| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/21/2009 7:18:39 PM | | I am a 25 year old single male with no children of my own and I have no problem dating mothers. But there are definitely variables involved. It depends on what the two people want obviously. If he's just looking for ass, and he's hitting up a single mom who wants something more of him, then he's a jerk. But if all she wants is some action too, then he is on point......There are guys out there that are capable of stepping up to the plate and providing a positive and healthy male influence. But again....variables. Some guys won't date a chick if her kids are too old, and others her kids too young. I personally want to know, and this is assuming that the mother and I are great first, will I be an influence in these childrens lives? If I am going to put the effort forth to use all of my experience and knowledge that I have amassed, to make sure this kid has the tools required to grow into a healthy, happy and productive adult, that it's not going to get stomped out by some half ass dad that sees his kids once a couple of months, when he decides he should......This is just how I feel about this one very specific situation.....There are guys out there willing to, but as I'm sure you all know ladies, not all guys are honest and upfront about their wants and intentions......these guys are not only boys but they are tools as well......peace | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/21/2009 7:49:22 PM | | I guess im like everyone else on here, i cant find a man who is willing to accept the fact that i have kids. I am a single mom and im devoted to my children, but that doesnt mean that i dont miss or have time for someone else in my life. Its like things start off good men say they dont have a problem with the fact that i have kids, but then when it comes down to it they really do. Arent there any real honest men left who dont mind women with kids? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/21/2009 8:17:49 PM | | i do understand i am a older guy with a 2year old son and and i have not been on since i got custady of him when i read the profiles of women my age it says there children grown and dont want more | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/21/2009 11:36:57 PM | I would date a woman with kids. If her children are young, I would be very cautious though. I would want our parenting to be on the same page.
I see women that I may be interested in when I am out and about, and I lose interest right away if I see that her children are not well behaved.
I could not date a woman with misbehaved children, or if she has more than 2. I know that may sound harsh, but I know what I want, and if I started dating a woman with 3 or more YOUNG children, I would be unhappy eventually. This isn't for selfish reasons, it boils down to having one of my own is pretty expensive to go to the zoo, bowling or whatever, imagine with 4 or more? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/29/2009 10:36:03 PM | | All over the place. It's usually the way the profile is worded that keeps them from asking. I've dated women with childre. Matter of fact, most have had children. Even married one and adopted her kids. So they are out there! Unless his profile says no kids, try asking HIM! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/29/2009 10:38:43 PM | | For me the problem is most of you are so young. You're a beautiful woman, but even if I was near you I wouldn't ask you out because you are the same age as MY children. Younger than some. However, if I were just 20 years younger.... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/30/2009 2:41:04 AM | | now you cant believe that every women wants u just so u can be a sugar daddy just because she has kids.even women with kids need the same thing as women with out kids. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/30/2009 4:21:27 PM | | I would date a single mother on one condition. That the child came out of a LTR that at least lasted 2+ years. That means that at least their was some sort of responsibility on the part of the woman. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/1/2009 9:09:05 PM | | well i have children as well and to be brutally honest...ask yourself this question? ever hear a screaming kid in the store or a crazy teenager or people with kid problems and just go...man i feel for them but glad it isn't my life? yep....that's what people think. it ain't you that's the problem....it's your children that you have with someone else that is. nobody wants the baggage. life is hard enough dealing with your own kids and your own life and relationships are tough when it's just two people. that's why i think a lot of people with kids get jaded. people date them casually and that's it. so they just start...dating casually themselves hardening their hearts. that's why i don't date a lot. i'll wait for either....my kids to be gone or someone really special but i ain't holding my breath. i know the cold hard facts of life. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/2/2009 12:01:37 AM | everyone seems to be saying the same thing it is really hard to date when you have childern to someone else and saddly its true, I have 4 childern 2 over 18 and 2 under 15 ......they have a father who they see , and i'm very independent , gotta house , car and job , but none of that seems to matter , its the amount of childern i have that does, lol not alot i can do about that is there , certainly an't going to appoligize for having them.
But you try finding a partner see beyond how many childern you have .........Impossible !!!!!! I think its harder for women to date who have childern becasue we are not bothered if a man has childern from a pervious relationship , but most and i'm not saying all men are bothered that a woman has childern and how many too.
Oh well never mind life goes on :) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/2/2009 6:47:47 AM | | They exist! I'm a single mom and I have no problem getting a date. I meet men online because of course I don't meet them when I am out with my kids. I am always upfront with having kids. I haven't found a suitable partner for me which is why I am still here but there are men out there. I am independent and my family has a busy life. It is up to the man to be able to fit into our life. If not, so be it. We are content right now but I would like to eventually meet someone. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/2/2009 11:19:45 PM | I'm a single dad with a 7 year old. Here I am. Secure. Happy. Been in relationships with moms with children. Shouldn't be a big issue.
I find that most working moms have too much to handle, and are not on POF or actively dating. I'm not looking for a mom that wants me to provide 100% for her children. I like dating working moms. Preferably those with a good relationship with their x or able to handle their own children on her own.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/3/2009 8:38:38 AM | I have no problem dating single moms.
The danger is to meet each other's kids too early. My child barely is aware I date(and yes, she is with me a vast majority of the time!)
If a woman is too quick to introduce me to her kids, I smell "be their daddy" and run like hell! Luckily, this has been few and far between.
Personally, I think a minimum of 3 months before any real exposure is good, depending on how well you get to know the other person.
This does not include casual introductions, but actually "doing things" all together.
I do not care if I feel I have met "the love of my life"-
My child is my priority, period.
So should the children of the woman be, to her. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/3/2009 9:04:59 AM | | I won't date a woman with kids.. I'm on the fence now whether I want kids or not, but if I was to be taking care of kids, it'd be one that was made by me, not by an ex boyfriend or husband. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/3/2009 12:02:33 PM | Kids are such a touchy subject...
Me, personally, I have 2 fantastic kids both under 5. I will let people know that I have kids, but I do want the other person that Im dating (or possibly dating) to understand that Im not looking for a babysitter, a stand in dad, or someone to provide for me financially. I have a great paying job, I own my own house, I have a car and am debt free. I dont want a father for my kids, they have their own father, and yes he is in their lives.
I am looking for someone who wants me for me. I am a woman looking for a real man. If there is a connection then great, but I dont sit around on first dates and talk about my kids....I talk about me...Im looking for someone for me. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/3/2009 6:53:26 PM | | Justchillinonthesidelines.....I only say this because I actually had to physically say this to a guy last week....I think sometimes they hear kids and freak out....My kids should not be the dealbreaker, I should be!!!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/4/2009 12:38:13 AM | | muskokarxgirl your saying what all us single mums and dads have been trying to say for a long time . Just because we are parents doesn't mean we are not Individual's too. I've found that younger guys don't have problem with it..........which is really surprising you would think that it would be the other way around . | |
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