| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/16/2006 8:21:53 PM | octanehammer
Good luck on finding who dont already have a kid and i see your point some of people who have kids are over my age and not looking for same thing i am 23yrs old (I know still in my young 20s) and i have, one kid and nobody should think of their kid as being an baggage or useing their kid to grab a man/womans attention/eye. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/16/2006 9:36:52 PM | I am a single father. I usually only date single Moms because I really don't want someone to be my kids mom. You know? He already has a good mom, just like most single mothers should not be looking for a father figure, at least not right away. I figure most single parents are not as lucky to have an understanding and fairly good friend who is an EX. Often I find it very difficult to find any date because #1 I have a child who I am responsible for and is usually included in my daily activities #2 I tend to scare people with my attitude, forthrightness, insanities. Women can only take me in doses. lol
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/16/2006 10:37:52 PM | Thank you 
Back question here are some LIVE resluts i gotten from men:
Thomas- but if it was me as long as the girl is happy then i am happy, i would date a girl with kids.
(SOME PEOPLE JUST DONT WANT TO REPLY WHATS UP WITH THAT, NONSENSE....) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/17/2006 9:30:26 PM | Damn right we exist! Anybody keeping score on these 25 pages? Looks like "Do exist" tips the scales. Maybe the others can't be bothered to reply much, not being a matter of interest to them, revealing an important concept this website has incorporated right in its name: "Plenty of fish".
Abundance mentality. Lots of different individuals to choose from. Of course, as in fishing, hooking up is the trick.
Having four daughters myself seems to scare a few ladies away, some expressed a fear of "dealing" with them. That's completely okay, "Next!". | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/17/2006 10:55:25 PM | I have found that men date us but usually want only one thing! OR they want more but not from someone whose kids are young. Kids grow up, they aren't little forever! It is a lot to take in but if you find someone you truly care about and want to be with all things can be worked thru. I date men with children, that does not bother me...at my age I am only going to find men with children (most likely) so it is almost expected!
my children are my heart and if a man wants my heart that means he has to share it with my kids. that means he has to accept my children as well as he accepts me. Like you Dawn, I am a responsible person, work full time, working on my masters and taking care of 3 kids without asking for handouts. I want someone who respects that and can appreciate that I am a woman with needs, a woman who is desirable and has desires but I am a mom and will be for the rest of my life. Take me as I am because that part will not change for anyone! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/18/2006 2:52:04 AM | There are plenty of men who DATE women with kids.
HOWEVER
There are limited numbers of men who date women who are only seeking fathers for their kids and not dates.
These men are those who WANT families. Not girlfriends.
And there are NO MEN WHATSOEVER who date man haters, who are continually bytchin about what barstards men are and who then abuse their children by blaming thier children for their failure to score dates. Nobody likes either a man hater or a child abuser. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2006 2:58:47 AM | Thats true "sparticuss" i agree on you and i do not know why so many women try use their kid/baby in finding a date and no man in their right mind would choose a woman who ****es 24/7 about how all men are nothing but ***holes and lowlife scums or a child abuser i mean there are some great men/women out here but if all we tend to do, is blame every single thing on MEN or WOMEN how do we ever expect to find somebody who will want to be with us even tho we have kids?....
And NO kid/baby should be blamed for their mom/dad NOT getting a date or NOT being able to find someone who will date them.
Good Luck To All Single Dads/Moms who acturally cares about their child but also know's that you still have YOUR life aside from being a mom/dad i know a baby/kid should come first and i agree take care of you'r little one, and then find some YOU time even if it is just going to see a movie with a friend or somebody you met recently. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/18/2006 7:23:57 AM | Like I stated before, I will date someone with kids, the only problem I can see, and I have never saw it in face to face relationships. Is I have seen some of you saying my kid will never have a babysitter, and I don't want my baby to meet a man until I know he is the one. Well that doesn't leave much time to get to know you. Any man that wants you to make a mother put him above her children is dreaming. But you are going to have too, find some time for the man also. Not to many men are going to want to be with a woman just because she has kids there hsa to be more to her then that.
The women I have dated with children, have done things with me, have gotten to know me, then if we were interested started including the kids (but also had our dates). But it wasn't some six months before I met the kids, maybe six months before they saw us kissing or something. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/18/2006 11:28:47 AM | | I would date a woman with kids, being a father myself (Though i have just split from my partner :( ). Its not biggy for me, i think it would be nice actually, someone who has kids like me! :D | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/18/2006 12:13:01 PM | | I find here in alberta canada, as soon as a guy finds out that you have a young child at home your not worth checking out. And being a 40 yr old single mom is even harder | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/18/2006 1:33:52 PM | | there are men that are interesed in woman with kids.my ex had four kids and i took care of them and put her through school.the problem is that she turned around and said bye.heck didnt even get a thank you for putting me through school.was a big screw you dumba**.so unfortunatly woman like that make good men shy away from that scenario. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/18/2006 2:24:43 PM | These men are here everyday but most women keep passing them by. I see most women out there and on these sites are looking for a physical attraction or chemistry as they say,instead of a man with a great heart and attitude. They will bend over backwards for these guys and when things don't work out, they wonder what happen and then they are mad at the world. Im that type of guy but always seem to get abused. I thing most women need to focus on a team player instead of a physical attraction, this way most of them will come back down to earth. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/18/2006 2:34:48 PM | Heck yea!
