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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/21/2006 1:51:07 PM | Im a single dad with 2 teenage sons and I often ask the same question about women dating men with kids, I dont see anything wrong with it but evedentally there are some with a different opinion. WISH YOU LUCK.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/21/2006 4:29:56 PM | LOOK YOU GUYS AND GIRLS....THIS IS HOW IT IS.....
THERE ARE GUYS THAT WILL DATE SINGLE MOTHERS WITH 1 OR EVEN 19 KIDS YA JUST GOTTA FIND EM.....JUST STOP TRYIN TOO HARD.....LOVE AND LIFE COMES TO YOU WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT TO. BE HAPPY WITH YOU AND YOUR KIDS AND WHO YALL ARE AS A WHOLE AND IF THAT MAN OR WOMAN HAPPENS ALONG THEN EMBRASS THEM WITH YOUR ENTIRE LIFE LOVE SOUL AND HEART BUT JUST DONT SMOTHER THEM TO THE POINT THEY LOK FOR NA REASON TO GET AWAY AND YOU STAT TO THINK IT WAS CUZ U HAVE KIDS.
KIDS ARE OUR LIVES AND OR INSPIRATIONS SO DONT THINK ITS THEM JUST LET THEM AND YOU BE WHO YOU ARE. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/21/2006 7:16:39 PM | I ask the same question always. I have 1 daughter that is 11. NEVER have i been married. So i do not have that kind of baggage(i guess thats what you call it). I have a friend that is a single mom as well.She has an ex-husband and they always stray from her. They say no way.
I am just tired of being single. LETS JUST TELL THE GUYS OUT THERE THAT WE ARE NOT LOOKING FOR A FATHER FOR ARE CHILDREN. We are looking for a lover/friend (at least i am) Maybe that will change there minds.
thank you
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/21/2006 7:39:03 PM | | I cant imagine having kids with out a dad, but however I dont agree with women getting pregnant for the hell of it and hoping to get a man to satisfy their needs is so worng. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/22/2006 12:08:08 PM | | Nothing wrong with dating single mothers, however what men need to understand is, depending on the age and the quality of life that child enjoyed while you dated the mother, the man can potentially end up paying child support for a child that is not his. Also, you come second. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/22/2006 3:13:02 PM | Yes they do,but I think allot of us have given up on messaging those single moms,as they dont respond back allot of the time.I am not just talking about my expiriences,but other single guys I know on here who have tried to hook up with ladies who have kids.I have 'compared notes' with
more then a few,and have found this to be the case.I think that allot of single moms on here are VERY cautious in who they message back,and are even more careful then most. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/22/2006 3:33:18 PM | | well i don't see why not. i am divoriced an i spend most of my free time with the neighbors kids, 15 an 11. i have more fun with them. we bowl, rollerblade, roast hot dogs an what ever they want at the bonfire. there dad is what i call a dead beet. i but i spend in the $---.oo on them each year. i thing men are scared. but just don't know what they are missing. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/22/2006 4:17:10 PM | | True man huh? Interesting that you say that, but I had a friend who felt the same way you did, but after a 4 1/2 year relationship ended up paying child support. Believe me he feels different now. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/22/2006 7:59:55 PM | | i find myself with the same problem being a young mother i am 18 with 2 girls guys always get scared away i mean i'm young and young guys dont want that type of "baggage" that's what happened with their father makes me wonder how long i will be alone | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/22/2006 8:51:38 PM | spanishgirl I know exactly where u are coming from. I turned 26 today... and find that guys my age think its to much responsibility and older guys think Im looking for a handout. I say if I was looking for a handout Id smother their dad in child support, but Im not like that. I take care of them and myself >WITHOUT< welfare, child support, or a sugar daddy. I bust my ass working and going to college to make us a better life. I owe that to them!! All I want is a man that wouldnt mind going to the zoo, the park or just hanging out with us. Well me at first to see if hes worthy of them. Keep ur head up girl our boaz' will find us when the time is right!! *hugs* | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/23/2006 12:29:11 AM | Don't worry MandyKisses and Spanishgirl. There are actually guys like me (single dads) looking for girls like YOU!! I'd prefer the girl I date be a single mom. No offence to the other women out there. Now I know there are women out there that are looking for the free hand out and it's up to me to be careful and watch out for them. I'll know when I come across a winner (like you, Mandy  ) Keep your chin up and stay positive! Good luck in your search! