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Posted: 4/27/2009 2:06:36 PM | There is no place for talk like that while making love.
There is a place for almost everything when having sex.
Ladies, have a couple glasses of wine, pull the toys out of the drawer, do some role playing, let loose and have some fun!! Ahhh but why do anything but make love? There is no greater thing than two people that care about each other than to express it by making love. Alcohol dulls the senses. I enjoy all of my senses. Toys when I have a hot man in front of me, don't think so. Role play, heck, I play the role of the female love interest of the male, what the heck do you need to role play for when you have fireworks? Let loose and have fun doesn't involve disrespectful or degrading comments. Then of course if my bf said that to me, I would think he was channeling my ex husband who's name really is hmmmm not sure if I can type it cause you aren't supposed to use real names, but he was a big one. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 3:15:23 PM |
Ahhh but why do anything but make love?
Becausesex is fun. Not everything has to be slow and soft and romantic. Sometimes I think people get too caught up in the emotional stuff and forget just to relax and have a little fun with it. Switch it up. Loosen up. Of course, maybe if I had previously had a bad experience I would feel differently. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 3:47:10 PM | Ummm making love has nothing to do with speed or veriosity...
No reason to have sex with out the attached emotion. Sex isn't a need.
If you aren't relaxed with someone you love or have fun with someone you love, why do you say you love them. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 4:47:14 PM |
No reason to have sex with out the attached emotion. Sex isn't a need.
No reason NOT to have sex without the attached emotion. Sex might not be a need but it's a strong human desire. It releases endorphins, improves a persons mood, is an antidepressant, feels great and is an enjoyable activity. Can't say I understand why there has to be a huge emotional attachment. I may not NEED sex but I'm a lot more fun to be around when I am getting regular doses of good sex. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 5:02:59 PM | | ^^^ And what about emotionally detached people like myself who are still sexual beings? I do not want to include hateful oe humilating elements into sexual encounters, just mutual enjoyment. But to each their own, as long as everyone is a consenting adult. I just assume there are some people who LIKE to be treated in that harsh way in the bedroom; as everyone has different tastes. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 5:04:52 PM |
This is the type of thing women like to hear during sex. So my question is "why do women like to hear demeaning things about them during sex." I just do not get it. Women like to be called b*tches', whores and other disrespectful names that they otherwise would not except from a man. So why ladies. Why do you like to be cursed out while have sex with a man?
Are you serious?
I'm thinking that perhaps you should minimalize the generalization and say "some women"......
but really, are you serious? Come on, you can tell me ;-) | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 5:15:57 PM | And if you are in a happy and loving relation, the sex is so much better. Never a reason not to be a lady and treated like one.
As far as Aspie's go, gosh an excuse is an excuse. If you want to be emotionally attached you can be, it may not be like others view their attachments, but there are still emotional attachments. I would also expect that an Aspie respects other's feelings that much more because of the things that have been experienced both negative and positive. So to degrade a woman talking like this is totally out of Aspie character in my experience.
You get much farther in love and life with positive comments. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 5:48:05 PM |
And if you are in a happy and loving relation, the sex is so much better. Never a reason not to be a lady and treated like one.
As far as Aspie's go, gosh an excuse is an excuse. If you want to be emotionally attached you can be, it may not be like others view their attachments, but there are still emotional attachments. I would also expect that an Aspie respects other's feelings that much more because of the things that have been experienced both negative and positive. So to degrade a woman talking like this is totally out of Aspie character in my experience.
You get much farther in love and life with positive comments.
I'm not sure if this is towards me or not, but I'll post anyway...
I was saying I don't like the negative degrading talk myself; I prefer mutual enjoyment. But at the same time I don't like emotional intimacy, it makes me uncomfortable like "touch aversion". So I seek women who are more open for casual encounters most of the time, and/or just platonic friends who are pleasant company but not so close that it makes me uncomfortable. Now this has left me much LESS sexually experienced than others even half my age, but on the other hand the rare moments of sexual encounters without the emotional attachment, have been among the happiest moments of my life. I guess that sounds sad to others but I honestly do look back upon specific moments and remember how wonderful they were. Yes the women usually felt awkward afterwards but I tried my best to treat them with respect and tried to make sure they were enjoying the experience as well...if they aren't enjoying the experience, it's kindof a buzzkill for me.
On the other hand I understand that OTHER people would be into DIFFERENT things...everyone has different turn ons. As long as everyone is a consenting adult and does not feel bad about it afterwards, I see no problem with it. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 5:58:52 PM | I agree with what your saying it isnt a need but a strong human desire,we all have different drives,some people have sex of a way of cuminicating there love for eachother and if that works for you then thats admirable.
Other people like to experiment with there partners and push eachothers boundaries
Although when you say it in black and white it does seem rather cold,although it dosent work quite that way in my experience it usually develops, i love talking while having sex i always have done, what id like to do what id like the other person to do etc and it genreally builds up within a relationship,usually with people you feel close and secure to,I couldnt imagine coming straight out with it to someone i barely new not as graphic as what the OP used although i probably couldnt keep my mouth shut id just tone it down a bit heheh.
I can understand people getting turned off if that was the first thing they heard from a partner in that context but i doubt it would start out as stongly as that and the signs would be there if the person you were having a relationship didnt enjoy it.
