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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:44:51 PM | I like your message. I wonder why guys can't say that. I'm a single mom. for me I'm not looking for a dad for my kids. I'm looking for a guy for me. hopefully my kids like that guy.
I find guys in this town have a reasons for dating single moms. It's because these guys think we're desperate. this is not true. I'd rather be on my own than with someone like that.
once you figure that out you'll be fine. | |
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GT99
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Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 503 | |
| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/1/2006 6:03:37 PM | didnt read all the posts here...
to answer your question.....yes there are men who will
I met a girl who is amazing...its early still but she has an 8 year old, sure, not something I am used to, but at 28 years old, alot of great women have kids...if I ruled her out on that I would lose out, besides...my cousin is a pro hockey player (drafted by tampa bay lightning) he said the only problem is getting attached to the kid if it goes bad, he stays in touch with the e because of her boy.
kids are part of her life, I dont want to get too close to soon, but who cares if she has kids.
both may parents are remarried, both have a kids (my 2 beautiful half sisters) and both my step dad and step mom are amazing...I am their child as well. I grew up with my dad and step mom...my step mom was one hell of an amazing mom to me.
kids can be fun to be around once you know them. If I passed on this girl because of her kid...I am the one who loses out | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/1/2006 6:07:32 PM | | I so totally agree with 6foot2 all man. I am a single mother of 5 children.....yes 5. By todays standards I am crazy. With having said that anyone that I have met have turned and ran pretty much when I mentioned 5. They didn't stick around to hear that I don't involve the kids and they have never met anyone that I have dated. children need to know they are secure in their home and it is not a place for "strangers" to wake up in or invade their space. So now I have resorted myself to the fact that I will be single for a very long time because I don't believe that there are any men out there that would want to join in the fun of my children. They are high energy and loveable, and dissobedient, and testing but they are great kids and that special someone that would have the open mind to enbrace me and my children would get back 6 times more. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/2/2006 3:16:25 AM | HungryWolf,
I am truly offended by that comment....however I am sure that was your intention......to offend and get reply's on your post......that's pretty low.....don't ya think? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/2/2006 3:47:42 PM | Hi
I am a single mum and have brought up five kids, thier are men who would don,t want to accept women with kids. but are they really worth having. i don,t want a mean sort of person who does not want to share, self centred and dosen,t want to care, want everything, thier own way. into thier own boring self centred world.
children are a beautiful gift from God and the world.would be dull and dismal without them they bring fun and alot of life and they make you feel young, and keep you young at heart,and bring alot of love into the world. unlike those miserable faggots who do not like a woman who has kids. Let these type of men get on with thier sad existence, and don,t accept them. go for a man who loves children and is a giving person. The opposite of love is selfishness, selfish people end up lonley in the long run.
take care take your time and be choosy it will pay off it the end, marry in haste and regret it.
God bless you, you are precious to Jesus and deserve the best. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/2/2006 4:53:35 PM | | I think it should be more about who the women is not that she has a child. As a man I would think that a woman with a child is someone I would trust to be the right woman to have a family with. I'm getting older not as young I should say, I'm no old man but I'm at a stage where finding the right lady to start a family with is in the back of my head. I dont want to just jump in a pre-made family but I'm looking for a lady that is going to maybe want children or have one. I'm a guy who has worked with children most of my life and I would like some to call my own one day, so I would never turn down someone for having a child and I think the guys that do, its because they want to party and only want to worry about them not anyone else at this time in life. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/2/2006 5:12:15 PM | Most Definatly. seems most the women i date have a child or two. i have great respect for the Mature(takes her responsibility serious. not draging her kid to party every friday) single mother as my mother was solo for a lot of years with 3 children.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/2/2006 6:14:14 PM | i have a question, since you single moms have already meet the man of your dreams, got knocked up because he was so perfect and you loved that man so much you were going to marry him, why are you here on singles sites looking for someone? i mean you have already met the man of your dreams, why continue.
or is it you single moms just cant stay off your back and keep your legs together?
i know its a little late for this advise, but have you ever heard of the pill, or more to the extream, a shop vac and coat hanger? | |
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GT99
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Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 510 | |
| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/2/2006 6:36:09 PM |
i have a question, since you single moms have already meet the man of your dreams, got knocked up because he was so perfect and you loved that man so much you were going to marry him, why are you here on singles sites looking for someone? i mean you have already met the man of your dreams, why continue.
or is it you single moms just cant stay off your back and keep your legs together?
i know its a little late for this advise, but have you ever heard of the pill, or more to the extream, a shop vac and coat hanger?
wow, dont really know how to answer to that.
good luck with being single, with that attitude your going to be single for a LONG time.
