| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/9/2006 11:43:37 AM | Women with kids? Sure, what's the problem?
I haven't read all the posts on this thread, so i may be repeating what someone else has said, but, sure, why not?
Watching how a woman interacts with her children will give you a clue as to what kind of person she is. Not all women have that 'mothering' mind set.
A woman who cherishes her children has a heart big enough to cherish me/you. If she doesn't have time for her children won't have time for a relationship. Only time for herself.
I've dated women with children and those without.
I've got two children, grown and neither living at home, but they are still my children. Why should I hold a woman to a standard of no kids when I have kids?
So yeah! I'll date a woman with kids! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/9/2006 3:06:44 PM | | Essentially what it boils down to. If you love the mom you take on the children as well. You can't have one without the other. You must be willing to make sacrafices in order to make a relationship work. If you've never had children or don't like kids than you might want to persue someone like yourself. When I met my ex she had a 2 month old baby. We ended getting married 6 months later and I adopted our daughter and raised her as my own. 9 years later I now 2 daughters and I'm divorced (hence, why I'm here) and I treat and love both of them the same. My adopted daughter is actually closer to me than her own mother. So it can and does work I'm living proof of it. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/10/2006 10:20:00 AM | | I know were you are comming from i haave one teen aged son and can't find a Descent man to date. I end up with men that are Control freaks or drunks. For once I would like to find a man that can love me and not want to chang me. Is there such man out there? I don't know but I'm looking. So keep looking and good luck. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/10/2006 11:05:41 AM | | Fordman, what about the ex-husband (if he is alive and not incarcerated)? Are the kids not his responsibility? And maybe he would resent you pushing him away from his kids? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/10/2006 3:16:05 PM | | I have to say that, most men are very narrow minded when it comes to this subject as I got chatting to a person (bloke) we was chatting for 10mths in total he knew that i had a child from a previous relationship from day one and we agreed to be friends, however out of the blue he decided that he no longer wanted to meet up or anything due to the fact i have a child (once i had fallen off the chair) and continued to read the email he said that he couldnt go on holiday and relax or want a gf with a child as one day he wanted a family of his own and didnt want a ready made one!! now this to me was a joke as surely its better to have a "ready made family" as us signle parents know how hard it is to raise kids and that we are not in a rush to do it all over again when the old biological clock starts ticking or to indeed trap a man. All i can say is it takes a brave and very warm hearted person to face the responsilblity of raising children and while we are here to find the "one" truth is you have them up stairs in bed your kids will give you endless love and affection.......... you just have to choose the right man/woman you wish to invite along for the ride and hope they are ok with it | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/10/2006 6:46:51 PM | | Hello shedevil. I have dated a women who had 2 kids, although they weren't teens, they were 7 and 9. I got along well with them and had no problems with them either. If I was in the dating scene, I wouldn't have a problem dating a woman who had kids, regardless of age. I am sure there are many men who would not have a problem with that. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 7:17:31 PM | | well kuvopolis i think your confused you dont push the dad away from his kids its his right to see them and its good for the kids. but i think you need to love the mom and the kids and be there for both of them. and let the kids know you love them and there mom | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/11/2006 2:38:39 PM | let's turn it around are, there actually woman who date men with kids ?
life is a 2 way street what comes around goes it around
yes it is hard for a woman with children to find a man to date her
but it is also hard for a man with children to find a woman who will date him
i never had a problem dating a woman with kids
all the woman that i have dated had kids and we didn't have any problems | |
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Posted: 6/12/2006 7:22:27 AM | i totally agree with you i myself am a single mother and dont have much but ive done it by myself all along andwe are happy im sure most single mothers understand your situation.for some guy to ome along and say a remark or any sort of remark of that manner he must be very simple minded.anyway i wiah you all luck and hope you find what you are looking for on plenty of fish.later christine  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/12/2006 9:06:39 AM | | I'm in the same position as christine above^^^ single parent. I wirk real hard for all the little things in life that could make my kids happy!! all i'd like for me is someone to share it with, hence the reason i'm on this site lol!! But it is really hard out there for us single mums!! We aren't all out htere looking for a new dadddy for our kids coz in most cases they already have one all i want is someone who can accept the fact i've got kids and not run a mile so if ya know of anyone let me know!!! lol!!! good luck to you all in your search for happiness and i hope you all find it!! sarahxxxxx | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/12/2006 12:34:31 PM | If you find any... can you please let me know 
I've been single for nearly five years! I have one daughter, raise her as a single mum, I work full time, i'm totally independant yet I still have a problem with guys thinking i'm after 'an easy ride' 
I just dont get it!   | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/12/2006 2:04:13 PM | | Thanks for everyone's input.....I am 24 years old, a single mom of a 3 year old and guys seem to think that I am looking for a dad for my daughter....that is so not true...her dad isn't a part of her life but luckily for me, I have a wonderful brother who steps in and offers the male role model that she needs....the one thing that I have learned from reading everyone's responses is that all men out there don't RUN away from single moms and that at SOME point in time, I may have a chance for a real relationship...I just hope that it comes along soon....thanks everyone!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/12/2006 3:10:06 PM | There ARE men who would date women with kids. Some of us would actually prefer it - stability and (forgive me ;) 'proof of concept' that she would be a good mother.