But you can't meet the kids until after you know the guy first!
The way the kids treat their mom, is how you know if she is a "strong-respected" mom 1st of all! Plus, the kids will look out for mom- plus they may help if your on the "fence" about a guy. I always found that it worked in the opposite for me- As soon as you told someone you are divorced and have 2 daughters, they would get "scared" never quite sure why though. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2006 2:57:13 PM | Couchie, physical attraction is part of the relationship. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and what some find attractive others don't. I do not go for looks per say but yes, physical appearance does play a part in the decision to meet someone. The same thing happens to the women on here. They are great people and they get overlooked because of appearance. I understand what you're saying because it happens to me all the time. I don't let that get me down though and neither should you. There is someone out there for all of us and you will find it...
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/18/2006 3:58:43 PM | Hello.I was with a woman who has 2 (now teenagers)kids for 7 years.The kids and I still see each other and talk all the time.An absolutly wonderfull experience.Do it again.NO!
Why.The law.She could have left me living like a pauper for a great many years.So,many men will not be involved with woman who have kids that are not theirs for this reason.
That leaves many women who would not do this to a guy without a man in their lives or a great deal of men without good women in their lives.
It's unfortunate,but many men will not take the chance.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/18/2006 4:09:34 PM | Well, I hate to break the theme of negative comments about men being scared to date women with children, however here I go......
I have three children who live with me 1/2 the time, and while I will acknowledge that it is less demanding than having them full-time, I still have plenty of added responsibility with a full-time career and two hours of commute time a day to qualify as very busy.
I can honestly say that I don't think in 2.5 years of being single (separated) that I have ever experienced a man walking away from because I have children. Now on the flip-side I do approach things very casually and have never introduced my children to anyone I date (that would definitely scare them away;-) because I don't believe it's a good idea to get children attached or involved with someone that I'm not sure is going to be around for a significant amount of time. I also don't tend to talk about my children ad nauseum as some mothers do. I don't think that other than the basic information, most men (especially those who do not have children of their own) are not really that interested in hearing what "little Johnny" did today. If they have children of their own, then there may be a bit more latitude for child talk, but it is all about an adult relationship, no need to put children between you. Yes they are wonderful, and we love them to bits, but don't expect the guy to feel the same way....give it a good long time before getting him involved...it's better for all concerned, and allows you to have a grown-up relationship. If you give off the vibe that you are looking for replacement Dad they will run for the hills, and really who could blame them, I would too!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/18/2006 4:20:57 PM | hello, there!
just want to add my bit....
I've been out on five dates since I joined this sit, 2 with single women, 3 with single mums...
the two without kids....there was no spark, but we're good friends and in touch regularly...
the three mums... yes there was a spark, most definitely... and I've been allowed to stay over on two of them
before I've got home tho', I get a text that says...."
my kid(s) aren't ready for a new man in their mum's life. sorry...!"
and that's it, the end, no contact, no trying to be friends, nothing
so what gives?
do kids find me so repulsive that their mums have to give into them?
or are the kids just an excuse?
I can honestly say that altho, I a nice bloke, I 'll be avoiding single mums in future
anybody got any answers? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/18/2006 4:25:36 PM | | Being a single father of 2 wonderful children I have to agree with cpcountry. I too am nearing 40 and have a hard time meeting women. I think that people are affraid of the reasons for the break up and not the hard working person that is loving and takes care of the kids. My personal situation is...... A deadbeat mom. I know it's rare but true. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/18/2006 5:07:16 PM | sorry , there are no pat-answer s, each woman has her own mind
but in most case s they do have to consider the children , how they
relate to the different men in theyer mother s life, may be they
brought you in too soon, don t stop trying | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/19/2006 6:42:05 AM | | hi! ive had my 6 month old baby girl all to myself so far, but have just recieved news that the father is comin back on the scene! my big fear now is 'what if he cant look after her right?' and thats her father! i dont know wat will go through my head when i begin dating again... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/19/2006 8:15:33 AM | | I wanted to add my thoughts. I am a single mom with a career and complete stability and no need for a man just the want lol. I would like to say that my problem has been that when a man starts tro feel me slipping away he wants to get close to my kids. The only reason he does this is to get into my pants not because they are a stand up guy. So women like me that are not desperate for a man find it disturbing and puts are defenses up when a man automatically wants everything to do with my kids. | |
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