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Posted: 10/11/2007 7:55:38 AM | yeah i sure wouldnt want my man calling me a whore or **** during sex the only thing he would get from that is my foot in his balls
Unless hes a total dumba$$ he wouldn't. Your personna would have already prevented that. Hell, Cosmo actually thought I meant "violence" when I wrote my last post.  | |
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Posted: 10/11/2007 8:05:34 AM | For some of us, pretending to be boring stiff prudes is more fun than pretending to be kinky or promiscuous. Why? Because ......... (messages this long cannot be posted)!!! lol lol lol
Or being born-again bores and/or born-again prudes! You know how it works, one extreme finally lead one to the other, and back again, like some people changing political parties or clothes or jobs. Or some people who want a honest and caring nice guy/gal and then go for the exact opposite! Human nature. Of Human Bondage (the book).
So pretending to be a boring stiff prude is much more fun than being one or pretending once in a while to be promiscuous. Why do people have to pretend in order to have fun? Just do it!  Pretending to be liberated ("it is freeing") is not the same thing as being one. It is much more freeing to be liberated in action than to pretend to be in words. But then I am a European male slat (European in Europe not .... ) so do not mind me!! lol
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Posted: 10/11/2007 9:36:17 AM |
yeah i sure wouldnt want my man calling me a whore or **** during sex the only thing he would get from that is my foot in his balls
cause you dont like it and im sure the person you are with would know this BEFORE having sex with you. I have been with girls who like it, cause its role play and fantasy.
The whole point of this thread is communication before having sex. You have to know what your parnter likes and it wont be a problem either way. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2007 10:28:03 AM |
I'm glad to see those from the lifestyle stand up. On collarme, the rules are known by all and respected...here, in the vanilla world, those in the lifestyle are frowned upon. This is a good place to educate the vanillas that ours isn't a lifestyle of degredation and depravity...it is built on the most solid foundation of trust and respect. Sure, there are bad apples in any bunch, but I prefer the lifestyle bunch where there are standards of conduct and no ambiguities.
I so admire your tenacity, but you are wasting your time. The funniest part of the entire thing here in these particular threads ~ people are all up in arms about it being OK for the man in my life to call me his "filthy cum slut" (or any other name yet unmentioned here) with my permission, no less ~ YET these posters are offended by that. They don't know a thing about me personally ~ but feel it's perfectly acceptable to refer to me as "damaged" "abuse victim" "sick or twisted" "molestation victim" "misogymist lover" etc. Hummm, maybe I'm missing something but name calling is name calling and I'm not even intimately involved with any of these folks. Isn't that just a little double-standardish? I mean what if I found being called "damaged" a turn on ~ some of you here would be playing sexual games with me right here in a public forum ~ ewwwwww ~ wouldn't want that now.
The truth is ~ to each their own. The most telling portion of any thread of this nature is this: Those with knowledge of the lifestyle, BDSM in general or those who truly are open-minded, have enough respect to state: "It wouldn't be for me, but then again, that's just my opinion." Those of us in the lifestyle, whether today, in the past or in our future ~ don't walk around calling non-lifestylers "A bunch of old out-dated stuffed shirts/skirts who have no sense of adventure." Why is this? Because we have a code of ethics that is universal and it is valuable. The wannabes, I don't know if they follow that code or not, nor do I care. I do ~ I respect the choice of any person who is safe, sane, consensual and of the age of majority. What someone else does with their private life is NONE of my business unless it affects/effects me personally.
Bravo! I'd only add as an addendum, that it can be your business if an innocent child is involved, or a non-consenting partner, but that's obvious.
I have no idea why so many find it so hard to understand that in relationships, boundaries can be different in private than in public. What may seem bizarre or stupid, or offensive simply typed in a forum, or spoken in the workplace may be very very different in the privacy of one's own home. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2007 1:14:01 PM | "so dont mind me"...... good advice...
like the saying goes...you can only reason with reasonable people...
i guess we have 1 thing in common, i dont like 'pretenders' either, i say what i feel, without having to resort to sarcasm and taking a superior stance to anyone else, life/relationships is all about exploring and learning what suits the individual/couple...
im also european but i dont have the desire to sit on my 'throne' and dictate to others my beliefs and then give em a 'whipping' when they dont comply to my own...maybe there is a masochist hidden in you somewhere lol..... | |
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Posted: 10/11/2007 1:24:18 PM | ""so dont mind me"...... good advice...
