| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/18/2006 10:09:31 AM | Well, thank god, I can answer this (well at least give my two cents worth).....but only because of a guy I just started dating......yes, there is men out there who date women with kids (I have 4). Funniest thing is, he has 4 kids too. He only has custody of one of the kids, but when he told me how many he had, my jaw hit the floor....what a coincidence. The guy is absolutely wonderful (so far). My kids have even met him, and they adore him and his son. He's really good with the kids (believe me, I monitor). I'm waiting for him to tell me he's married or something...LOL. And I checked his background, he got in a little trouble when he was 18, but other than that- he's clean. Yes I know the whole check thing is stupid, but after the last crap I went thru, with the druggy convict that participated in getting me pregnant and praying that I miscarried, I don't think a person can be too cautious.
I was actually shocked when he invited me and the kids over for mothers day. He cooked! My friend went to school with this guy, and she was there when he invited us over. She wanted to die laughing. She said "that may not be wise......you don't know her kids- they are wild!" ( My kids are way too wild). But he was okay with it. He said "thats okay, so's my son". He seems to be very patient and soft hearted......where's he been all my life He is also very attentive. Has no problem talking or listening, and isn't afraid to hug me for the fun of it. We actually found we have quite a bit in common. He's even going to the horse show with me this weekend, to watch me run (I barrel race). Thats just not something I'm used to- I'm usually pretty much on my own at the shows...other than talking to other barrel racers there. I can't wait till this weekend...........we're also going  ......I love fishing! Well, I better climb down from cloud 9 now!
I'll leave with this......WoooooooWhoooooo! There are guys out there who date fluffy moms with 4 kids!
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/18/2006 12:20:00 PM | LEMME TELL YA SOMETHIN...THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MANY OR TOO BIG OF A PACKAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THE MORE THE BETTER I SAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
O AND LISA...LMAO I LOVE THIS..I'll leave with this......WoooooooWhoooooo! There are guys out there who date fluffy moms with 4 kids!
Lisa
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!
HAVE A GREAT DAY YALL!!!!!!!!!!
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/18/2006 3:15:10 PM | Why wouldn't a man date a woman with kids?... There really aren't too many who don't have any these days. Children are actually a bonus I think. It actually keeps a woman balanced a little better in my opinion.
What guys don't care for is a woman who's illiterate or can't make her own wants, needs or thoughts manifest. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/18/2006 4:07:06 PM | | Yes they do, I have dated women with children and helped them out with the child. The bad thing was when the relationship went sour and the child was attached to me..It was hard on me do even leave but I had to because of the situation with the women. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2006 4:10:31 PM | I am struggling with the same challenge. I have three children and their father has little involvement in their lives.
Now, I've found someone who has become a very close and intimate friend, but he has clearly stated from early on that he won't date a woman with kids. I honestly hoped that over time he might change his views, but in the end to what point and purpose. Perhaps I am expecting to much and the compromise would end in the destruction of our friendship. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2006 4:21:47 PM | There are men out there that will date women with kids so thats not the problem. The problem is finding them. I have tried to find single fathers or men who are willing to date women with kids but its like finding a needle in the hay stack. I have dated 2 single fathers in the past and have no problem with it but its just hard to find them, thats why I am still here  | |
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Posted: 5/18/2006 5:27:37 PM | I know that they are out there. I did meet a single dad with 5 kids. However he was only interested in sex and not a relationship. GRRRRR I'm thinking that where I live is not the spot to find him. I know that having children is a huge responsiblity not only for a single mother but for anyone that wants to date her. But what is she to do. Say " opps sorry kids I have to leave you because I really like this guy. " NOT IN A MILLOIN YEARS With the way the Economy is right now it is hard to make it as a single person. Kids are who we are and who we were. I think that everyone with or with out children should give everyone a chance. We are who we are no matter what, having kids are just a bouns.  | |
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Posted: 5/18/2006 9:11:58 PM | I agree with the other females...i'm a single mom and i make it pretty clear right off the bat with any man i'm getting to know that i have kids and they are my first priority. I don't just drop everything to go out or try to locate a babysitters last minute. Things are alot harder to plan when you have children, so men have to realize that. Why is it that men always think that women are looking for a sugar daddy to look after her or her kids?? i have a great job, that supports me and my kids very well. Single moms are very strong individuals that can over come anything when it is dealt to her.
