| | Men dating single mothersPage 4 of 22 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22) | You know, handsomedarkmale, I strongly feel tht you are just coming into this forum to stir the pot. There are many men that are more than happy to date single mothers. Obviously you are not one of them. Perhaps you posts would be better suited to a different forum, where you aare not offending you audience.
No matter how you try to couch your shallowness, you are not going to change our minds or make us feel less than you, which seems precisely your goal. No matter how you try to disguise your lack of perception, we all know from reading your posts.
You don't want to go out with me? That is absolutely fine, becasue I don't want to go out with you either. Go find your successful, childless woman. Itis clearly your opinion that you will not find her here in the single parnets forum. But please, it is like you are coming to my living room hurling insults about the circumstances of my life.
BACK OFF! Just let me enjoy my welfare until I can trap some stupid man into providing for me and my sniveling brats. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2005 4:20:37 PM | Blu, I believe that you are missing the point. I will try to make it very very simple so that you can grasp the reason behind our anger.
These men have the right to date, or not date, whomever they want.
However, they do not have the right to spout ignorant generalizations that insult all of the single mothers on here, yourself included.
All day it seems that you have taken perverse pleasure in going against the grain. You have had a problem with the supportive nature of this forum and you have gone out of your way to defend the viewpoints of people insulting us.
Does this make sense to you. Please if you have any further questions, I'll try really hard to help you out. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2005 4:37:42 PM | chrysler....you believe that because I don't agree with many posters on here that I am getting a perverse pleasure out of it. The reality is, I don't agree with many posters on here about many things. Just becuase I agree with a certain view doesn't mean I am posting to defend.
Not sure where you live, but in Canada, people have the right to their opinions. They have the right to their freedom to express that right unless said right infringes upon the rights of others.
The problem I have with this forum is that some posters have demanded that anyone that doesn't agree should not post.
That is not only absurd but smacks of not being in touch with reality.
You can continue to take any difference of opinion that I might have as a personal insult towards you or just accept it as a difference of opinion. It's your choice. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2005 4:41:38 PM | Gosh, Blu. I'm glad you asked.
Difference of opinion = OK
Insult= not OK
Anything else? | |
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Posted: 10/7/2005 4:51:23 PM | | chrysler...you do realize that you're going out of your way to insult don't you? | |
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Posted: 10/7/2005 4:54:37 PM | Actually, Blu, no I did not realize that.
I am following the same path you have laid out yourself all day. If that is insulting then I suppose we are both guilty. Perhaps you could consider how your posts make people feel before your press the "SEND" button.
Guess that means if I am insulting then so are you. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2005 4:58:58 PM | chrysler... I do consider how my posts will make other people feel before I send them.
I don't answer posts in any advice wanted threads without the intention of giving advice. I may not be right but, that's my purpose. It may not be fluffy and what the person want's to hear because I don't believe in only giving the advice that someone to hear, because I don't think that's very helpful. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2005 5:08:22 PM | I am not suggesting you don't give advice Blu. I am suggesting that you think very carefully about your wording.
If you walked up to some guy and wanted to give him advice about his choice of footwear, would you say,
Oh my God! Are you an idiot? Those are the tackiest shoes I ever saw!
Or do you think perhaps it would be more effective to say,
I know a store that sells some really nice shoes. Why don't we go shopping?
In which of these scenarios will someone be more likely to take the advice you are offering? | |
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Posted: 10/7/2005 5:10:52 PM | chrysler...I know I didn't give advice in the manner you suggested.
now, if you'll excuse me, I must go to work.
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Posted: 10/8/2005 2:47:20 AM | Jeez "chryslergirl" didn't get your cheque?
Why are you so "mean" ? Where oh where did I...or anyone for that matter say something so bad to anyone, that you took it upon yourself to become the thread cop.
I notice you love to jump on people who have different opinions than you? Almost every page, there you are...like some kind of super cop. Did you ever for a moment consider that if anyone was really that insulted, they could probably defend themselves with your help.
You accuse me of coming here to stur up trouble.....just because I won't date a poor lady with children? Thats trouble? I know you live in a small town, but you need to get out more, interact with people who you don't know, so that you can learn when someone says something you don't like, it's just an opinion.
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Posted: 10/8/2005 3:05:45 AM | Angelpants
Ya know...thats really interesting, and I never thought of it this way because I always looked at it from my way, and what I had to lose if 5 years down the line she dumped me or we don't get along......and I end up having to give up half of what I have to a lady who came into my life with nothing except the clothes on her back and her children.
One of my tenants is a doctor, a female, she is in her 30's and is dating a guy with 2 children. I must admit I don't know what the situation is with him but everytime I see them together they seem very happy.
But I don't know if a lady with a large bank balance would date a guy with children and no back balance....I'm sure it happens, but it's probably on the lower end of the spectrum.
But you make a very interesting point though.
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Posted: 10/8/2005 8:20:33 AM |
Jeez "chryslergirl" didn't get your cheque?
Why are you so "mean" ?
I'll field this one for you, cg.
Jeez, maybe it's because she works 70 hrs a week, raises her kids, get's no child support....
You accuse me of coming here to stur up trouble.....just because I won't date a poor lady with children?
Makes sense to me. Why else would people with no kids post in "single parents". | |
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Posted: 10/8/2005 2:46:42 PM | | I'm a single mother....I'm NOT on welfare. I can get my child anything she wants...although she dosen't always get it. I make more money then some so called men on here. I'm replying to a comment made earlier in this thread that single moms have no goals and mostly have no money. I'm here to tell all you that you are closed minded if you think that way. Don't stereotype.....you never know what might be said about you!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/8/2005 4:53:06 PM | Well for me I used to be a single mother of two wonderful children until i started dating my fiance 2 yrs ago.
