lj2277
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Joined: 5/11/2006
Msg: 201 | |
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Posted: 5/23/2006 10:52:35 AM | Ms. I feel your pain. I am going through the same thing. I just want someone to love me, to hold me and to be there for me when I am sad. Doesn't seem to make sense that we are alone, does it?
But hopefully we will find our mates and be the happy ones....sooon..
Good luck to you and don't give up...I am not gonna | |
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Posted: 5/23/2006 10:55:06 AM | | Ms. E. You are a very lovely young woman and you will find someone special to share your life. I notice on your profile you have "Hang Out" - Perhaps changing this to relationship would help to attract the right type of guy for you. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2006 5:28:39 PM | Wow..
Im almost sorry to have to say that you do look lonely.
Im only writing because I relate too well. At least you can do something about it. because you so young.
I have been married twice before. I doubt its every really just one persona fault that it doesnt work. But when thers only 2 in a marriage how many is it supposed to take to keep it working. I mean sometimes it seems like one of the 2 needs to consult with someone since they arent willling to with their mate during rough times. Anyway I dont have any answers.
But your far too pretty a gal to be so sad. I would love to be able to at least take you out but Im a bit too old I suspect.
Good Luck
sincerely
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digsy
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Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 205 | |
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Posted: 5/23/2006 5:37:05 PM | AHHHH , Sh#t , look at the positive side of being single , all those fun dates with losers you can laugh at after , have fun by yourself , don't look too hard ...you will never find it. Spend time on yourself , get a new hobby , who knows you may meet someone that way...I personally was looking too hard for the longest time , but at the risk of sounding concieted if the right girl don't know what she's missing with me than it's her problem not mine!!lol
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Posted: 5/23/2006 6:19:46 PM | Well ...I saw this and right at this moment I feel very Isolated as well....Just broke up after 7 years moved away to penticton and now .....NO friends....No gal..... Stress.....I often catch myself Thinking what is she doing now.... should I call?....But reality sets in and I overcome that 1 anxiety temptation / feeling...and find myself pre-occupying myself... it helps.....Then Im alone again...Damn ...brain kicks in high gear ....thinking things about her where she is is she thinking about me at all? ....and what not.... I at one point did think what difference would it make if Im here or not... not really contimplating the act but questioning my existance...But then realized that there Will be another there always is its just really hard and that THUMPING ache in my chest when I think of her hurts.....But I know time will heal.....PRE OCCUPIED TIME is the Key I think...But now Im starting to think that I need to some how vent or something....because pre occupation works until not preoccupied then I am caught thinking about her again and again.... SO.. to make the statement to kill ones self over a broken heart is probably more common at a teen lvl? As an adult hopefully life has taught some values as all is not so bleak through past experience.... I KNOW... take my own advice I am trying, it is hard but life is a constant battle .....and think IF you hit rock bottom there is only one way left to go.... UP!
Srry for the rambling...
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Posted: 5/24/2006 7:30:27 AM | hey there
i know exactly how you feel.i ended up getting a teddy bear to fill my empty embrace,lol.
we can get answers and the exs can say its not you,your great,miss you but..but it will not heal the wounds nor make us see the light.i used to wonder is he out there,then i met him and well now i am in the same situation you are in.it sucks and i just hope that the man or a man will see me for the great woman,lover,best friend i am!!i am no more no less.i have lots to offer myself as well as a loved one/best friend and i just smile and keep walking in life.for the guy walking by may be intrigued by your smile and poise.
this doesnt really answer your question with pain there is no answer that we and our hearts want to see.we need to heal then we shall see that the light. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2006 7:59:57 AM | | HEY I AM SO SORRY I AM 28 AN MY HUSBAND OF 9 YEARS CHEATED ON ME WITH MY MOM WE HAVE 2 BOYS 12 AN 9 AN HE DOESNT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH THEM I KNOW IT HURTS ALOT AN YOU FEEL SO LONELY INSIDE AN YOU ARE THINKING WHAT COULD I HAVE DONE DIFFERNT TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT AN YOU MIGHT FEEL LIKE YOU ARE NOTHING BUT GUESS WHAT WE ALL SOMEBODY SPEACIL IT HAS BEEN 5 YEARS SINCE WE HAVE BEEN D AN IT TOOK ME A WHILE TO GET OVER IT BUT OF COURSE WE ARE GOING TO THINK ABOUT WHAT WE HAD AN THE WAY IT COULD HAVE BEEN BUT I THINK THAT WHAT HURTS US CAN ALSO MAKE US STRONGER AN I KNOW YOU WILL FIND A REALLY GREAT GUY THAT WILL LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU SHOULD BE LOVED I PICKED MY SELF UP AN WENT BACK TO SCHOOL AN NOW I AM A R.N. AN I AM RAISEING TO BOYS ON MY OWN AN I GETTING MARRIED IN JULY SO THEY PROVES THAT WE WOMAN CAN BE JUST AS HAPPY WITH SOMEONE ELES AS WE COULD WITH OUR EX NOW I AM SO VERY HAPPY NEVER THOUGHT I COULD BE AFTER WHAT HAPPEN TO ME BUT I AM AN YES I THINK ABOUT HIM WHEN I SEE HIM BUT I JUST TURN A WALK AWAY CAUSE I KNOW I AM A BETTER PRESON AN THERE IS NOTHING HE CAN EVER DO TO HURT ME AGAIN GUESS WHAT NOW HE WANTS ME BACK BUT I AM NOT LOOKING BACK THAT IS THE PAST I HAVE MOVED ON I KNOW YOU CRY YOUR SELF TO SLEEP AT NIGHT JUST LIKE I DID BUT TRUST ME THERE IS LIFE AFTER EX I KNOW WITH ALL MY HEART THAT YOU WILL BE JUST FINE JUST KEEP YOUR HEAD UP HIGH AN YOU WILL SEE THAT YOU WILL FIND A GREAT GUY WHO WILL TRUELY LOVE YOU I DID AN YOU WILL TO | |
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Posted: 5/24/2006 8:10:47 AM | | what doesnt kil you makes you stronger... i thought i could not live with out my husband after 20 years.. but i had the four kids and i had to go on.. took a long time.. i am still alone but have changed in so many ways in 15 years.... time is your greatest friend.. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2006 7:57:51 PM | I hurt inside for a mate. But, I won't rush into anything. And I won't stay in an abusive relationship like I'm done in the past.
