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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/26/2006 10:44:59 PM | | yes we are here, some are just harder to find .but i am a single dad and feel the same way but its the reverse. hard to find a woman who wants me and my son. but we go together or we dont go at all i will not walk away from him for anyone and not even if it cost me my happiness. because he is my life and i will always be his father. but i am tring to find a lady who wants me and him . i am not looking for a babysitter because i take care of him but i am looking for a lady who wants to share in our lives and love us both . i am a little old fashioned and getting out of a 18 year marriage , love and trust is what i am looking for . so just dont give up we are out there . but when found we will go fast. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/27/2006 7:22:48 AM | I for one have no problem dating any woman with kids....it allows me to be a kid again...lol.There are so many cool places we can go together with kids.I myself have a 19 yr old daughter that is leaving the nest in the middle of next month,and I really dont want her to go.Even tho kids sometime show their butts,so do we,but still I have no problem dating one with kids due to the fact I get along with them so gr8.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/29/2006 7:54:48 AM | | I did, I had a very good 6 year relationship with a woman with two girls, helped with homework, pulled all there baby teeth...holidays like Christmas and Halloween are just that much better...but if you do leave the relationship...you leave alot...I went from instant family man...back to bachelor...no live in girlfriend...no one to come home to...no report cards...no weekends at the beach...even left my two fat orange cats behind because the kids loved them so much...and it took just that much more time to date. Now on the up side...I am about to pursue a carreer I have wanted for a long time...have become so physically fit...that meeting woman is like going to an orchard to find an apple | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/29/2006 2:34:31 PM | i understand your question. i've recently started asking myself this very same thing. i'm 23, a college student, and a single mother to my 2-year-old son. my son was not a mistake, as his father and i were engaged and seriously designing a life for ourselves. then, in august, i realized he was not the same person that i had met and wanted to be with, and we broke it off. my son is with me every other week, and i also have school and work. i'm not exactly looking for the party type, i guess that's why i look for more mature men that are a few years older than i, but it seems that the only men interested are those that are in it for sex. i want someone to be a best friend, to cuddle and stay in and watch movies with, someone that i could POSSIBLY see a future life with. i've received many "interested" parties wanting to spend time with me, but they don't bother to notice that i have a son. one guy, who was actually older than me, established and had a profession, claimed that he loves kids, and soon we were dating. he was sweet, and our time together didn't revolve around sex. then, one night, he just hightailed it. when, 2 weeks later, i hadn't heard from him, i contacted him, and found out that: "oh, you were perfect, you are exactly what i was looking for and more, and i feel so great around you. it wasn't you, it was your kid." imagine my surprise, as he had only met my son once, and very very briefly. not once had i brought up my son or tried to push him on him. so, yeah, i may be younger, have time to find someone, but for the meantime, it's discouraging. as i am young and have a son, why would some men ASSUME that i want more children or want to rush into tying them down? if nothing else, they should see that we've already accomplished motherhood, we don't have our ticking-maternity clocks chasing them.....i just realized i'm rambling, so i'm gonna stop. i would LOVE to find someone in my area that isn't so ASSUMING.... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/29/2006 7:14:18 PM | | AMEN SISTER...my kids are here to stay GOD willing....and if you dont like it dont let the door hit you in the keyster on your way out. Thats just the way it has to be....im not about to give up my own flesh and blood for a man....so he can accept the whole package or pack up and move out.... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/29/2006 7:17:29 PM | If you think that's tough... try being almost forty and my oldest of three isn't even in Kindergarten yet!
Some guys even tell you they love kids just to get a date but soon realize the kids are for real and they are GONE! Sure, it's ok to date a mommy but then if they think they are getting attached they freak about the kids and can't find the door fast enough.
I am beginning to believe I will truely never find a man who is interested in being with me for longer than two weeks. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/29/2006 8:02:20 PM | I'm new to this whole site, and have been exploring in here when I came across your question. I just want you all to know that there ARE guys out there that are good and decent and would love the opportunity to date a nice girl, with or without kids.
