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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 10/11/2005 12:02:11 AM | Y'all can have the "rich" guys... No thanks... It's just the last thing I even consider. And, I haven't met one yet that I've "connected" with.... I've always made it on my own, so what difference would it make>? ((he does have to have a job, though))>>>  | |
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guyd40
| | Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 56 | |
| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 10/11/2005 12:19:05 AM | | I had a wonderfull relationship and were planning a life togheter. I quit my job and got flushed shortly after. Everytime I found myself with no job, I got dumped. I was a student, on this site and would never get emails or responses. Now I'm done school, and doing good, and emails are coming in. Do I want to be with a poor woman? No. I would end up paying everything, or not doing any activities. No one wants to support someone else these days. Love is not enough anymore but just a key element. | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 10/11/2005 10:34:55 AM | Can a fat wallet say "I love you" and have it come from the heart?
A hefty bank account can buy a nice house, but can it infuse it with the warmth, atmosphere, and sense of "home" as well or even as easily as a loving heart?
Can a large income hold you close when you've had a hard day and "just need a hug"?
Can expensive gifts come even close to warming you from the "inside out" as well as a gentle caress, a loving kiss, a "cuddle session" on the sofa in front of a movie, a warm smile, a supportive partner who hears, understands, and cares without reservation?
What lifelong effect can a dollar sign have, that unconditional love does not already cover thoroughly? | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 10/14/2005 9:49:16 PM | Caringnsweet, I think you should just go quietly up to this rich guy yourself and politely ask him to back off. I think shes too nice to tell this guy cuz he is so nice to her. If you tell him yourself ,you will be getting her off the hook in having to do that nasty job. And BTW money isn't everything for some of us gals.............. | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 10/14/2005 9:59:25 PM | I agree with Musicman in Florida. A woman WILL leave luxury for love. I did, it is a STRUGGLE, but I do it all on my own and happier for it. Actually I left the luzury, NOT for love but for peace of mind AND my own safety. I made him leave. He was worth a couple million.
BACK to the original question:
I would get BOTH of them together and talk to them. Put them on the SPOT and get to the bottom of it once and for all. She should NOT take these "gifts" from another man, and HE should respect YOU and stop giving them to her. He does not seem like a decent MAN for acting as though you don't exist....MY opinion.....sometimes only worth two cents, but sometimes I know what I am talking about. | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 10/15/2005 7:17:50 AM | | To answer your question Yes but I would suggest rather than asking us ( total strangers) for advice. You might want to sit down with your lady and talk to he about it. Express your concerns to her and how you feel and what she wants. Then listen and i do mean listen to what she says and go from there. If she has told him to stop then go have a chat with him. Communication and listening are the two most fundimental skills to any relationship. If for some reason that it doesn't work out then she wasn't really in love with you in the first place. | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 10/15/2005 8:08:21 AM | Hey!
I think that money is not that important in life, well it is of course, but some people tend to exaggerate! If that girl really loves you she won't care if your field takes 4 years or more, if she really loves you she'll stay by your side no matter what that rich guy gives her! One more thing why does she even accept his gifts??? You're just gonna have to trust her, and believe that her love for you is stronger than money....by the things you've said about her I'm sure that she cares about you, so cheer up 
Hope that helped!!!
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Opium
| | Joined: 10/1/2005
Msg: 64 | |
| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 10/15/2005 8:32:53 AM | Why look at it from only his point of view? Why not also look at her goals and dreams. What makes her happy? To be a well-off socialite/tai-tai with no need to work, but devote her time to charities/hi-teas/parties.... or to be with someone she really loves like you, rich or poor?
Frankly, guys buy girls expensive gifts all the time. It doesn't mean a thing to them. So i don't think you should be a whiner when you can't afford it. It's much more pleasant and less strain if you could just not be hung up about the expensive gifts and the rich man. Please try changing yourself and your perspective, instead of making it a bone of contention.
I should know. It's the feelings that count. Whether rich or poor. I've had guys offer to bring me for carte blanche shopping trips, locally or overseas, or to make me their 'little wife'. Frankly, it's flattering, so i don't think you should deprive your gf the flattery of other people until you can afford to shower her with gifts, which will mean much more to her. As she would have known what it took for you to have 'arrived' in the world. She would have been at your side moping your brow,... so she deserves being spoiled by the rich man, for the short time it takes for him to realise that he's making no headway with her.
P.S. Why not give her little trinkets/practical yet funky looking stuff, despite them not costing much. Shop for them together, so you know what she likes. And spin dreams together when looking at windows about how you'll be able to buy 'such-and-such' when you're better off. Sometimes hope and imagination is better than the real Prada. I'm serious.