to mess 206: wow, why did you move? And so far away? A move to another house, another city, another job are individual stressors. And then dealing with the loss of a bad negative relationship is also a stressor. I advise you to get into a support group of some kind. So you don't depending on street drugs or booze, or abusing meds. Not that you are. But, as a human being we turn to whats covenient. Going to a gym is a good idea too. Also, attend a singles church seminar to meet other singles. Even if you don't believe in God.
For me, church and prayer helps me out. For me, it was dealing with an abusive husband, then wild teenage kids. That was a long time ago. My husband passed away 9 years ago. My kids are married and responsible adults now. And I still attend christian and catholic church off and on, all through the years. Now, I am waiting to get bariactric and wrist surgery. So, then, I can go to night law school. Life is what you make of it. With or without a supportive mate by our side. And going to bars and clubs is stupid for me. I don't and can't compete with the little girls who are 18 or 21. My own daughter turned 30 in Feb. My son is 27.
Both of my children were very hurt by previous mates. But, I encouraged them to find a God believeing man and woman. And both did. And both are in healthy relationships. I'm just too picky for being an old broad, older lady, I mean.         | |
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Posted: 5/24/2006 8:31:09 PM | [it's better to be single and happy than stuck in a rut with a dud. Being single is a great opportunity to grow as a person--to appreciate yourself and your idiosyncrasies. The Art of Being Satisfied, Fulfilled and Independent. ]
Oh, Ms. E! I've found a lot of comfort and wisdom in books and some partial truths, foolishness and misperceptions as well. If you will bear with me for a minute, let's examine the author's aphorism. Being happy is a fleeting state of being--single or joined with another doesn't mean any of us will be happy. At best, we can hope to content or satisfied with our lives. There will always be emotional ups and downs. If there is any happiness in life it is to be content with who we are. Which is what I think the author of that particular statement means. Or as one wise person once observed: before you can truly love another you must first love yourself.
As for duds and ruts--that to is really about perception: is prince charming really prince charming? Isn't he the one who won Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella and Snow White's heart? Say, wait a minute--that sounds more like a player than the ideal fellow! Perception is everything. One person's prince charming is another's dud. And one person's rut is another person's contented life.
Try to focus on the good things in your life and truly enjoy what and who you are.
One very wise old woman once told about how sad she had been as a little girl when her dog died. She stood weeping in the living room of her parent home when her grandfather can into the room and asked her why she was crying. She pointed out the west window and snuffed 'Daddy is burying Prince'. Her grandfather put his arm around her and took her across the room. He said to her,"Ruth, look out the window. What do you see?"
She responded, "I see Saul planting a rose." Her grandfather smiled and replied: "That's right Ruth. Your brother Saul is planting a rose....for you. Life, sweetheart, is what window you look out." | |
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Posted: 5/25/2006 1:05:44 AM | | is there not a line in a song that says . you don't know what it's like . meaning i think that we all feel different . i to was hurt beond repair . but now being two years later . i relize that it was the best think that could have happened . i really truly thought that woman was the best thing that ever came into my life . now i realize she was the worst . whats funny now is that every woman that i talk to thinks i want them , but they can not see past their nose , to reconize the fact that it will take a good woman and alot of time to ever get me to take the big step again . also i wrote a truly honest profile , with no mention of my past and got not one response . so i changed it to be a joke more or less . so what you females could have found out about me in just a moment or two now will take a long long time . | |
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Posted: 5/25/2006 5:24:23 PM | Im answering u from the other side...
I left my faithful, loving, perfect husband... Not for another guy... but becos i needed to find my inner self.
