| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/2/2009 6:24:20 AM |
Kinda funny that people put profiles up to be noticed...and then when someone notices them, they get offended.
I totally agree. Women who show legs or cleavage and then are offended when men look are in this category--in real life or online. Rude remarks are one thing, but we put up pictures to be noticed and anyone who says differently is outright lying or merely lying to themselves.
I'm 27, someone should explain to me why men over 50 think that I'm in any way on the same level, let alone on the same life path as them.
I think it is wishful thinking on their parts. Why do extremely obese, barely literate men message me? Do they think we are on the same life path? | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/2/2009 10:59:59 AM |
Kinda funny that people put profiles up to be noticed...and then when someone notices them, they get offended
I agree. I think there is no need for some older women to get angry about younger men contacting them. If you aren't interested, then put an age restriction on your emails or tell them that "we're not a match". I have received emails from women that I'm not interested in. Much older women, obese women, women with 5 kids, women that live 500 miles from me. I don't get angry. At least someone is showing interest in me. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/6/2009 6:53:46 PM |
its disrespectful interest.
Just curious...why do you think it is? Isn't disrespect on the behavior or belief of the other person? If they don't do it out of disrespect?
I agree with Celts123 ( even with his implied insults...lol)...genuine interest is a compliment..I never think someone is disrespecting me by showing interest...their behavior later may be..and that's another story....but, interest is interest...we really don't have a lot of control over who we are attracted to, and nothing ventured is nothing gained. JMO | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/6/2009 9:13:02 PM | msg. 454
zangie, to answer your question: both the behavior and the belief of the other person. when someone is clearly out of your age group(20 year gap is a good example) there is almost no chance of a lasting relationship. yes of course there are some rare exceptions but in the case of younger men contacting older women it is primarily for an emotionally detached sexual relationship. and that intention i consider very disrespectful to women. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/8/2009 5:45:31 PM | sleeping beauty: I agree that NSA sex is an insult to some women...but, others are ok with it...the offers used to offend me...then, I just figured less stressful to amusingly decline, or chalk it up to being run by hormones, and not take it personally...happens to all women, after all. Like anything else, if it isn't what you are looking for, you don't have to agree or go along, but, no sense getting angry about it...doesn't change the behavior and causes us stress...just how I handle it.
( I was just contacted by an 18!!! year old...now, obviously that is inappropriate...but, I will nicely turn him down, and not insult his interest...he is young and he doesn't have a lot ofexperience with this whole thing anyway....) | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/9/2009 11:26:55 AM | zangie, i respectfully disagree. and first i never said i was angry about it. believe it or not middle eastern men think that american men abuse their women. first i thought this was a ridiculous statement made by a therapist friend of mine, this is his area of expertise. then i listened further. they feel that plastering young womens bodies in seductive poses on billboard, tv commercials etc... is abusive. they feel young men pursuing older women strictly for emotionally detached sex is also abusive. it made me think and i found it quite interesting that we see them as abusive and they also see a side of us that is abusive. and we are in denial about it.
i feel i have a social responsibility to keep myself out of denial. it's not just about me and what makes life easier for me. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/9/2009 11:39:24 AM | yes of course there are some rare exceptions but in the case of younger men contacting older women it is primarily for an emotionally detached sexual relationship. and that intention i consider very disrespectful to women.
I wouldn't necessary consider this to disrespectful or abusive. If you aren't interested in younger men, then turn them down. You may not be interested in casual sex and that's fine. But there are other people who do have casual sex. That includes some older women wanting casual sex with a younger man. I simply think that both people in any type of a relationship should have the same goals. Whether it's a LTR or casual sex. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/9/2009 12:02:23 PM | even with his implied insults...lol
I wasn't putting down these types of women. I just simply wouldn't be interested in dating them. Either I'm not physically attracted to them. Or it would be unrealistic for me to have a LTR with them. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/9/2009 12:14:30 PM | | I think younger men who are attracted to middle aged women is an ego thing. It's a young man fantasy of conquering a woman who is a "motherly" figure. A mother is strong and protective and they like to conquer the "mother" to show prove himself a man. They truly don't want a relationship with the "mother" figure, it's all a sexual thing. This is just my personal observation not a statistic. I am 42 years old and I have no interest in any man under the age of 36. I have nothing in common with someone 20 something because a relationship with him is preemptively doomed to failure! Why would I walk down that road only to get hurt? Many middle aged men like young girls for a relationship. This is also an ego thing for middle aged men. In reality, these young girls are merely "trophies" or "objects of their sexual desires" or simply just a man's attempt to recapture youthful years. Men and women who do this are very foolish. Someone who is half your age has nothing in common with you! They are entering college and you are almost ready to retire. They are at a point and time in life which you have already lived. I believe in moving forwards not backwards! I want my mate to grow old with me. I don't want a mate half my age nursing my ills while he is unhappy being tied down with me! What kind of love is that? | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/9/2009 1:39:51 PM | | Older women are interested in Younger guys maybe just with the exception of you. All you have to do is send a message to the guys that I am not interested thank you very much and move on with your life...it is that simple you should try it. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/11/2009 11:39:23 AM | A younger man knows no more than his elders who is interested and who is not. It is only after the asking that any man knows...not forsaking the fact that there are a host of older women are looking for younger men and would jump at the chance.