Love will win, if you don't spoil it first. The gift-givin' ain't gonna spoil anything. If anything, she'll get disillusioned when the gifts stop. | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 12/7/2005 8:24:47 PM | Not always true.
I dated and supported a man for 2 years, we have a son together and do you think he returned the favour no. But, I didn't mind helping him in his time of need. Because that's wht love is. Sacrifice. Unfortunately for me he had a diferent definition.
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 10/18/2006 1:26:07 AM | | Yes...it's possible, most women if they truly love you they aren't going anywhere...or looking elsewhere even though she may like the attention if she is truly yours and she is saying you are the one for her...there is nothing to worry about...if you lose her to him...what did you lose really? certainly not anything worth keeping if she is that wishy washy. Back up...first of all she is your "fiance"? That changes EVERYTHING! Does she know what fiance means? Fiance: defined in emeraldeyes101 class pay attention DONE DEAL, as in married! Paperwork is only thing missing. She is still accepting gifts from other men....? Call me old fashioned...but...that's wrong!!!! I know you didn't ask for all this advice...but it's free...if I were you...I'd feel betrayed already and I would be wondering what's in it for the rich guy if he knows she is engaged to you...hmmmm? I don't know your fiance, but I don't like her...and it really pisses me off... and I don't even know you ...that she has the balls to accept the gifts right under your nose. | |
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FunFab
| | Joined: 3/23/2006
Msg: 70 | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 2/2/2007 4:03:21 PM | Ok here's what i think i think the rich guy is buying your woman a little at a time until he got here right where he wants her in bed in his life etc. and if i were you id tell him to get the hell on and fast see she loves you as you are you might not have all the money but she's looking at the way you are treating her ect. but the rich guy has everthing you cant give her just now and he knows that's all he really has is to offer her gifts for a bit of her love,sex etc. he thinks by making her life much easyer through giving her money he will win her over and you know something he might just be right, see if you dont come through and soon and if you give her a heard time he's going to be there waiting like the snake he is for her and he will take her and go off someplace nice and quiet and when he comes back its all over for you.she might not like him at all only his money but she may really love you which id say to you right now tell him to get the hell on and if he comes around your woman thell him youll kick his ass all the way to hell and back!. remember we are only human and with enough money some women will get week man it happens lets be real here and she might just go for the cash its sad but true so if you want to keep your love tell her how you feel right now and stick to it dont bend on this one or she's gone. sorry its the truth. it takes a strong person not to bend to temptation when its in your face over and over again.and if she loves you she will do what you want.  | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 2/2/2007 4:27:17 PM | | I don't see why money matters when all a girl really wants is your time and attention. Yeah gifts are nice I can't say I turn them down but for the most part if your really there. I take that over anything in the world. A guy actually committed to making things work. One that calls every night to tuck you in and doesn't mind when you have a little emotional outbreak. | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 2/3/2007 9:57:05 AM | friend i feel you. i recently was in a serious accident and lost everything. but you can make it thru this cause i did. all relationships are tested. if you love each other let it ride. a wise man once said, " MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT 1 AND 1 BUT TWO HALVES THAT MAKE A WHOLE". incorporate her in your plans so she can feel she is a part of helping you. but remember she still has a choice and so do you. you will be fine friend ok.
"IT CAN'T RAIN ALL THE TIME". | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 2/3/2007 2:10:40 PM | | Of course it is... If this is a person of intergrity, they'll be looking at the person, not the wallet..Love is not about money.. Doesn't she have friends that aren't well equipped financially, but struggling to get by? Why then would she think twice, about dating someone or being with them if they couldn't "Buy" her...JMO.. | |
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| Is it possible for a poor guy to beat a rich guy in the quest for love?
Posted: 2/4/2007 10:07:35 AM | | What I think is that she enjoys being showered with your attention AND that other guys money. Im the type to question a womans loyalty at this subject. If she really cared about you, she would realize that this situation is making you uncomfortable. I mean how would she feel if some woman showed up and gave you alot of attention, gifts, and probably called you all the time? She would never want you to see that woman again. But its okay if shes the one recieving. She knows that recieving these gifts probably makes you feel like less of a man, but takes them anyway. That shows a plain disregard for your feelings. I dont know If I'd like to be with such an inconsiderate woman. The sad fact is 90 percent of women are exactly like that, but none will openly admit it. Focus on that career your building, then find a woman who will appriciate the things you can give her, attention, gifts...etc. | |
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