| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:05:12 AM | | It depends on each situation to some 10 is a lot but if you had like 2-4 month relationships with all of them then its a little easier to handle but if youve just had like 200 one night stands then thats a problem because now you just sound sleezy I dont think its that important to share how many partners youve had as long as your being responsible and are going to get tested | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 8:45:57 AM | I could not care less how many partners she has been with before me. All I care about is if she is D&D free and does she date married men.
The married men part is because that is the one thing that really irks me. I will not date or be involved with someone whom I know has a history of being the other woman. Even if she is not the one whom is married, I just think it shows a lack of respect for other people's relationships, much less for herself.
As far as the number of partners, or perhaps some freaky past experiences, it really does not bother me. Falls under the people in glass houses should not throw stones...
Actually I prefer people who have experienced some things. I want someone that knows what she likes. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 9:27:13 AM | I think that it we also have to factor in the EXACT AGE FROM WHEN YOU LOST YOUR VIRGINITY..TO THE PRESENT AGE.
Here's why :
1) A woman can say that she had 20 sex partners. However, if she started at the age of 20 and she is now 40 yrs of age, then does that make her " questionable " in terms of " sluttiness " or " looseness "? I personally don't think so. I mean, if you average it, she is having one partner a year or EVEN IF IT was 2 partners a year.
2) A woman can say that she had 20 sex partners. HOWEVER ( this is a BIG one ), she started at the age of 20 and at current, she is only 21. Now, that's a BIG PROBLEM. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 9:57:10 AM | | well, to be honest, i'm kinda surprised if she HASN'T been w. triple digits... i mean, i know I would be inna HIGH triple digits if i were a woman! i understand that most women are relatively chste when compared to men, but any time a woman tells me less than 30, i don't believe her... especially if she's close to my age.... | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 10:08:37 AM | This thread interests me. I guess maybe I'm somewhat sheltered, but it seems like the days of waiting to have sex until you're with someone you really care about and are into are long gone.
That being said, anyone with under 30 lovers in their lifetime does not qualify to be with me.
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 10:20:01 AM | "letsgetiton01"
Interesting that that is your name yet you dont advocate getting it on with everbody.
There are still many people who do not advocate sleeping around out in this world but they are usually the ones who are serial monogamous by nature. It is not fun to be single and also be celibate till god knows when. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 10:29:16 AM | Realthing - I guess that you didn't get that my entire post was tongue in cheek. I don't judge what other people do in their sex lives. I was merely trying to make people laugh. Sorry if I offended you. I'll try to make it more clear next time.
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 11:08:42 AM | | realthang...: is it voluntary or "imposed"? ...cause one time, after my divorce, i went thru "imposed" celibacy for, like, 2 years! God, it sucked! ...i did try voluntary celibacy once, in college; lasted 'bout a month... it ain't me, babe | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 11:15:11 AM | Involuntary or voluntary....
Well I have had many opportunities to volunteer for such activity.
However I am one of those freaks....
Involuntary...in the sense that I have not met anyone I could see as long term relationship material...just not interested in recreational sex.
When I do meet him god help him considering it has been over a year... | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 11:32:18 AM | | Well, why does it matter so much to certain guys? A guy I've been talking to for a few months now asked me how many guys I'd been with....I gave him a #-# range and he still freaked. I didn't tell him how many I had been with, because honestly I am ashamed of it. I've made some mistakes, and hell I'm sure I'll make more...but why should the number a person has racked up matter so much in the grand scheme of things. He went so far as to say he didn't know if he could ever go down on me because he would be thinking of all the****that had been there. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 11:57:33 AM | | Okay why be embarrassed lessons learned right. I think that is pretty childish of him to say that. Hell tell him if he can't be pleasurable to you that you wont be to him. I am sure he has had plenty of partners also. This is 2006. Right? I am not saying by any means everyone should have some big orgy but if you chose to make the decision to sleep w/ someone why kick your self in the a** for the next 20 yrs. I would never answer that question to a guy. I wouldn't want to know how many they have been w/ either | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 12:01:13 PM | The number of sexual partners may not matter to some, then again it may matter a whole lot to others.
I always ask how many for several reasons.
One reason is to find out how promiscuous a woman is. Based on that I tend to get a certain feel about her. Thats not to say that I think she is a slut or an angel based on the number, but it does tell me more about her sexual habits. Now just as it was said earlier, a woman who is single, over 30-40 years old and never been married will tend to have a higher "number" then a woman who is 21. However if a woman who is 21 and has had over 20 sexual partners, then that says a lot about her sexual tendancies. But the same goes for a man who has had 20+ sexual partners by the age of 21 also.
Another reason I ask is that I found out the hard way women tend to lie about their number by decreasing it. Once again, men tend to do this also but instead of lying about it and lowering it, they raise it. I have been in several relationships where I found out that the number they told me wasnt the REAL number. Mostly cause they decided not to count this or that one for whatever reason such as they were drunk at the time, they were embarassed they had sex with that guy, he had a little penis so he dont count, it was during her time of the month and so forth. Its very funny to hear some of the reasons they dont count.
The last reason to know is also based on trust. Now no matter how much you say you need to trust your lover or leave them, its important to protect yourself physically and emotionally. I have been involved in relationships where that "number" magically went from one number to another, and it wasnt because they forgot one or two. I have had friends experience the same problem. Example: You ask your significant other, "How many have you had sex with?" Their answer is "9", then a couple months down the road you ask them again and they say "10" and then a couple more months down the road they say "15" I think there is a serious problem. They are either forgetting more then just a few or your loved one is making some booty calls behind your back.
Although numbers shouldnt count, In my opinion they do. Its just unfortunate that they have to.
And for the record...mine is 16 and I am 32 years old (and I am happy to say that number isnt going to go up now im engaged, YAY!). In the last 2 years I have been with 9 women. I lost my virginity at 18. So do the math, that means my number was 7 before I turned 30. Many reasons spurred me to have more sexual encounters. In the end it all depends on who you are, who you want, and what you want. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 2:09:01 PM | | I've never had an STD, I've never had a pregnancy scare, and I get tested after I stop seeing someone. I have been on birth control since I was 17, have always used condoms with spermicidal lubricant...I don't worry about number as long as someone's clean. I think these days sex is so casual and fun most people will have a number perhaps they aren't proud of. It's the day-and-age...DEAL WITH IT! | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 3:55:01 PM | Well, I am always honest and tell guys my number or whoever wants to ask. I wouldn't call it "accurate" because there are some who are not worthy of counting and others I think I should count because I had the opportunity but it just never happened. So I think most accurately, I would say I slept with 17. But if oral were inclusive then it would be a little higher. I used to keep a list of guys I kissed though and it was in the 80s when I was teenager, now it would be well into the triple digits.
I think my number is normal for a woman of my age/experiences.
You can't judge someone's "promiscuity" on just a number, you have to take into account, age, opportunities, relationships, etc.
Of course someone who was out at parties in their teenage years probably have a higher number than those who were kind of nerdy. | |
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