| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 10/29/2006 4:48:12 AM | | Sure you can be friends with an ex, it depends on the friendship part of the relationship and how the breakup went down, I have one ex who I chat with on occassion, (by phone or email) she has met my present partner, they have chatted a few times, it has become like a brother/sister relationship, she calls when she is feeling down cause I could allways put a smile on her face and make her laugh, there is nothing sexual happening physically or in conversation. I have a couple other exgirlfriends that are simular but not to that extent, in the means that we bump into each other in a store or mall say howdy, have a few minutes of conversation, and all is good. I also have a couple that i would rather see dead as well, and they probley feel the same about me. the little woman is in the same boat, having a couple that are still on talking terms and some that are hated. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 10/29/2006 5:43:02 AM | | I am still friends with an ex. We talk once in a while on the phone. She lives in Florida and me in Kentucky. I moved up here about 10 years ago and we have talked ever since. Sometimes if I am haveing difficulties she can be a good person to talk to and Vice versa. It is all in how you veiw it. It is always good to have good friends. When you and that friend have spent alot of time romantically sometimes you can understand them better. I would never go back to this woman. There was a reason we ended it. But she is a good friend and I can talk to her about anything and vice versa. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 10/29/2006 6:01:32 AM | | I think it depends on why you split up in the first place. one of my best friends is an ex but there are others i can't stand to be around. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 7/31/2007 3:40:26 PM | i've been separated from my ex for a year now, we spend holidays and birthdays together with our son and daughter and when our son comes home for the weekend from university we get together as a family and have a nice dinner. Now that being said, would i call him up to hang out or go for a drink....not on your life.
If i still wanted to be friends with my ex, id still be married to him. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 7/31/2007 11:22:21 PM | | I think there's just too much history to get past to maintain a normal friendship. There are reasons why it ended, and if I wanted to stay in touch and be buddy buddy, things would not have turned out the way they did. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 7/31/2007 11:24:31 PM | | It depends on all of the people involved. Some people can't handle it, whether it be the either members of the failed relationship or possibly the new people who come into the picture. If one or all can't handle it it won't work. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 7/31/2007 11:30:26 PM | | Yes, but it can often take more work than the actual relationship did - and both parties have to want that. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 8/1/2007 1:47:25 AM | NO...and why would I want to
if they werent right for me for a close relationship as a couple
they definately arent right for me as a friend which is usually a more emotionally intimate relationship. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 7/25/2009 2:01:23 PM | | I am friends with ex's. The love I felt for them changes form, but doesn't go away. Afterall there was more than just the physical relationship. I'm not in relationships with men of poor quality or immaturity. These are people I trust, respect and love as a treasured friend, who truly touched my soul with the sweet kindness they showed me. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 7/25/2009 5:05:12 PM |
Is it really possible to be friends with a ex and still carry on with new relatiohsips and be honest about still being involved in their lives and not create jealously?
OP -- Everyone's different in how they relate (or not) to their exes. Some can pull it off with no issues at all, and others can't. Some still try though, even if they fail.
For me, I know I can't and make it a rule that "ex means ex". That means no contact, no IM's, no emails, no calls...nothing. I'm an all or nothing kinda guy anyways. If I had it all and lost it - then I'd rather have nothing, than tattered remnants of a formerly happier time in my life.
JMO. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 7/25/2009 5:27:21 PM | | Most certainly...Im friends with most, if not all, of my ex's...It possible to care for someone while moving onto new relationships...Just dont go talking about them all the time, and all should be well...As long as you dont go crossing any of those invisible lines of disrespect, you'll do fine. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 7/25/2009 6:33:28 PM | | ALL MY EXS LIVE OUT OF TOWN olr out of state but i communicate to them on the computer and the telephone. i learned we made better friends than lovers, this is why they are my ex. I don't have the time or money to go see them . | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 7/25/2009 6:51:51 PM | I'm friends with ex boyfriends, no sex involved, no friends with benefits.
If I know we weren't meant to be than that's fine. I try to get along with everybody. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 7/26/2009 12:53:50 AM | If it is an ex in ex-wife or ex-husband, I guess it is possible, especially when you have children together and the pain of the divorce is long gone. Rare, though.