Personally, I dated a woman for five years who had a 4year old girl when we met. I'd never dated anyone with a child before, but I really thought this woman and I had a future together and I realized that if I wanted to be a part of her life, that her daughter would become a part of mine. Unfortunately, we're no longer together, but it was the most fulfilling 5 years of my life, I can assure you. I helped mould that little girl into a happy, well mannered little person and it was me she came running to jumping for joy when she got her first "A" in grade 1. To this day, I still keep in touch with the little girl...well...not so little anymore....try 15!
I would not hesitate for a second to date another women with kids. So to the women out there asking that question...don't worry...if you keep looking for us, our eyes will eventually meet, because we're looking for you!! Bye for now!
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BigG80
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Joined: 7/22/2005
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/30/2006 1:29:35 AM | | I've dated a woman with a child before and it was fine. I'm on the verge of entering another relationship with a girl with a child and its fine by me. Everyone has a history after all, its just some people have a living breathing memento. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/30/2006 6:12:17 AM | Speaking from the women's prespective, yes, there are men out there who will date women. I've dated both personally- men who have children and men who don't. Both have their pros and cons, but I would say at this point, based on my experiences, I'd perfer dating men who have children. Once a person has children, you life is fundamentally different forever, and it is nice to know that others can relate and understand that. In the case where I did have a relationship with a man who had no children, he was never fully able to grasp the concept that I had to make my decisions based on my child, not based on just his needs. It always seemed to be an issue, lurking in the background.
That being said, it makes me mad when I read dating profiles where a male is seeking a female... The male being in his mid-30's, single, no kids, and wants to find the same. I just think that you are seriously limiting yourself if you put up those kind of parameters in your search for a LTR. I would never let the idea of someone having kids or not be the deciding factor in whether or not I would date them in the future. That's just my 2 cents, others may have different experiences I am sure.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/30/2006 11:16:21 AM | | You are not in a minority Coffeecanuck! I totally agree with your decision. I have been divorced for 5 years. I have 2 boys (15 and 11). I have not been in a serious relationship since my divorce. I do go out on dates but do not invite them to my house unless they are at their fathers for the weekend. I have a friend that I have known for several years that does come over from time to time and he comes over when they are in bed and is gone before they get up. He is the only one that I consider having over with the boys here. They know him as an old friend of mine, nothing more. There isn't any attachments on either end. I am very protective of my boys. They already have a great father so they do not need another in their lives. My ex is one of my best friends. We have a great relationship and men seem to have a problem with that. They think that there is some hidden meaning as to why we are friends, as if one of us is still trying to hang on to the other. It's simple,we have children together. The first year of our divorce was very nasty but we realized that we couldn't expose the kids to our problems. We worked thru our differences and put the kids first and they are soo much better for it. If I were to get into relationship, I would let them know that I do have children and that they would not meet them until I felt it was best for them, months down the road. I have met some single dads and my hat goes off to them as well! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/30/2006 12:22:48 PM | | i agree that are men out there that would date a woman with kids...i was one of those women!! i have two wonderful kids, aged 7 and 5, and we moved into an apartment complex, where we met this wonderful, charming, cute guy who lived in the next building. and as time moved along, he and i started chatting over the phone, and going out for coffee...etc....by the way this guy was a single father also, so we had alot in common, namely about our exes,..anyways, his ex started to bud into out relationship, and i had no problem with it at all, but i drew the line when she found out where i lived and harassed me infront of my own kids...needless to say, that he went back to her, only b/c she was threathening him with custody battles....anyways, he was this sweet guy, who was under the control of his ex..so what about the single fathers who do live on thier own confortably, with their kids, and have the ex's that are so hateful and spiteful towards the new gf?? i don't know, after "brian" and i broke up, i felt that there was no one else out there for me, and now that i am a new graduate from a recognized business college, i find myself having more time to spend with someone special, where as before when i was in school, i gave up dating all together to concentrate on studies....so now, im back in the whole dating scene...it seems like i was frozen in time for 10 years..lol...anyways, dating is hard!!!! where are all the single, fathers or not, in canada!!! saskatoon mainly, lol...... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/30/2006 3:07:39 PM | | i'm a single parent with an 8 year old son. i haven't had any luck with finding the one for me. most of the men are narrow minded and cannot accept another persons child..... sorry to say. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/30/2006 6:30:09 PM | Beware..I ramble. My 2 cents usually includes about 25 cents extra. And I'm NEW. 
