| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 1/29/2008 9:45:14 AM | | Please dont fret there is some one out there for you yet. I have yet to find him but I know he is out there | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 1/29/2008 10:10:53 AM | I think it has everything to do with how you present yourself to men. If you think your weight is a problem, and your kids are baggage, men will too. I'm a plus size single mom too...but I am happy with the way I look, and I believe my kids are a bonus not a burden.
Chin up - the right guy will come along when the time is right! :) | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 1/29/2008 11:36:57 AM | | 5 months! ha I've been out here for a year lol, I am a single dad. One thing I would suggest, U shld post a pic, one thing I know is a lot of women think they are unattractive. Hiding makes you seem desperate and clingy, which can be a turn off lol, So it's better to show yourself because a lot of men see beauty where U don't expect. | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 1/29/2008 9:02:27 PM | | Does no one ever look at the original date of posting before they reply?? "She" joined and posted on the same day THREE YEARS AGO! She has since deleted her profile. Sounds obvious to me this was a fishing attempt to get people to look at her profile. | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/17/2008 4:59:46 PM | | I am at the largest size I have ever been but it is not the weight that bothers me. I just don't feel like I am taking care of me. I don't want my daughter to think she has to be a certain size to be beautiful. I want her to think you have to take care of yourself to be beautiful. Your outer looks will fade and your body will certainly change as you get older, but the inner you is what you need to always be sure of. | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:42:06 AM | Size, being single, and having kids are all excuses we use when we can't find 'the one', but the bigger problem is generally the person whose looking. I think life can be difficult if you allow it to be. I tend to agree with several posters that being confident in who you are is far more appealing than simply having a pretty face. I'm a single mom-overweight-work hard but I have a great man in my life. Is my life perfect-n0pe-but I try to always look at things from a positive point of view. I'm honest enough to say that wasn't always the case, but when I quit having a personal pity party is when I discovered my self worth and value as a human being.
The other thing to consider and realize is that not everyone is going to be into you-that's just how it is. Placing blame on other's doesn't change a thing-because you have to change your state of mind to improve your life and happiness. I've been on my own for over 6yrs. I took about a yr to do some soul searching because I had been in a long term marriage which ended on a sour note. I did meet a man who I fell in love with, but I pushed him away because I wasn't ready to be involved, but I had a hard time digesting that this fit handsome man really wanted ME. Again, looking back, it was my personal baggage I needed to unload before I could become emotionally involved with anyone.
The nice thing is, despite my stupidity in pushing this man out of my life-he's right back in it and has been for the past four yrs. He's a wonderful friend-lover and companion. He is very good to my children as well as me, and I'm lucky I got a second chance for a do-over. Do we have our ups and downs-yep-we sure do, but the thing that keeps us going is that we genuinely care about each other. He's never minded my size or the fact I'm a single mom-he even said to me that he wished that one day my kids would love him as much as they love me. We do well, because we each respect one another and are great friends. I told him he's the man I want to grow old with, and while that would make me very happy, I simply take each day as it comes.
No one is promised happiness or happily ever after-being happy in yourself makes all the difference in the world and that is the difference. | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/18/2008 12:39:55 PM | The only prob with men who are attracted to BBW is they can be feeders or men who ditch you if you slim down.... and if a man wants to see a single mum, we always have to worry if they are perves....
Im a pessimistic BBW single mum! | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/18/2008 3:54:26 PM | | and thats why your a single mum!!!!! you can't judge someone like that just because he likes a woman who has kids you can't just think that he is a perve!!!! us men can say the same about women!!!!!!! proven fact that more women now days are the perves than men. check out the rates on it somewhere on line | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:08:51 PM | | Plenty of guys like single moms, not because they are single moms neccessarily but because of who they are. You sound li ke someone who craves a relationship so im sure you are loving enough to find someone, but its only been five months, take off that weight, stop waiting for some knight in shining armour and once you feel yourself thin and beautiful and concentrate on your own well being finding some man to just complete you wont seem so detrimental and you can attract the right kind of guy! your weight problem is obviously a problem for you and you will feel amazing once you start to shed those pounds, may i also suggest weight watches as ive seen it work great wiht people i know. | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/19/2008 8:07:26 AM | Hey hon, I'm in the same boat as you. Sometimes I feel that if I accept a date on here, they are not gonna like me cause I'm a big girl. Most of my pics, I get a Wow, your hot, and that's all fine and good, but the truth is that it doesnt matter what you look like, it's whether they like who you really are. For a long time I felt that I wouldnt be doing any dating, because of the reasons you have put too. It's not true, I would rather be me than anybody else. There is no one in the world like you at all. Share that with the world, and most of all share that with your child. He's the one that loves you for who you are and nobody can take that away from you. A man can only add to that loving relationship, and it should never take it away. They say never judge a book by its cover. Sometimes the cover makes you want to take that book home and read it, but what happens if when you get home, there's only one page in it. Does that sound worth it? Think of yourself as a beautifully covered book with many pages in it, cause reading one page over and over can get very boring.  | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/19/2008 8:40:19 AM | | hey im david sherrill i met my wife on the yahoo chat room and yes there are plenty of guys out there yall need to just give them a chance thats all im saying ok if u want to be my friend u can im david sherrill i read yr aid in this bbw single mom ok u can call me wright now if u want i am married wife woulndt mine at all ok 1-336--307-1544 ok | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/19/2008 10:26:20 AM | Hey OP ... I too am a bbw and a single parent and yes that makes the dating selection smaller, but no smaller than anyone else, everyone has their preferences and there are some men who are willing to accept you for who you are.
