| CT girls
Posted: 1/10/2009 4:17:09 PM | | you really need to take a course in spelling.if ct is so rich maybe they have an English couse available to you..or free dictionaries | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 1/12/2009 6:31:09 PM | Ok. I am a 49 year old female. I just moved back to Ct from Va. Yes, on the surface, the southerners do seem to be friendlier. But it is so fake! They are not any friendlier in reality. At least here in Ct you know where you stand. I would rather be here, where people are frank, honest and don't pull punches with you. We, Ct women, are not going to smile in your face and act all "cutsy" just to get a man. We want respect.
For you men who complain about paying for the first, or any date.....Ever hear the word GENTLEMAN! Look at yourselves and think about what that mindset is telling us ladies about you then you'll know why we turn away from you. We for the most part are Ladies and are looking for Gentlemen. Another thing to consider. You want to know why we don't smile back? Pay attention to all the rude and crude comments most of us have heard from men, the looks and yes a lot of you don't know how to hold eye contact. Look us in the eye not the breast. Try being, not acting, being a true gentleman. I do not mean a wimp. We don't want wimps. We want a True Northern Gentleman. For all of you who already are true gentleman I apologize for the hard words. This is directed to those that are not. | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 1/12/2009 8:52:01 PM |
me_sweetpea said:
Yes, on the surface, the southerners do seem to be friendlier. But it is so fake! They are not any friendlier in reality. At least here in Ct you know where you stand. I would rather be here, where people are frank, honest and don't pull punches with you. We, Ct women, are not going to smile in your face and act all "cutsy" just to get a man.
I've met quite a few women not native to Connecticut - some being from the south and from elsewhere. With those I've had extended interaction with (more than just one evening's worth of conversation) I was able to discern quite a bit of difference between attitude between these people and native Connecticut women. Those women who weren't Connecticut natives were certainly more genuine and not full of themselves - not fake, not pulling some "cutesy" act. It was certainly very refreshing considering what men have to pick from here in Fairfield County. I have a friend who married a woman from Sweden and she is probably one of the nicest people I have ever met - a genuine nice person. Too bad there aren't more women like her locally.
me_sweetpea said:
We want respect.
Don't we all? This is something that isn't related to one's gender. Many Connecticut women are going to have difficulty receiving respect with their "my spit don't stink" attitude they tend to have these days. While I've seen many stunning women who sport this attitude it's even funnier to see women who aren't exactly swimsuit beauties have the same attitude ... or worse! This appears much more prevalent in Fairfield County. and increasingly so as one gets closer to the New York border.
me_sweetpea said:
For you men who complain about paying for the first, or any date.....Ever hear the word GENTLEMAN! Look at yourselves and think about what that mindset is telling us ladies about you then you'll know why we turn away from you. We for the most part are Ladies and are looking for Gentlemen.
Keep in mind these comments can go both ways! There have been times where I have held a door open for a woman and they didn't even have the common courtesy of saying thank you. Sadly, this is slowing becoming the norm instead of the exception. The fact is women are at least partially responsible for the way men look at them. I think many men are becoming more guarded when it comes to dating, thanks to those who they've met in their travels. It doesn't matter how attractive the exterior may be if the inside is of low integrity.
me_sweetpea said:
Another thing to consider: You want to know why we don't smile back? Pay attention to all the rude and crude comments most of us have heard from men, the looks and yes a lot of you don't know how to hold eye contact. Look us in the eye not the breast.
While I won't dispute that some men have yet to mature and stop objectifying women (i.e., staring at their breasts) you don't think men haven't heard unpleasantries from women? I had a friend who seemed to have the worst luck when it came to dating and I just happen to hear what one woman had to say about him as she was conversing with the woman I was dating at the time. It wasn't just rude; it was downright distasteful to hear that sort of language come from a woman's mouth. This was a lady? I don't think so!
me_sweetpea said:
Try being, not acting, being a true gentleman. I do not mean a wimp. We don't want wimps. We want a True Northern Gentleman. For all of you who already are true gentleman I apologize for the hard words. This is directed to those that are not.
And what do you think men want? Men who are looking for something serious and long term are looking for a woman who is truly a woman of character. I suppose those men who have more blood in places other than their brains may be looking for somebody more *fun* but those of us looking for something more substantial are looking for quality.