In the short....it aint personal! | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/12/2009 12:13:09 AM | I had many a many younger man hit on me right here on POF...I'm 40. I actually like younger men not tooooo young but younger than me I have concluded that is because in the five years I have been divorced I never met a man my age that kept my interest long enough. I quickly became bored with the idea these older men have that they know what I need .....NOT all but some. And a lot of older men are tired...please don't be offended anyone..but same as some men think older woman are well just older and not the perfect 20 some of us older woman actually look damn good and well feel the same way about older men.....I don't mind the gray hair the wrinkles hehe but what I do mind is the beer bellies and the bedtime at 9pm...the I"m too tired to do this...we'll see about that....I'm alive not dead...I am a very vibrant person in many ways...confident attractive sensual and articulate ..and I love spontaneous combustion ....so there you go...what man at 40 plus is up for that.....I actually met the man I've been dating for the past year or so on here and he's 27 and at first I said oh geez here we go again .....but I haven't stopped talking to him since i met him ...we have the three C's Communication, commitment and Chemistry and we work......I couldn't pry him from me...and as for him looking like my son lol!! Not a chance......I look older uh because I am older ...but not so much that it's a show stopper we look good together I say f......k it! What has been good for the goose for centuries upon centuries is now good for the gander and you know the most disappointing thing is ..this isn't even a topic for men.....it's not a problem if a man 45 dates a 24 year old as perverted as that is .....and that is there is such thing as too much age gap...but point being it's not an issue ...but women dating younger men gets so much attention stop it already ..don't ever concern yourself with what others think cause it's your life ... | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/12/2009 5:50:42 AM | | Thequestion: There actually is a problem with the whole older-younger thing and you just proved it. Even though it may happen a lot, older guys dating younger women is frowned upon where older women dating younger guys is not. You just mention a pairing close to the same age as your own relationship, yet you called it "perverted". Of course your relationship is soooo much deeper because you're an older woman and not an older man. Right. No hypocrisy there. Another thing that makes me sick is older women putting down men over 40 to make an excuse for the fact that they can't admit to themselves that all they care about is looks and not substance. At least have the guts to admit what these relationships usually are instead of offending me and other men in the process. I've got news for you. I'm almost 40 and I can GUARANTEE you couldn't keep up with me. If guys my age are chasing after younger women it's most likely because of the ridiculous stereotypes and attitudes from older women like you. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/12/2009 7:18:22 PM |
she's loking for a male within the age range 18-55.
Well, mine says 0-99 ...haha..what does that mean...
I don't look for a specific age..though there is a general range in my head, and I am not generally attracted to men 10 or more years older than me..I don't discourage anyone based on their age alone, with the exception of very young... | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/12/2009 11:30:42 PM | I agree with you, i am an older woman, i get alot....of younger guys that come on to me...i tell them thank you , and move on...but, i do also tell them i have a cut off age...i really like younger men...they have energy....mind...energy...im 54yrs old, and my cut off is 45yrs...i have met some wonderful men...out there...and dated them. | |
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| Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 2/13/2009 2:08:55 AM | | I have a scenario for you, I came out of a 16 year relationship with my ex husband, child in hand, I waited 18mths before moving on and in that whole time the only guys that hit on me where much younger. My son had even been told by the young 17 yo at the video store .. your mums a milf... like that was supposed to be a compliment (my son is 10!!) so i finally decided to jump back in and started dating a co worker - 7 years younger. 3 years later and after moving in together for 14mths he gets up and leaves saying he isnt ready blah blah blah that he loves me and im so special etc etc then i find out that 2 weeks after meeting the 'family' yes it took 3 years, his father pulled him aside and said, i agree son she is very attractive.... now but in 10 years time can you honestly say that you wouldnt be embaressed being seen with her!!! Now you tell me, is it the young that have the issue because they attracted to older women, or is it the older man who cant fathom why a younger man would be interested in the first place. | |
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