I have no kids...but really, look at it this way...I was in a 9 year relationship...was going to be married...kids come with that, its all preferance, both of us felt we were not ready...but we could have been, you never know, depends on the time in your life. However after 9 years we decided we grew apart...it happens...so if we did have kids, under your logic, my ex GF was a hoe and couldnt keep her legs together?
I know alot of single moms who are not slutty, yet I also know alot of slutty girls without kids...your logic is flawed.
enjoy dating your hand for the rest of your life | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/2/2006 8:12:14 PM | | I can't tell you where they are but they are out there. My last wife was a single parent when I met her (at the time her son was younger.. 4 1/2), and to be honest I am open to single parents as I am one now too (have a 10yo Daughter and almost 5yo Son). The hardest thing IMO is that anyone dating a single parent has to realize and accept that a relationship with a single parent is a relationship with a family... which can often mean a lot of work ahd dealing with some difficult interpersonal relationships etc. | |
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mslee1
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Joined: 5/27/2006
Msg: 512 | |
| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/2/2006 10:24:43 PM | I haven't had any problems in that area... I believe in large it depends how you feel about your situation? I have two children, we are a great package... we come first and we have a load of fun together.. any man in our lives is blessed by us.. If he is good enough, mature, good role model etc, he can enjoy the family life with us. No negativity there.... I understand it can be hard to co-parent step children, start from a place of luck and the rest is bound to change....
here's a thought... think of the first thought that pops into your mind:
single mom or full time mom
single dad full time dad..... gee doesn't the dad sound like a hero?
Don't let the social stigma affect youl...... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/3/2006 2:07:46 AM | gt99, i dont date my hand buddy, i have inflate-a-date. and i tell you what, its much better than a real women. no talikng, no torment, and when your done you just kick it out bed and to sleep. oh the best thing, IT DOESNT GET PREGNANT. and unlike a real women, you dont get****rash or drippy**** 
soooooooo  to you | |
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GT99
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Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 514 | |
| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/3/2006 8:37:28 AM | well to each their own I guess lol.
If you dont want a girl to talk and only for sex than you found your perfect woman I guess. But to most there is more to a relationship, sex is a bonus that comes along with it.
everyone has their opinions....its your call to not date women with kids and only you know the reason...alot of guys are like that, but to say what you said was a bit nasty and nowhere near the truth.
a woman who has a child can give great insight to how she is, in my experience the bond she has with her child shows the love she is capable of, compassion etc.
I would never date a woman who doesnt take care of her kids, someone who has kids to get mothers allowance (sadly I have met one like this)
but you cant judge all single moms and lump them in the same catagory | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/3/2006 8:43:50 AM | | Not to date some one who has kids is stupid,I see ALOT of profiles on here that say they wont date a man with kids yet have kids them selves (Kinda stupid in my eyes).To each there own but if your not going to date someone just cause they have kids WOW your missing out.A single mom I will take ANY day. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/3/2006 12:43:26 PM | | A single mother throws a red flag that maybe she exercises bad judgement with her choices of mates. What is to say she matured since then? Her first guy had all the fun and knocked her up, and now I'M supposed to pick up the pieces? No thanks. Sounds like I would be a doormat. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/3/2006 3:22:27 PM | Well, I had never dated a woman with a kid until my last relationship. I usually avoided it for foolish reasons. However, I think now I will probably avoid it for even more reasons. This woman was unable to commit to a relationship, partially because of her child. The relationship would go perfect, I'd want to spend my life with her, then all of a sudden, she'd want out. That happened a couple times, and she'd figure out that she was just scared for her and her son. She didn't want to get further with someone that would eventually hurt her and her child. I never hurt her, and she knew that, it was just an underlying fear. So, finally, when I got to a point that I was ready to move further and make the commitment official...right when I was deeply in love with both her and her son, she just stopped talking to me. She broke it off, and I haven't seen her since.