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Posted: 5/18/2006 10:10:26 PM | Actually, I should ask him about his family.....ooops, I was too busy getting my back rubbed...I just can't figure out for the life of me where this guy came from- where he's been hiding all my life. Tonight I told him about my last half a** relationship, and the whole pregnancy problem that had happened....... (he asked what was on my mind, and told me to tell him all of it. He said he noticed I tend to keep things to myself). I was worried he would run far and fast. Nope. He said "where we going tommorrow? Up north or your place? Then he added if we went up north we would be stopping at his familys house. I just cant understand......he says he's the lucky one. Thats not how I see it. Cant wait.....fishing.....horse show......mushroom hunting......singing karaoke (if theres enough hours in the day)......visiting my friend and his family........and he even mentioned stopping by the casino for a little fun. I hope we dont wear ourselves out too bad!
To fluffy women every where.............we rock! AND keep on fishin' if you catch one on the small size......think about it before you throw it back in.......if you catch one that fights like hell and stinks like a** hole.......catch and release man......catch and release......life's too short for that. And by gosh, if you catch that keeper- make sure theres plenty of fresh water in the live well, get rid of the stale stuff, and start with new.
Have you ever heard the song "Lonely women make good lovers"?
I honestly think it should be called "fluffy women make good lovers". My friend and I actually have started singing that song before, changing the lyrics to suit us. In fact, my singing is what got Tims attention (different song though)! Thats too funny. He spent the whole night asking me to sing to him again. What a ham!
I should be back online several times tommorrow.....that is until about 7 pm......then my time is going to be reserved for some else 
You haven't heard the last of me.....LOL
Isn't it funny how love makes you feel?
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/19/2006 7:52:58 AM | I actually read every post on this thread. It's been answered in every possible way. I guess my only answer is a question - there are so many men out there who would date a woman with children - why did I not see a single one in my area???  | |
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Posted: 5/19/2006 12:55:01 PM | wee_kay
Im sorry to read that you had your heart broken...but youre so young...trust me it will heal soon. I just want to say that I know of lots of men that will and do date single moms.
In fact in this day and age, its nearly impossible to find someone who doesnt have kids,at least for me....single women with no kids cant get away from me fast enough when they find out I have kids.
But it doesnt bother me, I dont blame them for not wanting to walk into an instant family. Its a very big step for childless people.
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Posted: 5/19/2006 3:18:01 PM | | Yum/Yuck/Yikes is right we're out here, it's just finding us isn't it? Still, you would need a decent telescope (and a satellite) to see me - I'm with the leprechauns in Ireland. Good luck with your hunt (and I do mean hunt), you want a man - go and get one. Don't be shy! | |
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Posted: 5/20/2006 2:22:11 AM | | Mandy......I agree!!..We all have some kind of baggage.....If a man isn't as interested in you because you have kids......he isn't the right man!! I have 3 kids and all I know is that when I get older...I will have all the love and support I have given to my 3 kids to give me comfort in my old age! If a man is unable to accept a woman with children..in my opinion, he is too self absorbed with his own needs...and don't know about you...but I don't want a man like that!! | |
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Posted: 5/20/2006 5:54:27 AM | parenting is the hardest most thankless job in the world,(its like being a coach) there are no performance reviews or rewards, the only review you get will be written on the person your child becomes,
, dating with kids can be very difficult becuase you have to be careful not to get involved with the wrong person , nothing worse than finding the person for you and they turn out to be the wrong person for your kids,,, you are better off dating someone with kids ,, they understand your commitment more ,, people without kids tend to call the game from the bleechers and have no idea wtf they are talking about
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Posted: 5/20/2006 7:22:34 AM | please don't assume every single mom with a child, has a dead beat for a dad. Don't flatter yourself with your " thinking all we want is money" You couldn't afford us with your min wage job at KFC... Just Kiddin.. BUt that post is just as, if not more ridiculous than mine.. My childs father supports her but hes not in the pic. so everytime i date someone.. hes assuming i want money beacuse i have a kid? | |
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Posted: 5/20/2006 8:59:55 AM | | Finally, some common sense on this issue! I am a single mom of one and I would not even dream of introducing my son to any man I was involved with until I knew for sure it was something serious and lasting. It's very difficult trying to juggle the jobs (career and kids) but you need to make time for yourself and be comfortable with who you are. I think there are lots of single parents out there who feel stigmatized. Perhaps she needs to hook up with another single parent... | |
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Posted: 5/20/2006 10:07:24 AM | You know Sweetie I was wondering the same thing. I had a very hard time when my children were a bit younger for some reason. Now my son is 16 and my daughter is almost 15 and it seems to have gotten much,much easier!!!! If they care about you, I mean really ,REALLY care about you and like you for who you are then the kid situtaion will not MATTER!!!! Always remember,you are a package deal and your kids are your gift from GOD and NO MAN is worth
making them second or putting them on the back burner for him.