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/23/2006 12:34:58 AM | | I met a guy and he was iffy on dating me because i have a child but, i had to sit and tell him that i am not looking for a father for my child i was looking for someone for me and my needs and well we been together for along time now...i think it is because they think we are looking for a replacement and doesn't want the responsibilities just yet! but ya it is kind of stupid | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/23/2006 1:00:55 AM | | I actully prefer to find a woman with kids. I am a single parent myself and hate dating so it is kinda cool to find a single mom that I can just hang out with. that way our kids can play together and I have a chance at adult conversation. some times, it works out to end up going out on a date but usually only after we have been friends for awhile (also works pretty good to just find a sitter that does a bulk rate and the kids get to hang out together while saving a bit on sitter fees since i usually take care of sitter fee's for both mine and hers when i take out a single mom unless she makes more money than me....then she can pay her own damn sitter...lol...just kidding) that does not work on sitters that charge the per child rate but most if 2-3 kids for 3-4 hrs i found charge about $40 so i just give them $50. and they are happy. and 2 single parent gets a few hours of silence, no need to repeat things 7,8,9 times before it is finally listened to (*wistles while shifting eyes back and forth* not that um my child has this problem...lol) my son is 7 so yup call me a sucker, but single moms with kids close to that age have a better chance than ones with no kids, in fact after my last girlfriend i dont think i will go for a woman that isnt a single mom.she always wanted to find a sitter and exclude my son from fun....why should i have fun and stick him at home with a sitter.....tisk some people are just better suited for responsability than others and by far a single mom is no stranger to this...... i posted my reasons for choosing single moms in a different thread that gave alot more detail on "why it is better to go with a single mom" if your bored and have time to waste reading a post by someone that to most out there likely dont matter my thoughts and reasons are detailed in a thread from someone wanting to know if it is true guys go for single moms cause they are sure she will give it up ( which she just ran into a azzhole that told her that to try and prevent her from looking for someone else i think) anyways if anyone really care what my opinion is say so ill try and find that thread and repost my thoughts since actully it is better suited to this thread anyways | |
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Posted: 5/23/2006 1:08:44 AM | | DAMN there are cute single moms out there that like racing??????????? I definatly need to get out more then, its a damn shame i dont live in texas ever been to Missouri??????........um i would like to place my order please . Ill have one of those cute single moms that like racing that lives somewhere close to North West Missouri please :-) and if not too much trouble yeah "ill have fries with that". | |
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Posted: 5/23/2006 1:34:31 AM | I figured since i found it again if anyone wishes to read it they can or not if you dont just skip over it..... this was what my responce was to the other thread that had this statment in it
------>One of my exs who I had met from here had made a comment one day that really disturbed me and got me thinkin. He said that guys go for single moms cause they have kids and they know they will put out. <--------
my responce and also currently how i feel was and is
Thread Title: Is it true??????
