| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 10/8/2005 11:17:36 PM | I doubt you'll get much flak over your post bucs. I'm a single mother and I do agree with you about the reasons. Your post was constructive, not insulting. :)
I've known women who kept having children knowing they had no chance to support them. I've also known women who have to rely on outside assistance because of circumstances beyond their control. But, I happen to know a man who ended up going for custody, even when he didn't want his children, just so he COULD go on welfare. Shame, isn't it?
Bottom line is, be responsible. Happy to say most of the SP's I know are.
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Posted: 10/8/2005 11:17:48 PM | | those are some excellent points my friend, i'm a single father who tries pretty hard not to bring a multitude of women into my kids lives(it hurts them when a relationship breaks up too) | |
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Posted: 10/8/2005 11:26:06 PM | | I totally agree with you, matters beyond circumstance are fine with me, it just seems there are more and more babies having babies! just because! those are the ones I have a problem with as well as the little **stards that helped them get there. I think those guys should be put in the military and their paychecks sent home to take care of child. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2005 11:55:11 PM | i think im a a great mother i work go to school i have my 5 year old being home schooled and my two year old is very smart she can count to 5 and do most of the abcs and i have lots of free time if i found someone i think its so rough to date some one becuse my kids would always be around and then they would think we would never have any free time so guys dont bother even talking to me so i sit home bored  | |
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Posted: 10/8/2005 11:59:21 PM | | I just think that all too often it is a case of the clueless trying to make rules for everyone. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2005 12:00:03 AM | | Tuscon, then perhaps you're better off without them. They don't know they're missing out on a good woman, hmm? :) | |
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Posted: 10/9/2005 12:13:41 AM | | first of all you should be ashame of yourself and i want you to know that you are not a man at all, you are such a fool. weather she has 2 kids by 2 different men or not you are still a disgrace to men. i am a single mother of a daughter and i have a good job and my own medical insurance, bluecross blueshield ppo and i have a big house and a 3 unit rental apartment building that pays for my house too and i dont take any child support from my daughter's father because i have more assets than him and more money in the banks. i also have a brand new car that i daughter when my daughter was born and she is just 1yr old. i dont live pay check to pay check, i have one job. i am not looking for any man to take care of my daughter because i shop for my daughter everytime i want to.dont you know that it is a blessing for you to help some women that have kids and needed help and if you are that good you will not be staying with the lady and you dont even own your own house.i hate to know a man like you exsist. it is not how mush you make but how much you can manage money. some people make alot of money and they are broke while some make less money and have more money saved. you call yourself handsomedark male lol funny. how can you be handsome when you have a very dark heart. people like you will die been sad, you sound like a very sad man. dont you know that kids are blessing from god, alot of people want to have kids so bad but they could not, i will never trade motherhood to anything, i am very happy and blessed. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2005 6:56:24 PM | some men out here a stupid....
they blame the women for being single parent and it's a two way situation.
I was a single mother for 4 yrs before i got engaged to a wonderful man and i have my HS and i also have a college degree in Law. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2005 2:40:51 AM | See once again you take it upon yourself to assume things... and make an ASS of yourself! I was not a teenager when I had my children I was in my 20's with the 1st two and just so Postalman isn't upset about birth control issues my last child was born 8 years after I had a tubaligation.I was in my 30's when I had her.
I was working 3rd shift and he was not caring for our daughter during the day so I could sleep. when I worked 2nd I often come home to find the kids with a neighbor and Daddy no where to be found. You only want to see the bad side of this issue because you got burned. Everybody out here has gotten hurt by somebody.Being bittter and hateful to a whole group of people because of the actions of one person is ignorant........regardless to what any of us say or tell you we won't change you opinion.
To be honest:
1. I don't know you, will never meet you, I could careless what you think of me.
2. I support my family on my own
3 I have raise 2 boys to their teens that don't drink, smoke, or use drugs
4. I have enough confidence in myself to not care if you or anyone else thinks I am a good parent I know I am. I don't need your validation.
