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Posted: 8/30/2006 6:09:41 PM | As a single mum, I feel I have to say that come across as a very sound and well considered man. Perhaps if there were more people who thought it out like you in the first place, there wouldn't be so many seperated parents...
...I hope we all find what it is we are looking for...
Thank you Moggom. Even though I was unable to understand the rest of your message (the parts not included in the foregoing quote), I appreciate your compliments and good wishes. | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 8/30/2006 6:10:36 PM | women with children have no goals or vision?? what the??
well im a single mum... a full time law and psychology student and i work part time
my kids go to a private school i pay for....
i am paying my own mortgage...
and i'm only 24
GO FIGURE | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 9:54:17 PM | | You know again its a preference thing, some men dont mind, some say they dont mind and some wont even go there. I just know that excepting me is excepting all of me. My son is my life so it will never be up for debate , he can have his walkin papers. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 10:11:46 PM | I have no idea where you men have found these women...in case you forgot it is a new era and babies... women are taking the lead..and in case you did not realize this is Alberta...a thriving province.
I must say it is entertaining to hear you place single moms in group of fat, poor, under-educated, no goals...what the hell...BLINK...BLINK...
I am a single mom not by choice but life happens and we get up and kick the dust off, get drunk, **** for a couple days, then realize that he did you a favor...and besides we still have the best part of that man...an amazing baby!
I have a great job! Great House! Travel, love life and yes ready to date agian...but I can't beleive there are people out there that think being a single mom makes us welfare cases who need a "GOOD" man to take of us...
And by the way did you ask if the child was longing for a father...it might of wanted to get away from someone who looks down on its mom.
Not all single moms are losers...granted there are exceptions to the rule. Some of us have dreams and goals and don't give up until we acheive them. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2006 2:33:29 AM | i think a single mother can be as hot and sexy as any other women, as for the fact of them haveing kids,,,i believe its what you make of your situation, some women and men who dont have kids are lazy and never strive to achieve a goal, so i do not believe that all women with a kid or kid'S is going to be a fat,lazy or what has been said in this forum, but i will say that nothing is more unattractive then a women who is a Lazy no good mother, good mothers have sex appeal....bad mothers just get under my skin.....
and i stand by my words...i am in alaska...any single mothers dont believe...i am looking so step up.....i'll send a pic....with just a click....so single mothers stay positive and motivated and your sex appeal will go up in my book........oh...and make sure your kid is loved | |
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Posted: 9/1/2006 10:03:41 AM | i can't believe you.Are you just on here to piss people off.How can a man actually generalise such a strong opinion about all single mums!!!What do you know from just one experience!!!
I have been a single mum since my daughter was three months old her father never comes to see her and she's doing ok.We are doing ok so think before you comment next time!! | |
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babs3
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Joined: 7/30/2006
Msg: 208 | |
| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 10/13/2006 4:08:12 AM | john6,
I apologize for this tardy reply to your response in regard to the post I addressed to you a couple of months ago. However, I don't have much time to scan the message boards with three kids to look after. If you are looking to earn any respect in life, you can't be discriminating in who deserves it....women are not very tolerant of men who are judgemental and concieted....and I mean all women...even single one's! The reality is....most people have a connection to someone who are divorced, seperated or single and raising children. I do understand you wanting to find a spouse so you can live the traditional fairy tail.......and have the experience with no hurtles a single mom may present........I did too.....been there done that....grew up watching "The Love Boat"....yadda yadda.....didn't work out for me.......and...I have to say with your attitude.......it probably won't work out for you....even if you can find a girl niaeve enough to marry...I am disgusted with your outlook on this subject...prejiduce is an ugly thing........think about that.... | |
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Joined: 11/19/2007
Msg: 209 | |
| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/9/2008 9:59:40 PM | people like u disgust me. Who would want to date anyone with an attitude like you, children or not? To whoever else thinks that single women are all welfare cases/ whores/ whatever...I am 24 yrs old with a 4 yr old child. I live on my own..drive a 2007 NICE car, earn almost $40,000 a year at my job ( with high school education, no college/ university) and provide for myself and my child. All with no financial help from my son's father. Take that to the bank and cash it....................  | |
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Posted: 3/10/2008 10:09:34 PM | | hell no i think its sexxy that the have kids because it shows that they arnt mochers and that they can live on there own | |
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Posted: 3/10/2008 10:35:54 PM | | I am a single mother and I get constant offers...including when I was still pregnant! | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 5:12:39 AM | | What about men dating single mothers that also raise their grandchildren as i do. I am 44 and raise 2 grand daughters and one is disabled. How do men feel about this situation? | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 5:15:42 AM | | And how old are you? How do you feel about one raising her kids and grandchildren? i am a very good mother and i do not believe in abuse or neglect. I am o very kind hearted and loving person. I just want someone with old fashioned values the same. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 7:35:23 AM | I try not to get romantically involved with single moms. Many single moms are great people but I live in Canada. That makes them a liability. I do not wish to pay child support for children that are not mine should I marry one and get divorced.
