| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 4/26/2007 5:04:20 PM | Okay, seriously now.
How many ladies here have had either an email or IM with a youngster that eventually stated something along the lines of "Age is just a number".
It rarely works out, although there are instances when it does.
The 'numbers' are against it working................with every decade difference, there is an equal number of experiences that one lives through and it is difficult to find common ground.
I can see a 40 year old with a 50 year old, but not readily do I see a 19 year old with a 40 year old.
Just feels wrong on so many different levels.
On a side note, I am also getting a little weary of hearing the term 'MILF'.
Just me and my way of viewing things.
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 4/26/2007 6:11:43 PM | | I have dated guys much younger and much older than me. I didn't used to think there was a problem with dating a much younger guy until I did it once. He was in his twenties; I am in my forties. We loved each other immensely, but where we were at in our lives just didn't match up. I think it's workable (think Demi Moore), but there are huge obstacles to overcome. So I now shy away from guys this young, even though I love the energy and openness of younger people. I think when you connect on a soul level, age is just a number. But practicalities sometimes stand in the way. | |
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 4/26/2007 6:34:12 PM | You're right eyeballpaul....had a relationship when I was 36 and he was 22. He was and 'old soul', always said that our relationship worked because 'I gave him roots and he gave me wings'...that was sooooo true. It was awesome and lasted more than 8 years. | |
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 4/26/2007 6:48:35 PM |
age should not matter between 2 consenting adults
That's what I said. But the cute little blond checker at the grocery store didn't agree.
My black eye should heal in about a week I figure. | |
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 4/26/2007 7:02:39 PM | | It sure does matter................................alot of men from 25-30 have approached me and I am 47. Most of them approach me as their fantasy MILF. I would like a more lasting relationship and for the men that say it is just a number. I'm sure you would feel differently when you wake up one day and see your older woman lying next to you shrivling up like a raisin and have all differents thoughts about it then. Not too late for you, but definately too late for her. Not to mention the heartbreak. | |
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| Age is a number
Posted: 4/26/2007 10:54:57 PM | Can a number by itself, be good or bad? We can pass judgements, and come to conclusions, based on our number or someone else's.
Does the number make the person?
Not sure, but it's something I need to think about. | |
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 4/27/2007 7:03:54 AM | | I think that all depends on what u each r looking for in a relationship.But if u really care about each other n love each other.Age shouldnt matter.But if the age difference really bothers u,than u need to re-think what u r getting urself into n if the relationship is really what u want n if it trully makes u happy.To hell with what others think.They r probably just jealous anyway. | |
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 4/27/2007 7:14:20 AM | No matter what anyone says, age matters to everyone. It's only a matter of the extent that it matters to them. Let me explain why. Even if you do totally ignore the number itself, age is still a huge part of where a person is in life. Of what attitude and personality a person has. They're interests and experiences. And (as others in this thread has said) a persons maturity level. Everyone I know of cares about these things in a potential mate. So even indirectly they care about age.
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 4/27/2007 7:31:10 AM | | Im 46 and I will date younger men as young as 30.I will not date anyone younger than that.Reason being: they are just in a different stage in their lives and on totally different mental level.Face it most guys at that age are into partying, dating lots of different women and more involved in their careers than having a serious relationship.Otherwise age is just a number, people tell me I look alot younger than that and I think young,lol. I have found that there are 30 yr olds way more mature mentally than some 50 yr olds I have dated so it all depends on the person.However I will not date an 18 yr old and it kills me when I get messages from them, hello? I have an 18yr old son! | |
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 5/2/2007 2:24:56 PM | I have tried it both ways.....both younger and older, and age for me is just how you look, the way you act, and handle yourself.
Having someone that is closer to you with life experiences is very desirable, and finding another that has a similar level of education, financial stability, and emotionally comfortable enough to adjust no matter the age, is a goal we should consider.
There are many that will be this way and can be many years younger or older, depending on their attitude and experiences along the way. Why rule out anyone that is legal and can potentially meet your needs and you theirs?????
