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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/14/2006 4:01:35 PM | | i personaly prefer to date a women who has kids i think that they are more mature, and less likely to be into playing games or at least that was my first thought but then i dated a couple different ones ( at different times ) and the moment that the relationship started to get serious they ran. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/14/2006 9:19:26 PM | I have to say I agree with this. I am 39, I really can no longer to expect to find a woman my age bracket ( 29-42 ) that not only don't have kids and want them, but want a serious relationship ( In my good ol party town anyway).
The last relationship I was in was by far the best I have ever been in. She, 33, two kids, 11 & 8, I loved a lot of what we had. It fell apart for reasons that I still feel terribly about. But it taught me one thing for sure:
I want a family and I am more than willing to date a woman who is a single mom.
..........but I am thinking I might need to move to Canada. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/14/2006 10:13:04 PM | | Im amazed as to how far this thread has gone. I dated many women that had children prior to me having my son. Wasnt planned....but ya cant just cease falling in love. Ill still date women w/ children.......always say..."to each is there own". | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/14/2006 10:51:04 PM | | hmm i would date a woman who has kid(s) i have a daughter as well :) aside from that...when im at a park and i see a mom with her daughter..i just assume that she is taken yes....but scared to ask...because...its a scary world out there for someone my age to be goin up to women like that...guys get angry :( they seem to think that some guys want to break up a happy life or something i dunno...just there are lots of great women out there..and if i could find away to find out if they were single without makin someone mad..i would :P | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/15/2006 5:45:08 PM | | I have the oposite problem as a man,,Im single never married and no kids,,not that I didnt want kids I just want to be married with kids ,not a week end dad, women look at me and think there must be something wrong with me because ive never been married and have no kids,,there are men out there that dont mind being a step dad of a sort you just have to keep looking | |
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ki0626
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Joined: 12/12/2005
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/16/2006 2:12:44 AM | Hi shedevil:
I for one have absolutely no problem with women with kids. In fact I find it hard these days to find a woman that will date me..I have two kids aged 17 and 10. I was in two relationships in the past 6 years, one woman had five kids and the other had an 18 year old son. The first one was going great for a while and her kids all accepted me and the youngest even asked me if she could call me daddy. Long story short,what it eventually came down to was,I was expected to do less with my own two and both women eventually started resenting the fact that I supported my children,and that my ex and I were civil to one another. One relationship ended when the mother of five just went online and got herself a new man and told me to leave.(not until her house was renovated though)and the other one, just would not allow my kids in the house, and even wanted me to stay in motels when they were visiting me.To answer the obvious next question..no my kids are both well adjusted,and were nothing but nice to either of them. Its been my experience that its the other way round,women WONT accept another womens kids. They say they can and will, but ultimately they just cant. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/16/2006 11:31:31 PM | | most combined households don't work and some sociological studies show that you are literally flipping a coin with a fifty /fifty chance that one of the introduced partners will abuse the non-biological child in one way form or another. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/16/2006 11:40:03 PM | | Of course they do, as plenty of people have already pointed out. I myself am a single father of a son...I dated a girl who was 18 and already had 2 kids of her own. Her kids didn't break us up by scaring me away or anything, her cheating did that. Hahah! Oh well, I saw it coming, it was with the father of her children. So a warning for guys who do decide to date women with children: Be suspicious of the woman's ex! Just playing...But, seriously, be prepared for some complicated relationships and maybe some emotional baggage... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/17/2006 9:06:45 AM | Hey I told you I'd reply so here it is and you may not like what I have to say but here it is anyway..... Ok first of all I'm not sure who you've dated with kids but I don't understand your opinion.First of all I am one of those mothers of more than one. I find one child is more demanding of a mothers time then multiple children who tend to amuse themselves and be less spoiled.Second a father is a father and can't be replaced just as the mother would not want to be replaced.So I don't understand why someone would have to keep in mind that your not the father.I find kids can love anyone who treats them well. In a more serious relationship then just dating the man can still be respected and loved just flat out as family and an important part of their lives not as you being thier father.As for just dating well then that guy should be regaurded as mom's friend. a kid can tell if that person is extra special to the mom. 3rd Financially I hope no one has ever tried to hold you responsible for thier children I myself have alway done what I've had to support my kids because they are mine and that makes them my responibility. I would considermyself lucky to find man that could just under stand that. Both me and my chilren are fine on our own and I like it that way. But to have that company is what I want not someones bank acct. no matter how big or small.
So I hope this wasnt offensive to you but I just sort diddnt completly agree with you. But I did like the end of what you had to say. So if dating got to be more serious for you would you do things such as camping ect. with that woman and her kids, even though their not yours? Dont get me wrong I thing time alone or with adults only is important but if a woman was serious about you she might want to include you in the things that she does with her kid(s) sometimes. Sorry this was so long. lol | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/17/2006 2:19:54 PM | What's wrong with dating a woman with children? NOTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!
How a woman reacts/interacts with her children is a good indicator of how she will act with you. Now I realize that children and lovers are two totally different things, but if she is patient, understanding and totally loves her children. Her heart is big enough for you too.
