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Zain.
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Joined: 9/20/2005
Msg: 477 | |
| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 2/14/2009 3:39:54 PM | ^^^^
"I can guarantee you that with that attitude, you won't be dating any single moms anytime soon because we don't see our children as hassles at all and you may be getting the vibe from this thread that we don't particularly respect people who call our children hassles or baggage."
We call them hassles and baggage because they are YOUR children not ours
"You are only 24...you may one day meet someone, get married, have a few children, get handed divorce papers and become a single parent. When the shoe is on the other foot, I wonder how comfortable it will be for you to wear when a woman says you have to bring more to the table because of your children (the little hassles). "
It may not be comfortable but I won't be calling women who don't want to date me scum, or "not real women"
"I personally would prefer (when I am really ready to have a ltr) a man with children (that he is involved with) than one without. Parents and non-parents don't even speak the same language!"
that i can agree with you on. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2009 3:47:19 PM |
We call them hassles and baggage because they are YOUR children not ours.
If you say so.......
It may not be comfortable but I won't be calling women who don't want to date me scum, or "not real women"
Well I call people for who they appear to be in their word. I don't think anyone who has a preference to date someone without children is anything but exercising his right to his preference. If however, I read some jacka*s making derogatory remarks about single moms or dads and making huge a$$umptions about them based on some ridiculous stereotype, that is another story.....
You sir seem to be prejudiced against single moms more than it being a preference based upon your own words so ...... yeah, I do have a rather low opinion of you as a human being. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2009 3:47:29 PM |
We call them hassles and baggage because they are YOUR children not ours
These children are our future. These children can grow up one day and run a government that dictates your freedom. Give it a rest please would you? | |
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Zain.
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Joined: 9/20/2005
Msg: 480 | |
| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 2/14/2009 3:52:08 PM | "You sir seem to be prejudiced against single moms more than it being a preference based upon your own words so ...... yeah, I do have a rather low opinion of you as a human being."
Right.... the old "he doesn't agree with me so he's scum" routine yet you demand tolerance.
Whatever. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2009 7:18:52 PM | Zain
Has it crossed your mind that maybe being short is NOT your dating handicap?
Like I said in my earlier post - people like to turn a blind eye to their personality handicaps and blame things out of their hands.
I personally wouldn't date you because of your negativity towards people who've done nothing to you, people who seem to be happier and more adjusted than yourself.
Not implying you'd date me, but my own viewpoint is all I have. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2009 7:29:48 PM | Yea, I was thinking that Zain was a little resentful to us women in the forums because of the women that have turned him down in real life. We are the closest thing to those women, so he is lashing out at us instead.
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Posted: 2/14/2009 8:11:38 PM | | I have said it before that Zain has a very nasty attitude toward women, married, single mothers or just single... all women. That is why he has to resort to prostitutes for female companions. He has to pay them for their company. Just read his history. It is disgusting. This shows his way of thinking. He needs to be avoided. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2009 8:26:35 PM | | OMG, I just read it too. He sticks up for escorts and prostitutes but comes in here trying to belittle single mothers who are working legal jobs and paying taxes??? I am surprised that he hasnt suggested that we all hook for a living!!! | |
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Posted: 2/14/2009 8:29:37 PM | But he thinks that he is rejected by women because he is short. I don't care if he was 6'4 I wouldn't have anything to do with a guy like him. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2009 8:33:40 PM | ^^^
Even if he begged and swore on his life that he was meant to be with a single mom, I would NEVER even consider it either. Never in a million years would I be so desperate. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2009 10:13:58 PM | 
At least we can say there's at least one person out there who was willing to sleep with us for free!
Mine was even kind enough to leave me with a couple of kids just to say thank you!
It's a classic case of the weak trying to gain strength by preying on the weaker.
Problem is, we may be busy, we may be exhausted, we may even be dating handicapped.
But WEAK? Not a chance.
