| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/5/2009 8:55:57 PM | | I would rather date someone with children than someone who didn't. The men who I've dated without kids have no idea what it's like to be a parent and believe they should come first. I think I just get involved with the wrong men. Someone introduce me to the right ones, please! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/6/2009 5:52:05 PM | | Yes there are and I am one of them. Dated one woman that had 2 girls until I found out she was cheating on me and when me and my ex got together she already had a daughter. I was with her for 14 years. Sadly we grew up and apart so now I'm out there looking and I have 2 children of my own now. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/6/2009 5:58:20 PM | | Yes, I've found several. I'd actually prefer to date someone with children, as they have a similar perspective. If something comes up that involves their kids, I'll be the first to say, "go ahead; take care of it. Your kids come first." I expect the same from my date. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/13/2009 11:19:28 PM | i am a man that does not want a women without kids, i love kids(not in that way) i have two of my own and i do not want to hook up with a women who does not have kids, plane and simple. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/14/2009 10:36:50 AM | I am not in the same boat. I have had a lot of responses on this site. I place that I do have kids yet I almost have to hire a p/t secretary to sift though all my emails. LOL. My thoughts are if the guy runs away because of kids SO BE IT! He is not meant for you anyways. I love my children and I regret nothing, if can't except that then PEACE! I think women should focus on themselves and the men will flood in.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:33:51 AM | | thats not true . i took on a family raised them by leadind by example ,the youngest is a preacher the oldest a teacher. the oldest had ADHD,the youngest dislexcit i think that how its spelt | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/14/2009 3:26:11 PM | I'm with you girls... You find a guy that says they have no problem dating you because you have kid, but as soon as the child is accepting of them and warm up to the person and show ingthem affection it seems the guy distants his self. Or they no longer want to be a part of your life. I too was just hurt by a guy who said that my son was no big deal, now my son keeps asking for this person and they have left the picture and are not coming back. I wish men would make up their minds in what they want to do. All I want is a guy wh is willing to accept me for me and my son . | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/14/2009 3:36:08 PM |
I'm with you girls... You find a guy that says they have no problem dating you because you have kid, but as soon as the child is accepting of them and warm up to the person and show ingthem affection it seems the guy distants his self. Or they no longer want to be a part of your life. I too was just hurt by a guy who said that my son was no big deal, now my son keeps asking for this person and they have left the picture and are not coming back. I wish men would make up their minds in what they want to do. All I want is a guy wh is willing to accept me for me and my son .
Maybe they don't know until they get deep into the situation that it isn't for them. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/14/2009 6:06:34 PM | | Yes they do. Let me also tell you it's just is hard to date a woman if your a man with a child. You just have to find the right guy and not go for the macho men/player types. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/14/2009 7:02:29 PM |
As for me, no thanks. I have enough bills to pay..dont need an extra add on
Not wanting to date a woman with kids is fine. Some do and some don't. Not knocking on you in any way because I can respect you for your stance. I just have one question. Wouldn't taking on a woman in general be an add on? I don't think the women on here are asking for us guys to take on the financial responsibility for their children. They are looking for someone to make them complete in their heart and soul. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/14/2009 7:12:15 PM | Wouldn't taking on a woman in general be an add on? I don't think the women on here are asking for us guys to take on the financial responsibility for their children. They are looking for someone to make them complete in their heart and soul.
If the relationship works out and they get married, do you really think the guy won't be expected to contribute anything toward the children? Wouldn't that be awkward?
If a woman is divorced and receiving child support, then that extra expense would be greatly minimized. However, if the woman was never married, there is less of a chance that she is receiving adequate child support from her ex boyfriend, so the cost might be greater to the new step father. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/14/2009 7:30:00 PM | | And if the man has that mentality there will never be a marriage. Really- you must realize that if he doesn't want the extra 'burden', what's the point?!? That type of perspective may gain you some material item or two or ten, but how fulfilling is that? Such small minded thinking ... how sad that you would ever consider an human being an 'add on'. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/14/2009 7:36:11 PM |
And if the man has that mentality there will never be a marriage. Really- you must realize that if he doesn't want the extra 'burden', what's the point?!? That type of perspective may gain you some material item or two or ten, but how fulfilling is that? Such small minded thinking ... how sad that you would ever consider an human being an 'add on'.
Most men wouldn't consider their own children as "add ons", but how many people would gladly pay for children not their own? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/14/2009 7:47:33 PM |
but how many people would gladly pay for children not their own?
I can't speak for other men but I did just that for the 14 years that my wife and I were together. We met, she already had a daughter, I liked her and I accepted her child because I (and I emphasize I) felt a relationship was a package deal. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/15/2009 12:29:54 AM | | Exactly. If you want to date someone who has kids, it is a package deal. And, if you have any brains, you cherish the opportunity (when it arises) to establish a relationship with your partner's children - after all, they are a part of that person that you love. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/15/2009 8:34:23 AM | i have never met a man that has had a successfull attitude to this, even the ones who have kids themselves!
let me explain, those men who have their kids on the weekend and holidays sre so wrapped up in their kids at those times because they dont see them often, which is understandable but unfortunatlty the woman in their life gets pushed out
on the other hand there are those ladies like me who have sole custody have their child permanently and manage to juggle everyhting and STILL fit their partner in and his kids!!!
then the guy is so upset when his kids go back the woman in his life has to pick up the pieces, oh till the next time his kids come then she is pushed out of his quality time with his kids again
not only that but a consequence of his irregular relationship with his children means he does not want to make a relationship with his partners child for fear of the child becoming clingy in case the relationship fails like his marriage did
and im starting to think the calibre of gentleman who knows how to have a relationship with a woman where there are kids envolved does not really exist!
ps- yes this was an ex a long time ago, therfore i know the signs to avoid now lol | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/15/2009 9:26:05 AM | | My previous partner had two kids. I met them once, we were together for eighteen months. All she would ever say to me is "I don't want to introduce you to them yet, I don't want to hurt them". Offensive in the extreme, but yes to answer the question there are men out there who will enter in to a long term relationship with someone who has children. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/15/2009 10:00:11 AM | | I beleive it should not be about the kids if you are in the dating world I dont talk about my kids because unless I know you are going to be around for awhile you dont meet my kids to many times when I start dating a woman with kids the first thing they do is introduce me to the kids I dont think that is right I think the first thing you need to do is see if you work togethor before throwing kids into the ring! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/15/2009 2:43:47 PM | The answer would be yes and no, I have three sons, love them to death. thought when they were grown there mom and I would finally get to have our time, only to find out she was having an affair with a married guy, who was married with younger kids.
My thoughts were the ex to him was that freedom from his life with his kids as well as strange sex for awhile, then could return and be the daddy.
Personally I miss when my kids were younger, had lots of fun and they were fun at that age, guess the hard part is finding that guy who misses that stage of his kids life.
But we are out there, amongst the others the trick is to find us. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/17/2009 8:03:39 PM | Yes,men exist like that as i am one of them.
I have a son of my own,he is 9 and he means the world to me.
I am single,although trying to get involved with a beautiful lady who has 3 children of her own.They are great kids whose real Dad is an idiot because he doesnt see what he has in front of him,even though it stares him in the face.
I would do anything for all of them and their mom whose smile alone can brighten even the darkest day,she is amazing.
A very loving and caring Dad,,,, | |
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