So in the nicest way possible maybe you should rethink why you are so angry. It's not about single mothers in general...... it's about a SINGLE MOTHER that hurt you and it hurts you pride because you feel like how dare she.......you had so much to offer her..... how dare she. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 6:11:56 AM | | I take offense to the generalization of single mothers. I am a single mother and since my first child was born I have worked my ass of to provide for my family. I might have been young when I had her but for 10 yrs I have not collected any welfare. I have provided for my kids on my own. I don't recieve child support for any of the 3 kids I am raising. I do it all on my own and the kids have everything they want and need. I was married when I had my first daughter and he would not work so I did. And he refused to watch my daughter while I worked and I had to pay a sitter as well. And he was cheating on me while I was supporting his sorry ass! He was my husband and I felt it was better for my child to be raised by a single parent than in a 2 parent home with an irresponsible father. Now my son dad he wouldn't work either and he still does not work. I don't recieve child support for him either. His dad left when i was pregnant because he didn't want my son and yes whe were using birth control and it obviously failed. But I have no regrets. Now the 3rd child I am raising is my niece, her parents are unfit and she has a far better home than she had with her biological parents. And although I am raising 3 kids on my own my kids never want for or go without anything they need. So why should I stay with my husband just so I am not a single parent. I do not deserve to be disrespected by bieng cheated on! I think your issue isn't with single mothers in general but with a certain drain on society that places a bad label on all single moms. I for one am not in that catogory. I work hard and my bills are paid and I even have extra money put away for a rainy day. So before you decide to generalize than maybe you should think about the ones that are actually making something out of their lives and say ya I know some drains on society but not all single moms are like that. Think about it! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 7:08:36 PM | | There is nothing wrong with single mothers.I hope im not stepping over bound and I mean what I say ,anyone who can do that should be applauded ,I have lots of friends in that situation ,I see what they go through and I dont think I could ever comment on being able to do that without being in that position.Before guys label them they should know the circumstances ,it wasnt in most casses their own doing,takes 2 .Thats a lot of responsibility to carry on your shoulder not to mention the BS that goes with it.Just my 2 cents,I rently found a very nice girl with a great head on her shoulders and is a single mother ,we have had a few good conversations and with anyluck I would love to take her out.Just my 2 cents.If I said anything wrong .sorry not here to offend.Everybody needs somebody and I look at it as hey if it works out u get a bonus | |
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Posted: 11/5/2005 4:20:04 PM | | u tell them superspecial....im a single moomy and the way i look at the topic...i tell everyone form the beginin....im a mommy and im glad to be a mommy...im a package deal...! | |
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Posted: 11/5/2005 8:13:09 PM | I'm glad someone said it as great as you did tipsybarchick. Being a single mom is a special gift that a man give's a woman when he leaves. I've been a single mother for a short time but I'm glad that I'm not with my baby father anymore. I get to spend all the time in the world with my son.