People like that make me genuinely happy to be me. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2009 11:18:28 PM |
Right.... the old "he doesn't agree with me so he's scum" routine yet you demand tolerance.
It is truly sad that you actually believe that Zain.......you can make me the one with the problem to avoid looking at yourself.
I don't demand anything from anyone. I also don't beat my head against a brick wall intentionally. Believe it or not Zain, in this thread, these women you enjoy being prejudiced against are giving you good insight into why you can't find a woman to date....your height is NOT the problem Zain.
I do hope you can find love, we all deserve that but I also hope that you will one day take a good long look in the mirror and reflect upon the way you make judgements about people and how you express those judgements. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2009 9:47:49 AM | | hi all, for starters this isn't in direct response to anyone's post, just wanted to see what everyone's opinion is. i wanted to say that i do feel for those who are single mothers and have a tough time finding the right man for her and her kid(s). growing up i was in the same situation my brothers and i were raised by mom and i can honestly say we were pretty defensive when it came to her dating other men. what some guys don't seem to understand is that not every single mom is looking for a man to just step in and play daddy for her children but that doesn't go without saying that men don't go looking to find a way to get bigger tax returns by getting with single moms either. my question to one of the ladies is, even though you've been through the run around before, some guys are genuinely* =/ good guys but yet still it remains difficult for a woman to see past the last guy and just assume we're all like the rest. how do we rid that image those of us that apply? | |
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louayr
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Joined: 7/10/2007
Msg: 491 | |
| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/15/2009 4:13:26 PM | Can i just say not all single parents want a man to step into the shoes of a dad. But see any male that does give a single parent the time of day. And if he does not have the small minded stereotypes that some people appear to have on here. Then he is more special than just any man.
Even if i did not have a son, i would never date anyone who is prejudice and nasty. Everyone is allowed there own opinions, but there is a limit when it causes affence to others. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2009 5:24:02 PM | DOES ANYONE REALIZE THAT OUR PRESIDENT WAS RAISED BY A SINGLE MOTHER? nice try he was acually raised more by his grand parents and she was divorced for less than a year and a half between marraiges.
I wish you would all drop this obama raised by a single mom thing
Barack Obama was born at the Kapi'olani Medical Center for Women & Children in Honolulu, Hawaii, United States,[6][7] to Stanley Ann Dunham,[8] an American of European descent from Wichita, Kansas,[9][10][11] and Barack Obama, Sr., a Luo from Nyang’oma Kogelo, Nyanza Province, Kenya. Obama's parents met in 1960 in a Russian language class at the University of Hawaii at Mānoa, where his father was a foreign student on scholarship.[12][13] The couple married on February 2, 1961,[14] and Obama was born later that year. His parents separated when he was two years old, and they divorced in 1964.[13] Obama's father returned to Kenya and saw his son only once more before dying in an automobile accident in 1982.[15]
After her divorce, Dunham married Indonesian student Lolo Soetoro, who was attending college in Hawaii. When Suharto, a military leader in Soetoro's home country, came to power in 1967, all Indonesian students studying abroad were recalled and the family moved to the island nation.[16] From ages six to ten, Obama attended local schools in Jakarta, including Besuki Public School and St. Francis of Assisi School.
He then returned to Honolulu to live with his maternal grandparents, Madelyn and Stanley Armour Dunham, while attending Punahou School from the fifth grade in 1971 until his graduation from high school in 1979.[17]
Obama's mother returned to Hawaii in 1972 and remained there until 1977, when she relocated to Indonesia to work as an anthropological field worker. Dunham finally returned to Hawaii in 1994 and lived there for one year before dying of ovarian cancer.[18] | |
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Posted: 3/15/2009 6:56:34 PM | Zain, you better go and try the married moms because the single moms have given up on you man.  <---- how I think of zain by his posts in here... | |
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Posted: 3/15/2009 7:10:57 PM | This is a great thread, and I have enjoyed reading the INTELLIGENT responses. I am a single mom, I work, I am going back to school soon ( will still be working while I do), take care of my wee ones, and take care of my own buisness. As a single mom, I too get the vibe sometimes that a man might think I am out for money or a baby daddy/father figure. I dont need a suger daddy, or a baby daddy..what I WANT is a man who can see and appreciate depth and motivation that a good single mom must have to be successful in her parenting and daily life. I think probably alot of single moms would like the same.