Aye there are. I'm one for sure, but it is a matter of Midwestern upbringing. Family is family. I think once you've buried your best friend, you want to find a matur eperson to pick up with, and MOST single mothers are mature.
I have a niece and nephew I have spoiled whenever I could. They're great kids, and yes, but somedays its a pleasure to go home...which oddly enough parallels what their mom and dad say if I spend a day with the kids, 'its a pleasure to get away for a bit'
Understandably, they were married and familied without a lot of the 'being a teenager' life, so they are getting the feeling and time when they can.
I like kids, especially once they've hit an age to talk back and argue with me on topics. Even ones they shoudln't argue about, like chores.
That being said, yes, I date single mothers. I vacuum, I teach, I have excellent survival cooking, and some GOOD cooking skills, I can clean, I can program a VCR and repair computers, handyman, and dozens of other things. I don't drink, I don't smoke wacky weed, I am not wanted. Plus, I understand the whole family thing, as we are one of those families that keeps in touch.
I met an absolutely fascinating mother while beta testing a dating site, we EMailed for weeks, had one superb conversation by phone, were going to meet, and then her middle daughter had a car accident. I got a one line EMail for that, and replied with concern! I got a one line EMail a week later saying her life was upside down, and no word since I sent a supportive reply. Not the typical brushoff, but feels like a brushoff nonetheless.
I also notice though that I may have stumbled into a wrong website, as most of the really pretty and dating single mothers posting to this thread are in Canada and England...is it a nationality thing?
I'm an Arizonan and the closest posters I've seen to me on this whole thread are in Texas or California (not that I object to oceans....) 
So possibly the geography or the sample group is tilted?? I don't know...internet tales and success stories abound with 'so I flew out to meet him/her', but many single parents haven't a good solid support structure AND the cash to arrange a long distance meeting, and with two single parents, one has to relocate if the sparks fly, which tends to limit the search to specific geography, and that means...fewer to choose from...
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/30/2006 7:16:01 PM | | right on sister!!! I find when a man finds out you have a kid, they think your looking for a insta-dad and a bank roll. This may be true for some aful women out there, but on average we women want a companion, aplay date and maybe some sentual experiances. I know i dont want to dive into a huge comitment right off the bat, thats what got me in this perdicament in the first place!!! sometimes its us ladies before our kids, not often but in the right situation..... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/30/2006 8:56:53 PM | They really do, I was a single mom for almost a year. I have a 10, 13 and 15 year old. I went out with a girlfriend one night back in NOv 05 and I was sitting there minding my own, when this hot ass guy walk in. From that night forward we were together and in Dec 05 he asked me to Marry him, In April 06 we tied the knot. He has excepted my children and they have taken well to him. It has been a great combination. "Don't give up they are out there!!!!
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/30/2006 8:58:40 PM | They really do, I was a single mom for almost a year. I have a 10, 13 and 15 year old. I went out with a girlfriend one night back in NOv 05 and I was sitting there minding my own, when this hot ass guy walk in. From that night forward we were together and in Dec 05 he asked me to Marry him, In April 06 we tied the knot. He has excepted my children and they have taken well to him. It has been a great combination. "Don't give up they are out there!!!!
