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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/6/2009 1:48:49 AM | I'm a seperated woman with 4 kids and I don't have problems with being asked out, I always state that I have 4 kids and if U honest from the first message or date people will have more respect for U for letting them know rather than not telling till a few weeks down the line.. I haven't been on a date since I seperated but I have been asked out and being a barber I meet men all the time and I really don't think it bothers most men, as for dating a man with kids, that doesn't bother me either, I love kids and teens once they not in nappies :) after 4 kids myself that wouldn't really float my boat but then again when the right man comes along, who really cares if he's a daddy r not, If U both get on with eachother and individuals the kids can be blessing  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/6/2009 3:09:49 AM |
Justchillinonthesidelines.....I only say this because I actually had to physically say this to a guy last week....I think sometimes they hear kids and freak out....My kids should not be the dealbreaker, I should be!!!!
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/6/2009 8:15:26 AM | Of course there are men out there that date women with children. It all comes down to personal preference! Just because a man/woman vocalizes not wanting to date someone with children doesn't make them the bad guy or certainly doesn't make you a leprosy patient, it just means that they have a certain level of standards and wishes that work for them and their lifestyle. When the right person comes along you will know, it will all fall into place naturally and there will be no question on your end whether or not the person your dating is accepting of every aspect of your life. The right person will be an addition to your life and what you already have and not a distraction and vice versa!
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/6/2009 4:54:32 PM | I have completely mixed feelings on this subject. I just got out of a relationship dating a woman with a young child and the problem being the father is still emotionally involved with the mother. She ensured me that she is over this guy and had no reason not to believe her. So she decided that it would be best that she focus on her daughter. She found it difficult not to feel guilty about taking time for herself, knowing that her daughter is being a handful for her mom.
So we men are willing to give you moms a chance! It's just really difficult to know if the other parent is mature enough to handle a relationship. Afterall, a relationship is going to affect the child/ren. Whether it is good, bad or indifferent the relationship will have an influence on kids. So us single men are aware of this and do keep the kids in mind.
I'm still learning myself and will continue to communicate. Here's hoping for the same from you ladies. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 7:19:42 PM | i want to say to you genie that you should go and get an attitude transplant you narrow minded misunderstanding git!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! the single people on here are not trying to balme men for them having children they are asking why SOME MEN NOT BOYS LIKE YOU!!!!! ARE SCRARED OF COMMITING TO THEM AND THEY ARE TRYING TO GAIN A BETTER UNDERSTANDING TO THE WAY A MAN THINKS TOWARDS SINGLE MOTHERS!!!! I THOUGHT I WOULD HELP YOU BY EXPLAINING THIS TO YOU AS YOU CLEARLY DO NOT HAVE ABRAIN YOU KNOW THE THING THAT CONTAINS BRAIN CELLS AND HELPS YOU INTERACT WITH PEOPLE AND BE INTELLIGENT BUT YOU WOULDNT KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS.
I WOULD SUGGEST YOU GO AND JOIN A WOMAN HATING WEBSITE YOU BITTER **stard!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/7/2009 12:29:02 PM | biferro good for you for saying that nice to know there are some out there .
8soldierfalcon8 ler me ask you a question for min , if your mum was single and this guy liked her she liked him blah blah blah ..... but he said sorry but you have childern so i can't get involed......what would you think of that man? How would that make you feel ? | |
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Posted: 10/7/2009 8:37:17 PM | To all you guys that think it's a bad idea to date single women, just keep thinking that way don't let anyone change your mind. It just leaves more nice ladys out there for me to meet.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/8/2009 6:59:22 PM | 8soldierfalcon8 ler me ask you a question for min , if your mum was single and this guy liked her she liked him blah blah blah ..... but he said sorry but you have childern so i can't get involed......what would you think of that man? How would that make you feel ?
I'd think he was a pretty smart guy.
My mom had a kid when my dad met her. My dad didn't really give me much dating advice.
He only said two things about dating. Never date a woman with a kid, and always look at a woman's mother very closely before marrying her.
I ignored the last piece of advice before getting married... and if you look at my profile, it says "divorced" now.
My family promoted logical thinking, and accepting consequences for bad decisions. For instance, if I were to drive drunk and hurt myself or someone else, my family would have NO SYMPATHY for me. That's how it should be.
So your example/question is totally baseless. I would not treat a single mother any differently or think of her differently if she were family.
-8sf8
PS - I have a lot of friends who are single mothers... and they all understand my views on this subject. However, all of them understood what kind of choice they were making when they made the choice to have their child, as as such, they focus on raising their children.
They are mothers. They place all of their priority on their child(ren), not dating or having lots of "fun." I am friends with them and respect them because they are soley devoted to their children. But still, would I date any of them? Not if hell were to freeze over. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2009 8:08:20 PM | If the single mother is still involved with the father, as in mentally.physically involved, not just co-parenting involved, stay far away from that.
The thread could go on into infinity,yet the basic answer is the same, SOME MIND------ SOME DONT MIND. Every man is an individual, just as us women are, and will have differing feelings on it. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2009 8:38:37 PM | Ditto to all you've said. I need a companion for me, the kids have a Dad, Im stable financially and professionally. Yet there is this ongoing fear,of a 16 and 18 year old, kids with excellent conduct and grades. Guys think that there wont be time for them
After all the years of supporting myself thru school, buying homes and cars, raising children, I can balance time and money.