Hell 5 months??? That is nothing, its been almost 2 years for me, I have many opportunities and at the moment a few guys that are very interested, but attraction goes both ways and unfortunately in these particular cases it is not shared, but in time you will find the right one, we all will.
He will love you curves and all and accept that you have a child. Don't wait around for him live your life and he you will just bump into each other!! | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/19/2008 5:01:42 PM | Trust me, he will Come....lol.
Alot of men like single BBW parents.
i for one enjoy the warmth a bbw brings to my life.
My ex would have been better off if she had been
a single parent bbw cause then at least she would have been
available, instead of the Line after line of her hubby being abusive
and us being together in the future, then her running off with him
to another state when the army shipped him to Alaska. 
yea i know i was the idiot, but hey, she really is an awesome
person deep down in her heart.
It's just going to take me a little longer to let her go.
The point is, there are men that would be more then
happy to meet up with a single parent bbw. Men who will
stand by oyur side no matter what. yes, some maybe a
little shallow but you just have to weed those out.
A friend of mine in Canada has been through many frogs,
me included, but hey, She's having Fun and Enjoying life
while she waits. When the Prince does come along she will
be much better prepared to recognize him and snatch him up.
It's kinda like getting rich...it doesn't happen overnight.
ENJOY LIFE, You only get ONE!! | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/19/2008 7:15:16 PM | | honey I am 33 years old but look 23, 5'2' and just made it to 120 lbs after 2 kids. Im not ugly at all in fact most people say im very sexy. i have the same problem as you. Its not that you're big because Ive been dumped for big girls on more than one occasion. I think it has more to do with being a single parent. Relationships already take compromise and as single parents we have less room for compromise than people without children. I have been single for 2 years, had a man for 1 and 1/2 years before that and was single for 2 and 1/2 years before him. I said that so you know that I have spent most of my time single. Not because of looks but because of my situation and my inability and sometimes unwillingness to compromise on diffrent things in my life in order to build a relationship. I've accepted the fact that I may remain single until my girls are adults and right now thats fine with me because you only get to raise them once. | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/19/2008 7:20:58 PM | | LOL.. im sorry but her comment did have some truth to it. Women, especially women who have daughters, fear that a man may have ulterior motives if he wants to date her. I know I always give the same speech to my girls so they know to never be afraid to let me know if someone does something inappropriate to them. You are correct in saying that it works both ways. Either way its a logical fear considering our society today. | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/19/2008 8:24:12 PM | I want to say that is bullsh*t All this talk about women need to think if men have other motives if you have young girls!!! There are just as many women if not more then men that are molesting kids so stop with that mentaity. Heck I was molested by a woman when I was younger, so dont judge on that or even think that you need to worry about that. If you raise your kids right things like this won't ever happen because they will nip it in the butt before it happens and for sure tell asap. | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/20/2008 5:42:10 AM | | Hey darlin', check out Tangowire/BBW and there you will find hundreds, maybe even thousands of men who love BBW's. So go get yourself a dose of lovin', cause that's what I do when I get a little disgruntled with this site. It'll make you feel a whole lot better about yourself. Good luck. | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/20/2008 10:15:22 AM | Oh, good lawrd...dare I even post
But Thanks Daizee Mae...for helping out the OP...
Now how about ME can you find me a web site while the singles are coming up with all the excuses why THEY can't find someone????
My thread is.......Hung like a hamster AND single dad....so hard
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/21/2008 8:34:22 AM | Hey..yes it is lonely in singleton,and there are men out there that do appreciate and date voluptous women.. secret in europe a men look for a women with large hips and a little extra. Myself I am a few extra pounds...In this society the media and advertising push.. thin . But alas my dear.. have you ever seen the full figured top model.. she is beautiful.. just as you are. I was in a course years back..in regards to the issue of the media and models.." Did you know if they are hungry.. they eat kleenex before they go on the ramp. No one is perfect.. they have air brush techniques to remove flaws or enhance areas. Go look in the mirror and really look.. chose your most amazing feature... and work with that.. myself it's my eyes.. love the beauty u see. You are a single mom.. that alone is a challenge.. but u see you are both.mom and dad. Love your child they are gifts from the universe. Love yourself!! work on one thing at a time.
Believe in yourself.. you are the only support your child has. My the winds of heaven dance with you.. as you smile and carry yourself forward.
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/22/2008 3:34:12 AM |
Don't worry....your prince will come....but not until after you have kissed a lot of frogs POWER TO BBW'S!!!!!!.
she's not even gettin the frogs! | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 6/22/2008 8:52:02 PM | | You know what.....5 months is nothing. I have only been single for 6 and I am completely happy with it being that way. You know WHY? Cuz i'm taking care of MYSELF and most importantly, my son. I am a thick girl and have NO problem finding a date or even more. I just joined this website so I could see some sort of substance and maybe sift through the partners a little easier. The key to being a bigger girl is self confidence. No, i'm NOT a size 4 anymore, BUT I know I'm a gorgeous, strong and independent woman and am not willing to just let ANYONE in my son or I's life again. The right person is out there for all of us....you just have to be patient. :) | |
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| BBW AND single mom... so hard.
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:00:20 AM | | i know,its been 2 yrs of off and on dating,just not working for me either. i took a self imposed break to get myself together ,too many guys who said one thing and meant another i was getting cynical.yes,maybe in the 'dating ideal' being a big girl and a parent makes me somewhat less attractive to some. but honestly,i want a man who loves me for me and not because my butt is big or i have a zit on my chin. | |
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