kyjim
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Joined: 9/11/2004
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| Re: question to the men in the audience
Posted: 9/12/2004 12:47:35 PM | Personally, I only go for average chicks because the really hot one are such a pain in the ass. You have to spend more money on them and they expect so much more... for what?
A trophy? My self-esteem is not so low that I need everyone saying "Man, your chick is soooo hot". | |
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| Re: question to the men in the audience
Posted: 9/12/2004 2:48:48 PM | Madelaina, you answered your own question in a subsequent post. You're hanging out with guys too young. I think the natural phenomenon of "adolescent" stupidity takes about 35-40 years to fully work itself out.
I'm like Rocket... I'm 45, but in the best shape of my life and feel like 30. If I had only known in my 20's what I know now! If you're ever in Austin, let's take on the town!! | |
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Posted: 9/13/2004 5:22:33 PM | | I'm 45 y/o attractive man. I have law degree (Juris Doctor) and am a practising attorney. I very much enjoy being with an older woman. In fact, I enjoy ladies much older tha me---say in their 60s and perhaps 70's. In fact any ladies in this age group are welcomed to e-mail me! | |
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Posted: 9/14/2004 8:39:44 AM | | I never have been. I always look at older, attractive, intelligent women and wonder if there is anything I can learn from them. I find it hard to believe that some guys are scared. It just doesn't make sense to me. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2004 2:47:35 PM | I think it's becuse older women know more of what they want and it makes it harder for a man to fullfill their needs.........but thats a theory of fear.........
I STILL THINK LIKE THAT ONE SONG........"OLDER WOMEN ARE BEAUTIFUL LOVERS...OLDER WOMEN KNOW JUST HOW TO TREAT A MAN".............. | |
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| Re: question to the men in the audience
Posted: 9/15/2004 7:38:38 PM | | I don't think that men are intmidated, i just think all the blood rushes out of the brain and we become a little dazed and confused. Plus no one wants to hold a conversation with a boner. | |
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Posted: 9/15/2004 7:43:10 PM | | madelaina- I actually find myself feeling more comfortable with older women to be honest. I find that older women are more open and honest about their feelings. I only dated an older woman once, but it was a great relationship, because she had a really strong sense of who she was and what she wanted. It didn't take because she also wanted sex, and I am waiting to have sex. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2004 11:56:23 AM | Sorry but older women don't intimidate me. What I find frustrating about older women is the same thing i find frustrating about younger women: their unbelievable sense of wanting a nice guy but always dating the bad boy. Nice guys may have a problem approaching a beautiful woman such as yourself because they don't want to be shot down just because they don't fit a specific look or attitude. I hope you get the chance to actually meet some of the nice guys out there that aren't afriad to take the first step. I wasn't.
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Posted: 9/16/2004 6:03:33 PM | | Can I just add that I am not intimidated by hot women, moature women, and the like. I think guys are more intimidated of rejection than the woman, and I have no fear of rejection, so.....hmmmm. | |
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| Re: question to the men in the audience
Posted: 9/16/2004 7:53:30 PM | They're not--my guess is you're just looking at the wrong men. If you are attracted to young greasers with big tools (essentially just life support for a penis) that's what you are going to get. They may be easy to manipulate but you can't expect anything more than good sex with them. Good sex is great, but in my experience it is only one aspect of a truly great, solid relationship, and often not even the most important one.
Why is it women do the Demi Moore thing and then complain that men are intimidated by them? To many women have been reading too much Cosmo, buying in to the idea that they should indulge themselves in young boytoys. The thing they haven't yet figured out is that they look just as foolish doing that as old men did with young girls. "There's no fool like an old fool" applies just as much to women as it ever did to men.
Try finding a man your own age or a little older that has at least half a brain and you won't have that problem. Don't demand that he be an "alpha male" and don't assume that you are going be the top dog in the relationship just because Gloria Steinem et al have told you that's what you should be. Real men give their ladies respect, have no problem with them being strong, but expect to be respected in return, and (not saying you are one) want nothing to do with pushy, obnoxious ultra-feminist bitches who have to have everything in a relationship on their terms. We are not "overgrown little boys" asall to many women condescendingly habitually characterize us. We are rational adults with values, goals, and thoughts of our own. There are plenty of us out there--IF you are really serious about finding one. | |
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Posted: 9/17/2004 9:16:03 AM | | I've wondered the same thing many times myself and I am a man. I personally have always dated women at least a little older than myself. My most recent ex gf is 5 years older than me, the one before her was 12 years older than me and the wife I have been seperated from is 3 years older than me. All but my estranged wife have more education than I and have the intelligence to match thier education and the wife wasn't at all un-intelligent, just didn't have any better education than I. I prefer older women because they seem to know what they do and do not want more than the younger women, although I have found exceptions to that for sure. But I do agree, most men do want younger women who are not exactly dumb, just below thier own intelligence level. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2004 12:01:07 AM | well, I can tell you on my experience, I married one. Divorced, and tried to meet younger ones. The older ones for some reason just keep comming. I'm intimidated of younger ones actually! Can you email me and help me solve this issue please? ANYBODY!!
