| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/5/2006 10:50:35 PM | I have noticed a growing number of single dads.
Or perhaps I just didn't notice them untill I become one.
I am raising 2 very young sons.
As far as dating a single mom. I have no problem with that what so ever.
CORRECTION!!!
I would date a single mom ...but... none have asked me out!
CORRECTION2:
I have been asked out, but I don't count those because the dates were affordable trips to Russia, China, Phillipines, etc...
Which brings to mind a question.... so many women have mention on their profiles about how they like to travel, so why is it they not offering to pay for these travel trips?
Ok serious comment...
(notice people instead of "men", more often women are doing this too!)
Some people just don't want kids at all.Some people only want their own kids.
Some people realize the kink kids would throw into their way of life or goals.
Some people already have kids with someone else and don't want more.
Some people already pay child support and can not afford more kids.
Some people may just use that as a excuse to get out a real relationship.
Some people like being able to walk around the house nude or in their drawers.
Some people like nto stepping on toys!
Some people refuse to allow themself to get pissed on, even buy a newborn.
Some people have never known to pleasure of true unconditional love.
Some people can't but want too.
Some people never want too.
Some people are incapable because it's not in them. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/6/2006 3:16:29 AM | I find this funny from a woman who has in her profile....does not want kids...looking to hang out.
To ShadowKnight59 just because I don't want any more children of my own doesn't mean that I wouldn't welcome a man with children. That statement was taken out of context. And as for the hang out part I am getting ready to move to a different state and didnt want to get seriously involved with anyone where I currently reside. I am now looking in the state where I am moving. Not that I should have to explain myself to you or anyone else. have a good day.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/6/2006 9:47:03 AM | here is my take on this issue:
I think loveworthyness is an alot like creditworthyness. Positive things improve your score,
negative things lower your score. Kids don't really lower the score so much as divorce does.
A divorce is just one of those negative things that nags at you.
It makes me think. Gee, allready ditched one hubby after having expressed her eternal love for him before God, her family and friends. Does she respect the mariage vows still? Will she respect our vows if things ever go to that level?
Thankfully life isn't so black and white. You need to ask followup questions:
1. Did she leave him because she was bored? Ok.. don't get involved with her.
2. Did she leave him because she was cheating on him? Ok... don't get invoved with her.
3. Did she leave him because he was cheating on her? She's ok then, but may have trust issues.
4. Did she leave him because he was abusive? Ok, good for her, but you worry that he may come back and beat the crap out of you in jealous rage.
5. Did she leave him because they "just grew apart" or "he wasn't mature and I had to be the grownup" etc, etc etc.
She isn't worth it dude. Marriage vows are too sacred to fall victim to "just grew apart" syndrome. That is so lame when people use that excuse.
6. Did she leave him because "she just wasn't happy, it wasn't him but she just wasn't happy". Again she isn't worth it dude. Damaged goods.
Basically any divorce who left for any reason other then the other spouse cheated on them
or the spouse was abusive is not worth your time because they don't belive in the mariage vows. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2006 1:08:44 AM | dam girls who have kids pref only one as i want my own one day r more apeeling to me as i want a family and to me it the most inportent thing in life
but as i am not a model or tonned body uses look stright over me and i wonder some time what was the guy who got u pregnet like maybe lowing standeds might help as there r plenty of nice guys out there who girls just look stright over thats my opion any way it personaly what i see  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2006 5:17:44 AM | | Being a man and a single dad of 2 girls, who has dated a number of women who have children, i can sympathize with the plight of ANYONE when it comes to dating ANYONE who has children. This is not just a female issue, its both sexes who are equally discriminated against here. I have had 2 fairly long and failed relationships with women with children, and i can say that from experience it becomes hard to want to go down that path again. We not only accept the new partner but these kids as well into our lives to. So not only do we loose the woman when things break down, but also the relationship you have built up with the kids, which in my experience is the most painfull part as you have no rights at all not being biological. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2006 5:24:16 AM | hi.
i am a mum to 6 children.
i am finding it difficult to find a partner.
yes i know it is alot of baggage.
but i would still love to meet mr right.
hopefully on this web site.
but single parents come as a package so to speak.
i wouldnt have problem with a guy who has kids.
i would love him for who he is | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2006 5:31:12 AM | Of course men date women who have children. The majority of the single women I meet are single parents. I'm more surprised when I meet someone who doesn't have children.