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 5/4/2007 10:28:40 AM | | I've been with younger women and older women, and think age really doesn't matter. Don't get me wrong, I won't go out with a girl under 28 cause of the immaturity level and games, but after that, I think they've experienced enough turmoil and are ready to settle down with a secure and loving guy. Relationships are based on how you treat and look at the other person, not age. As long as you treat each other with love, respect, adoration and kindness, it doesn't matter if there is 5-10 years in between. As long as you have the 4 items mentioned above, any relationship can withstand the test of time, it's when people cross the line, no matter what age you are, that determines the outcome. | |
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 5/4/2007 10:52:55 AM | | Doesn't it come down to the place you are at in your life - maturity and stability in what you want? I'll admit, personally, I do look for partners who are in my age range, give or take 5 yrs. That being said, I would date someone farther out of that range if they were at a similar stage in their life and wanted the same things. It's important to me that I find someone with some like interests and similar values. If a couple is getting 'serious' as you put it OP, then they should really be thinking that same way. However, at 17, there is one thing on a guy's mind...okay, MOST guy's minds. At 23, a woman may be looking further into the future...I dunno. IMO, it's a short term situation, so I don't think she should get her hopes up if she's expecting him to be the lifelong love. | |
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 5/4/2007 12:49:13 PM | | Age doesn't really matter to be although I wouldn't date someone under 18 (I prefer someone in 20s at youngest). And although my profile says 25-30, i wouldn't have any problem dating someone some who is in her 30s. | |
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 5/5/2007 12:57:16 AM | No, age is not just a number. Age below 18 is jailbait. If age was a number, then you'd see 12 year olds dating 75 year olds. If age was just a number, then they wouldn't convict pedophiles. There is a reason we point and laugh when we see a 20 year old woman and a 50 year old man together.
Similar ages have the best compatibility as you have similar life experiences and points in your life. "Age is just a number" is used by people dating extremely out of their age range and trying to justify it. | |
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 5/5/2007 1:16:06 AM | I agree with ^^^^^ yesiamcute. Most people do use "it's only a number" when they're dating WAY outside. Don't ask me whats acceptable and not, have no clue...
Having a choice between dating someone in their 20's or closer to my age, say even 33, I'd date the 33 yr old..There again, even in one's 30's, they're maturity level still comes into play. If they act like a 17 yr old all the time, its not going to work..
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 5/5/2007 1:20:42 AM | Age matters. At seventeen he should be out with his friends hangin out hving fun .
He may not look at it that way but if he misses out on tht part of life and gets hung up on the family raising and lifestlye of raising a family at this young age he is missing out and may regret it.
Yes there are alot of people men and women who go seem to be in relationships with younger people for various reasons.
On the serious side though , I think with each season of life there are certain apptitudes required, hurdles to overcome, kinda sets the stage for where a person is in their life.
A 45 year old male has explored life's experinences , that someone 10 years younger has not explored yet. That is where the differences ly.
YOu are who you are in age because with age brings more experiences that help to broaden your outlook and reaction to what life brings a persons way.
I say age matters.
But tht is just me | |
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 7/5/2007 4:37:46 PM | | plain and simple age does matter...mind you the age gap is the crucial factor ...a few years differnce is no big thing weather the woman be older or younger....but for example a 40 year old woman dating a 19 year old man...or vise versa has nothing to do with compatability with that big a difference it is complete different world and usually is either a case of trophy partner or someone trying to recapture theyre youth and will always end in disaster as theyre is no true common ground to build a meaningfull bond | |
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 7/5/2007 5:16:45 PM | Has anyone thought about what this young man should be doing with his life right now....instead of having his head full of an older woman and her kids and trying to please them. If he's in school, he should be thinking about his professional future and college and if he's a drop out, his mind should be on getting back in and getting an education.
Also, if he is from a single parent family, maybe his money would be better spent on helping out at home, instead of buying gifts for an OLDER WOMAN.....
She's 23, divorced with two or more children. She's made some misjudgements in her young years. Does she feel any responsibility in being a better mentor to this kid and helping him see a positive direction in his life, rather than getting emotionally, mentally hung up trying to please her?
Yep, 17 and taking on adult responsibilities before being prepared and stable......is way tooooo young. She needs to play with guys her own age, or at least over 21 with their schooling behind them. Actually she is contributing to the delinquency of a minor here. | |
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| Does age matter? Seriously is it jist a number?
Posted: 7/5/2007 6:41:52 PM | | I frankly don't think age is irrelevant. That is like saying one year on the job is like 10 years on the job. Experience does make a difference. I think if age didn't mean anything then people would be driving when they're 12. Of course, peoples' maturity level is very important. If I were talking to a girl a lot longer than myself I would be cautious. Well, you should be cautious anyway. People who are younger are generally less stable. Even in the animal kingdom, the older animals sometimes beat the younger ones handily because of their experience. I don't think you can simply knock age difference, but it is not everything. I mean if a guy meets two women and one is older and another a lot younger and the younger is more compatible the age difference wouldn't matter so much. Compatibility is extremely important, but it doesn't mean age is simply a number. Compatibility is just a more important factor... | |
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