"The heart is not limited to the contents of a box, but expands as needed to be filled by Love." | |
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Saige
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Joined: 5/4/2006
Msg: 414 | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/17/2006 11:20:04 PM | | I've found that as soon as you tell them you are a single mother , they tend to look at you like you have 3 heads. Why is that? I'm not the only one that made the kids last time I checked it took two to creat a child. I've ben single for almost 4 years now and I'm starting to think that I'll stay single. I get so agnry when they say " you have kids " ? Grrrrr I sometimes feel like asking them if their mother gave birth to them as adults? What do they expect ! for all the single mothers to just up and walk away from their child/ren? Like that's going to happen buddy. Get a life. Just because the man/men in our life decided that they wanted to be dead beats and not take on their part of the responsibility isn't our fault. I think men like that need to give their heads a shake and look around them. I'm betting that they have a friend in the same possition that we are in. Well I guess I've ****ed enough sorry guys. I know not all guys are like that. However a large majority is. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/18/2006 12:42:38 AM | | i do under stand what you are saing summer i am in the same boat as you are i am a single father of 2 kids and the mother of my little girl is not in her life i would love to date a single mom if i could find one that be willing to give me a shot and dead beat dads make me sick its ***holes like that give use good guys a bad name | |
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Saige
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Joined: 5/4/2006
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/18/2006 5:17:55 AM | Why is it there seems to be so many men and women saying they cant find anyone who wants to date a single parent.Either you're looking in the wrong places or maybe you're just not for them..For me its a little different I guess because I wont date anyone who doesnt have kids, so am i being as bad as those people who prefer not to date anyone who already has kids.???.I mean think about it,, its a huge thing for anyone to eventually decide to be a major part of a childs life specially when that child is not yours. Unfortunatly so many single parents have given others a bad name, such as gold diggers, but i guess its all one in the same to me, when you meet a guy and he is in between jobs, does that make him a bad person? No , but do you really wanna date him.. Its just a personal preference that people are entitled too.Its nothing against being a single parent.Im proud to be a single mom, because I know what I am providing for my kids and no matter what i know I can stand on my own 2 feet..Dont take it personally,its just something people either wanna date you or they dont.I dont hide the fact I have kids, i also dont hide the fact that I wont date anyone who doesnt have kids.Read my profile..Have a great day all.. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/18/2006 7:16:47 AM | | Hey, I must say I am wondereing the same thing. I am a single mom with 4 kids and I'm only 30 yrs old. I find that men are ok for the first couple of dates but when they realize that the reality of 4 children is much different then the idea of 4 children they turn tail and run. I am tired of being rejected like this. Sometimes I think that I should just give up trying to find the man who will actually try to get to know me before they dump me. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/18/2006 7:20:58 AM | | Trust me rescue-me-today....I know the feeling of men turnig tail to run....I am 31 yrs old with 3 kids and at 1st they say o I love kids I would love to help you raise them , your kids are my kids...blah blah blah blah...give it about a week if that and buh bye now is what you dont hear cuz they alredy bounced | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/18/2006 7:30:51 AM | Rescue-me-today, I think very few men will be willing to accept a five people package. It is economically unfeasible, and probably the guy would have to forget about having children of his own. Never mind if you are a great woman, 4 children is simply too much. Moreso if you limit your age bracket to 27-40 (who not only are the most eligible bachelors and normally have their pick of women, but most of them are economically able to support only one or two people, not six) and have a nick implying you need to be "rescued".
Perhaps you should expand your horizons. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/18/2006 8:13:08 AM | Come are girls we are better than this!! I to have sulked over whether good man exist out there. We need to focus more time on us and less on a man. We DO NOT need a man to complete us. Yes loneliness sucks, but wouldnt u rather be alone waiting on a good guy than sulking over all the men that dont want us?! Some people like apples and some like oranges. Some like girls with no children, others are ok with it. Some like them thin, some like them thick. It all boils down to how u feel about u. A persons self esteem is a good indicator of how they will act in a relationship. Would u date a man that constantly needed u to tell him he wasnt fat, ect... or a guy that always told u he was hot?.. probably not. Looks might catch a man, but personality keeps him whether u have kids or not. I know guys that are with girls they never would have dated and say its because of who she is inside that attracted him. When a person dates someone with children they have to take on the whole package including resonsibility.. some guys are just NOT ready for that and the ones that are spend so much energy trying to fix the girl from past scares that he gets emotionally exhausted and ends it. It gets blamed on the fact that we have children when in fact it was us. So before we enter a relationship make sure ur healed from past wounds. This is not all single moms but this covers a bunch of us. We all are beautiful women... Dont let a man or a relationship define who u are!!!! Ur just as wonderful single!!!!!
<3 mandy
p.s. sorry if I upset anyone  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/18/2006 9:09:03 AM | | Ive got afive month old babygirl who is the most beuatiful thing that ever happened to me.if a guy cant accept i have a baby then hes deffinatly not worth me gettin upset over. but it would be nice to know there are some near by who do date sinle mothers | |
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