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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 8/8/2006 4:35:35 AM | Why is a guy in his 40's single?
(1) He's never been in a relationships, so why should he start now.
(2) He's been dumped by a woman or women, so is hesitant about getting into another relationship. Obviously he can't be a nice guy if women walk out on him.
(3) He has walked out on past relationships so may walk out again.
The only truly good guys MAY be those who have managed to stay married or are widowers.
At this age we are mostly someone else's discards. If he sees a single pretty women he may think, "Gee, I wonder what's wrong, how could anyone leave her, maybe she's the one who walks out."
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 8/8/2006 5:07:42 AM | | i think most men are willing to commit if they fine the right package...its not easy for us as it is for the women.....women fall way too fast....now that we are older, we are also wiser....we are gonna pick and choose this time so it may take longer....thats why older women have a hard time finding anyone to commit | |
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 8/8/2006 6:37:41 AM | Ohhhh i wouldn't say it's easier for women than it is for men. I think it depends on each individual situation. I will say that i agree as we all get more mature we fall for a person much less easily. We think more with our brains than with our hearts. This isn't necessarily a bad thing but it does cause us to NOT overlook certain incompatabilities that we would have shrugged off when we were younger.
There are a lot of players out there, both male and female. Unfortunately it takes awhile to go through a lot of dates and people before you meet someone that you feel you can commit with. | |
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 8/8/2006 7:41:32 AM | Well lets see here . I know that over my years I have been very picky on not just who I would date but where she was from.
Yes I was always looking for a commitment but over the years could not find it!
Yep when I was in my twenty's most women only wanted a funtime and any lady with kids no matter how sexy she was I would say sorry no way.
As I got older in my 30's I was still very picky if she had kids or if she had more then one .Or if she did not have a full time job I would have said sorry nope. Then when I got into the 40's I was still looking for that real committment but seems every lady I met was just out for a fun time or just someone different short term still. Now I am 50 and yes still seeking that long term committment .Sure I still see all the women talking committment but also see alot still wanting the short term fun only ! So don't any lady say theres no guys seeking committment as alot of us are but we are tired of all the short term crap and we are gonna be picky .And yes thats why my profile says what it does . Its plain simple & straight up with any lady whom should read it .
But none want a guy like that !They only want to say they do   | |
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 8/8/2006 7:50:46 AM | | An article in the New York Times made some good points I think as to why men and women are not getting together as much in today's society. http://www.nytimes.com/2006/08/06/us/06marry.html?pagewanted=1&ei=5087%0A&en=e1f2cc63db53b933&ex=1155182400 | |
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 8/9/2006 7:16:57 PM | | Note It is a proven fact women DO NOT fall faster than men. Men in fact when they fall, they usually fall in first 3 dates while it takes women closer to 14. That's not my opinion that is a know fact for eveyones information. | |
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Honshu
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Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 84 | |
| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 8/9/2006 9:27:42 PM | | I have not read the rest of the posts yet but I am a man that is not afraid of commitment, and if you want that in writting, I'll fax it or send it by post to you! | |
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 8/9/2006 9:39:13 PM | Note It is a proven fact women DO NOT fall faster than men. Men in fact when they fall, they usually fall in first 3 dates while it takes women closer to 14. That's not my opinion that is a know fact for eveyones information
^^^ Yet people don't understand why guys want sex so early in the relationship... it's because they are already in love with you, so why prolong the inevitable?
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 8/15/2006 7:58:50 PM | | Make a man wait because you are unsure of the relationship and he will respect you. Make a man wait because you are torturing him/gaming him and he will move on. Players will stick because now its a game. Wusses will hang on in order to please you and be grateful for whatever bone is tossed their way. Make sure you are waiting for a real reason not a game. Otherwise it is just messing around. | |
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AHBJ41
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Joined: 10/29/2006
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 11/14/2006 3:52:04 PM | I think we need to understand what the other means by dating In past we had steps...like going steady(or seeing).If you been dating over a month then the guy should just date you.
These days when sex is envolved it could cost you your heath,you have the right to know who he s having sex with. (man or woman)
These days dating scene is surreal,be carefulout there.
No commit no sex. Unless both parties agree 
Father Allen | |
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 11/14/2006 6:45:55 PM | | maybe if we post in a thread thats aged like a McDonalds big mac we can get it deleted..lol btw I think on page one of this thread you`ll see that most of the people that posted in here dont have profiles anymore... i looked before you posted my black brother from another mother ... and I was thinking the same myself... | |
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 11/15/2006 9:42:11 AM | | Ok Ladies .. you got Firmbear and Honshu ... and I'm sure , many many others .. wanting a commited relationship ... now what ? ... it's in your hands now . You got two sure bets up there ! hey guys ... let us know how many hits you get ... see if these gals mean business .. lol | |
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 12/25/2006 11:22:22 PM | | Men can woman can not. I am a single dad with two kids a girl 4 and a boy 7 my wife left me for another man and then gave the kids to me full time. What is wrong with woman today. Why can they not stay with one man. I have just had xmas with just me and the two kids I can not find a woman that will date a man with kids full time. Man will or I will why can not woman. | |
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 12/26/2006 8:06:43 PM | | But this can work both ways. I dated a woman for three years, and then she decided to end it because I got custody of my children. | |
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 1/17/2007 12:23:16 PM | | you can find a man im sure i had a woman with 4 kids but it did not work out but if i find the right one some day i will i hope but if i dont oh well i cant say i dident try | |
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 1/17/2007 1:26:35 PM | Who cares why we can or cannot find an individual to share life with regardless if we have children or not. Or why certain people can't commit to certain people...
I say for each person who is not interested or even willing to jump in head first... who is afraid of the unknown or whatever... that is one more person who is missing out on knowing me.
Umm.. try not to sweat the small stuff.... life happens in the most unexpected amazing ways!!! | |
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 1/17/2007 1:58:57 PM | If i were to be in a committed relationship ,then there is no other woman period .I believe in dating only one lady at a time ,that being that we have had a few dates and there is potential of a relationship then i would be tottally committed to that one lady ,not into the serial dating crap ,just not my style nor is a one night stand .Just my way like it or not ,so yes there are men and women out here that are looking to be committed ,opps i mean in a committed relationship .    | |
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| Why cant i find a man willing to commit
Posted: 1/17/2007 2:01:46 PM | | Wow! Reading through this has been an eye opener for sure! I am shocked at the shallowness of some who would leave someone simply because they got custody of their kids. Appalled at a Mother who would run away and leave not only her hubby, but her children as well! That to me is not wanting to commit for sure! As for the couple of incessant "whiners" in here that state we women don't want anything but fun ? You need to take a good look inside yourselves cuz I think the answer lies within you! | |
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