Posted: 5/20/2006 11 35 PM
damn you caught me thats exactly why i go for single moms. sorry but I would say you have been told a joke. i have heard that same statment and yes even used that line myself as a sarcastic attempt at humor in conversation in the context " well at least you know she is not a virgin" as for that being the reason guy's look to single moms....i would think it would be harder for you to come across one of those type of men, than just the type of guy that understands a single mom is no different then one without kids, except for the fact most seem to be smarter (from having to manage life, carrer, household, and raising her child alone) that could show a woman who is strong willed.... or the fact they are great at multitasking (nothing like trying to rush the clock getting breakfast made and kids fed, teeth brushed, beds made, making sure the kids have lunch money, schoolwork done, all in most cases less than 1 hr and thats including getting themselves dressed and ready for work and cant forget making sure the dog is fed and let out to pee so it don't make a mess in the house, while at work during the time the child/or children are at school, to finish the day rushing around picking everyone up, shopping done, dinner ready, dishes done, laundry done, baths given, floors cleaned and finaly making it to the bedtime stories, prayers to end their day only to start it all over again the next morning) that is perfect multi tasker experience. and it definatly wouldnt have anything to do with the fact they have enough stamina, and drive, to do all this every day. since they have the ability to handle all of the above on their own, coupled with the fact due to the riggorous demands required to be a functioning single mom your more likely to find someone NOT into partying, head games, playing the field, or beating around the bush, most are up front and honest about what they want out of life......... nope wouldnt have anything to do with the fact single mom's are also more likely to be interested in a man for what qualities he may have instead of how fat his wallet is, instead how well he is at sharing tasks required for daily life, or that alot of them would be content snuggling on the couch watching a DVD while the kids are upstairs asleep instead of a $200. night out on the town every week. so yeah that person that told you men go after single moms just so they can get laid was absolutly right thats the only reason a man would go after a single mother......well its true if the man doing it is a looser/player that prays on women which there are jerks out there like that....but more than likely i think the men out there that activly search for a single mother do so because they are smart enough to understand a single mother is the perfect choice for a companion because you know exactly what your getting into most wont hide the true person they are or who they wish they could be. they dont have time....but dont take my word for it.....i have 2 strikes against me 1.) I am just a male and 2.) I am also a single parent and do not have much time to completly search the facts i have stated because i am too busy dealing with the stuff i listed above myself each day while trying to find time to seach for someone doing the same in a hopes that maybe some day i will find my equal and entangle 2 different crazy worlds into one and split lifes duties and responsabilities in half by having a 50/50 partner and companion in life which if my math is right if im doing 100% and she is doing 100% wouldnt that mean when i find her and split it in half that would give 50% from each of us to the household and children thus leaving 50% for just us to to enjoy each other . and for you pesimists out there....dont pop my bubble the dream is the only thing i have to look forward to
lol
well those are my thoughts on dating single mom's there are many more reasons too if you care to hear them and your a cute single mom send me a email i will be happy to discuss it with you. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/23/2006 3:17:29 AM | oh gosh
If they 'went' in their pants he took them and put them in a cold bath.
that is a horable thing to do to a child i would call that a form of abuse i do hope you reported him for that, its crap like that which could have lasting ramifications on a childs mental well being and he had no business being a single parent if that is how he raised his kids....If there are single parents out there unsure of how to do things like potty training there are plenty of books writen to aid in the tasks, duties, and responsabilities required for raising a child....i ended up becoming a single dad with a 7 month old baby and no past knowledge of what to do at all (the first day i wasnt even sure what i was suppose to feed him since it was the middle of the night with no cloths diapers or food given with him thank god for 24 hr walmarts), if it wasnt for the fact books are out there to give you different options to pick from on ways to raise your children, what to feed them at specific stages, im not sure what i would have done I damn sure wasnt going to ask advice from any of my family half of them are stuck up snobs that look down on people less fortunate and the other half are likely to be found appearing on a episode of cops or jerry springer....before you do something stupid like that guy did read a book or search the net for what others have done dont tourture a child.....i didnt