Altho he was always by my side, showing me how much he loved me, buying me gifts, holding me close in his arms and whispering sweet nothings in my ear... I still felt empty, altho sumthing was missing.
I began questioning my own judgement, looked for his faults (tho i never found any) I too cried myself to sleep while my caring husband lay oblivious next to me.
And one day, solely because i cudnt bare the fort of sum1 loving me so much without ever asking for anything in return, i uped and left him, without even an explaination.
HARSH?? In sum ways yes, but in my heart i fort i was protecting him... Giving him a chance to start afresh with sum1 who cud accept his love without questioning it.
I know i left him heart-broken, and to this day i still cry myself to sleep every night, my only regret being that ive never told him im sorry!!
My reason for responding to ur mailing is that sometimes in life u can ask for all the minor things, like cuddles, kisses, adult conversation and romance, but please dont make my mistake, make sure u love yourself before u ask someone to love u!! | |
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Posted: 5/25/2006 9:57:44 PM | I dont know the answer to your prayer, but I do know that your definatly not alone>>: )
If I may post this and hope it is not inappropriate in this subect matter.. but here it goes...
I am a devorced male 48 years old , devorced for 8 years and which I was married to for 20 some years.....
I just would like to coment on the spouses on who think it is ok to fool around on your loved one! Yes, I have left the ex wife, that thought it was ok to sleep with my best friend...
But now I have been in a few relationships since .And they are still are deeply scared from the hurt you people that have made such a huge mistrust in their world and in mine!
Now, my coment is this, for all you selfish people out there!
If you must fool around on your partener, please break it off with the one that is dedicated to you and love you for what ever life throws them , EXCEPT you fooling around them!
Reason I am making this statement is because I am really getting sick and tired of being left behind to clean up your sh*t. Having to deal with all those beautiful people that you screwed around on and left them to deal with the hurt that you started!!!
Please have the decentcy to break it off before this happens, so that no more of these beatiful people have to suffer the rest of their lifes and mine , stuggling with relationships dealing with your selfish mis behaviour!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/26/2006 1:26:42 AM | Most people either it be men or woman
seem to be into games and hurting anyone and everyone who comes in thier path.
I know that is how it may seem but I really don't think that women/men go out here and say oh there is me a good one to play games with and hurt today. Sometimes when we are alone we tend to really get LONELY. When someone who is really content with just dating this one and that one shows us the attention we long for we tend to fall fast. I don't think we fall fast in LOVE with the person but the attention we recieved from that person.
When someone is content with just dating...they like and enjoy the company of new people. It is like a breath of fresh air to them as well as to the person who is lonely and wanting that companionship. I don't think it is an intentional thing to hurt the lonely one, the one that is just dating gets bored and finds out this is not what she/he is looking for.
Don't be so hard on your own heart. Set your goal for happiness one day at a time and strive to reach for that goal daily. Do something that you enjoy that makes you happy and you won't feel so alone. Date with the intent to enjoy not to settle down. Go with the flow of things and make sure you are happy with the flow...if your not make a change. When the time comes you will find happiness with that special someone and it will make you happy beyond your dreams!!! It is your life live it and enjoy it to it's fullest!
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Posted: 5/29/2006 12:22:41 PM | | Sounds to me like you need to throw out that security blanket you despertly cling to every night. Get up and get going with life. There is life after love for everyone. Take responsibility for your own life. No one but you will ever make your life feel complete again, Many blessings and I hope you find everything you seek in love and life. | |
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Posted: 5/29/2006 12:37:54 PM | | my break up wasnt very good, ive had some very terrible times. right now im just trying to get through them its really hard. imsupposed to start enrolling in college tomorrowand i really dont give a shit about it. lisa | |
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Posted: 5/29/2006 1:38:24 PM | I don't know how to get over a man that I'm in love with and he's in love with me, he has alot of the qualities i've looked for in a man, alot i don't like in a man, i know that we're not truly compatible yet we're so good together sometimes. i know he's not my soulmate and i could do a whole lot better, but it felt so right when we were together. what the hell?  | |
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Posted: 5/29/2006 4:17:49 PM | | CRAZYDESPOSITO; i tired to e-mail you but it wouldnt let me ;said i was too old lol anyways please whatever you do keep going forward sweetie go tomorrow and enroll in collage ; show yourself that you can do it ; go get em girl; i dont know you at all but just looking at your picture i got fate in you; walk in that collage tomorrow standing proud and tall ; good luck !!!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/31/2006 4:11:15 PM | this helps me when ever i feel like i hurt inside
Desiderata
Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labours and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
Max Ehrman 1920
"your honour i rest my case"
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Posted: 6/3/2006 9:34:01 AM | | Holding on to something that we know is not right in our head, but our heart deceives us. It is not easy to love and let go. Healing takes time and distance. It all begins to get better once we make small steps to getting beyond the past. Eventually we can make larger steps, even leaps, and move on. Our hearts may feel like they are breaking but the human spirit can get us through. | |
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