I have my tubes tied and he knew that and accepted that i couldn't have anymore children and has grown to love mine as his own.
I love that fact there are men out there that can accept single mother and see that we are trying our best to raise our children.
WOMEN be patient the right one is out there for u even if u are single or not! | |
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Posted: 10/8/2005 7:35:40 PM | michael,
I am currently a single mom of three children. I was married to their father, as a matter of FACT I was the bread winner in our family. I was the support for a family of 5. ALL he needed to do was be a stay at home DAD .... We MOM'S have done it for ever. He could not maintain. So we are now divorced and I am alone with the children getting no support , in addition now I have no child care. This was not MY choice. So Because he wanted the easy life, with no ties, I'm lazy and poor and don't care for my kids . The funny thing is you could line up men rich , poor and in between. From coast to coast, you claim that because I'm short on cash I'd pick one with money. WRONG! It will be a COLD day in Hell before a man moves his way in MY HOUSE! RICH OR POOR!
HAVE A NICE DAY!
HAVOC
YOU CHRYGIRL | |
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Posted: 10/8/2005 7:48:01 PM | Please refer to my post to michael earlier. Also just incase you didn't know birth control is a 2 way stret my friend. Just like none of these single mothers made thse babies ourselves....... isn't about time that the fathers had to take some heat for this too. None of us got pregnant ALONE !!! Just trying to educate you regarding that fact....because somewhere you LOST it.
Maybe that's the Problem there's a whole generation of men that were raised without fathers so now as a result..... a certain percentage of men no long know how to be fathers.
Is that what has happened?????
I don't know but it seems crazy that it is always the female's fault when a pregnancy results. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2005 9:33:53 PM | Havoc1967
So he needed to stay home to take care of the children.....while you worked......"(He could not maintain.)" What does that mean? He wouldn't cook and clean while you worked so you divorced him??? He left you??? You tell a story and leave it with holes.
You don't need to educate me, you’re the one who needs to be educated. And nowhere did I lose it.
My sister had her first child at 28, years old, 4 years after getting married. My other sister had her twins at 31 years old, 10 years after getting married. EMM, see some sort of a pattern here? And there still married and have there careers.
Oh believe me...I have heard horror stories of guys not paying child support and what it does to the children. But here in Ontario, we bark a loud bark, but not much is done to chase them down, unlike cities like my home town of NYC, and many American States, they chase down the deadbeats, take the car, the salary...etc....but here in Ontario...the mothers and children are mostly on there own.
Hey...the sales agent who sold me my house showed up with a 4 month old strapped to her chest when she showed me my house. I asked her "what’s up with the baby?" She said her husband dumped her when she became pregnant and since she had no formal education other than a HS diploma when she married, she took a real estate course. She wrote her exam 4 days after giving birth, and now sells a few houses a month. Now thats a lady!!!
The problem isn't a generation of girls and boys raised without mothers or fathers. Problem is a 19 or 20 year olds needs to use a little common sense before becoming pregnant. (Boys too)
Yea yea.. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2005 9:50:34 PM | Hmmm...I am going to jump in here. Now I am no single mother but I am a 45 yo single custodial dad who is a graduate student. I don't know how it is in Canada but apparently somewhere along the line you got your head screwed on backwards there dark. I ahve read this thread and others in the forum and have to wonder what got your panties in a twist dude that you think it is your duty to come into the single parents forum dissing single moms? I mean did you get turned down by a few of them for dates because of your attitude? If you have a problem with single parents then don't date any and dont' come to single parent forums. Seems to be the logical thing to do.
The problem isn't 19 and 20 yo people not knowing what they are doing or thinking about what they are doing. The problem so far seems to be know-it-alls like you who think that somehow being a single parent automatically makes us a lower class of people. According to many different definitions of racism you are practicing racism here and now. Racism occurs when one person, or a group, takes it upon themselves to denigrate a group of people based on a distinguishing characteristic (sex, age, gender, marital status, ethnic group) in an attempt to make themselves feel better about their own situation. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2005 9:55:48 PM | Michael: Why is it that you continually come into this Forum when you have nothing but assinine remarks to make to people who are doing the best they can by their own? Just to flame an already heated arguement? There are rules against flaming, in case you aren't aware of them.
A wise Mod pointed me in the direction of the Rules. May I suggest you read them. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2005 9:58:04 PM | Sweets -
You crack me up - straight off the suspension giving to 'em!
I missed ya girl!
C | |
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Posted: 10/8/2005 10:03:48 PM | ooops are we chatting -
I've got tons to say about this thread - but I will not stoop to the level that it has been reduced to - I just feel sorry for the OP - this isnt what he meant by his post...
Too bad people feel the need to hijack...
C | |
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Posted: 10/8/2005 11:10:05 PM | | Hello everyone, here's my two cents on this subject. I myself do not have a problem dating single mothers as long as they're single for the right reason. By this I mean and I know i'll get flak over this one but its true and we all know it, some women are single mothers because they thought it would be cool at the time or their best friend did it and now have all us working people supporting them.These mothers who make a career out of having babies and relying on the workforce to pay their way should be put on a boat and sunk. My only drawback would be the jealous ex syndrome and I'm sure it happens alot. other than that people you love no matter what come with some kind of package be it a meddling mother or phsyco brother or whatever, a child is just part of that package. Kind of a bonus in a way because if a single mom likes you enough to want to share the one thing in her life you know she truly loves, that makes you feel kind of special. | |
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