| CT girls
Posted: 10/14/2007 8:57:05 PM | I'm not sure if I would categorize the women in CT as stuck up or shallow, but I definitely see there is some sort of difference in the way people date in this state. I've been on a lot of blind dates in CT and I find women to be extremely guarded here. I've dealt with the gamut from gameplayers to women with such a hefty agenda its no longer a date, its an interview or something much worse. It all seems to boil down to a history of past relationships with some pretty awful men. But I suspect the awfulness probably went both ways.
I too have my dating history and for a while I was dating when I was guarded and somewhat bitter and, yes, scared of what might come into my life next. So, I took a nice long break to clear my energy and start over. So, my attitude is WAY better now. But I have to admit, I'm finding I get a lot more response E-mail from women outside of Connecticut on Plenty of Fish. Even if its just to say thank you for your nice E-mail. Good luck with your search. You don't see much of that from CT women. I'm beginning to think it may be part of an attitude toward dating, people, and courtesy. And I imagine it comes from finding the same attitude from a lot of men they date.
I think we all have a responsibility to keep the energy in our dating clear, fulfilled, honest and courteous whether we're being turned down, turning someone else down, having a nice first date or breaking up with someone. I don't see a lot of people taking responsibility for these things in Connecticut and I think it may be part of why dating in CT is tough.
Just my opinion. | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 11/15/2007 7:42:28 PM | Its not u.... They are.......... Ive lived here all my life ..........
Whats up with that????????? | |
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Dnm79
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Joined: 11/10/2007
Msg: 53 | |
| CT girls
Posted: 11/17/2007 9:48:07 PM | From my short experience being in the Navy, a lot of bad stigma is associated with us, unfortunately. We are all pigeon-holed to be the same, drunken-sailor, foul mouthed, skirt chasing . . . you get the idea.
When it comes down to it, we all are just looking for the same thing, but we all have our walls up. It just takes that right person to knock it down. | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 11/24/2007 10:28:38 AM | well mate let me say this i seen a differnce in between states the people down south are more down to earth good old southern way's wich i may even move to tenn next summer. But to your question it realy depends on there up bringing and if they where brought up to be stuck up i seen all kind's in the country myself and i lived here in connecticut for 36 years now i have to say not all women are stuck up but i have seen some who can be realy nasty and judgemental and some go for the look's and not for the heart that happends every where you go no matter where you are it's gonna happend .
I offten said this to myself that now they wonder why they cant find a desent man it's how they act and it's who they are but not all women are bad there are some who realy make it bad for other's out there men or women alike.
The problem in today's world it has to do with money most relationship's fight over it and it's stupied i even had a few in my time who where very controling which they learn very fast that they lost me that i dont put up with .
but i have seen this to there are some out there will say i dont want to know you if u dont have a car,home,money ect i even seen some who judge some one if they where disabled but as i said i dont hate women ok i just had my share to and i know there are few out there who are good people i have a few friends who are women and some are men i dont mean to sound mean because im not that kind of person but just do what i do i dont go looking .The way i see it if there realy interested in me they will contact me because u never know u may be at a store ,beach ect and you run in to one i let it happen natual thats the best way | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 11/24/2007 7:18:53 PM | Why would a nice woman with a bf like you be still looking through the personals?? | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 12/3/2007 7:35:39 PM | | well first of all connecticut is one of the rich's state's in america everything revolve's with money. there are few out there who are used to getting what they want and some are pretty much down to earth it realy depend's on who they are and if they are judge mental or not . im sure there are a few who rather be happy with nothing but as for being stuck up again maybe you are looking in the wrong place's and maybe it's not your time yet see i dont rush anything all thing's take time you can just put a seed in the ground and exspect it to grow over night.the way i see it is if a women want's to know you she will come to you .but that's all i can say. | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 3/20/2008 11:49:57 AM | What a stereotype!
That would be like me saying everyone from Arkansas has no teeth. | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 3/20/2008 8:36:21 PM | You have "been through 43 states or more".......what do you do, just drive on through these states for a visit???? You can't honestly expect to make a comment about women in CT based on what appears to be random visits to several states unless you spend a good amount of time there! Now, unless you are well over 100 years of age (because you would need a good amount of time for all of those "quality" visits) then the comment is a serious generalization based on who you choose to hang around with/spend time with here in CT.