Monica M | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/30/2006 11:03:24 PM | NO !!!!! women find out that a guy has a kid or children they run like wild fire as fast as they can to get out of the instant mommy zone.
and women find out that you have children think that you are just looking for a babysitter or a daycare provider so that the man is free to go out and play with other women. well that is so far from the truth with me that it isnt funny. I dont go out to party or goof off i work all of the hours that i can so i can pay the bills and provide a better life for my little girl so she can have a good childhood
I dont know what it is with women and kids they act as though they are the plauge and dont want to get near a guy who has them
if any women are not scared off by children please message me
kevin & daughter helen
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RuMoR
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Joined: 5/31/2006
Msg: 494 | |
| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/31/2006 5:40:02 PM | I feel in love with a woman 2 years ago, she has three, I have three, (I know, the whole brady bunch song comes to mind...) but, her oldest and I became good friends while we were dating. Her and I are no longer together, but I still keep in touch with her oldest son, we play ball together once in a while, and he likes to come here and hang out once in a while. I don't mind, neither does she. His father even knows, no one minds one bit and that's fine by me.
I suppose now.. that rises a question, what if I meet someone new and they tell me to stop spending time with him, would that be justified? | |
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Joined: 5/23/2006
Msg: 495 | |
| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/31/2006 8:56:41 PM | have you really been sucked into a relationship with a single mom , cause she got kids that have a dead beat dad , you know i have been a single mom for over 8 years , and I'm sure i have never been with a man cause of his cash . moms like that give moms like us a bad name. I am 27 with 3 kids . And if i am going to be with a man , which i have not been for a long time lol . it would be for my own personal needs not the needs of my kids . what single mom meets a guy and brings him home to meet the kids the same day!.... lol... not to many !But i have a hard time meeting nice guys . but i dont really try either but it is hard in most cases when you tell a guy you have kids , he thinks that they need to be the set in daddy and runs away . so maybe some guys need to get to know the woman first and make judgment later .
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/1/2006 5:08:41 AM | | I dont unstand why there is even a debate on wether men will date women with kids I dont have kids and last girl I dated ,I totally loved her daughter than she cheated on me and dumped me,,Im not bitter im making a point,,I missed her daughter I loved that little girl ,,alot of men do except women with kids you just have to keep looking some men maybe are scared or not sure but not all men | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/1/2006 8:08:58 AM | | i agree, i am on his site looking for someone long term, and all i can seem to find is men who want a one night stand, they say that kids aren't a problem, but then they back off. i had one guy i met who told me he would only come over when my daughter is asleep or not home. not fair!!!! we come as a pckage. to all u men out there, get a grip on reality!!!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/1/2006 8:24:37 AM | | Men do exist, but not all men are capable of accepting the roll of being a daddy figure right away. It is a very hard thing to be...either a dad; or just to be out of the way when the real father isnt a deadbeat dad. I did it, but it was easier because their father was a deadbeat dad. I raised them ( without much help from their mother either) for 17 years ( they were 4 and 3 when i moved in with them) . It was very difficult at times. Its even worse on emotions if the father is very much involved. Its just a totally different circumstance.That is why some men are afraid of women with children. Its a very tough emotional rollercoaster sometimes and those problelms wouldnt be there if there werent children from another relationship. No matter how well the adults get along with each other there will be occasions when they argue over how to raise or discipline the children. Nothing is cut and dried when there are kids involved, if you dont treat them the way the mother wants, you really have no say in it. So what do you do ? You find something else to argue about, but its fake, and its really because of the kids.That is why its hard to find good men who will except a woman who has children. But they are out there. And today it goes both ways, some woman wont date a man who has children at home...equal rights i guess... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/1/2006 9:49:01 AM | I never dated girls with Kids,but I always wanted to,not to be a father to the kids but just do they have someone to look up to or comee to for help. I have liked girls with kids but to nervous to ask how they feel casue I scared of rejection..Kids my be a pain in the butt sometimes but you know what there the greatest thing in the world. I can't wait to have some of my own someday | |
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