have any trouble training my son (granted i cheated i used the reward tactic he wanted a 2 wheel bike instead of his tricycle and my rule was no 2 wheeler till 2 weeks with no accidents 2 wheelers are for big boy's that dont need diapers anymore) he was trained from that day on and was riding a 2 wheel bike 2 weeks later.....since it takes 2 weeks for certain things to become habit, thats all it took to rid myself of the pamper bill at 2 yrs OOPS sorry got off topic that guy just pissed me off....my son is now 7 yrs old and its still just him and I and he does good in school has excelent manors, loves to help people so i must have done something right PSST not to brag but there is a pic of my little man in my profile. I have been reading alot of these post and keep reading from women that It is hard to find a man willing to date a single mom well i think it is harder to find a woman who would date a single dad than it is for a single mom to find someone i have been a single dad for 6 yrs now and in that time i have had 3 serious relationships 6mo,6mo,3yrs and a grand total of 4 dates with the last one being over a year ago and one before that being a year before that, so i guess it means im due for my yearly date, now hum where could i possably find one ....no clue im a single dad which means im never given a second glance as a guy society****ates it is I whom should do the asking on a date yet when i manage to get someone phone number or send a email it seams not long after the topic of me raising my son comes up things dont go any further and no date for me. hummm coinsidence??? or is it maybe due to that fact there are more guys willing to accept the fact a woman has kids than there are women willing to accept it i was told once by a women that i did manage to date one time that she didnt want to continue because she had 3 kids of her own and didnt wish to see me anymore because instead of finding a sitter for my son in order to come over to her house (which her kids were there) i kept bringing him with me hummmm i had to actully ask for clarity on that one, leave my kid home to come over to her house when her kids were there, um yeah she didnt have to tell me it wouldnt work out on the phone after i walked out, I never had any intention of going back anyways. so single moms out there in plenty of fish land since it seems the average i have read is 2-3 kids at home in your houses what chance does a guy with a son and before i had wished to have another baby but hell im 33 now im not so sure on that possability anymore, what do you ladies consider too many kids for a blended household to contain?????? guess im destined to just stay single till my son is a teenager then just give him the keys to my camaro and by myself a corvette and a harley and find a 18 year old blonde named buffy or something and give up on that whole family life dream i once had | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/24/2006 6:02:26 AM | | At least one is in Palm Bay Florida (that would be me). I enjoy "stable" women...and it seems to me that the "single Moms" are the stable ones. I accept the "package deal"...as I expect the woman to accept my daughter and step-son. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/24/2006 12:31:53 PM | I'm sure they are out there! Just a matter of where...
But I'm not looking to hard...my kids are my LIFE! Right now, my son is my #1 man...and when the time comes that I find a DECENT guy that can love me AND my kids...well then "woohoo" but right now...I'm a package deal...the way it is, the way it will stay.
It's alot harder to find someone you want to be 'serious' with when you have children, especially when they are still young (like in my case for instance) buuuuut...I'm sure they are out there.....sigh......somewhere...... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/24/2006 1:32:16 PM | | There are plenty of guys that dont mind other peoples kids. We've all got kids in our families whether they be sons daughers neices or nephews so if someone special comes along then i dont see why children should put a man off. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/26/2006 8:49:06 PM | There has been a lot of folks answering that yes, we are out here. I am a single dad with a teenager and an almost teenager of my own. It would be rather unreasonable and hypocritical of me to expect anyone I meet to not have kids but accept my own.
From my perspective, a single Mom would be more understanding of my own situation and thus someone with whom I would have more in common. We would at least understand some of the challenges we face as single parents. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/26/2006 9:56:17 PM | I have NO problem finding dates.I actually meet lots of men.I usually tell them right away that I am a mommy.
I find that most of them assume that I wont have time for them,or Ill need a babysiter and would have to cancel dates.I also know that some men think that Im looking for a "father" for my kid.
My baby has a dad who I hate but hes still a dad to my baby.
I am very independant and I definetly don't need any money from a man for my child.All we mommies need is some fun time.Sometimes we like having conversations with people over 2 feet tall that's all.And if it leads to something more than great but if not then thats cool also..So dont be scared of us..we wont bite unless you want us to. | |
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