| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 5/12/2006 10:54:54 AM | the # of partners does not matter... numbers are decieving
for example say there are 3 women that i am interested in
girl 1 is 28 and has been 20 guys... 2 a year since she was 18... all boyfriends and always used protection
girl 2 is 24 and has been with 7 guys... 5 of whom were while she was with a long term bf
girl 3 is 21 and has been with 4 guys... 3 in unprotected 1 night stands
which is the hoe? personally i'd rather be with teh chick that's had 20 partners | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 5/12/2006 11:46:53 AM | | if u really like the person why should it matter how many people she has slept with before u. its not like she is still doing it with many men now.... if us girls look or decided to be with a man by the number of woman he has slept with, u men would be alone for the rest of ur lives. would u not date her cuz she has had children? and let me tell u that does a lot more damage then how many men she has slept with. NEVER DISCUSE NUMBERS..... | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 5/12/2006 2:15:56 PM | | WELL IT SEEMS AS THOUGH THE LOWEST I HAVE FOUND WHEN ASKIN MEN THAT LIVE IN FLORIDA IS 30 (AND THE MENS AGE IS 20-26).....30 FRICKIN WOMEN...CAN WE SAY..."LACK OF COMMITMENT?" THIS IS OBVIOUS...BUT JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE HAS A "HIGH" NUMBER ...WELL, WHO AM I TO JUDGE THEM...BUT IT DEFINATELY SHOWS ME THAT THEY R NOT WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR AS FAR AS "COMMITMENT" IS CONCERNED... | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 5/14/2006 5:37:22 PM | i am 24 and have had 5 partners, two of them this year.
the number does not make you "good" or "bad." it doesn't mean you are more or less likely to cheat. it doesn't mean you are untrustworthy. it might mean that you went through a promiscuous periodn in your life, but WHO CARES?
i think men are ridiculously judgmental about this. it means very little. if you are lucky enough to find a woman you care about who also cares about you, then why should this ruin it for the both of you?
let he who is without sin cast the first stone... | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:03:17 PM | i think it does matter though - my girlfriend said 8 and i thought that was a lot! doesnt make me do anything different with her but always at the back of my head that shes been with so many!
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Why? Guys can sleep with SO many girls and it doesnt matter, but a girl does the same and it is suddenly a problem? Why is that? | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:50:51 PM | msg #186: But if a girl said she had been with thirty guys, what then?
I don’t know what then. Then nothing. Then carry on. If she’s been sexually active for ten years, that’s three men per year, one every four months. That doesn’t seem like an issue to me.
If she’s had a few longer-term relationships during that time, some shorter ones in-between, some intimate encounters, etc., it doesn’t take much to add up to thirty lovers.
She’s an adult. Adults need sex. Sex is a good thing. Sex is wonderful and positive. Did she learn and grow through her experience? Did she feel joy and pleasure? And love and affection and tenderness? And how did her sexual experiences add to the person she has become today?
That’s what I would want to know about her past. How has her sexuality enriched her as a sexual, spiritual person? Has she had the courage to say yes to her own sexuality? Has she had the wisdom and maturity to provide herself with a fulfilling sexual life?
And has she had the strength to say no to all the repression around her that would deprive her of her right to a joyous, fulfilling, independent sexuality?
And I would want to know about her safety and my own. And I would inquire in a sane and respectful way. Without judgment. And then carry on. With joy.
g'luck | |
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~iiCe~
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 5/14/2006 9:27:43 PM | Honestly, at my age a lack of experience with potential partners would be more of a concern than a high number. I really don't care how many she has been with before as long as she is D&D free.
But if she is around my age and has not been in a long relationship for many years, a small number makes me wonder why she hasn't had more experience. I think people with small numbers without the relationships tend to be more judgmental. My numbers aren't too high, but they are higher than a care to admit. Some would would have a problem with them. | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 5/14/2006 11:06:52 PM | | Foxxy said WELL IT SEEMS AS THOUGH THE LOWEST I HAVE FOUND WHEN ASKIN MEN THAT LIVE IN FLORIDA IS 30 (AND THE MENS AGE IS 20-26).....30 FRICKIN WOMEN...CAN WE SAY..."LACK OF COMMITMENT?" THIS IS OBVIOUS...BUT JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE HAS A "HIGH" NUMBER ...WELL, WHO AM I TO JUDGE THEM...BUT IT DEFINATELY SHOWS ME THAT THEY R NOT WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR AS FAR AS "COMMITMENT" IS CONCERNED...
You have to realize in the age group you are asking, that the number is always at least 1/3 of what they say the # is, I forget the rule of thumb for women, but usually it's the other way around with women, because they know that it makes us guys uncomfortable thinking you were anything but a chastity belt wearing nun in tibet until we came along. :) | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 5/14/2006 11:52:49 PM | It is important for me to know. I just want her to be open with me, that is the point really. I like to see if she will be honest with me. I have been with one woman that I was number 66 and she told me that I was the first that she was ever with sober. Now, that was interesting. She was a recovering alcoholic. She was beautiful and sad. Before our relationship came to an end, I began thinking electric shock treatment might help her. She had such emotional problems and I can see why she became an alcoholic in the first place. I still tear up when I think about her. You can only fix yourself though.............
I was with another woman that had been with forty but she didn't count the women LOL. She was bi-sexual and oh my God, she turned out to be such a freak. Not really because of her sexuality but she was just a criminal. I quit counting the times I had to get her out of jail etc. She was a loser for sure and maybe I was too just for dating her. Who the heck knows.
I don't mind being honest about my past at all. I thought about typing it here, but some things are meant to be shared only in private. Tracy | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 5/15/2006 7:48:54 AM | Personally it depends on alot of things, if you have been married for 15 yrs than obviously you have slept with less moreso than someone who has never been married at all! If a woman asks me how many and she was married for 10 yrs, I reply with..probably more than you I hope....think about it.....my first time was about 22, so 11 yrs, and someone who says they have been with 5 people their whole life, and I say well how long were you married?, and she says 10 yrs, well I hope to god I have been with more than 10 people in my 11 yrs of existance since the first lol....
It's all relative........if someone who has been single and dating for 11 yrs plus has only been with 5 people, well more power to them but i feel bad cuz they have not experienced anything. You live ONCE...
someone asked me that a few weeks ago, and she was 19 lol...she said 3....and I said well more than you have....and I hope ive been with more people than she has unless I have been living in a closet as a troll my whole life. To me the question is dumb, it doesnt say anything. Either you have slept with too many in someones eyes or not enough and you are not experienced, so what's the point lol | |
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| Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 5/15/2006 10:31:07 AM | I have a couple of comments:
YES this should be in the humour thread - lmao!
The double standard - women should be virgins and men should be experienced? WTF!
I don't care how many people you've slept with - how many have you made so happy in bed they really remember you?
If you've been in a long-term relationship and had regular sex, then you've used your equipment more than someone not in a LTR that's dated a few different people.
Does it matter to some people how often you've had sex, or how many people you've had it with? If I've had sex thousands of times but it was with a husband, am I looser than someone who has had sex with 3 men in 5 years?
How about if I've masturbated with everything you can find in your home - cucumbers, bananas - would that make me less of a whore than if I'd slept with more men?
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