like the saying goes...you can only reason with reasonable people...
i guess we have 1 thing in common, i dont like 'pretenders' either, i say what i feel, without having to resort to sarcasm and taking a superior stance to anyone else, life/relationships is all about exploring and learning what suits the individual/couple...
im also european but i dont have the desire to sit on my 'throne' and dictate to others my beliefs and then give em a 'whipping' when they dont comply to my own...maybe there is a masochist hidden in you somewhere lol..... "
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Posted: 10/11/2007 1:32:01 PM | | Who can concentrate when they're having sex long enough to know WHAT you are saying? I have never been called things like that....I prefer to hollar my partner's name or have a talk with God..... | |
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Posted: 10/11/2007 2:27:35 PM | Stuff like this gets criticized a lot.
I've never been with someone that was overly open to experimentation.... but this seems minor enough to fall into the "don't knock it 'till you try it" bin.
I'm open to suggestion in the bedroom...when I'm with someone that is. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2007 3:40:34 PM | I would have to agree with demi and iris, in fact most of my gf's love this and have even begged me to do this to them. You have to remember that it all about the role playing. ie-to take on a persona and pretend that you are someone else. Personaly I feel that this is the best way to explore yourself and your partner. For all those weman who get turned off by this all I have to say is open yourself to new experiences how do you know that you don't like it untill you try it, just because you "feel" like it is something that you wouldn't do dosen't mean you would not like it. Now if you have tried it and didn't like it thats another thing at least then you are sure of what you like and don't like. It is like when you were a kid and couldn't eat something and then when you became an adult you tried it again and found that you really did like it after all.   | |
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Posted: 10/11/2007 10:51:13 PM | All the ones that down talk dirty talk in the bedroom are in my opini0n very naive and inexperienced , when saying to her oh yea you are my slutty naughty little **** that puts it all in the context of her being slutty for you but not about her being a slut ! It means that in the bedroom she can be slutty and act like a a slutty **** without actually being one after sex is over or the next day , Wordplay like that can release a womans inhibitions and anxiety during sex and it can actually free her to do what a slutty **** would do witch is about anything imaginable, she can leave the nice girl prison for a wile and let her desires wants and needs run as wild as she can imagine without guilt or shame cause slutty ****es do not feel these things and therefore have more fun and are hotter wile having sex. All you guys that haven't learned that should get some advice , and you good girls that down talk sex talk i bet if a experienced guy would do that to you you'd go crazy with excitement . Glad i could clear that up  | |
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Posted: 10/11/2007 11:26:21 PM | "All you guys that haven't learned that should get some advice"
Well here is my advice:
"you good girls that down talk sex talk i bet if a experienced guy would do that to you you'd go crazy with excitement "
Who says or thinks that "good" or "nice" girls/women are not exciting or have passion in bed, unless they engage in "dirty talk"?
It is funny who my opin on the OPost was criticised as patronising when I stated that one should not need dirty language (like the "b... take this d....." in the OPost) or pull a woman's hair "out" in order to have a steaming hot, passionate, pan-orgasmic .. organism, etc! Or to be "freed".
Now, MAYBE this is a North American "thing" that I as a European (living in Europe European, not the other kind mind you) do not "get" because of cultural or other specifics in North America or certain states with a strong puritan tradition. May be not.
But IME in Europe and many years ago in the US, 28 years of it, it is not the woman who talks dirty or "acts like a bad girl" in social contacts or just in bed that tends to be "boring" in bed. If anything, it is the other way around. I called dirty talk a "gimmick" and I was criticised for calling it that, but I stand by this opin.
It is the VERY idea that one needs dirty talk in order to be liberal/free or be liberated or freed in bed that is patronising and wrong, dead wrong! IMO, if people feel not free anyway, in their lives, talking dirty in bed is not going to make for happier sex or better O's.
Maybe I do not see this because I was raised in Europe and the Medit to think that sex is not dirty or sinful and that good "girls" are not supposed to be boring in bed (because they are NOT). Has the US changed so much in the years I have not been there? lol lol Oh my!
It cuts into the whole eternal discussion of good-nice/bad guys and girls in POFF. The idea that bad girls and bad guys are "better" or less exciting in bed or in general is simply A MYTH. But then it seems that myths are not successful not only in the movies but in some places too! lol lol I apologise for not having to call my GF a b.... or wh..... in bed in order for us to get off!!!