Unfortunately, it can be a very difficult relationship to start and maintain. And much of the potential difficulties can be attributed to the single mother. 1 - you've seen the ads that read 'I have a child and s/he is the most important person in my life and noone will ever come before him/her...' This sure makes me rein in, and move on. 2 - she's had how many she wants and she doesn't want any more. 3 - daddy/ex- / new boyfriend emotional issues 4 - independence/provider issues
That having been said, a relationship with a woman with kid(s) involves everyone, not just the man & woman and the sources for conflict, misunderstanding and stress are multiplied. Communication and compromise are probably the two greatest requirements to be in a relationship with a woman with kid(s). Custody (if divorced) and making 'adult alone time' can be quite a challenge and the demands can wreak havoc on a relationship.
Of course, with the right woman (and kids :) and some work, it can be very fulfilling... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/12/2006 4:13:42 PM | i like to say u have a good point ther i had a similer experiance but i was the kid trying to brake them up it dint work 4 me but at the end of the day he has been more of a farther to me then my real dad and i repect him for treting and respecting me eny diffrent from his own flesh and blood.
i have been in raltion ships with single muthers as well i dont no wat it is but they do expect u to be the mail figer to ther children i dont no exactly wat but all kids need that mail figure in there life's. i take it as human instink sorry i was one of thoes kids as well not being funny | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/12/2006 5:41:11 PM | yes we do exist im proof if i really like you i dont care if you got 30 kids lol well thats a little extreme but you get what im sayin. Most guys are scared that you want them to take care of them but you got to realize one thing if you want the mom the kids come with its a package deal i love kids and i dont have any but besides that i wouldnt mind havin a girl with kids. in fact my ex had a baby and i helped raise it for 7 months of its life and put out alot of money and got attached to her then dumbed like a pile of shit. but hey shit happens right. lol i think that is another point guys just dont want to get attached to them and then have them ripped away you no but dont worry we are out there just got to keep truckin  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/12/2006 9:11:35 PM | "do men actually exist that date women with kids??"
Yes they still exist and there are acturly men/guys out here today that do not mind a woman/girl who has a baby/kids because it's NOT about the kid's it's about how they feel for one another and, if they "click" there it isn't always going to be an issue with a woman/man dateing someone who has kids.
I know a guy right now hes 19years old i am 23years old and i have a 2month old little boy and it does not bother him infact we talk about everything even what is going on in my "private" life, and i do NOT just talk to anybody about my problem's.
(lousiana has some guys who acturly do date a woman/girl who, has a baby/kids.) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/12/2006 11:39:40 PM | I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately as I’m getting to the age now where it’s more and more likely that I’ll meet someone that already has kids. As a few people have already mentioned, I’d be worrying about the feelings of the kids as well.
My ex has two great nieces, and I’m told that both of them miss me, and I miss them too. (I share my birthday with one of them, she’s been my “birthday buddy” for five years..) I don’t want to interfere with the relationship that my ex has with them by doing things with them however, as she treats them as if they’re her own.
As cynical as it may seem, all of us are here because of failed relationships (well, I’m sure there probably are people looking for a first date..), to me the prospect of having someone’s kids get attached to me as well would make it that much more difficult if it goes wrong. The guys that back away are probably worried about hurting your kids if the relationship sours. There is also the whole aspect of not being able to sit down and making a joint decision to have children, that decision has already been made for you..
With that said, if the woman of my dreams does end up having kids, the love that I’d have for her would ultimately transcend anything else. I’d welcome her and her kids into my heart.
Hopefully you can find a good guy! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/13/2006 9:07:41 AM | THANKS to EVERYONE once again....I plan to keep on moving and hopefully the right guy will come along, whether he has kids or not and will accept me for me and realize that I am not expecting him to take over things in my house and we will be able to plan out a lifestyle that includes everyone, especially my daughter, and move forward from there....Thanks again to everyone who had some insight and/or their opinion to add....it helps chicks out there like me.
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