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Posted: 4/4/2008 9:01:15 PM | I gave up on women in my age bracket.
I'm pursuing women 10 years younger so I can raise the family I want to and can finally financially support since all of the women I meet my age are either saddled with crotchfruit already or are looking for a sugar daddy... why not be a sugar daddy to a woman who is younger tighter fitter and childless? Plus with DNA tests and Prenups, it's a WIN-WIN for the "GOOD GUYS"!
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| catch 22 for guys over 30
Posted: 4/4/2008 9:46:21 PM | | I'm 43 with no kids and never been married. If a woman excludes me off the bat because of those two criteria I'm glad. I want someone who is intelligent. | |
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Posted: 4/4/2008 10:18:57 PM | | my thing is i have never been married. i would love to but i am cautious. cause i only want to do it once. i have a daughter who is my world and i would do anything for her. i am a great family oriented man who is real, in my heart and in person. im tired of women who say they want a real man, and when one comes to them, they run | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 9:34:11 AM | | I can't speak to most of the stuff, but OP is dead on accurate about the single and no kids part. Women, and there male sell-out puppets have all sorts of clever descriptions for men like that, ranging from irresponsible, and commitmentphobe all the way up to gay, pedophile, rapist, and serial killer. Just try getting a date with those labels. And at least some guys in that situation (like myself) are the same ones women haveing been tell for years that no one would ever be interested in. A definite catch-22 | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 1:36:18 PM | I have a young daughter (who is the most fantastic baggage I could ever imagine) and divorced and I have to agree with some on this thread and would rather date someone who is divorced or has children. Not in all cases, but most men or women who have children and divorced understand their priorities with regards to children as well as having life experience and may be more open to working harder the second time around as to not go through it all again. I know I would!
I am not proud to have been divorced (that I did not want), and I am surely not alone feeling that way, but it is part of life. I would not want to be with a woman who did not understand that my daughter is my priority when I have her or not and my ex-wife will be in the picture for many years to come. Jealousy is an ugly thing. | |
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| catch 22 for guys over 30
Posted: 4/6/2008 1:40:08 PM |
I dunno. I've never been married and I have no kids. Some might see that as that I have no baggage on me and I'm more available to be someone's boyfriend.
However, I hear some women will see me as strange that I haven't been married yet, like there's something wrong with me, or I'm commitment-phobic.
I don't care...just shows me they have issues or insecurities.
If so many women in their 30s or older think it is a bad thing, then they shouldn't be upset when men go for younger women who don't have these hangups. Men in their early 30s who make decent money and still look good can definitely attract quality women in their mid-late 20s who aren't gold-diggers. | |
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Posted: 4/6/2008 2:14:00 PM | Alot of what you say is 'true' and its catch 22 for sure....
I'm 39 and a single Dad... wouldn't change that for the world! I have my Son every weekend and we adore each other to bits n pieces. I get on very well with his Mum n we do everything for each other when the time calls.
Ya I get/am lonely... in fact its been awhile ;) Too long and well... I'm not into one night stands and single scene (its crap here anyways). But I'm always looking for 'my distraction'....
What can I do about it I dunno.. have tried it all including a few dates on here which were nice(?).
I do my bit every week. women are nuts for sure but so are we in their eyes I guess... One thing though...
My Son will never be baggage! He's the best thing to ever to me! And that will never change!!!
One day she'll come along when I'm least expecting it and knock my socks off... And then I won't know where I am but untill then... Keep swinging that rod out there I reckon! | |
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Posted: 4/6/2008 4:38:05 PM | Is this true about women being suspicious about someone in their late 30s without kids? I raised 2 stepkids as my own. My ex and I never had any children together, but again I loved them and raised them as my own. I'll always be there for them, and they know that. They are 18 and 21 now so they aren't really kids, but fine young man. I've debated adding that info to my profile since they aren't my biological kids. It usually comes up in conversation somewhere or other. I'm going to add it to my profile but still leaving the "do I have kids" as no, since they aren't my biological kids, OR should I put "all my kids are over 18"
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Posted: 4/21/2008 9:07:58 PM | heck i hear ya about the children thing, my daughter is my world, i wouldnt change that for anything. how do you get these women on dates? i have written hundreds of emails and most dont even get read, let alone do they even look at my profile. or even respond. the few responses i have got, have been women talking about wackos they have gone out with from here, and then they stop talking all together. its one of lifes mysteries i guess | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 2:40:46 PM | IMHO, and at my age ....I do not run from guys with children that he supports and has visitation to....it is a sign that he takes care of his responsibilities and doesn't run from them...a quality I admire in a man....I will, however, run from a man who does not take care of his kids or ignores the fact they were brought onto this earth...children do not ask to be born, and weren't made with a finger....just adding my 2cents.... | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 8:39:48 PM | I have no kids, never married, and live as I please .. if older women want to run for the hills, I'll date women in their twenties .. or late teens
Damn right. 36, own my own house and a few cars. I'm stable, stay out of trouble and trying to open up my own business.