As for women who enjoy it not having class i would strongly disagree that statement ,
What gives class in my opinion be it women or man is someone who is caring, warm ,well mannered respectfull of others irespective of peoples race or position (what they do for a living ) dosent judge others,it has nothing to do with peoples sexual preferences well in my opinion anyway :P
ps sorry for me rambling on its late and i cant sleep heheeh | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 7:00:01 PM |
And if you are in a happy and loving relation, the sex is so much better. Never a reason not to be a lady and treated like one.
I have found sex to be wonderful both in and out of a happy loving relationship. One doesn't make it better or worse. As far as being a lady, I find "ladies" boring to be honest. I prefer being a woman and being treated like one. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 7:54:36 PM | Sorry, but can't resist you mean you have had sex with ladies...
Ever read the Happy Hooker, a most interesting book. She is the first person that I read that suggested that doing drugs or alcohol numbs the sensations. She is so right. When you have all of your feelings, things are wonderful. If you are with someone you love, they are the best imo. Getting intimate with someone you don't love imo you can not do as much exploring and know each other as well.
But as I do yoga almost every day, it comes in handy when trying some of the great suggestions in The Kama Sutra of Vatsayana.
Again, encouraging words, loving words during sex are wonderful. You can call me a lady any time. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2009 6:48:32 AM | I also don't like being called disrespectful names like b1thch and wh0re during love making, ever. I don't mind wild sex with somone I love, but I don't like feeling like I am being fvcked.
If my lover said to me, "Baby take this d1ck, and suck it for me, " I would gladly obligue. If he said, "B1tch take this****..." I woud say go fvck yourself.
That is just one ladies opinion. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2009 9:29:55 AM | I think there are 3 types:
Making love
sex
f*cking
All three are different and some people like all 3 incorporated into their sexlife. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2009 10:45:43 AM | | Please do explain to me what the differences are or perhaps I just do all three when I make love and this is why I don't differentiate. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2009 11:14:59 AM |
Please do explain to me what the differences are or perhaps I just do all three when I make love and this is why I don't differentiate.
while you are explaining it to eschec mat explain it to me too.
Two lovers, NOT FVCK BUDDIES, can have hot steamy passion in their love making that you might label "sex" or "fvcking" but I beg to differ, for me anyway, the emotional connection is what causes the label, NOT the manner in which the coupling occurs.
"Making Love" as a term implies that with each time of intimacy more "Love" is created or made between the couple. Two lovers can have plenty of variety in their intimate times, or they can make love gently, make love hot and heavy and steamy with a goal of just cuming, and everything in between.
The kinds of sex you describe in three categories can all fall under one umbrella of making love, all with someone you are bonded to. One one extreme you have two people who are emotionally bonded as lovers in a committed relationship, and on the other extreme you have two people who are just in it for the sex, without the emotional commitment. Fvck buddies do not "make love". Neither do friends with benefits. That does not mean that two "lovers" can not make love with all the abandon
that two "fvck buddies" do. Lovers can show their love in a quickie, an orgasm fest, or slowly and gently.
We can chose to have different opinons here. I have made love with a man and I have been "fvcked" by a man. I will never be "fvcked" again. It is possible to make love with someone in a manner like "hot monkey sex" and still be making love. To me its the emotional connection that makes all the difference. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2009 7:31:19 PM | | What joint do you case exactly? It turns me off and last time I checked I was a woman | |
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Posted: 4/29/2009 7:53:23 PM | just my .32 but..... (my famous last words)
I know people in the S&M crowd, professional people, people who work at the grocery store, doctors, lawyers and Indian chiefs. Everyone has their "kink"
Why do some have foot fetishes? Why do some have leather fetishes? Why are some guys minute men? Why do some people like oral sex and some not? Why do some people "perform" in the same manner every time? Why do some people seek out exotic places? Why do some want or have had threesomes or more? Why are some totally opposed to more than two consenting adults in the bedroom? Why do some have body issues and only have sex with some sort of clothing on? Why do some like anal sex, and others would rather die than have it?
My motto: It's only kinky the first time, after that it's just fun.
I wouldn't judge someone for their personal kink.... they may be the doctor that takes care of you or the firefighter that rescues you...MMMMMMMMMMM firefighters.... Oopsie... I'm showing my kink. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2009 8:00:40 PM | Lemme try to explain what those three mean to me...
Fcking- Raw animalistic sex. Instinctual almost. There is almost always a dom and a sub in this kind of sex. The dom takes what they want and the sub gives freely to the dom.
Sex- Mutually enjoyed intercourse, superficial fcking or love making as it were.
Making love- building emotional bonds with someone you love.
Personally I will fck or make love, sex is just boring to me. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2009 8:27:19 PM | Animalistic, raw love making, screwing each others brains out, enjoy each other to the fullest seems to incorporate those words. They aren't separate actions when you do it with the right person.
I would agree there are people that are into being degraded etc. by being called those names. I am sure there are some things that don't sound loving while having sex, but f me, harder etc., is different than being called a beitch. Maybe if it had the word sexy in front of the word beitch and then take it all might sound better. But the sentence the way it is probably would make me stop and say what...given my noise level is down enough for me to hear it
And again Kathy, thank you for being such a sweat heart! I know you are all woman and love your men.  | |
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