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Posted: 10/8/2009 11:11:06 PM | | 8soldierfalcon8 I'm not saying that your not entitled to your opinon , however what i am saying is when you make a comment like this ' accepting consequences for bad decisions' its seems to be a tad harsh don't you think . Childern are what 'consequences ' lol well i heard people call them something but that !!! omg . Thank good ness NOT all men think like you . | |
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Posted: 10/9/2009 8:27:57 AM | I have been asking myself that same question. On more than 50% of the womens profile it reads " not intrested in dating a man with kids or divorced". Why is that? I am not asking for a woman to be the mother of my girls, they already have a mother.
Get to know me for me then we can move on to my girls if it gets serious. The more screeners you put on your profile the less chance you have of finding your other half.
We all are looking for the same thing "happiness". If they have been dating only men with no kids and they are still single why not try dating someone with kids, what do they have to loose? | |
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Posted: 10/9/2009 12:42:32 PM |
Childern are what 'consequences ' lol well i heard people call them something but that !!! omg . Thank good ness NOT all men think like you .
A consequence is something that follows a previous event... In of itself a consequence is neither good or bad, it just is...
If someone makes a decision, they have to realise that every decision can have a consequence...
Some people have never learned the concept of "unforseen consequnces"... and short of hitting them with a baseball bat, they likely never will.....
And no, not all men think like him, but many do... he's just more honest about it instead of the self-serving ones who will tell you whatever politically correct or warm and fuzzy pap they think you want to hear.... | |
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Posted: 10/9/2009 2:03:12 PM | | The problem I have with that concept of love me love my kids. I gotta tell you there are a lot of children who's parent thinks my baby is a doll when they are out there causing mayhem.Their are stories in the paper of gangs beating up people and there was the incident in B.C. Where a girl was set-up and beat to death because she wanted to belong to a group,they all came from so called good homes with both parents. I have seen very cruel acts perpetrated by kids. I know it ain't your kids who the hells are they not mine I have none. Nice kids at home to mommy is not always the child society ends up dealing with most parents don't know shit about their kids. they all believe theirs is perfect but the jails are full of someones child. wake up. strangers don't have to accept your version of your child.If your children truly are those decent ones I believe most men can find common ground and accept them. your addamant stand on not my kid, causes more problems than accepting the simple truth we may not get a long they might actually be **** nuts. We must accept abuse from them based on you ain't my dad shit,they are not your children. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/9/2009 3:05:59 PM | | amen.....ive found so many more women that are 30-45 w/kids dont want real relationships ,so many do the cougar thing an hook up with younger guys just for sex and its is hard to compete with 20-25 yr old versions of ourselves,its a different time an an uneven playing field now a days,the women have the advantage in custody an child support even if they do the wrong morals are not concidered in divorce an it reflects on society as a whole,look how many women teachers are messin with teenage boys,what is wrong about all of it is that there is no acountability from neither side thats why the divorce rate is crazy high,its ez to quit an not try,that goes for both men an women. sorry got on a rant... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/9/2009 3:11:35 PM | | men usually need a woman being there more than visa versa,its in our dna,women used to need men for stability an financially now they can get that an not deal with a grouchy husband thats tired from workin 12 hrs a day,they can have there cake an eat it to,i know for a fact,i live this,yet men tend to be more needy we want a woman to be there for us more than most women want a man to be there for them...imo | |
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Posted: 10/9/2009 3:16:10 PM | | also its easier said than done about enjoying the kids ,most men have to pay child support an then try to establish another home for themselves an their kids to,so it is a lot more difficult when you gotta work crazy hours just to squeak by,an then when dog tired try to just enjoy the kids all the while not having a coompanion to help you,that is very difficult trust me,my situation didnt get better til i got split custody wk on wk off,i believe good dads are paying the price for the deadbeat ones in this world.....imo | |
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Posted: 10/10/2009 1:25:12 AM | You know reading most of this topic makes me laugh ........no really it does.... i mean most peopleo here over 40 have got childern , and in one way or another have become single does it really matter how or why , and we're here on a 'DATING' site i use that term loosey , because to be honest it just appears to be a place where people are just taking a cheap shot at one another for having childern ........Who are you people who assume that any single parent male or female is in fact not worth the time of day ???? ..............Does that also mean that divorced people are not worth anything either i mean come on they where married must be something wrong they an't no more are they , those whose are parents who's childern donot live wtih them are they worthless too??
If your still have Huge chip on your shoulder becasue of past relationships that have not worked what the hell are you doing on a dating site .......?
Heard the old saying ' Never judge a book by its cover'
People may of become single parents for a number of reasons .......they got married way to young .......they may of been in a voilent relationship , they could of simply not loved who they where with any more , the other person may of had an affair , the childern may have been at risk so they had to leave for the childerns sake ...the list is endless and YET supposedly GROWN UP people seem to be so narrow mind that they just think .........they are used up and way past there sell by date ....Get a grip and grow up reading most of the anti parent post on here i would of thought they where wrote by totally naive teenagers ............not by supposed Adults .
Chidern are a blessing no matter if there parents are together or not .
I'm so glad that there are people in this world who are not as narrow minded the bitter ones on here ...get at grip!
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