Young, old, purple, pink, whatever. They want to run, let 'em. It's really their loss. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 4:54:45 PM | I would date a guy with kids. It's a good thing if he's trying to take care of them and be there for them vs. the opposite. But it would be hard for me to be a stepmother to the really young children like taking on infants, diapers, etc. I'm not saying never, just that everything else would have to be really right.
I would still have my own, but I can't require that from a guy at this point in life. I'm just looking for someone compatible, and if he already has kids, then he does. So I know how hard it is for me to get dates with guys whether or not they have kids, and I've heard that guys don't like single mothers, so I expect that women with kids have it even harder than the guys on getting dates. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 9:31:27 PM | | If you ignore your ex and kids, you are a deadbeat and irresponsible; That is the only 1 I agree with. Oh scratch that. The last 1 too. - women are nuts, and drives us to ----> I have to agree with that 1 all the way and I sympathize. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 2:38:51 AM | Bitterness... well for some it has come to just that... and I would have to agree. If people would just stop... and I mean stop, and have a good look around, we'll find the ones that will be better suited for our emotional stability, if a "girl" has ideas or a catch 22 on why I am single, never married, and no kids so be it.... she'll never see me again, for the ones that are interested in me as a whole, then those are the ones that will see me around, I ask for no respect and give none when people don't deserve it.
Remember to smile today...You never know... You might of made someones day today. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 7:40:00 AM | Thankyou t VERSION ONE for stating something that has seems to have gotten lost. Not all women are like the ones the OP describes and if you meet someone who isn't suitable to your emotional needs, move on. I personally could give a rip if the guy is single or divorced with children. The main thing is that we are compatible, he's a good person and there's chemistry between us. I do my best to refrain from making judgments about people. I wish everyone else would do the same. (And I like the smile statement, going to remember that). | |
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Posted: 8/25/2008 10:21:52 AM | | Nah I think my head is half full some times, but I also like to think outside the box, I used to be so concerned with my "approval from others" when I was younger that it really made me think on what perception I show to others, and now closer to 40 I could give 2 wooden nickles of care to it, like I said if I am going to be a cliche' to the unmarried and childless man then so be it, they'll never get to know the real me. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2008 10:26:40 AM | ''Oh goodness gracious, let me run to my gun cabinet and find my Catch-22 here. Have you thought about what it is like for us older dames too? It works both ways.
Now, if the Catch-22 backfires, there's a toll free number that I can call: 1-800-WAAH''
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Now THAT is funny
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Posted: 9/8/2008 3:51:21 AM | | In this situation I would dare to say too bad so sad and don't let the door hit you on the way out. I have a wonderful son lives with ex. See him lots try to avoid her ( I don't want to fight anymore). I provide for him monitarily. But in this case where a cold or children are involved you do what you have to and the right woman will understand. This is my opinion however blunt. | |
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| catch 22 for guys over 30
Posted: 9/8/2008 4:15:41 AM | hi there
what about if you see your kids but just dont talk to the ex at all!
i find that works best | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 8:36:12 PM | I agree, I would rather date a man over 30 that's been divorced also....and with kids...great! the more the merrier! lol...
Now, that being said, if I meet someone & all they can talk about is what a bit$h their ex is, and how so ruined his life....well, yes, then I WILL run the opposite way....as fast as I can!!
I think if a guy can maintain a good relationship with his ex and can take care of his kids, more power to him!! No one's perfect....each scenario's going to have their pro's & con's...but I'd rather take the man who's made a few mistakes, learned from them, and moved on. :) | |
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