| Guys is this true???
Posted: 10/29/2008 3:52:09 PM | | Absolutely not! Some guys may be turned off by a woman who makes it seem as if they are looking for a new babies dad. | |
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CCD69
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Joined: 8/12/2008
Msg: 52 | |
| Guys is this true???
Posted: 10/29/2008 3:55:07 PM | | No it's not true, I'm sure it's been said many times before, just in this thread alone. Your statement is backwards, women don't want to date a man with kids. | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 10/29/2008 3:56:54 PM | Thats absolute rubbish and just your friends perspective.
My dad took on my mums 3 children, plus custody of his own daughter, all living together treating as his own and then they went on together to have me.
I have met plenty of guys who dont think twice about me having children!
For a start they spend weekends and holidays with their father so they know I'm not looking for a 'daddy' for them. | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 10/29/2008 6:14:51 PM | I think that the reason it is true for some guys and gals is due to there need to be the center of attention.
That said I personally think that any single parent has shown dedication and love to go it alone and would make great company so only a fool would not date someone because they were a single parent. | |
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oshboi
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Joined: 11/26/2006
Msg: 55 | |
| Guys is this true???
Posted: 10/29/2008 6:50:30 PM | Well not if your a GAY single father like me !!!!
Dont worry ladies, I understand what you mean.. not all men, but some..
Gender doesnt matter, its all in the personality, whether its a woman or a man !!! | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 10/29/2008 7:31:11 PM | I am not looking for a "new dad" for my boys. They have a father, be what he may, he is still their day and no one can replace him in thier eyes.
I am looking for me. Someone to share my life with. Yes, my children are part of my life. But, I do not want anyone trying to take over the role as their "father". Though, a role model of what a "true man" is would be a great addition and very welcomed. | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/1/2008 11:08:57 AM | | I think that could be parshally true except I dont think that I would personally not date someone just because they have a couple kids. I have a little girl myself and in the bottom like of everything if a person cant except whats there then they probly are not right for you anyways or there just not ready. | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/1/2008 11:10:10 AM | | im on with CCD69. what he said basicly sums it up pritty well | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/1/2008 1:28:55 PM | It doesn't matter whether you have kids or not if he likes you and cares for you. May be a little stressful if the kids don't want you to date. The kids have alot of power to keep you single if they choose(lol). My daughter would let me know what she thought right out of the gate and I usually wouldn't date the same woman twice. You have to live with your kids and if they're not happy, well, good luck.   | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/1/2008 1:47:30 PM | | I have two biological children of my own and in my last relationship, she had a daughter of HER own. Within the first year I was able to love and treat her equally to my own and all in all, it made no difference as to who was biologically mine. I can't say all men feel the same however, I would say the question is better posed to someone you're interested in. Best of luck. | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/1/2008 3:27:15 PM | it wouldn't worry me the slightest, as i know this person would have real softer side being parent, & it be very superficial to not date a single mum/dad because of children so don't worry.  | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/1/2008 3:42:26 PM | It's not genetics. It's a combination of not wanting responsibility for another and not being comfortable not being the center of someone's attention.
Speaking for myself as a solo parent, I find I have much preferred dating single/solo Moms. First, they get it about so many unspoken things about my/our life. It makes scheduling a dream. Second, it often means a way for my kid to have something when we get together for non-adult time. Third, I love kids -- my most recent dating thing was a widower with twin boys -- I loved having them come to my team's Little League game, and had them come in the dugout with the bigger boys and hang out. Fourth, I am prolly not interested in another kid at my age (tho open to it if a partner is younger and has never had a kid), but like the idea of melding two families.