When it come to ex gf, ex bf.. Why complicate my life? keep life simple. ex is ex... no more contact. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 10/23/2009 1:14:08 AM | For most people the answer is no.
Yes, some people make it work. I'm sure the new beau will have no issue with that.
If it has been years of separate lives, or two people are super mature (very rare), might be friends again.
I think that some people have a hard time letting go.
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 10/23/2009 6:26:09 AM | | Yes it sure is. Surely in the beginning it is hard to be friends with your ex due to hurt and anger. However I think my ex husband and I have a great relationship we can chat on the phone for hours about anything and everything. We have both agreed we had too much outside influence in our relationship and he really disliked the guy I was with now that we are no longer together we are great friends. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:46:53 AM | | It depends on the people. I have been friends with most of my exes for a while, but the relationship always ends up fading away. My ex fiance and I are friends on a social networking website and we write each other emails occasionally. I feel fine with being his friend, as long as he doesn't mention his new girlfriend. I find myself being kind of jealous at times too. Yes, I think you can be friends........ | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:04:28 AM | | Its a waste of time... She tried to make me her friend I cut her off and now shes cut me off hehe being treated like shit meeting these new guys she wanted to date lol... Its funny how that works I even told her when she was dumping me they're just gonna treat you like shit. Besides she had a lot of serious issues I couldn't help her with I did my best but she sure didn't appreciate my efforts. I am happy to be away from her and my life is better. Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if she contacts me someone in the not too distant future. Its funny how she told me she didn't want a relationship with me or anyone else. However now on her profile she says she wants a serious relationship and it also says she will cut your balls off while giving oral if you're gonna screw with her and just want her as a **** buddy lol... I dunno what she saw that was better I mean I never lied to her. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:38:22 AM | Yes, depends if you have forgiven and forgotten the reason why you and your ex quareled. Rash words can leave resentment and hurt, but if you can get past the hurt and see the good time you shared, then being friendly is possible. I am not saying a friend you can call but being civil to one another does happen. Look at my sorry ars, if I could do it anyone can.  | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:29:08 PM | My ex and I were best friends before we got together. We had a lovely 18 months together but the split was bad. It took another 6 months before we got our friendship back on track. We're back to best mates again but we'll never get back together in a relationship.
He used to say relationships come and go but good friends stay forever and that's true. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 11/6/2009 6:21:13 PM | "There is no way on God's Green Earth that I can be friends with an X. That isn't to say that I have to be enemies, it just means I have to be Gone. I have 3 that are still in my heart, one the Mother of my Children. As much as I still Love these Ladies I have no desire to know who they're boinking now and how Great their New Life with Mr. Soontobenext is going.
Granted, I blew it with most of them, but I don't need my nose Rubbed in Shit"
Yes dont tell everyone though :)
You want women to think that you and your exes hang out every day and that they all really desire you and just love you for your company. If they find out the truth that you are full of psychotic rage like every man you wont be popular lol.
Women arent stupid or cruel, however their sex drive is, jsut like ours, selective and selfish. We all have to get beyond it if we can, trouble is we cant. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 11/6/2009 6:27:58 PM | Yes it is. No it isn't. The answer depends on the players........
I am not enemies with any of my exes but they are not a part of my daily life. I am on friendly terms with the father of my son and not on friendly terms with the father of my daughter. My SO sees my struggle with the later and is supportive, understanding and helpful with his advice. My SO is not insecure in our relationship and therefore jealousy is not an issue. Only insecure people are jealous people IMO. | |
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| Can you be friends with a EX?
Posted: 11/7/2009 7:33:05 PM | My ex and I tried to be a couple several times. Our girls are 10 years apart. After we finally called it quits we were still friends. We would bring our SO to birthday parties, holiday events. After being split for 14 years we became room mates. We lived together for 2.5 years. He was diagnosed with cancer. I took care of him until he passed away. We were always a family even when we were not a couple.
I realize it takes a long time to get past the hurt and anger but mature people should be able to forgive and deal with life. | |
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