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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 11/24/2005 10:34:49 AM | | I think it only seems like a lot if the sentence 'I have never been in a serious relationship before' follows the number. Although at 29 I would be a little more inclined to have my partner get tested if she said 50+. Especially if they were all in the room at the same time. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 11/24/2005 11:04:29 AM | | This is such a double standard for me, and I hate it. My Ex-wife was a virgin when we got married and I loved that about her. To this day I'm still the only guy she's ever been with. She was very christian and didn't believe in sex until marriage. However, she was so bothered that I wouldn't tell her how many women I'd been with, but I always told her to "Do not ask questions you don't want to know the answers to.". I'd like to find another virgin, but that's going to be a tough one especially now that I'm older. But, since I'm spoiled I think any number greater than 5 is going to be too many for me to want to marry her. Of course, if your in love, nothing really matters. But any number greater than 5 would bother me. I'm such a hypocrit. | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 11/24/2005 11:19:26 AM | | ^^^^ that is a bit hypocritical. I am a virgin, I so don't care how many women that man that I end up sleeping with has been with, as long as they are clean. Haha, most men have more of a problem with my lack of sexual partners but I just want it not to be a one night stand if that can be helped. Anyway i think its a sign of insecurity if you insist on knowing the # of people another person sleeps with. I am very open, and if asked I will always tell the truth, its interesting to see the reaction that the truth gets. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 11/24/2005 11:29:27 AM | Depends on the population of their area. A city girl that has only boned 15 guys out of a city with 3 million people isnt as bad as a girl that lives in a town with 100 people, and shes boned 5 of them.
The girl has been with 5% of her areas population. The city girl would need to have 150,000 partners to catch up percentage wise. 
^^^^ The above is only a joke. I dont care how many guys a chicks been with. I only care aboout how many shes with while shes supposed to be with me. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 11/24/2005 1:23:05 PM | My god I have lmao just reading this.
The question should be the answer...If you have to ask then you'll just end up alone due to you own insecurity.
The question should be are you willing to take the ultimate test?
And for all that mentioned safe sex. The only safe sex is with yourself. Read the literature on STD's even if the condom does not break there is still a risk.
So do numbers really matter????????????
Get over it and find out for yourself if you are safe then treasure it. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 11/24/2005 2:14:49 PM | I'm not into the numbers game, but if counting I think we need to seperate the one timer's from the LTR ancounters.
If someone has had a large (define large!) number of signle encounters then maybe that means something. Yet again maybe it doesn't.
But who cares if he/she has had 6 or 8 LTRs? Sex in a comitted relationship is expected and important for its emotional health.
Just my HO | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 11/27/2005 4:14:17 AM | fugg it! ok, I've been with somewhere between 300 and 500 women, maybe more, I just don't know. The reason I am divulging this is because I honestly don't see anyone linking it back to the real me. Hence, the no picuture thing. However, I've just got to know... Should I just keep lying to the women that I hold relationships with about my total number, or should I actually tell them the real number? I have gotten pretty involved with someone from this site, so I sure hope she doesn't read this post. If she does, then I guess the only redeeming thing I can say is I have only been with 1 girl since I got married 2 years back. Sorry babe, but that's the truth.
To me, it's one of the most regretful things I've done with my life. Not so much becuase of the number, but because of the pain I put the girls in. I would tell them anything to get them in bed with me and now the sorrow lies in my heart. But, the question remains... Do I tell them or do I just bury the past and send it to the bus stop in my brain, never to come back again? | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 11/27/2005 4:31:44 AM | | ^^^^ if you are being honest, I hate to tell you but there is a direct link of all your forum posts at the bottom of your profile, so everyone can see this post. If the girl is savy to the forums your secret is out of the bag. although I doubt this is a realistic # lmao. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 11/27/2005 4:37:07 AM | | No, unfortunately it's a real number. i've been with up to 7 women in one night while I was a dancer in Vegas. Trust me, I think it would gross a girl out, So why would I be lying about this??? But, honestly anymore, If a girl can't accept me for ALL of me, then she doesn't deserve all I have to offer. Besides, I think this girl will be accepting of me for me, and that's what I really like about her. If not, then she wasn't what I thought she was, so it won't matter anyhow. | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 89 | |
| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 11/27/2005 4:40:59 AM | | well good luck, like i said b4, as long as a person is clean I would not care, and niether should she if she is secure in her self. But I hope for your sake that you have left that lifestyle behind, just no safe, and kind of depressing I would think. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 11/27/2005 4:43:07 AM | | Yeah, it takes a part of your soul. Sometimes it is very depressing, but I reserve those thoughts for when I lay in bed at night. I don't let it effect my daily routine. Like I said in the other post, I've been with 1 girl in the past two years and I think that is gratifying to me. | |
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TLCXO
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Joined: 10/22/2005
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TLCXO
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Joined: 10/22/2005
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 5:57:06 AM | Sorry...the # of people you've been with is a reflection of alot of things to some people. To some, a high # reflects poorly on you b/c to many people..it is not just a casual thing you do.
I don't worry b/c I'm married and it just doesn't matter anymore...but I wouldn't want to have married someone who did it, just for grins...and said, "Its just sex, so what."
Some it bothers, some not... I guess whent the role models for some girls are skanks, then what can you expect. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 6:26:10 AM | I dont think the amount of partners you had really says much. I know people who have gone through stages where they were a bit promiscious do to either age, being hurt or curiousity. However, the rest of their life they have been in serious comitted relationships.
It depends on their age, how much time they have spent single etc. For example a 40 year old women....started being intimate at 16...never married no long term relationships...say 2 lovers a year...that would be 48 lovers. Does this mean she is a slut? No. Does this mean she cant be faithful? No.
I am 41 and I have only had 5 lovers but the reason is I have spent 23 years of my life in serious relationships. Does this make me any less promiscious than other women in my age group? Actually I have had way more sex than most single people in my age group. I have just been lucky in that I have had multitude of sex with a select few. Most of the women I know wish for the same.
There are too many variables with this question to give a cut and dry answer. | |
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lee567
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Joined: 1/10/2006
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