Good Luck and Take Care sweetie!!!!!!!!
Michele
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Posted: 5/20/2006 11:11:15 AM | WELL MR WRITE GUY I JUST HAVE 1 THING TO SAY ON WHAT U SAID ^^^^^
BEING A PARENT IS THE MOST REWARDING AND THANKFUL JOB THERE IS OR EVER WILL BE!!
JUST THE SMILES ON THE KIDS FACES WHEN THEY SAY I LOVE YOU MOMMY/DADDY ,THE LOOKS IN THEIR EYES WHEN THEY ARE HAPPY TO SEE YOU, CHRISTMAS MORNIN, BIRTHDAYS,ALL HOLIDAYS HELL EVERYDAY OF THEIR LIVES THAT YOU GET TO SPEND WITH THEM SHOULD BE ALL AND EVERY AWARD OR THANKS YOU SHOULD EVER IN YOUR LIFE NEED! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/20/2006 7:57:40 PM | | I love kids and have no problem dating a woman with kids and will share a couple of my experiences. I have found that some kids have a real problem with mom dating period. I met one woman online we talked for quite some time and checked each other out through mutual friends. We decided to meet and go to the zoo and out for a pizza. As luck would have it we had a rainy day and opted to go to the museum instead. We had a good time anyway, at dinner she told me that her teenage son was not happy about her dating and would possibly be a bit unfriendly. She was right and I decided not to get in the middle of their situation. I also dated a woman with young children and the kids loved me. However, they were not aware of the fact that their mother was interested in any more than a friendship with me and the first time we met I invited the children as well. I gave them a tour of the farm and let them see and touch some of the critters and they had a blast. Only mother was interested in finding a bed partner for an upcoming campout with her friends and I was not interested in that so we parted after the second date. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2006 10:06:25 PM | FINALLY......I figured out what was wrong with mr. perfect! I caught him smoking wacky weed. To each his own- but I told him none of it at my house.....so he said we'd stay at his. Then he wanted me to drive him to town while he was finishing his beer-so he could buy more. I told him he'd have to leave his beer home....SO- his son and I ended up going out by ourselves. Then he was a jerk when we got back. SO I left, and went back the next morning, figuring his mood would be better. It seemed to be. But, he refused to do anything we had planned.....said he was busy, so his son and I spent the day fishing, mushroom hunting, at the movies, and at the horse show. We stopped in to try to get him to go with us, him and I spent some time together talking and cuddling. All seemed okay, just claimed he had forgotten that him and a friend had made plans to go to Lansing. so I had his son till about 10:30 tonight. Then I took him to his friends house.....who just happened to be an old aquaintance of mine. She Couldn't figure out what I meant when I said they were in Lansing.....They were trying to get her to party with them. So we drove out there. I caught him in bed with another woman. Blah, blah, blah, blah....what an a**. I guess if it seems too good to be true......................it is.
Maybe men don't date fluffy women with children.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/21/2006 1:03:06 AM | | I do not have children, though I have to say with out a dout that I would date and want to have a long term relationship with a woman, and mother of her children. I would however have to be attracted to her and have that chemistry there as she would also need to have the same. But other than that the answer woul be yes we do exist, though maybe in small numbers. We are out here, and we care!!! | |
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