And to everyone else who thinks that single mom's find dates faster have everything backwards, because alot of men don't like being with a women who has "extra-baggage". If it would be easier for all us single mom's to find a dating site that's dedicated to men wanting to date single mom's it would be so much easier for us single moms. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2005 4:12:03 AM | If it would be easier for all us single mom's to find a dating site that's dedicated to men wanting to date single mom's it would be so much easier for us single moms......... if that datin site is out there somewhere plz send me that link....lol... | |
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Posted: 11/6/2005 7:38:10 PM | | Well, if I can find a site like that don't worry I'll let you know right away tipsybarchick. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2005 7:53:37 PM | | As a single father, of course I'd date a single mother. Kids are great, no matter whose they are, for the most part. They're a part of her, just like mine is of me. I don't comprehend why there would be a problem. Just my two cents worth. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2005 11:41:02 PM | | I am 18 years old and I have a 4 month old. No I am not recieving assistance and I have been called a baby having a baby in the past. Let me ask you this... if I am a baby having a baby then why does my daughter have everything she needs and anything her little heart may desire. I work my ass of to support my daughter and no her father may not be around but is it better to give your child a stable life or to let some man bounce in and out of their life and have a part time daddy and part time I don't know who that is? I was engaged when I got pregnant and then he cheated on me and I found out that he had been the entire time we were together so.... no I did not stick around and there was no need in me sticking around. If he went into the military and his paycheck was sent home to me chances are I would burn it simply because my daughter has a savings acocunt already for her first car as well as a savings account for her college. By the time she is old enough for those things she will have enough money in the bank to get whatever kind of car she desires and even if she doesn't have a 4.0 in school I will be able to buy her into any university she wants to go to. I am currently in college and in May I will be a CPA. Next year I go back for my dental hygenist degree and after that I will be returning to school for my teaching degree therefore money will never be an issue. I work now, will have my choice of careers in the future, and every paycheck I get at least a hundred dollars goes into my daughters savings acocunts. People say 18 is to young to have a child but, my outlook on that is 18 is to young to have a child if you are immature and irresponsible. I was on birth control when my daughter was conceived and it failed and apparently the condom did too but, I look at my life now and I think it is complete. Motherhood has been the best thing in my life and I would not be the person I am today without my daughter. The only immaturity I have in my life is playing peek a boo and picking out toys for her! So, not all young parents are babies having babies and not all young parents are living off of welfare... some of us are leaving off of income that we have earned by long hours at work! Not trying to put you down just trying to let you see it from a young single mothers point of view!! | |
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Posted: 11/7/2005 5:34:51 AM | Being a single father I can completely and unequivocally empathize with most single mothers. I say most only because there are good and bad in any situation, no matter the gender. I would prefer to date a single mother for the following reasons.
1) Single mothers already know the difficulties I face on a daily basis. They know what it is like to care for, feed, cloth and try your best to make the most out of a difficult situation. To be there to answer all the hard questions a child asks about, like; Why doesn't Daddy/Mommy want to live with us anymore? How come Daddy/Mommy isn't here for my birthday? Why is Daddy/Mommy sleeping in the bed with (name here) and not you? I think you get the gist of it.
2) Single mothers are more dependable then most (not single mothers). It's just a fact that when you are responsible for someone other then just yourself, you tend to be more dependable to others in a like situation. Ok single ladies I know you have an advantage over single men, but still.
3) Single mothers know what it is to be lonely, not alone, but lonely. I can handle being alone it's the later that is the tuffy.
It was mentioned ealier in this thread, and is so true, that it is so very important not to introduce your children until such a time as the two of you agree the time is right. Just in case things look like they might not work out. Why put the child/ren through an emotional rollercoaster. I haven't had a real date in many years, and it has been by my own choice. I am now only stepping out into the dateing arena. I wish all the single mothers out there the best of luck in finding that special someone to share not only your life with, but also shareing in the lives of your children. For they are a blessing to have. Even when they are hitting the teenage years.....lol | |
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Posted: 11/7/2005 8:19:20 AM | | if you think that being a singlr mother is bad, try being a single father. I've had them with me full time for almost a year and I meet more woman that want nothing to do with me because of them. So I guess what Im trying to say is whats the difference, man, woman its all the same bull shit get over it? | |
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Posted: 11/7/2005 8:55:58 AM | "Women with children generally have no goals or vision for what they want out of life and end up living a poor, or at best, mediocre lifestyle."
WOW like that kinda statement is that..oviously u have no respect for woman ..u should be thanking and down on hands and knees to woman who r single and raising there kids...i was single for 4 years raising my son i just met my guy a year ago and before him it was damn hard workin and tryinto raise a child..plus my child is autistic at that..u have no respect for no one ..not even urself..u should be ashamed of urself.. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2005 9:00:03 AM | wowo upstanding guy very very good response!!!! I'm a single mom. DOing awesome with my girl and if I come across a guy who has issues with me having a 6 year old,,theres the door dont let the door hit ya too hard in the ass !! I am great on my own , good job . Looking for that special someone, but would never change being a mom for any man!!!  | |
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