I just felt compelled to play Devil's Advocate on this one as I've met women from both sides of the fence. Unfortunately it seems all of the women who have it together are already claimed by some very lucky gentlemen. | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 1/13/2009 4:27:41 PM | vinylmusicjockey
I am Ct born and raised. I am genuine, a lady and do show respect. There are still some of us here! When I was in Va I saw many fake people. Male and female. It doesn't matter where you live, they are everywhere. My post might have sounded hard to you but someone had to defend us Ct women! I read all the posts up to that point and it seemed you men were just bashing us. Now I admit there are some uncouth women here too but not all. Us ladies do still exist. I for one am a lady. I do appreciate when treated as such and have manners enough to say thank you when a kind gesture is given. I am sorry if you keep running into women who not feel as I do. But please do not judge all of us by their actions. If you want to know what type of lady I am just read my profile and remember that there are some great ladies here in Ct | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 2/1/2009 8:46:18 AM | Its not just you. The younger generation of CT girls are complete ****es. Why, just today I was told "you will never get a piece of this fine, sexy lady" and blocked because I made the first contact and playfully mentioned a bunch of misspelling in her profile. She tried convincing herself in emails to me that she doesn't need someone to care for her and it was annoying to point out misspelling as her ex did. Instead of just deleting the message, she tries to prove shes immature or cool or something. Beggars can't be choosers especially if you look like one! But seriously, if you come on a dating site why not take it a bit seriously? Takes like what two seconds to proofread and spell check your profile?! I just found it a prime example of a stuck up, self-indulged **** of CT.  | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 2/1/2009 6:30:40 PM | It's surprising that many of the "younger generation", the very people who grew up with computers, have yet to get acquainted with the spell check feature. Maybe it's due to the "shorthand" they use with telephone texting. Then again, it may just be a simple lack of caring. I dare say this happens regardless of age. I've seem women who boast about their years of education post a profile riddled with spelling errors.
I would think that someone who wishes to put a personal online would have some sense of self pride and take the time to at least minimize the amount of spelling mistakes in their ad. Of course, this may secretly give the reader some insight about the person. If the woman you wrote to didn't find your email to her liking all she had to do was delete it.
Cougar, don't be surprised if you happen across another Connecticut women with an attitude. I've seen the change in women since the eighties and it's not for the better. I know there are some nice women out there but they seem to be few and far between. | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 4/11/2009 7:19:24 PM | | I have alot of friends from other states and they say the same thing about the women here and worse..... | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 5/7/2009 6:00:45 AM | The last month have been a learning experience for me (perhaps more of a reinforcement than actual learning).
Thanks to a couple of these online sites I met two women. They were both very attractive, one was my age and one about 11 years my junior. I met each of these two women for a first date and noticed something quite interesting. They were both really personable, polite and genuinely interesting in wanting to find out more about me. The more I found out about them I have to say I found myself equally attracted to them as well (and it didn't hurt that both these women were gorgeous. It wasn't just about the physical attraction, but both women had an underlying element that was perhaps even more attractive than their physical appearance. They both have personality and don't seem to have the unattractive attitudes that the women I usually run across in Connecticut have.
Now, for the unfortunate news. One lives in New Jersey and the other lives in New Hampshire. Does locale make that much of a difference in women's attitudes these days? If it wasn't for the distance involved to meet up with either of these ladies I would consider myself fortunate to have a relationship with either one of these two women.
Hell, I would consider myself lucky if I could find a woman in the state with a fraction of the personality and looks of either of these two, but I think I have a better chance of getting struck by lightning and winning the lottery on the same day! | |
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| CT girls
Posted: 7/9/2009 9:58:55 PM | | As a 3rd-generation lifelong resident, there is so much that I could say about this; but I swore that I'd keep it positive on this site & not give into ranting... | |
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| I am a 43 year old widower in ct.
Posted: 7/18/2009 7:49:12 AM | | here is an idea....write some thing on your profile !!!! long or short term says a whole lot about you duh | |
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| I am a 43 year old widower in ct.
Posted: 7/28/2009 3:32:50 PM | While the statistics I've gathered may not be scientific by any means, the numbers I've collected so far in my journey here on POF show that nearly all Connecticut women contacted read & delete email without replying, while the women from outside the state (NY, NJ, and Mass) are all courteous and respond back with an email (some with interest, others politely stating they're not).
It seems that the women from out of state have totally outclassed the CT women I've corresponded with (if you consider writing and not receiving any reply correspondence). | |
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