Hopefully not all women with kids are this way. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/3/2006 8:12:48 PM | After reading some of these posts, I am getting depressed. I am so new to this 'game' of being single again and separated that I don't know if I want to venture into the dating world if most guys don't wish to date a woman with kids. Well, if a woman is in her mid 30's and doesn't have a child, chances are she hasn't been married yet. I want to eventually settle down into a serious relationship, but is it going to be that hard to find a decent man who can accept the fact that I have a beautiful child that will always be first in my life? It doesn't seem fair to me...it's like I am 'damaged goods'. Well, I think I am a better person now for having my child than I was before. There's much more that I have had to learn to do with the time I have so as someone mentioned before, I think that demonstrates responsibility. You would think a man might appreciate this fact! Well, I will try not to be too gunshy but getting back into this whole dating thing has me intimidated tremendously. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/3/2006 9:00:30 PM | Kuvopolis.. sometimes people do make bad choices, this is true, but before u judge people maybe u should try and understand them. When I met my childrens father he was wonderful.. but shorlty after the birth of our second child he started running around with his old friend brian, started using drugs and became a totally different man. I left him for awhile, he got clean and things were looking up for us.. I got pregnant for our 3rd and last child. Now mind u with both my 2nd and 3rd child I was on birth control.. So I know they were meant to be. Anyways before we even knew I was pregnant he started snorting coke again and being really abusive.. Nearly everyway a person could be. Yet I tried making it work for the sake of the children and for the simple fact I wasnt raised to bail on a relationship without really making it work. After months of having the shit kicked out of me(yes while I was pregnant)being isolated from everyone ect... I left knowing that I TRIED to make this work and I did what I could. so almost 2 and a half years later Im single, with 3 children, going to college, busting my butt working so Im NOT on welfare, no child support, no sugar daddy for men like u to PASS JUDGEMENT on me without seeing the wonderfulness of who I am... totally disreguarding my strength... my ability to survive and NOT have the need to depend on others to take care of us. To this I say shame on u and may u never have to know what its like to stand in the place where others are looking down on u, passing their judgements, without seeing what u have been through, how u have survived it and how wonderful u are!! Sometimes theres circumstances in life beyond our control. <3 mandy | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/3/2006 11:10:50 PM | Yes, we are out here. I have enough trouble finding a lady to date, without worrying about if she has children. If I find her, and she has kids, trust me...she is NOT going to get away simply because of them.
I'm in Bellefontaine, Ohio if any of you are close by....write me. | |
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ja1970
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Joined: 6/3/2006
Msg: 522 | |
| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/4/2006 2:47:27 AM | I've been out with a couple of people who have kids. I have three of my own and feel that someone else with kids actually has a better idea of problems you can get with kids.
So i guess the answer reall is YES. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/4/2006 4:42:53 AM | | Just in reading some of the posts, I have gained somewhat an idea of what's going on. My ex and I have a son together, she was abusive, and very controling over who could and couldn't see our son. I tried everything I could think of to make things work, to make things better, but nothing worked. We fought, and yelled at each other, so I had to make a choice, either let them go, or allow him to grow up in a home where he thought abuse was a "normal part of life." I refused to allow him to think that, because I was NEVER raised with that i my mind. So here I am a year later, working through the courts to gain a part of his life, it's a fight, but I'm going to win, he's going to know who his father is, and how much I love him. With that said, I don't think I could ever not go out with a female because she had kids. I know I get passed over because I have a son, and hey that's okay, maybe I need another parent to help me in life, and understand me. And people have judged me as a bad person, because I haven't seen my son, well she won't allow me, and I'm working through the courts to make it happen. If that makes me a bad person, then so be it, but at least I'm not a deadbeat that wants nothing to do with his child. To be honest with you, I'd love to find a decent lady that would want me for ME, not because of something else, but because of me. If she had kids, that's fine, we could be one happy family, I wouldn't mind that at all. As for men shying away, I speak from being one, due to my job at the time, I didn't want to get 'attached' to the kids, and then something happening to me, and they ask where I'm at, or think that I've left them. I don't want any kid to ever have to face that. I guess it's the simple fact that many of us are looking for that 'perfect' relationship, I know I'm looking for someone that'll complete me, accept me, and not care so much about looks. I'm a big dood, compared to my son, I look like a giant. I just hope he knows how much daddy loves him. So it's like this, if you are a decent lady out there and would like to get to know me better, e-mail me, if yo uhave kids, that's no problem, if you don't have kids, that's no problem either. Anyhow, I hope that I've made sense, and that I've got some point across. Anyhow, y'all have a great night. ~~Matt~~ | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/4/2006 6:13:07 AM | | i know they do shedevil, but have you ever wondered why they avoid a woman with a name like yours, its not really apt for looking for a man is it, its more like a warning.. think about it..lol | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/4/2006 10:49:47 AM | | i guess it worked..u responded.... IT WASNT MENT TO OFFEND. BUT THEN AGAIN ITS A FREE COUNTRY AND WE ARE ALLOWED TO SPEAK OUR MIND..JUST LIKE THE IDIOT WHO MADE COMMENTS ABOUT SINGLE MOMS LOOKIN FOR A MAN JUST TO TAKE CARE OF THE KIDDIES...GUESS YOUR NOT A SINGLE MOM..OR EITHER YOUR WORKING AT KFC ?? NOT SURE WICH.. BUT HEY I LOVE KFC... THANKS FOR TAKING THE TIME TO READ THIS! | |
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