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Posted: 3/15/2009 9:45:23 PM | Single men, with no children (such as myself) who want children of their own, someday soon preferably, are NOT a good match for a woman already with children.
The balance is completely shifted in a lot of ways, in TOOOOO many cases, the single woman has a son who is RIGHT OUT OF CONTROL.
A man, WITH children, all of a sudden are on much more equal footing life-experience wise. Even though blended families do divorce more than 50 % , a lot more (i forget exact #, but it was discussed alot on the Dr. Laura Schelsinger show).
I want to have a "first child" experience from the get go with my first, and really preferably, only wife. Meeting a woman with children already REALLY deflates that, and in a lot of cases, a woman with children from another relationship does not want more. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2009 1:15:50 PM | Some single mothers have never been married. They are single mothers cause the babys father decided not to stick around. I would love to meet someone who loves me for who i am, not because i have a kid. My daughter has enough men in her life she does not need another. I am not looking for a man for her, the man would be for me.
I can't wait to have more children. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2009 1:29:28 PM | "I can't wait to have more children."
WoW that would be a big red flag to almost every guy I know. A single mom that can't wait to have more. Sounds like cild support waiting to happen lol. How about waiting to build a lasting relationship before having more kids or just do oto-mom. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2009 1:47:03 PM | why do people always assume that single parents are always skint, have no money and lead mediocre lives???
I am 25 and a single parent to my 4year old daughter,,, i own a lovely 4 bedroom house in a lovely estate, have a lovely car, have a great family and a great job....
Although i do work full time and have donce since my daughter was 1year old, this has allowed me to provide for my daughter everything she needs, i work hard for my money and our lifestyle... i work 9-5 and im always their too pick my daughter up,, give her her dinner, bath her, read her her story and put her to bed.....
we go on 3 holidays a year, she has eveything she NEEDS not WANTS within reason..... and it annoys me every time people automatically look down at u, and assume u live in a squawlor.....
some people are sooo narrow minded..... | |
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Posted: 3/16/2009 2:10:48 PM | | The whole women with children generally have no goals or vision for what they want out of life and end up living a poor or at best mediocre lifestyle...i personally resent that...im a single mother to be and you know what ive done my college term i have a career to start after the babys born giving me the opportunity to raise my child and still work, i work as it is now and plan on working till the absolute last moment before the babys born, just because there are single moms out there that are in that situation and chose not to change it doesnt mean all single moms are like that. I have a future for me and my children and no man needs to be there to support my way thru ive done fine this far without a man supporting me. but thank you for showing that there are men out there that are narrow minded and have no clue there are some decent mothers. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2009 6:12:25 PM | That is so true, I find I am more at ease in meeting men who have spent a significant amount of parenting time with their kids. Not the disney land dads that have kids every other weekend. Sometimes that is an unfair arrangement, but usually only a schlep will allow for that type of fathering for 4 days a month.
A guy that has the same demands as I do, more likely understands me. An older man who has faced these challenges and is now free from children also likely understands me more too. This really helps you to want to let a person into your childs(rens) lives.
My trouble is I find there are many men that want to "come over" after the kids are in bed. As if they don't wake up!!!! What ever!! A former marine and former cop wants to drive to my house in a snow storm to meet me from 5 hours away!! I think not!! The marine in him is trained to kill me and the cop in him is trained to cover up the crime! LOL Idk may be he was for real, but it is not worth finding out if that is the only way he will meet me!! Why would a man think this is cool? | |
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