I know a few single mom's who are great people...I have met some that are not so great and use others. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 4:18:35 PM | last single mum I dated ,used me as a taxi service ,think I saw her 5 times ,she could not once even manage a smile ,it was like a imposition on her part ,that she was allowing me to drive her about .
it all ended on the phone ,she called me telling me to give her a lift to her mothers , whilst talking to her friends who where in the same room , I told her that I did'nt think we had much in common and she would have to find someone else to drive her about .
this is the good bit ,she then exclaimed "are ya dumping me " I replied "I don't think we where ever a item " she then said she never fancied me ,and no man had ever dumped her before ! ...
whilst taking her out she had guys calling on her mobile (that never seemed to leave her hand) ,which she was obviously stringing along ,so I don't think she was without a taxi for long 
well that's a sign of the times !
anyway I know not all single mums are like that , but I'm sure the above is a familiar story | |
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| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/11/2008 4:25:33 PM | I seriously resent that; being a motivated, ambituous, intelligent single mother myself. I'm becoming educated so that I can be a better mother. I have goals, and dreams.
And if you're looking at the statistics you're missing the bigger picture:
Single mothers are poorest mostly within the year following the seperation,
the poverty rate is higher in certain ethnic groups | |
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nwlily
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Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 218 | |
| Men dating single mothers
Posted: 3/11/2008 11:25:43 PM | I've met single man with any thing but their ass. Drinking, partying and just wasting their time. On the other hand, I 've also met single dads with a great sense of responsibility and being a great example for their kids.
Same case with woman, Having kids , for most people, brings out a inner strength , you work harder, you have goals, and commit to make a better living. I have 3 kids, and I work and pay my bills on time, and I am proud of what I am and what my dreams are.
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Posted: 3/12/2008 10:51:02 AM | Lily bonbon:
You seem like a great lady and a good catch for someone. Those who bash posters who say they will not date single moms puzzle me. Are they not entitled to date or not date whom they choose? Maybe if you read why they do not want to date single mom's you might learn how to attract a great man by not being what we do not want.
I had a single mother message me a few days ago. She promptly asked me for money on the first phone call in order to help her children...these types of women scare us off | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 9:20:19 PM |
You seem like a great lady and a good catch for someone. Those who bash posters who say they will not date single moms puzzle me. Are they not entitled to date or not date whom they choose? Maybe if you read why they do not want to date single mom's you might learn how to attract a great man by not being what we do not want.
I had a single mother message me a few days ago. She promptly asked me for money on the first phone call in order to help her children...these types of women scare us off
No one is saying people can't date whomever they choose. But what you are saying you do not want is a woman with kids. The only way to change that to attract you is to stop spending time with the kids. No decent parent would do that, and it hints at a lack of character for you (and other men) to expect single mothers to do so (and for women to expect us single fathers to give up spending time with our kids).
As for the messages asking for money...
I get messages from women all the time that end up asking for money after talking for a while via email or IM (usually they are stuck overseas right now). I have only had one woman that I have talked to on the phone ask me for money, but she didn't have kids and it was because she had wrecked her car and needed money to rent one for a week or so.
Things like that aren't from "real" women and have nothing to do with whether they "have kids". Those are simply scammers trying to find a way to sucker you out of your money (and single moms seem to make a good sob story). | |
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Posted: 3/15/2008 8:00:15 AM | | Yep they make a good sob story..I did not send her money..just hung up the phone. We can date whomever we want but if we do not want to date someone for whatever rason, we have our reasons and our choices. I live in Canada...so that means I prefer not to date when with children. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2008 11:04:30 PM | It's a sad fact that some men do seem uninterested in dating you once they learn you have kids. I think they think we want someone to father our children. But I think most of us single moms don't actually want that at all. We just want the same thing the other women who don't have kids wants. A loving relationship with someone.
Well it's their loss. They may have missed out on a kind, gentle and unselfish woman to love. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2008 11:16:08 PM | to johne;
What does living in canada have to do with dating single moms? Are you talking about living with someone with kids? That would be different then. But if you are simply dating a single mom, you don't have to pay her any money. OMG I live in canada and any man I dated never gave me any money. And I'd never ask for any from anyone. I do well on my own. You may be missing out on a great relationship because of your close minded attitude. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 10:25:09 AM | | ^^^^^^^^I date to find my Ms right. In Canada we have loco paerntis laws which can force you to pay child support for ex step children. I wish not to take that risk so I do not date single mother's as women without children are not as risky to get into a LTR with. What is it I would be missing by not dating a single mom? I do not wish to be treated as an ATM and be second class in my own home. The key to any relationship is balance. Knowing when the kids come forst and when the couple come first. Too many single mom's feel the kids come first all of the time. So what would I be missing out on exactly that a woman without children can not offer? | |
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