| WOW......im so hurt! your lucky my friend
Posted: 12/4/2004 4:39:38 PM | luvgoddess....I am not trying to start anything here, but you are full of crap if you honestly think that women will not cheat unless something is lacking in a relationship. That is like saying men will not cheat unless something is lacking in a relationship. If someone is going to cheat it is going to happen no matter what their partner does. They will find ways of justifying it to themselves and anyone who finds out about it by passing the blame on to their partner. I can say this as a person who has never cheated, but been cheated on.
To me the fact remains that no matter how you look at it, she lied to you bud. She lied about going to the club, and got pissed when you asked about it. Then on top of that she betrayed your trust with another guy. She obviously is not what you thought she was and though she wants you back, she will likely do it again. Move on and find someone worthy of your trust. | |
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| WOW......im so hurt! your lucky my friend
Posted: 12/5/2004 12:29:35 AM | | My honest opinion, thats just way to much baggage to be checkin back into a committed relationship. I am sorry she burned you so badly. But, as with everything in life, learning experience you can grow from. Just stay positive and open to other women who show interest. In other words, your maturation is a good sign, I dont want you to regress because a woman wronged you. The hurt eventually fades | |
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lsmith
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Joined: 10/31/2004
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| WOW......im so hurt! your lucky my friend
Posted: 12/6/2004 1:05:07 AM | careful about getting lost in the beauty factor. It's powerful I know.. but it's not what treats you well and as you deserve in a relationship. As for dignifying yourself about how long you've been a member here.. you shouldn't need to . She sounds like a big fat lyin cheatin disrespectful jackhole! Of course you were suspect.. and for the reasons that you gave.. the heart NEVER lies... so listen to it. I hear you struggling in here.. wondering what to do - talking about all the pain.. and she appearantly can end it.. but -- WAIT.. let's back up.. back to how the heart never lies. You said it yourself. Your heart tells you she can't be trusted. Her actions tell your heart it's right. Is there really any question of what to do knowing this?? Deny your heart?? An old leopard never loses its spots. She likes that you're a buffer for the agony of 'alone'. Did she come crawlin back cause the person she dumped you for didn't want her anymore?? Good questions to ask. Although.. questions in vain when you KNOW what's in your heart, no?
I'm sorry you're goin through all this. I've recently been the recipient of the same sort of things, so if you need to talk - feel free to get in touch! Take care.. and remember to be strong. Even if you feel like you can't be; pretend.. the actions all wind up the same. Close that door - and show you're heart you care about what it's saying.  | |
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lsmith
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Joined: 10/31/2004
Msg: 30 | |
| WOW......im so hurt!
Posted: 12/6/2004 1:34:25 PM | yeah; heartache has to be one of the wost pains out there I think. Seems I'd rather have a bone broken than my heart any day of the week. The rotten fact is that no two people are the same.. so healing times can't be predicted. You just have to know that the pain happens; and so - eventually- does healing. 
Chin up my dear fellow; at least you've friends in here to talk to about it. That really helped me alot when I was in the throw of things. | |
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| WOW......im so hurt! your lucky my friend
Posted: 12/6/2004 2:59:03 PM | | I'll sell or give you my name. You should feel lucky. A seemingly wonderful person came into you life and got you to know feelings and have feelings. You've grown a lot and dont't know it yet. I love lovegoddess's perceptions until they start showing paranoia. Possible your girlfriend is just very young and undecided, maybe confused. Regardless, move on. You gained a lot by loving someone deeply. Move on. More and more growth opportunities are around the corner. Be courageous and make the turn. Hurt, hurt,and hurt some more. It will happen. You've tasted love so now apply it. Love again. Phil | |
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| WOW......im so hurt! your lucky my friend
Posted: 12/6/2004 11:52:47 PM | | but what about the fact that when i first saw her, i had the weirdest feeling and knew she would be the one i love deeply. is that just coincidence or fate? | |
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lsmith
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Joined: 10/31/2004
Msg: 33 | |
| WOW......im so hurt! your lucky my friend
Posted: 12/8/2004 9:28:05 PM | she may very well be the woman that is the 'one' for you. But you may very well NOT be the 'one' for her.. and for the equation to work out.. it has to be the same on BOTH sides. There's a book out there called "He's just not Into You".. it's advice goes the same for girls to guys. Doubt means No. People who say they aren't 'ready' aren't 'ready' for YOU. Likeways when folks 'need time'. When it's right; it's right and it'll happen - but if you keep working around wondering about someone that can look you in the eye and assess that they don't want you anymore.. isn't going to change. They're just looking to hang on while 'hunting' for someone else. It's the sad truth; but it's the truth. You might consider picking up a copy of that book. Some alarming insight into this very world.. why we hang on etc. Feeling comfortable and loved by someone can become addicting, no one really wants to lose that - this is why we 'hang-on'; this.. and the overwhelming self-doubt of finding someone better. Gotta just have some trust and DO IT.. just walk away - close the door, and get the healing done - so you can be well healed by the time you finally DO meet that right 'one'. | |
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| WOW......im so hurt!
Posted: 12/9/2004 7:03:30 AM | | no! you deserve better than that. Take sometime to be yourself meet new people and eventually the girl of your dreams will come knocking on your door! | |
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lsmith
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Joined: 10/31/2004
Msg: 36 | |
| WOW......im so hurt!
Posted: 12/13/2004 7:13:08 PM | kyro; hey - how are things with this situation? Has it gotten any better? | |
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| WOW......im so hurt!
Posted: 12/14/2004 7:35:47 AM | Perhaps she is afraid of a decent man. Maybe she was afraid of how she felt for you. At any rate it sounds like she has been doing her thing and somebody elses even when you did not know it. It is a very difficult thing but in time you will be able to go on to better things.
Her little explaination sounds like a lie. Sounds like she wished to be free and you should let her be. She does not sound like a trustworthy or mature person. She doesn't need a relationship she needs some *help*.
I have a male friends that cared more for their girlfriends than the girl did for them. It took him some time to get over it but he did and left her to her own devices. She tries to come back even now and he refuses to see her or anyone else. She tried to appeal to me because I at one time liked her until she effed with my friend. I was not mean but I was very blunt and told her that she needed that she needed to live with what she has done. | |
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| WOW......im so hurt! your lucky my friend
Posted: 12/14/2004 5:03:25 PM | Kyro anubis.....
let her go. Leave her in the past. You deserve better. I'm sure there is a lot MORE to the story than you have been able to expresss, some of it probably not flattering for yourself. That is NOT the point of this however.
The point is, you said she brought out a whole new, caring, passionate, attentive side of you that you never saw before.
Dude.........she was a lesson........take that lesson in treating someone like gold and apply it to the next person in your life. Let THEM reap the benefits and rewards of what you learned from this tramp.
The best revenge is living well.....
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