I have a couple questions too for the females to release insight on, but I am too shy to ask more than one person at a time. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2004 5:39:33 PM | | Not me personally, I know this sounds weird coming from a 19 yo but I think that and intelligent older woman is sexy...Maybe I'm not right in the head but that's what I think. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2004 6:33:21 PM | @strokeit
to each their own i guess....besides, i would rather look like a woman than a little boy, which unfortunately for you at 5"6", looks like you haven't outgrown being a little boy yourself (lol)
lets just hope for your sake that the other parts are not lacking as much if you know what i mean ; )
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| Re: question to the men in the audience
Posted: 9/18/2004 7:24:44 PM | in some ways i like older women. there past the trivial things like he scrached his!!! and there smart, caring, and are looking more for love making then just sex. they really have good conversations. I was in a club one night and talking with an older women and we talked about politics, unions,wars, and cars. that is much better then the younger ones that what ever you say that make the soda can sound tssssk haaa. also i think the old one have seen the ugly things of life and apreciate things more.
the younger ones are fun and have that youthful excitment about them. and tight good looks. but most of it is skin deep in the young ones.
as far as being intimadated? humm.. i think it depends on the women. but most men are intimadated by beutiful women for two reasons. one if you lost it her..how bad would that hurt?! . 2 low self esteem ..why whould she be with me? what do i have to offer her? is she high maintance. see beutiful women men think can leave then at anytime and do better. so why would he feel special? not that hey don't wnat to be with them. but we men don't need a knock on our already fradgile ego.LOL! | |
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Posted: 9/19/2004 4:51:02 PM | Me, I seduce whoever I want to seduce. I just don't like delving into relationships with people I don't know very well. Let me know some lady for a couple years, meet her friends and family, and if it the right time...
My reason for this is because I'm really good at the whole relationship thing; I've been burned too many times trying to break up w/ someone and can't.
Madelaina, if I met you in RL I wouldn't be attracted to you. Don't get me wrong, you're absolutely supermodel-gorgeous, I just happen to like brunettes, about 5'6" or a little less, and generally 5-8 years my junior. ALTHOUGH.... if I go for a one-night stand, I would love an older woman. Preferably one w/ about an "average" build... just so I can play freud and take advantage of a low self-esteem. But I won't play games and tell her I love her if I don't -- I'll let you know what the score is.
One last thing Maddy -- do you ask questions that put guys on the spot? Men hate psychoanalyzing relationships, so perhaps try relaxing and just letting the young man do whatever he wants. Unfortunately, you may have to wait a few months, but you'll know about him better than trying to see if he's a player right off the bat. Oh, and don't wait for Mr. Right to come and sweep you off your feet... be assertive. It's ok to flirt. | |
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| Re: question to the men in the audience
Posted: 9/19/2004 9:28:20 PM | Madelaina to me your sexiest pic on your profile is number 2 . it has nothing to do with your body. but that other stuff is all good to.
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| Re: question to the men in the audience
Posted: 9/20/2004 6:20:13 AM | Well, first off...
Hello to everyone on this and the other forums. A 'fair dinkum' Aussie here....but if you use that phrase too often, I will have to sic the cultural police on you for abusing a term that I personally am trying to have outlawed because it suggests we Australians only know approximately two vowels and speak in Cockney accents....wotcher....
And to Madelaina...well....I think there's a variety of reasons why men are intimidated by older women. First and foremost, it's that older women know their own minds and aren't shy anymore about expressing what they want, sexually, emotionally, intellectually. I am generalising here, but in my experience, it tends to be true. A lot of younger men haven't discovered that yet...and in fact, and I can say this was also true for me...all we're interested in is still remaining somewhat like teenagers and acting as if we have the power.
And that's a very unfortunate thing. Most younger guys 'take' women of their own age or younger because it's a secure, safe way to do so. There doesn't have to be any finesse, and at least it was true when I was a teenager that most guys had more experience sexually speaking and tended to be the sexual predators. Now, you have such a guy meet a woman who is not only his match, but his superior in a lot of ways...backing that up with typically a more mature palette of tastes and interests, and a lot of younger guys can't relate to that. It's too far out of their range of experience and maturity to handle. Now, that's not true for ALL young guys...I've known some incredibly mature twenty-somethings in my time...but I'd be safe in saying that.
I'm not trying to be facetious in saying that I was never like that. Ironically, a formative experience for me was the old Sybil Danning movie, Private Teacher...where she's the older experienced woman, seduces a teenager and murders her husband. Amazingly, they get away with it. The teenager in question? Eric Roberts, brother of Julia....*LOL* But there was something that distinctly appealed to me...again, I think it's that knowing sexuality and awareness of self that an older woman carries. I've had relationships with younger women, but I realised as my tastes matured, I wanted someone who had the same or could 'teach' or show me more. That, and I wanted someone who could string two sentences together about movies or music that I could not go 'Who was that again'? and not look completely foolish.
So that's my two Aussie cents for you, Madelaina....and as for your mention as to how long one could last to someone else...well, let's just say we get lots of sunshine down here...and it'd be fair to say I don't think I've worn myself out yet...*LOL* ;)
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| Re: question to the men in the audience
Posted: 9/20/2004 9:08:02 PM | | Personally...I'm currently seeing an older, sexy woman and I think she is great! I find that older women know what they want, they are direct and not looking to play games. To me that's incredibly appealing. I often find that younger women are more trouble than their youthful appearance is worth. | |
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| Re: question to the men in the audience
Posted: 9/21/2004 12:31:36 AM | The thing with older women... it is so much more enjoyable to have conversations, the long thought provoking kind. With younger women, at least in my experience, it almost always is a topic relating to clothes, what someone said about someone else, or what "cool" thing they want to get next. Dont forget the games, young women want their cake just as much as younger men. They will lie, deceive and manipulate most situations for an advantage.
Older women are for the most part, done with games, know what they want, and can carry a conversation without using the word "like" 2,349 times in a sentence. | |
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