| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 12:46:05 PM |
But if you are simply dating a single mom, you don't have to pay her any money.
But what is the purpose of dating her then?
If he isn't interested in getting married to a woman who already has children, he will be accused of being one of those guys that only want sex.
If he does marry her, he then becomes obligated to pay child support for children that are not his (under Canada's laws).
It's really not that hard to understand his position. If I lived in Canada, there is no way in h*** I would date a woman that already had kids. | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 1:10:27 PM |
So what would I be missing out on exactly that a woman without children can not offer?
You would be missing a lot of heartache, money problems, drama and the knowledge that somewhere there is a guy whose seed will go on, because you will pay for it. Besides, you would be missing the wonderful feeling of being a stranger in your own home, not having any voice in how the children you're paying for are being educated and raised, and the all-wonderful world of "not tonight, dear, I'm too tired" way too long before your time. | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 1:32:05 PM | | I've found that "you're bitter" is the standard female answer when a woman knows a man is saying an uncomfortable truth and she doesn't have a good argument against it. | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 1:36:10 PM | | And I find that men use "I've found that "you're bitter" is the standard female answer when a woman knows a man is saying an uncomfortable truth and she doesn't have a good argument against it. " when they know they are making stupid comments ... | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 1:39:03 PM | I haven't called you stupid...yet. Please grant me the same consideration.
Anyway, tell me which of my comments is not true. | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 1:46:47 PM |
I haven't called you stupid...yet. Please grant me the same consideration.
Anyway, tell me which of my comments is not true.
I didnt say you called me stupid. I know Im not stupid. Stupid would be to send my child to someone I thought "may" be a paedophile for example.... 
There seems to be two or three men on the single parents board that are only here to slate single moms. Most of them not even having children themselves, so why the big obsession with the single parents board?
I know you have every right to post on this board, seeing as you have a son, but why are you so bitter about single moms? Why do you tar them all with the same brush? Maybe its time you found yourself a better hobby?  | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 1:50:09 PM |
I didnt say you called me stupid. I know Im not stupid. Stupid would be to send my child to someone I thought "may" be a paedophile for example....
I didn't call you stupid, so "you" don't call me stupid, either. That's what I meant, as if you didn't know that.
Also, stupid would be to get near somebody who can make a false pedophilia accusation, whether by hysteria, bitterness or ignorance, against me.
Why do you tar them all with the same brush?
Can you prove you shouldn't be tarred with the same brush?  | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 1:54:43 PM | I didn't call you stupid, so "you" don't call me stupid, either. That's what I meant, as if you didn't know that.
Also, stupid would be to get near somebody who can make a false pedophilia accusation, whether by hysteria, bitterness or ignorance, against me.
Why do you tar them all with the same brush?
Can you prove you shouldn't be tarred with the same brush?
Stupid would be to think every single mom is going to accuse a man of peadophilia. For a mother say that her child has been sexually abused, when it hasnt happend would mean the mother has some serious mental health problems. So are you now going to say all single moms have mental health issues too?
Can you prove all single moms should be tarred with the same brush?
I got hurt by a blonde 6 foot man in the past...doesnt mean Im going to stay clear of all blonde 6 foot men in the future | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 1:57:09 PM |
Stupid would be to think every single mom is going to accuse a man of peadophilia. For a mother say that her child has been sexually abused, when it hasnt happend would mean the mother has some serious mental health problems. So are you now going to say all single moms have mental health issues too?
Why run the risk?
I got hurt by a blonde 6 foot man in the past...doesnt mean Im going to stay clear of all blonde 6 foot men in the future
Your choice. In the same way that not dating a single mom is a very respectable choice. | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 2:00:28 PM | So how would you feel if people went around saying "Dont date single dads...everyone one of them is bad news"?
Oh let me guess...it wouldnt bother you, right? Sure... | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 2:06:36 PM |
So how would you feel if people went around saying "Dont date single dads...everyone one of them is bad news"?
Well, I'd think it's on me to prove that I'm a good partner choice, instead of complaining because others think I'm not. | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 2:08:41 PM |
Well, I'd think it's on me to prove that I'm a good partner choice, instead of complaining because others think I'm not.
Ok, and how exactly would you do that if people are saying "Dont give him the time of day because he is a single dad"? How would you get the chance to prove yourself, if people say to stay away from you? | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 2:22:14 PM | @rock_hunter
You can die in a car crash any time you are driving, do you take that chance?
You can fall down and break your neck anytime you are on stairs, do you take that chance?
Your computer monitor could explode and send shards of glass and carcinogenic particles into your eyes any time you are using it, do you take that chance?
If you go to a music concert or a night club and get near the speakers you could rupture your eardrums, do you take that risk?
Those are all risks of things that might occur with a lot more frequency than any of the risks you have suggested as being associated with dating a single mother.
You better get yourself in a plastic bubble, quick. You need to avoid all those risks. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 2:25:57 PM | Those are all risks of things that might occur with a lot more frequency than any of the risks you have suggested as being associated with dating a single mother.