You don't mention if you are a lifelong resident of CT. If you have such a major complaint about women here, then why not MOVE OUT OF STATE? Guess what? Your negative attitude isn't going to get you anywhere here, that is for sure. I somehow feel that you would make these generalizations regardless of where you were visiting or living. Sometimes making such opinionated comments ,such as yours , and having such negative opinions of people often means there is something negative about the person who is making the comments. I don't presume to know your situation or background but I can tell you that I take serious offense with people who make such generalizations. I know it is just something to expect from online chat, but even so, what a sad way to look at things! Whether on the net or face to face meeting people, I find that you still have to be rather cautious - even picky with whom you choose to make acquaintances with.....I suggest you try that as well.....and I hope you can have a better outlook one day and be a bit more positive about things! There are good people in this state....good women as well.....you just need to place yourself in their company....I find myself wondering why it is that you have not been able to - because there are many to meet. Hmmm???Good luck to you. | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 5/7/2008 9:43:03 PM | yeah, we're all so stuck up......Cuz we're better than all the other states | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 5/20/2008 11:14:12 AM | | Well your right rissa they dont have teeth in arkansas....then again I been through 48 states in my career and yea CT ones stuck up sometimes | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 5/27/2008 3:19:56 PM | | well there is a song telling you guys that girls just wanna have fun but there isnt a song telling us girls that men just wanna have sex now is there | |
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Dia623
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Joined: 5/13/2008
Msg: 62 | |
| CT girls
Posted: 6/7/2008 10:38:48 AM | I have to say that you are partially correct. The reason "we" are like this is just the way we grew up. Its not being stuck up though (although, I understand why you think so)
I never realized I had an "attitude" until I went to England. I was out on the town with my cousin and his friends and peole would randomly ask to buy me a drink and I always would say "no thanks" and give a "wierd" look or be standoffish. Also, when out and walking people would randomly say "hello" and I would look at them and "hi" but wondered if they thought they knew me?
One day, my cousin said "Whats your issue?" Why are you so mean? I was taken aback! I had no idea what he meant! He said you are rude to men and I just wondered why? He then explained that people are just being friendly and this is common practice for a man to see someone at a pub and offer to buy a drink and thats it! Or to just chat and walk away.
I had NEVER experienced this behavior before. I realized that it was ME being cautious and overly judgemental wondering what , if any, the "catch" was. Well I lived there for 2.5 years and when I came home to CT I was shocked! I couldnt believe how rude ,in general, peole are here! We are "conditioned" to be on the defense...therefore coming off as snobish or ****y...I can also say we are like this because of how many of us have been treated by men in CT. I speak from experience in that men can be rude, crude and just plain too FORWARD! It makes women wonder how to react when we are actually approached by a gentlemen! It goes both ways but I am just saying...yes some people are flat out rude but I guess we all need to tone it down and realized that there may not always be a "catch" MAYBE the person is just truly a nice person and I for one have changed my attitude.
Hope that made sense.... | |
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| CT girls.....my thoughts
Posted: 6/25/2008 3:39:30 PM | I might come across as snotty if you read my profile; however, I am not! I am only looking to meet someone with at least the same education level as me, and the same goals and values...as in not having a baby mama or baby daddy that you never married!
I was talking to my friends and we've decided that the people we would like to meet (see above) probably are in limited number around here, if you look at the demographics of Waterbury, and most of Connecticut, for that matter! Don't get me wrong, I do like my hometown: it is actually a pretty decent place to live, and it has a low crime rate and the schools are getting better! So go ahead and tell me if I don't like it here, to leave, but it really isn't that bad right now! However, maybe if society's morals and values started to change.... hmmm! | |
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| CT girls.....my thoughts
Posted: 6/28/2008 10:18:39 AM | I've stumbled across this particular section of the forums and was just compelled to add my 2/100's of a dollar (and that's before inflation).
The thread was started with the statement that a "... huge portion of woman in CT are so shallow and stuck up" Having been a lifelong resident of Connecticut for my 47 years I had to really sit back and ponder this statement, and I have my own observations (these are based on living and working in Fairfield County):
Back in my high school days when I started to date, society and values were drastically different than they are today. While my family was "ok" I wouldn't say we were well-to-do. Mind you I didn't even start to drive until I was 18 as I couldn't afford the insurance on my own car. The girls I dated didn't care one iota about how much money I had as long as we could do something fun and enjoyable. The big thing I noticed was that the girls placed less emphasis on physical attributes and more emphasis on attributes such as one's personality. I dated many girls and even more mature women while in my later teens - if a 23 year old woman could see the maturity and stability in a "youngster" such as myself I figured things were going quite well for me.
I noticed the changes in the dating scene starting just 10 to 15 years after graduation. Today's society presents an entirely different set of challenges. Being only 5'6" in height is as good as a death sentence by the standards of many women, as most women won't even give a guy of such limited height a second glance. Is this a sign of "today's society" or the shallowness of women in this state? I've met women from other states who seem less phased by the lack of physical height so I really have to question if it's only a case of society's values. Others have told me that Connecticut is the Northeast equivalent of California when it comes to attitudes held by women in regards to dating. Based on past experience I'm really starting to believe that.
To be fair, I have to say men can be just as caddy and superficial in the same regard. In the past I had dated a couple of women who were far from anorexic and took some heat from those who weren't my closest friends. While my closest friends realized I could see the true person who may not have the most perfect physical packaging, those not so close to me were always saying "you could do better" or "why settle?" I suppose I've also have become burned out from being more open minded than most of the women I've approached. Honestly, I haven't dated in a long time as I've just grown weary of encountering what seems to be the "typical" Connecticut woman.
I admit I could be wrong, but these are the observations I've made in my journeys. Your mileage may vary - void where prohibited. | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 7/3/2008 9:41:30 AM | | id have to agree.....where are the down to earth fun-type of girls?? lol I moved from brooklyn thinkin i let all that behind but no sirr haha....ut seriously...where are the good ones? | |
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