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Posted: 2/8/2009 11:52:23 AM |
Go try to play with a bear cub when its mother is around and see what you get.........about the same thing you would get if you tried messing with my child.
Amen, brother! As it should be.
Men come and go - I will ALWAYS be mama bear. I know what it's like to have a mother who wouldn't protect her children from various men in her life; I know how it feels to have your mother put your needs behind the wants of herself and the current man in her life, and I will NEVER be that mother. That doesn't mean my children run my life, but it does mean that I would be terribly incompatible with someone who's never learned to be selfless. | |
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Posted: 2/8/2009 12:05:42 PM | | You go girl! And your the type that gives a glimmer of hope to people like me that there's still some good ones out there. :) | |
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Posted: 2/8/2009 1:35:06 PM |
Go try to play with a bear cub when its mother is around and see what you get....
Very true. BUT, you won't see mama bear complaining because "nobody wants to date me". | |
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Posted: 2/8/2009 3:06:40 PM | Posted: 2/8/2009 6:01:34 PM
Hi, well.....im a single mom(never thought id say that in my life)...not to be a statistic, but it was my fate....I love my son more than i could have imagined myself loving someone in my life. I raise him and dont really have time for me in my life anymore. Sad but true. I imagined life to be with a complete family when i was a child, but never did it cross my mind that the man in my life would let me down. My son is the only pure and meaningful part of my life that i can say is the real thing (love). I cant speak of having another man in my life cause i feel i would dissapoint my son later on if he knows i went with someone other than his dad. While his dad has his girlfriend, i feel i cant do that. My son lives with me and his dad never sees him, so i guess out of sight, out of mind!. But when i see my son, i see the future and i wont ever want to dissapoint him. As for me, i dont mean to sound cliche, but i feel im destined to be alone in life...whether or not thats my destiny...its what i feel sometimes....... At least i can look and back and say i raised a great son one day (hopefully)...I plan to do my best!!!!!!
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Posted: 2/8/2009 3:15:00 PM | Very true. BUT, you won't see mama bear complaining because "nobody wants to date me".
If mama bear can't get a date, it's not because of her instinctual need to protect her cubs unless it's in all man-bears' nature to attack her cubs. I'm pretty sure that isn't the case.
And if it *is* the case, I'd be more likely to complain that bears keep trying to eat my cubs, not that that they wouldn't mate with me.
But that's just me. | |
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Posted: 2/8/2009 3:20:18 PM |
Very true. BUT, you won't see mama bear complaining because "nobody wants to date me".
LMAO, very witty I must admit. BUT, I dont know of too many single moms that cant get dates. We can get them alright, it's whether or not we like the guys, thats the problem. I do believe women without kids have the same complaint too, that's why this is a dating site filled with SINGLE people! | |
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Posted: 2/8/2009 3:39:09 PM |
Look inside your heart, close your eyes, go to a happy place and ask yourself - "Do I REALLY have men chasing after me to date me knowing I am a single mom?" I think you know for a fact, you are nowhere on a man's list of things to do!
That's pretty mean. Note the 'to do' part of what you wrote.
Making assumptions is not a wise thing to do. Women without kids have more chances of jumping male bones than women with kids. Fact, not fiction. And women with kids fill the forums with pathetic excuses and bitter responses on HOW cool life is for them I bet you $ 2.00, it's no life at all.
Again mean. You can keep your $2.00 buddy, you're not worth the gamble. Note the 'jumping male bones' part of what you wrote.
Enough said. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2009 9:53:03 PM |
...I dont know of too many single moms that cant get dates. We can get them alright, it's whether or not we like the guys, thats the problem. I do believe women without kids have the same complaint too...
That is true. Single women have somewhat better choices. Nevertheless, most of us do not feel our choices are that good. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2009 10:33:19 PM | Single women have somewhat better choices
"Better" is pretty subjective. Let's go with "single women have MORE choices."
Did anyone notice a particular person is now banned?
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Posted: 2/10/2009 1:33:22 AM |
Let's go with "single women have MORE choices.
If it makes you feel better, I have no objection to the word "more." | |
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Posted: 2/10/2009 8:43:51 AM | Baggage, poverty, no similar goals, out of shape, little to no education, no hobbies, no freedom, etc etc etc
I dated a woman with a child once. Very nice lady, still friends with her, but our lives were just too different. I felt 26 going on 40 while dating her. I felt her daughter did not get the full attention from her mother, and that upset me. I felt bad for her daughter as I thought she was a wonderful kid who was longing oh so bad for a father.
Women with children generally have no goals or vision for what they want out of life and end up living a poor, or at best, mediocre lifestyle.
** Ok so i read that.....and im amazed at how shallow someone can be to actually write this......I'm a single mother....however i am not POOR, i do have an education.....and excuse me mister but did you ever have kids and grow another human being in your body??? no probably not so dont give me that crap about out of shape....you have kids and then come talk to me about being out of shape ..... and i do have goals. oh but thats right....you know all of us single mothers right? so you would already know that about me......
The single mothers who are out there pushing through everyday loving on their kids and doing the best they can are typically HAPPY with their life...sure things could have been different but ask any single mom and they'll tell you they wouldnt trade their babies for anything. . . at least the good single moms anyways that arent crazy and wacked out. seriously- where do you come off you dont even know what its like just because you've dated ONE. And YOU my man are probably the reason why most of us are single mothers....you are a jerk :) and you are narrow minded. So please....expand your horizons a little and stay away from single mothers if all you have to offer is a peanut of a brain because we dont want you.
