| Instant Messaging - Important?
Posted: 9/18/2005 12:54:00 PM | Mine is turned off also. I hate people interupting me by IM-ing.
I would rather an e-mail so I can respond when I'm ready!!
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| Instant Messaging - Important?
Posted: 9/18/2005 1:19:45 PM | | hell, who needs IM's .... we got forums... i think these are much more fun. plus its sooo easy to IM someone, but it takes thought to write an email. | |
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| Instant Messaging - Important?
Posted: 9/18/2005 6:48:46 PM | I like some form of Instant Messaging, whether it be on the dating site or off, and I also like to have at least one telphone call with someone before meeting them.
The reason is that IM can give you a better feel for the actual person. When I write an E-mail I am free to read it several times, edit it, fix errors, etc as much as I want before sending it - so it is "sanitized" so to speak. With a IM you don't have a lot of time to think about what you're typing, and if you do it gets annoying really fast. I do have to say that I cannot stand sending an IM and it taking 5 minutes to get the reply back. In those cases I usually send my response and go do something else for 5 minutes and then come back - which usually irritates the other person. IM does cause time leaching, which is why I keep mine set to full invisible - if I'm busy I don't treply, and you don't know if I was there or not so it's not being rude.
Anyway, you get a better feel for how a person thinks on IM, and if they're going to be an a$$hole it will come out sooner than with E-mail. Telephone is great too, because you can hear vocal inflections and get a feel for how well the person can hold a conversation. | |
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| Instant Messaging - Important?
Posted: 9/18/2005 8:19:35 PM | | I hate it. I cant write in the forums or an email to a friend without being interrupted. I will answer with a polite, Im busy - but they dont get the hint and keep firing away. It drives me insane as it stops the screen, and I cant continue until I address the pop-up by clicking on it and closing it. Then start typing again...and bang theres another one...aarrgghhh If I want to real time chat I would move to another medium where there are fewer people to contact me eg where I have an already established contact list[ as opposed to strangers firing away at me] ....Emails are ok because you answer them when you feel like it. IM is too intrusive..... | |
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| Instant Messaging - Important?
Posted: 9/19/2005 9:12:48 AM | Put me down for turning IMs off too. Email is the way to go. Maybe if it turns into something more I'll move up towards IMing them. But if it gets to that point I'd much rather just meet them in person. IMing someone over a long period of time usually leads to boredom and awkward silence, often giving the false impression that the spark is withering away. But see... people always run out of stuff to talk about in a situation like that. This happens all the time to even some of my best friends. We have some of the best times together when we just hang out in person. But when it comes to IMing each other, the conversation just dies out and it becomes really boring after a while.
So I think IMing someone just isn't the same as meeting them in person. It's really not a good way to tell whether you have a connection with someone that or not. I mean you can talk about topics of similar interests, but beyond that it just dies out. I think the same applies for phone calls too (unless you've already met the person and continue to meet them on a regular basis). If it gets to the point where you absolutely want to get to know the person, it's often best just to meet them. | |
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| Instant Messaging - Important?
Posted: 10/25/2005 11:16:05 AM | Mine is turned of as well for sure. As Crystalize mentioned, its just a nuissance.
Squirrly, I would have to agree with your very simple comments as well. If I like someone enough, I'll give them my msn, and that way chatting is at my conveniece. And when I realize that they're driving me nuts there... there is always the old "Block, Delete..." Poor souls, I always feel so bad doing that....
And as for Sweet addiction... I really don't know what her thoughts are on the subject... and I didn't realize that the forum space was a virtual bar where you can hit on people. | |
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| Instant Messaging - Important?
Posted: 10/25/2005 11:35:12 AM | | It's really irrelavent, since you have many options to IM elsewhere. I don't like the POF IM. I don't like the sounds, etc. I'll IM on msn or yahoo or icq, but not here if I can help it. | |
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| Instant Messaging - Important?
Posted: 10/25/2005 11:55:06 AM | | I turn it off. I enjoy using IM products, but more often than not I'm at work checking my mail and I don't want to be rude and just close an IM window. | |
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| Instant Messaging - Important?
Posted: 11/29/2005 7:40:16 AM | I haven't really used the IM feature at all really....WAIT...maybe once or twice to contact a friend etc.. but i am more of a email and forum Lady myself 
I think you can truly get to know an individual more via a forum discussion than any other method...email excluded!
So i suppose my answer would be NO to your question TYRIC
~ Carissima ~
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| Instant Messaging - Important?
Posted: 11/29/2005 8:08:21 AM | | Hate IM...and won't do it. Meet in person in a public place ASAP. People don't even talk the same over IM as they do in person anyway, so it's not even a good method of getting to know someone. | |
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| Instant Messaging - Important?
Posted: 11/29/2005 8:30:18 AM | ^^^^ EL ~ in response to your thead inquiry above I would suggest this: MOST people in general think that IM pop ups are incredibly annoying to say the very least, myself included. Perhaps try sending an email to the individual of choice and convey to her that you would very much like to IM her and if it would be ok to do so now.
I think that's a sweet gesture. I love getting those types of emails. It illustrates to me that he took the time to be thoughtful, polite and courteous enough to care about if I was busy or not to give him some undivided attention to a private conversation.
Call me crazy but it's a gentlemanly thing to do!
~ Carissima ~ | |
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| Instant Messaging - Important?
Posted: 11/29/2005 6:00:27 PM | ^^^ agree. Ask first - if you dont get a response by email then you have your answer
OR if you just cant wait - and MUST IM, start off with asking. How are you -Would you like to chat? dont just launch into an assumed conversation
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| Instant Messaging - Important?
Posted: 11/29/2005 6:08:41 PM | | I have no interest in IM with strangers. It's bad enough to be trapped at the computer with people I know. | |
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| Instant Messaging - Important?
Posted: 12/3/2005 5:35:51 PM | | I think its great to message because you never know when the person & right moment could be...could be today!! | |
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