut my hair, so as to be in some way similar to my photo on my drivers licence, and it is getting close to spring, and you know what, one of my friends, who has red hair, and it is springy, went to Florida this winter, but her's is red, mine is blond, mousy colur, but it feels nice,
Did I miss an earlier post? I am trying to figure out how this fits in with the topic. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 1/31/2009 6:47:33 AM |
Maybe they like playing with jelly or rolling marbles down the stretch mark tracks i am not sure .
Maybe this is why SOME women like younger men: SOME men who are 50 are so meanly critical that the differing attitudes of SOME younger men are refreshing.
When men put such a high premium on looks, they should be fine specimens--drop-dead handsome--yet they never are.
Strangely contradictory. | |
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