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Posted: 2/10/2009 9:15:57 AM | ** Ok so i read that.....and im amazed at how shallow someone can be to actually write this......I'm a single mother....however i am not POOR,
79% of custodial single mothers are gainfully employed
92% of custodial single fathers are gainfully employed
27.7% of custodial single mothers and their children live in poverty
11.1% of custodial single fathers and their children live in poverty
31% of all single parents receive public assistance (no breakdown in single mothers and fathers, I wonder why)
Source: Custodial Mothers and Fathers and Their Child Support: 2005, released by the U.S. Census Bureau in August, 2007.
i do have an education..
Education
More than 80% of single moms lack the education they need to advance in a career
83% of single mothers have a high school diploma.
33% of single mothers have some college education.
16% of single mothers have a bachelor's degree or higher.
60% of sales-related jobs in the service sector require skills beyond high school.
Jobs that require advanced skills are experiencing significant growth.
High level skills are required across industries.
Source: htt p://ww w.elearners .com/project workingmom/quic k-facts-on-single-moms-and-edu cational-atta inment .asp
The single mothers who are out there pushing through everyday loving on their kids and doing the best they can are typically HAPPY with their life
"Single mothers who were the only adult in the household at the beginning of the study and who were still the sole adult ten years later were at high risk of psychological distress. As in the McLanahan study, this was the case even for those mothers who were not distressed at the time of the original interview. This study, therefore, provides additional evidence that the stresses and social isolation of single motherhood actually cause poorer mental health".
Source:
Painful Inheritance: Health and the New Generation of Fatherless Families Ronald Angel, Jacqueline Lowe Angel. Univ of Wisconsin Press, 1993. pp. 130 ss.
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Posted: 2/10/2009 9:20:29 AM | Kelley -
I have nothing to feel *better* about.
Think about it - do you think the type of man you're looking for (the "better" options) is a 30 year single mother's dream man?
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Posted: 2/10/2009 10:42:18 AM | Poor?
WTF, single mothers cant afford to be poor!
Baggage, poverty, no similar goals, out of shape, little to no education, no hobbies, no freedom, etc etc etc
What baggage? Where? I have some grief to work thorugh, but baggage? No.
What poverty? My single parent home is doing WAY better than most of my single counterparts.
I own 3 homes, working on my fourth, 3 cars, no debt, own a business, work part time, have numerous stocks and bonds and CD's, have my kids set up for college, and lack for noting we want and or need.
Wheres rhis poverty you presume is going on in my single parent home?
Out of shape, yeah i got some meat on me , but that is not because i have kids, that is because i enjoy my steaks and lobsters and spaghetti and my mother in laws
Italian cookin, and always have dessert. I would never blame my having some xtra weight on my kids. I take responsibility for my life, and diont blame my kids for whatever doesnt go my way or could be improved on.
No education,,,,,,while i did not actually formally complete a bachelors, many of my single mother counterparts have. I did finish high school, i did take vocational
courses to further my job skills all throughout my adult life, and traveled thwe world, learning about the world firsthand.
No Goals,,,,,,,
I have 97% of my life goals completed.
No hobbies:
I have plenty. Many which are more fulfilling than my single no kids counterparts hobbies of "gettin crunk and clubbin".
No freedom:
Yeah you may have got me there, time can be an issue for me, but if im really into someone and feel he is worth the hassle, i will hire a sitter.
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Posted: 2/10/2009 9:35:55 PM | | Wow, i been trying to talk to some of the single moms online and the messages are so far apart, i didn't get one reply back until 5 days later. It's hard to get to know someone when the replies are so far apart and you get one message here and one message there. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2009 10:40:28 PM |
Think about it - do you think the type of man you're looking for (the "better" options) is a 30 year single mother's dream man?
Lonestar I admit that is not likely to be the case. However, it is likely that a pretty 19 year old single mom is going to want the type of young man (good looking, athletic, smart, educated, with an above average income) I am interested in. | |
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Posted: 2/11/2009 12:49:42 PM | | i'm a 26 year old single mom who completed a Master's degree in Science after giving birth in the final year of my undergraduate honors degree. I worked 3 jobs to pay my way through school and have never had a problem getting a date. I'm successful, confident, and beutiful inside and out. Your a man, what would you know about being a single mom or the goals single mom's have? That was a very ignorant and offensive statement. I bet your mom would be proud. | |
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Posted: 2/11/2009 4:29:59 PM | ^^^
If that's the case why are you still single?
not attacking you or critisizing you it's just when I see someone boosting it makes me wonder if their dating prospects are so great why waste time on here?
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Posted: 2/11/2009 4:37:22 PM |
If that's the case why are you still single?
Because of guys like you that make us happy to be single. | |
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Posted: 2/11/2009 4:43:34 PM |
LOL oh no I'm melting!!!
Well I'm glad to be of service then
Unlike you, my intention was not to hurt you. I was simply answering your question. She is more than likely single because of all the men like you in the world. Unlike you may think, we dont have to settle. And quite frankly, we wont. | |
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Posted: 2/11/2009 4:45:21 PM |
i'm a 26 year old single mom who completed a Master's degree in Science after giving birth in the final year of my undergraduate honors degree. I worked 3 jobs to pay my way through school and have never had a problem getting a date. I'm successful, confident, and beutiful inside and out
You go girl! It's not easy. Keep it up :-) One day when all your hard working, child raising days are over, you'll be young and looking good on a beach enjoying life while the haters on this thread are scratching their head, alone, saying where did I go wrong? | |
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