| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 10/3/2005 10:21:41 AM | My first ex and I split because he cheated eight ways from sunday, with a couple of my friends, and even a relative of mine, so I was heartbroken and obviously didn't care to see him again. We had a mutual friend who always liked to get together all our friends and she didn't much care that I really never wanted to see him again, so I was stuck in a couple different situations with him, and he tried to get me back, but there was no way I would talk to him or consider being friends with him because of the things he did to me. He's just not a good person. I hear he cheats left and right on his present girfriend too., why would I want to be friends with someone like that?
My second ex and I broke up because he decided he preferred the company of ahem...men...
so of course it was mutual, and we wanted the best for eachother, what could I do right? We remained good friends until he moved away. The bottom line is he treated me well (and dressed well lol) and due to the situation, it wasn't like we'd get back together or have any sexual urges! It was weird seeing him with guys of course! But we all had a good laugh, and I guess I became the 'fag hag.'
My most recent ex, I still love him and want him back, but he's a good guy, so I think I could try to be friends with him, after a few months of not communicating, because I'd need to be over him first. But I just know I'll flip when I see him with another girl.
So it all depends on the situation, I guess. Someone who's hurt you, why bother? You wouldn't continue to associate with a backstabbing friend, right? You can't always forgive and forget. Then there are some guys who are good people, and it just works. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 10/3/2005 10:27:33 AM | yes it's possible......trying to convince the current girlfriend that we're friends!!!!!
is another problem and i have had many arguments about this. (it's even ended a few) | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 10/3/2005 10:39:57 AM | | Good question. My ex and I are friends today (largely because we have kids) but neither of us is seeing anyone. Don't know what the future will bring, but I do worry about another man in the kids' lives. But I'll ALWAYS be their Dad. Last summer I had a fishing accident, resulting in brain surgery, coma, 2 mo hospital stay, and my ex was there every day! She's an awesome lady and I'll always have love for her in my heart. No resentments whatsoever. That's the key! Wanting her to be happy, and if a new guy makes her happy, let it be done! Woa, just had a revelation. Thanks alot! | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 10/3/2005 11:13:11 AM | | yes you can i was in a 4 year thing with my ex we lived together for 2 and half and we were suppose to get married well it got to the point were i felt like all we were was friends we had put our weddin off 3 times in 3 years and i didnt feel like we were ever gonna get anywhere so i decided it would be best if we went sepreate ways. To this day we are still best friends and we talk about our current dating that we do. No worries or hard feelings you jsut gotta end things on the right terms | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 10/3/2005 12:27:52 PM | | Of course you can be friends with an ex. I was in a relationship with my ex for a year, and when we broke up it was really hard to be friends with him. But 3 years later we've finally come to the point where we can be friends. There are no hard feelings and we really like just being friends with each other. So I think that if you are trying to be friends right after you first get out of the relationship, then it probably won't happen... but if you wait a while, there is a good possibility that it will happen. You just have to work at it. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 10/14/2005 7:16:01 PM | I def. think that you can be friends with an ex, as long as the both of you want to stay friends. But it also depends on how bad the break up was.
Sometimes you make better friends with your exes:) | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/18/2006 8:12:50 PM | | It really depends on how it all ended like how most people have stated. I would be friends with an ex again but not right away. I think it would be to soon to start developing a new friendship, it would be awkward for me. I think it would be in both of our best interest if we stayed apart for a while to try and get over break up and then once it feels right start talking and hanging out with the person again. Try and take things slow | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2006 6:28:34 PM | I say if you want to date other people not a good thing to be friends with ex, unless kids are involved. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2006 7:45:39 PM |
Is it really possible to be friends with a ex and still carry on with new relatiohsips and be honest about still being involved in their lives and not create jealously?
Yes, but it takes some work, and a bit of sacrifice on the part of both ex-partners.