There are unavoidable risks, and avoidable risks. Guess which one of these it is.
How would you get the chance to prove yourself, if people say to stay away from you?
A good start would be NOT going out there saying "those who don't date me are idiots" or something like that. | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 2:31:21 PM |
A good start would be NOT going out there saying "those who don't date me are idiots" or something like that.
But you still wouldnt get the chance to prove yourself would you? Because if people say about you, what you say about single moms, everyone would be keeping you at arms length, wouldnt they? You wouldnt be able to get close enough to anyone to prove yourself
And that comment cant be aimed personally at me, cos nowhere have I said that men that dont date me are idiots. I'll say its their loss, but wont call them idiots  | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 2:35:13 PM | And that comment cant be aimed personally at me, cos nowhere have I said that men that dont date me are idiots.
Then why you jumped so readily to my comment? If the glove fits you...
I'll say its their loss, but wont call them idiots
And I gave examples of what they lose, which prompted your indignant answer. And in your particular, false-accusation-trigger-happy case, I really, really don't think they're idiots, either. | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 2:39:44 PM |
Then why you jumped so readily to my comment? If the glove fits you...
Hhhhmmmm maybe because for the last ten or so posts its only been you and me posting...
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Posted: 3/16/2008 3:50:49 PM | | Single moms need to accept that not all men want to date them. Maybe because we have had bad experiences dating single mom's we do not want others to have our experiences. I seek to educate. | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/16/2008 4:59:29 PM | @ rock_hunter,
I do believe you could avoid every one of the risks I mentioned, since virtually every risk is avoidable.
If you don't want to date single mother's just say so. Don't say you are doing it on some irrational fear that you may be accused of something (couldn't childless woman just as easily falsely accuse you of something) or that should you marry her that you would get divorced and have to pay her child support for your step-kids. | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 5/30/2008 8:43:05 AM | Moderators seem to be getting a bit slack, really.
:modhammer: :modhammer: :modhammer: | |
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Posted: 5/30/2008 10:12:03 AM | | Bashing men who will not date single mom's does not help your cause ladies. | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 6/1/2008 6:06:34 PM | I have myself dated a single mother and have no problem with it at all what so ever but the one thing I hated about the last one I dated was she dropped me because she THOUGHT I said she was coming between me and my kids. Mind you I get my kids on the weekends only Fri - Sun and she has her's 24 / 7 of course but at the same time I was at her place more than I was my own so you tell me how did she come in between my kids and me. I tell you how and thats becuase I didn't she just wanted to move on which I would have accepted but to use my kids as an excuse was wrong very wrong. But I will not hold what she did agianst the next single mother I meet because she may be my next wife but then again maybe not. So I will not say all single mother are like that so I do not judge all on that one incident but to move on to the next on who prove worthy of being HONEST AND TRUTHFUL.
And to all others good luck in your search be it they are single mother or not. | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 6/3/2008 3:20:00 PM | ^^^^^^
Good luck, I have yet to meet a person who wont tell me a lie!!!! Male or female!
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 6/4/2008 6:10:28 AM | ive read a few of the post not many to be fair but one thing springs to mind
whether of not your a single parent or dating a single parent you need to take time to get to know someone and there friends and family come into that as well. you get to know them first but if its gong to go anywere then the others come into it. now i may well be a single mum but im bloody proud of it , i stayed with there dads years and was unhappy now im smiling again and my children are too. a man dating me is dating me ! yes hes going to at some stage see my children and me see his if it goes well but as long as your adult about give the children your joint attention when there about as your times for closness are when the kids r in bed or out. make them feel part of whats happening but dont buy them just go with it and see. childrens love is unconditional but you have to deserve there love and once you have then its great. but in some ways its the same as dating a man with mates and hobbies such as footy, pool ect i mean do women want to date a man thats out more than half a week with mates drinking playng footy and pool ect???? well some might but to me its about comprimise yes haveyour times with just her or just your mates , like a single mum has her times with just her kids or just you but you can mix the two!!! i dont see i well like man with a busy life as a turn off not if i like him so why should men see a single mum with kids as one.
as for comments about having to pay for your lovers children GET REAL!!!!! either you have dated some really materilistic women or you were generous yourself to her and her family and turned bitter when it ended. i pay for my children no one else there dad helps a bit i dont want a man as a bank balence but as a friend a lover and a compainion, someone i can be at ease with in any situation. maybe you shuld judge single mums the same as you do single women in the sence that are all different surley thats the excitment of all it all seeing and finding out what the person is about instead of prejudgements and preconceptions
it can be harder for the kids than the adults to except and let someone in after all in there eyes they now have to share there mum so look at it from there side a little and join in rather than push them away or take over.. in the same way no mother should see her children or her man thro rose tinted glasses they all havethere faults and there ways so as long as shesfair why cany it work??
okies ill shut up now lol x
regards niks | |
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