Finding a date isn't a problem for a single mom. That's easy. But fostering a serious relationship, now that may be a different story.
For whatever reasons, I'm sure there are many men out there who do not want to submerge themselves into a serious relationship with a woman who already has kids, especially in cases where the children's father(s) is absentee and the woman is responsible 24/7 for the children.
My own personal experience with single mothers is that the dating experience goes a lot smoother when the woman has a dependable/responsible ex-husband/baby-daddy who spends time with the children and allows the mother some free time to be an adult and do adult things. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2006 6:51:01 AM | In a word "YES".
I am 42 and started my family very young so my youngest is 17. I have found that most of the women I have met from any online service have kids of some age and most of them between 6 and 14.
I was planning on getting my kids raised, on their own and out the door so that I would be young enough to enjoy life, but I have also decided that if the lady that I want to spend the rest of my life with has kids then that will just add to the package.
I for one will not be so bull headed as to loose a good woman because I couldn't accept her family as my own. After all it is a package deal and the kids are part of what makes her what she is.
I guess that was more than one word! 
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2006 7:32:55 AM | | Hey there shedevil. It works both ways ya know. I am a single dad of a teenage daughter and I find alot of women that won't date because I have a child. Its just not fair....lol.... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2006 7:52:17 PM | From One child to Seven, each situation is unique.
I have dated woman with children. Never yet more than Two.
Not sure if I could date a woman with 5,6 or 7 children.
There would be a tremendous amount of pressure on the new relationship.
As I am a self admitted needy person - when would we find time together
with all these children. I remember the Brady Bunch TV show that the parents
never had much alone time together. The short answer is yes I would date
a woman with a child, given she is divorced | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2006 9:39:51 PM | piano.... I understand where u are coming from. There are gold digging self indulged women out there. Probably very few that would admit to being such a women. Even though u have been burned and/or seen others burned in the past please dont lump all single moms together. Some of us are really trying. I fully understand it is hard for men to be with a women that has children.. its a great deal of responsiblity even if most women claim not. To be with her is to be with her kids. Which causes the stress level of a relationship to start at a high level. I personally believe (and probably will be crucified by my fellow moms) that a women must be subserbiant to her man. That if hes the "sole" provider for the family then his dinner should be on the table when he walks in the door. That the house should be cleaned, laundry done..ect. If he works then she works within the home. Thats just how it should be. If both people are working ... well I still feel the women should bare more of the home load than her husband because more than likely his job is more demanding. (this excludes "self proclaimed" Mr. Moms) I believe the home should ALWAYS be clean. No EXCUSES! Im tired of my friends that have kids having dirty houses and blame it on raising children. Well Im raising three of them...5,3, and 2. Im going to college full time and working full time so I dont become a "welfare" statistic. Dont get me wrong Im not saying welfare is bad, Im saying all the lazy SOB's sitting on their butts whinning are making it bad. SO therefore I find NO REASON outside of a physical disability why their houses should be dirty. Im sure about now some are wondering why I am single ..right?
Well thats because I did all the things I was suppose too. Waited on my man hand and foot. Served all his friends. Always had a clean house. I was the one that worked. I was (and Im not one to brag... really Im not) , but I was the perfect women/girlfriend/lover. All of his friends told him he was stupid for messing it up. He had a good thing. I left because as u say there are "no good women"... he was a "no good man". That wouldnt and didnt act as part of the family. He had children from before me that I loved and cared for and sometimes still do.
.....My point is that there is bad in all categories.... why dont u look for the positives in them too! Everyone cant be so bad.
