| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/24/2006 5:19:46 PM | I like good girls. My current girl has been with 1 other guy before me (yes, this is true. She is 18yrs old and has only had one boyfriend in her life) and my previous was my wife, who lost her virginity to me on our wedding night.
I am a total hypocrite in this area, but figure it's not the amount of partners that you should be interested in, but the amount of long term relationships that person has been through.
I will never again, as long as I live, even go out on a date with another virgin. I will let the other poor **stard deal with teaching them how to be and what to expect out of a relationship. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/25/2006 8:52:26 AM | Why worry about the number as long as they are clean and get checked. At my age I expect anyone I would date or fall in love with at this point in life has had a few and thats just not something I need to know.After all finding a virgin at 49 years of age is just not in the numbers. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/25/2006 10:05:42 PM | What if you dont know? I truly do not know how many...Damn 20's So, who am I to judge? there is a formula I heard somewhere.
How many guys a girl tells you shes been with you multiply that by 3
How many girls a guy says hes been with you Divide that by 3
I dont think thats true....is it?
But it made me laugh | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 2/21/2006 11:45:37 AM | | Well since I am a little late on this Im going to hope someone replies to this. Im 24 years old and my number is in the double digits, I do lie to guys and tell them a lower number mostly because I count all sexual activity, oral sex counts to me and if we go by just penetration my number is a little over 20 but by counting oral it goes way way up. Most guys I have talked to have that whole attitude on whats good for the goose is not good for the gander, they can have as many sexual partners as they want but when it comes time to be in a relationship they want a woman whos a freak with the sexual life of a nun. Come on now guys, if you want a woman to be freaky in bed then you want someone who has been around the block more than twice. I fully expect a man in todays society to have been with women in the double digits. I dont mind it as long as you arent going to pop up one day in a conversation all cool like and say "I think I have something" or "Yeah Ive had this disease this many times" Im cool. Cause trust me as many men as Ive been out with or talked to one out of five sat, almost bragging about how many times they have been burnt. Come on now be safe, as long as youre safe it doesnt matter. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 2/21/2006 2:45:32 PM | oh my god that is just f****d up. Holy cow over three is just loose?
Are men allowed more?
I'm still laughing at the somewhat sexist nature of that remark.
so if I have been sexually active for 17 yrs and have had over that same number thats llllllllllloooooooooooosssssssssssssseeeeeeeeeeeeee. Right?! thats your reasoning. I am not saying any of that is actually true it could be more or less but I am certainly looking at myself a little different. Thanks for the self esteem booster. lol | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 2/21/2006 2:55:45 PM | does anyone not concider the length of time someone has been sexually active ?
what if someone was active for 15 - 20 years and 10 people is alot ?????? brutal.
what if someone had 2 boyfriends every year lasting 6 mos each for 3 years thats 6 people...big deal.
what does it matter geesh. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 2/21/2006 3:07:06 PM | "IF you slept with 5 guys and contract an STD, it shows me that you don't care to use a condom. You are not my kind of girl, sorry."
cancercarless, it shows you that YOU may be ignorant actually.
You can apparently catch Warts and Herpes even WITH a condom and both of those are for life, so if a chick had only slept with 2 guys, used condoms, and they never warned her they had either of those 2 diseases, she could have them, and that wouldn't make her slutty at all.
Also if a chick was in a long term monogamous relationship, they'd both been virgins, or got tested and were STD free and they trusted each other and finally began having sex without condoms say... one year into the relationship... but 3 years in the guy cheated unsafely and brought their partner back HIV, Herpes, or Genital Warts... I guess that chick would deserved to get judged the rest of her life by guys like you huh?
Thank god there are people out there that are not so uninformed. Nobody wants an STD, it must suck enough to have one without dealing with that kind of judgment, yes a lot of people got what they deserved, but some prolly tried to be careful and did not deserve it at all.
Apparently 75-80% of North Americans have some form of Herpes... so uhhh good luck with THAT judgement call.  | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 3/6/2006 10:26:27 PM | I have had 11 partners....I am 26, and I am most certainly not a slutpiece...lol Besides a guy who is 26 and has more partners than that is not a slut...and dont go tellin me not to pull that card, I am not pulling anything it is the truth Like most of the people said in here...who gives a crap, as long as you are safe and clean. Besides I dated all but 2 of the people I slept with and the 2 I didnt date I had known for a very long time. I could have done a lot of worse things than have sex with 11 men. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 4/26/2006 4:56:02 PM | | I don't think It should matter. I don't think its something that has to be shared either. May cause too much conflict if you can't handle what you hear. Becides what do you think the reason for getting to know someone is? If you are with someone and about to tie the knot because this is truly the one you want then you find out about how many they had... would you want to take everything back because thats the only thing you don't like? I say like it or lump it. The problem would be all yours not theres. Like it or lump it. hehe | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 4/26/2006 7:56:59 PM | remmers, man i totally agree with you... life is short... play it hard and keep it hard...
for me, the number of sexual partners is just a number, they are not in her life any more, and besides, it's the past, leave it there, we all have one... | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 4/27/2006 12:41:40 PM | Firestone, my take on this subject is a bit different.
Promiscuity isn't necessarily about numbers, or even casual sex. The question is, are you selective? Do you only sleep with men you are genuinely attracted to, and do you have the self-control to avoid undue health risk? For example, judging from your pic, you have more opportunities that most, meaning you have the luxury of being selective.
That said, I like knowing the numbers AND the details that go with them. I must confess to a fetish for the attractive woman with the HIGHER numbers. That tells me she has an appetite for sex and a healthy disregard for society's taboos. WHOO-HOO. I would be even more titilated by a lover wants to have sex with other men while she's dating me, or would enjoy threesomes and/or being watched.
Don't take this to mean that I'm looking for an excuse to fool around myself. My focus would be on my lover. I would find it very erotic on my part to know that she experiences the pleasure of sexual liberation.
Some will be put off by my comments for sure. To each his or her own. Right now this is a fantasy for me, I've not actually been in such a relationship, nor would I insist on it were I to become involved with someone. I had my own numbers as a single in my youth, then I was married and monogamous for 22 years while raising a family. Been there done that. Now I'm divorced and free to be honest about what I want. We'll see.
For those who are curious, I certainly don't condone cheating. Anything that has the enthusiastic consent of all affected parties is not cheating. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 4/27/2006 2:52:28 PM | well 9 guys hmmm?
ok so this not really towards you,but i think that if you have a lot of realationships and
you never found the one you really click..but you had sex with and so no..and so..
and then you end up have a few knoches on your bed post..oh well.
thats life........were not 15 anymore! | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 4/27/2006 5:35:46 PM | | Why does it matter? As long as you are safe and get tested, who cares about the number. How else are you supposed to learn, if you don't have any experience. I didn't learn guitar overnight. My main focus has always been to please my partner first, and worry about myself later. I love it when I can give her multipul orgasms. I like it when I need to get a towel because the bed might get wet. I like it when I can have a new sexual experience occur. I guess I am a pretty open minded person. I also think outside the box. No pun intended. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 4/28/2006 7:04:35 AM | A thread is overdone when the views expressed become hopelessly redundant. But when fresh views can be offered, might continued dialog be worthwhile?
That said, I agree with the general consensus. Ongoing observable behavior is much more relevant than ancient history.
However, is the subject at hand limited to negative concerns about a lover’s past? Yesterday I expressed an alternative view. Are there others who associate erotic stimulation with an experienced lover? Is it possible to draw a distinction between indiscriminate promiscuity vis-à-vis enjoying a variety of desirable sexual partners?
Could this be a discussion for another thread? Too kinky for this forum? | |
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