Or for not needing that sign in order to come across as "sexy" or "cheeky". | |
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Posted: 10/11/2007 11:47:08 PM | You even admit you were criticized for it and you still stand by your opinion hey i guess if you ram your head into a stone wall and your head is bruised and bleeding you are just going to ram it into it again even harder knowing dam well that its not going to break but your head eventually will , Wow you uropians sure make lots of sense. Oh i did not even see the pulling the hair comment but now that you mention it , that is really hot hair pulling will turn a hot gal on even more every time , But i don't understand your pulling a womans hair out comment , have you always had such pure thaughts ? | |
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Posted: 10/11/2007 11:57:09 PM | "You even admit you were criticized for it and you still stand by your opinion hey i guess if you ram your head into a stone wall and your head is bruised and bleeding you are just going to ram it into it again even harder knowing dam well that its not going to break but your head eventually will"
Criticised by other posters! I guess us liberated men and women do not need to go with the flow in society and make up for it with liberation gimmicks in bed.
"But i don't understand your pulling a womans hair out comment , have you always had such pure thaughts ?"
You mean actions? Not pulling a woman's hair off? Yes and no complaints. On the contrary.
No need to hammer "liberal" ideas abd actions to people who prefer to talk dirty in bed and pull hairs as a freeing act. To each his/her own. But why pretend? I guess we are differentiated by our fantasies in addition to our actions, in life and in bed. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2007 12:05:51 AM |
Now this could be a North American "thing" that I as a European (living in Europe European, not the other kind mind you) do not "get" because of cultural or other specifics in North America certain states with a strong puritan tradition.
Actually this is as old as man and it most definately applies to europe or any culture or any country. I'm absolutely certain. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2007 1:21:07 AM | why are you being so difficult nick...dont make me get the whips and chains out...lol...
here...have 1 of these  ...
just want to clarify no-one is criticizing you for being against the 'b**ch take this d*ck' principle...thats your prerogative...but you are pretty much making strong judgements/assumptions about something you said yourself you dont 'get'...no-one is devaluing your 'european' method of sexual expression...hey that works for you and no-one's complaining so whats the problem???
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Posted: 10/12/2007 1:16:58 PM |
It means that in the bedroom she can be slutty and act like a a slutty **** without actually being one after sex is over or the next day
Haven't you guys heard of:
Lady in the street but a freak in the bed!
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Posted: 10/12/2007 3:45:26 PM | ^ Or even the idea that we all wear multiple "hats."
Just because someone wants to be ****ed today doesn't mean they don't want to be made love to tomorrow.
I'm surprised that so many people are this adamantly opposed to this sort of thing. Like I said, I'm a pretty vanilla person in terms of experience, but this doesn't seem that kinky at all. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2007 3:56:09 PM |
I'm surprised that so many people are this adamantly opposed to this sort of thing. Like I said, I'm a pretty vanilla person in terms of experience, but this doesn't seem that kinky at all.
I'm surprised, too. It seems pretty low on the kinky scale of sex play. It's also ironic, considering the the topic is "words" and the theme has veered to "respect," that there are so many disrespectful words being bandied about. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2007 7:18:07 PM | | Its hot... If you know the person doesnt accualy think that but is still talking down on you and pushing you around like a slave, its like sadistic submission & nothing is hotter. | |
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Posted: 10/13/2007 4:29:41 PM | | ..have a talk with god????????? are you freakin kiddin me???? | |
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Posted: 10/14/2007 8:38:08 AM | people who likes the name calling are not aliens who are differant in the light of things.
we dont play games or roles for any reason differ from the ones who dont name call.
surely we are not abused or have mental problems and in fact we can seperate the two, sex and life.
we all like to have hot steamy sex and will do or say what is nessesary to come to orgasm and it might be words or devices whatever one likes.
how does one have regular sex or normal sex and what is normal nowadays? . i could not see making an appointment or just have that simple sex. to me if he can manage to do what i like and keep what happened in that heated moment and not carry it to the table well thats respect.
i would agree that respect at all times and i could respect that one would not obliged me in any of my sick sexual ways but dont believe that anyone disrespects me if its of my choosing. we have that option in our search engines to either give or take and live and learn and for me try all that my body allows me to do. | |
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