...i.e. why am I still single because I continue to be a bum magnet and I choose not to date those kinds of man. :) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2006 10:14:56 PM | Well you are a rare breed. I have 6 kids with only 3 at home, and it seems like men want to chat and more and act like they love your family. Well time will tell. caio | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2006 10:35:05 PM | HELLO THERE IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO TALK SOMETIME I HAVE 2 CHILDREN AND IM A GREAT DAD IM THINKING IT IS HARDER TO MEET THE RIGHT PERSON BECAUSE KIDS SCARE ALOT OF PEOPLE OFF CHEERSE MATE  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/8/2006 2:37:02 PM | It amazes me that you would have such a hard time finding a woman who would be willing to take a chance on a man who has his kids 24/7. I as a single mom have my kids 24/7 and actually refuse to date any man who doesnt already have children, because people without children, truly dont get the responsibilities we have as fulltime parents.Good luck withyour search, im sure soon enough you wont have any trouble.I find the hardest thing, is where do you meet people? I hate being set up and im not a big bar person. I usually work so much or am out with my kids, how do you tell if a dad at the park with his kids is single or not lol..Have a great day all.. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/8/2006 11:07:44 PM | Hi there I'm a man and I was 30 years old and am now 50. When I met a woman with a boy 5 and a girl three. I fell in love not only with her but also her (our kids now).
So believe me we are out there, you just have to be in the right place and time to meet him  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/11/2006 10:54:38 AM | | I have to agree is there men out there that date woman with kids????????? I have had many experiences with trying to find a man...they say that kids don't bother them but when it comes down to it you know it does...i have found many men interested up until the point that you tell them you have children then they run screaming...afraid of a little challenge..I tell them out right that i am not looking for a father for my children but someone for me..to do things with...i mean i have been a M.A.D.D.Y (mommy and daddy) And no guys it's not a gender issue...i played both roles for 14yrs now and have become great at it...I am a young mom with 7 yes 7 children,( which most guys don't like) hense why i am still single and looking....5 live with me and 2 live with thier father....and yes i have alot of kids but doesn't change the woman i am..i have alot of patience and love to go around....I am not afraid to date men with kids either..... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/12/2006 2:51:41 AM | I havn't got a problem with dating people with children. I think there are enough in the world anyway so not sure if I actually want any of my own! lol I think that guy's that suddenly change when finding out you have kids;
1) Obviously hasn't read your profile!
2) Is shallow and only after one thing!
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3) Could never hold down a relationship even if he tried!
The good ones do exist, they are just a lot harder to find! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/12/2006 5:00:00 AM | Hey Shedevil1971...
Not all of us believe that a woman with kids is looking for a guy to take over from a dad that isn't there...
Personally, I would rather have a woman with kids... cause I love'um... especially the little critters...
It's never good when one parent is absent... just plain selfish... but, that is people sometimes... if you wanna chat... just beam me up... I'll be right here...
Oh, and good for you...! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/14/2006 5:30:56 AM | lets see if my expirience can help. if in the first 2 minutes of a conversation a single mom says" oooo you have a steady job with medical insurence, i like that" your going to push a guy away.
when a single mom says" i like you, i bet you would be great at watching my kids while i go grocery shopping friday and saturday nights between 9pm and 2am" that usually will push a guy away.
oh yes the ever popular "i need help rasing these kids and you have a job that pays decent with insurence, i really love you, lets get married right now", yeah that tends to drive guys away.
and lets not forget "i need someone with a job to supprot these 5 kids i have" that when they guy ask why isn't their father helping you say "well father #1 was just so hot i had to have sex with him, he's a dead beat now, father #2 said he loved but than he go me preganant and left, father #3 had a good paying job, but he left me, father #4 was so hot i just had to have sex with him, father #5 left me cause he didnt like that i cheated on him". than they have to add "im not whore, im selective with who i sleep with".
than also when you tell a guy" i love you enuff to allow you to give me money to support my kids, but i dont want to date or sleep with you" that usually drives guys away.
oh yeah i almost forgot " i am an indepentdent women who is not looking for money from a guy, i can support my kids without help." 5 minutes later, "can i have some money to buy dipers". | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:10:15 AM | | I think it is people in general...the same thing happens to me....from a single-dads point of view. There doesn't seem to be alot of those special people out there who take intereset in single parents...makes me kind of bitter sometimes. | |
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