BTW, My ex-wife ranks among my best friends. But it took a while to get to that stage. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2006 7:56:26 PM | | I think it certainly is possible and actually preferable to have a good relationship with your ex. When someone has been important in your life, it's a shame to throw it ALL away, even though you're not together anymore. I have a good relationship with my former husband - we do things together with our children frequently, as we think this is best for them. Also have a wonderful friendship with my former boyfriend. We were able to maintain the friendship part of our relationship and it's one that I hope we will be able to maintain for the rest of our lives. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/21/2006 8:26:00 PM | im trying that now and its not easy, im looking for ms right while she already has been seeing a guy for a month. I still have strong feelings for her though she has gotten over me so its easy for her to call me and ask me what im doing, did i get "some" recently, how my arms looking? ( Told her im hitting the gym ). Im not so sure i can keep being close friends, at least not so soon after the break up since the thought of her new b/f making love to her drives me nuts!!!!  so in short i guess it depends. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/22/2006 1:59:03 AM | | I would have to say it would depend on how good the friendship part of the relationship was, I have a couple ex's where the friendship part was really strong, and we are still friends, However I do maintain some distance to keep from rekindleeing old feelings or desires so not to effect a present relations ship and to not put any trust in doubt in a present relationship, but still chat either online or by an occasional phone call. then theres the ones where the friendship was not to strong and those folks,,, well for me its treated like I never knew them. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/22/2006 2:02:31 AM | | The answer is very simply..I may able to be civil..if I see him somewhere that I go...but generally...NO!!! | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/22/2006 2:23:44 AM | If the break up was mutual and both people think that moving on was the right thing to do, then yes. If one person still wants to give things a chance or is still hung up on the other person, then no.
I've been in both situations. My last ex gf wanted to get back together, give things another chance, etc. and I was done. I tried to be friends with her, but in the end, I had to cut off all contact with her because she wouldn't move on and I felt like I was enabling this behavior by continuing to talk to her and see her. On the other hand, the ex gf before her agreed that we should break up and I'm great friends with her and have dinner with her every couple of months. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/22/2006 2:55:03 AM | It really all depends also on the circumstances in which you broke up. We were married young at 17 and 18 for a very long time 29 years, we grew apart in the later years. Work work work less shared interests, being too tired to go anywhere. When I first left he was surprised and angry but quickly grew to understand why I did. Yes we have been able to stay friends, my mom took the breakup harder than he did lol. because we have 2 beautiful daughters together and 2 grandkids a 3rd on the way and were friends for so long befor the break up no reason not to be now. We have both moved on with our lives he moved back to Montreal 2 years ago but visits, we talk from time to time and I am fortunate to have him as a friend...
Carmella | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/22/2006 5:54:08 AM | | Yes. It is possible. My ex-husband and I are friends. We have three children and it's in everyone's best interest that we have managed a friendly relationship. Sometimes we call each other to say hello or to share something the other might enjoy. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/22/2006 6:24:44 AM | | To me it's hard to be friends with my ex because of the fact that i used to have deep feeling for him there always alot of jealously | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/22/2006 6:26:13 AM | | To me it's hard to be friends with my ex because of the fact that i used to have deep feeling for him there's always alot of jealously | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/22/2006 6:43:49 AM | | ps: we also spend part of every holiday as a family and get together for special days regarding the children, like their birthdays. It works for us, and I recommend it if it's possible when children are involved. We may be divorced, be we will always be their parents and we will always be their family. Neither of us are jealous, and new 'friends' are welcomed to join our gatherings if they feel comfortable. Our kids are very well adjusted and know we date. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/22/2006 6:46:45 AM | | Can you reason with plausible premises within viable syllogisms? Can you value the good over the bad? Can your ex? | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/22/2006 7:39:25 AM | Actually, in my case, I like my Ex a helluva lot better now that we are apart. She officially became another man's "problem" a few years back, and now we can actually have meaningful conversations. Lately it actually "appears" that she has my best interest at heart, and she is sometimes even helpful and understanding of my situation, something she wasn't too adept at when we were married. We will always be bound to one and other to some degree because of our sons, but thankfully we are now amicable, realistic, and get along marvelously. I can actually talk to her about my life, and get an honest, straightforward oppinion, from someone who knows me alot better than most. It's a good thing.
Have fun ;)! | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/22/2006 8:09:03 AM | I am still very close to an ex boyfriend....He lives in North Carolina, I in Ohio, so we don't see each other, however we chat online and occasionally on phone.
We have a great deal in common, and went through a lot together while we were involved.... however, we decided we just weren't meant to be involved romantically..Because of our common bonds and what we went through together, we have remained close plantonic friends.
When I'm interested in someone, I do tell them about my ex and that we are still friends upfront, and I tell them some of what we went through together, so they can understand better why we still talk, etc........And if they cannot handle it, it's their problem, not mine....
Would I not talk to my ex any more if new relationship seemed jealous or asked? I don't know, haven't come across that yet.....I'll cross that bridge if I come to it.... | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 9/22/2006 9:31:19 PM | yes i believe a person can.i am and will always try to be.as to the jealous end why cause yourself more stress.
and yes i am friends with my ex | |
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