Simply put, if the guy's not interested in your kid, I wouldn't be interested in him. But don't think that limits the pool in any substantial way. Dive in! | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/2/2008 7:44:39 PM | | I would like to start by saying I thought I was alone in some of my worries Till I came to web site. I am a single father of an eright year old girl. She lives with me. I have a step son that lives with his mother. I get him every other weekend. I have been his Daddy since he was 180 days old. I feel the same for him as I do my daughter. I love them. | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/3/2008 1:14:16 PM | | Depends on the guy...It goes both ways too!!!! Women tend to shy away from single/divorced fathers....why? who knows.... | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/3/2008 2:07:13 PM | | i dont beleive its tru , what i beleive is a man has no problem dating a woman with kids,hell im a single dad and id love to me a woman with her own kids,can still have one together would be a remanding factor in the dating decision.i find that its more woman who wont date single dads,because they might have to put up with the childs mom,as where i dont think guys much care. | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/4/2008 9:33:26 AM | I actually prefer to date a woman with younger kid(s). I have two boys who are 6 and 4, and I have them 50% of the time. I actually seem to connect better with woman who have younger kids. They seem to understand the unselfishness of being a parent and putting your children's needs first.
Just my $.02 | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/4/2008 8:58:30 PM | | its a maturity thing.. some guys can handle the responsibility and others cant. depnds if they are used to the bachlor thing or the family guy. same goes for women. theyd like a single guy.. because they think they are less judgmental about the kids. .but yet. having never had kids.. (may) not connect with them like a guy who has kids.. and knows about the crying and diapers.. and throwing fits.. and all the things that make us parents. Some guys have it.. some guys dont. its nothing genetic | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/4/2008 9:07:09 PM | | This is absolutely not true at all. I have dated several single moms, as well, I am a single dad. I would never discount a woman simply because she is a mom. | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/4/2008 10:07:42 PM | | Well as cliche as it sounds ,,,, No its not the case with me , if she has kids thats ok . I have kids , does the opposite also apply do women not want to date guys who have children ??? | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/5/2008 3:22:03 AM | | id date a girl who had kids and a job. yeah they made a mistake in some cases but in other cases getting rid of the dad was the smartest thing they did and means they grown up got there mind on being sucesfull, there are always exceptions ofcourse and not all girls with kids have there head screwed on tight enough wicth is a shame cause u meet these ones before the good ones and then it gets programed into our brains that they just like sleeping around. i hope i havent offened anyone. | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/5/2008 8:24:07 AM | | I'm a single mom and in my experanice there are more men out there who will date single mothers then those who won't. I've even found a few who will only date single mothers. | |
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XIs10s
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Joined: 10/22/2008
Msg: 72 | |
| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/5/2008 8:37:16 PM | this is just my opinion. and i can honestly say that i have had a relationship with a single mom and her son was 3 when we met. now her son is five in a half and we have a thirteen month old. it didnt work out. she wasnt ready fro the bigger responsibility. she didnt want to work. she didnt want to even make effort to put the five year old in school. shes on welfare and denies that she isnt capable of being productive. im very upset and she has these boys in the most filty house ever. im ready to call CPS on her but then they are lost in the system.
what can i do? | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/5/2008 8:58:14 PM | that's not true.that's like saying if you have sex upside down you cannot get pregnant.file that in your nonsense folder.the guys that don't want to get involved don't want to settle down to a ready made family for what ever reason,financial or personal.another point,i have dated many single moms,and as cute as your kids are,they usually do not listen for sh--!moms and discipline are like apples and peaches,they don't mix.
may not be so to you,but i remember waiting on my date to get dressed,i was watching her monster/tv waiting on the babysitter.the little angel walked up to me and hit me in the eye with a big metal truck as hard as he could,gave me a black eye and stood there and laughed.he needed his ass whipped,i cussed,eye already swelling,and the bit-- got angry at me.i left,my eye was messed up for about a week,everyone thought i had been in a fight.i worked in a public setting,it wasn't funny.she honestly didn't understand.last i heard,the darling had two or three dui's.he is in his twenties now.
point is,parenting others kids is stressful,the women are very protective and the man has no say.the kids need to be kept out of the picture,until a relationship is established,then you have to gradually allow the man and child/children time to get to know each other.those kids tend to become monsters when the mom isn't around,possibly a childs possessive reaction or whatever.rome wasn't built in a day,and neither are families.
and did you consider what the man went through with his last girl and kids.
a man has to walk a fine line when kids are involved,and it isn't for us all. | |
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| Guys is this true???
Posted: 11/5/2008 9:08:19 PM |
told me that men prolly dont wanna date me, being a single mom of two kids
IMO at my age you kinda expect them to have kids, also observations of how that family functions would lead to a more educated decision whether or not that lady is correct for you. | |
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