| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/30/2005 10:38:28 AM | I applaude all of you single parents who are careful about dating. I thank you for putting your child(ren)'s well being first.
There is another single parent in my office and we both cry on each other's shoulders and try to give encouragement. I try to be positive for the both of us and tell her, "hey, the right guy is just around the corner. In the meantime, I will love on my kids and help them to become strong, stable adults." | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/30/2005 12:35:52 PM | Yes we do... In fact there are tons of us out here. Granted some of them are not the nicest of people but hey its all in the selection process- now this is the part here Ladies that baffles most of us lol... I may be no Brad Pitt, but I feel greatabout myself and honestly it does not bother me in the least that a woman who I could be seeing has children. I am a single father myself and have had the time of my life so far !!
Anyways, just to answer your question.....
Yes we are here lol | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/30/2005 1:01:27 PM | Yes they do - but I find I have to be real careful - following on from an earlier post from someone, I am more afraid of the kids getting hurt again than me getting hurt again.
I will date someone for months before they get introduced to the kids, and then they are just intro'd as a friend. And it is kept that way for as long as i feel it neccessary. So far, the kids have only met 2 of my 'friends', ( in 5 yrs) and one has stayed over a couple of times, because he lived far away - but then he slept in the spare room. Thus, when the break-up occurred it was easier to say to the kids, 'he has had to move away with work' or some such, and they have never yet got involved or hurt. I will keep it that way too, until I meet someone who is in it for the long haul. And no, I don;t need rescuing either - am financially and emotionally ok, don't need or want anyones money, just time, attention, laughter and fun, and to share lifes ups and downs. So all you guys out there, don't be scared - most of us single mums are just regular people with a few extra responsibilities!
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/30/2005 1:33:53 PM | I would like to definitely agree with that... That is my biggest worry is my child being hurt in any way... I do somewhat the same thing- but then again have only really dated a few times over the last few years.. Just haven't found her yet is all...
Very well put BTW... and nice to see someone with a great point of view on the issue. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/10/2005 9:02:27 AM | | well, rickz41 that is their lost; that is for sure.. Single parents have so much to offer and if these men and woman don't realize it then PHBSSSSSSSSSSTTT! on them... lol | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/10/2005 12:14:32 PM | | Yes there are men out there who date females with kids. Me and my fiancee been together for 5years now and when we meet I had a 3 year old son and a 3 month old daughter at the time, it's 5 years later were still together with 2 kids of our own. So yes it's men out there. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/10/2005 1:12:36 PM | | do i bite on this one or not, yep i will it seems that we are at a stand still all, some will and some wont and that goes for both sexes as for the dad thing some people think you are you'sing your kids as bate when you go out and some dont some it all comes down to damed if you do and damed if you dont as for me i have and will never pick someone over my kids its a group deal i can love my kids as much as the next women and her kids as well but we all have to get over the first thing first we do exist oh hell do we really want to date in the first place or are we just looking for someone to fill the void after our kids go to bed? its all up to you | |
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Posted: 10/10/2005 1:35:44 PM | Hello,
I'm male 38 years old, single, kind, generous, loving, reasonably okay in the looks dept, 5'8'' tall and I do like kids. I own and run an international hi-tech company and a converged IP telephony company.
I've not got any replies from single parents either!
Bye,
Nicholas | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/10/2005 2:22:24 PM | | being a single parent myself, with no interaction from the X, I find I only date single mothers. It just makes dating much easier. If you can plan kid friendly activities, it puts everyone at ease. And being a parent you need to find out if the other persons parenting skills and style will mesh with your own. I find a woman that is a good mother, in my eyes, is a huge attraction. Plus children have great insight into what the other person is really like. If your child/children honestly like that person. It just might work. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/1/2005 7:57:30 AM | if I were a single parent, then my view would change.
however as a single, never married, guy with no kids, I can tell you, I would tread very cautiously if a woman with children showed romantic intrest in me if she were anything
other then a widow or dumped by her bf/x-husband.
Why?
First of all.. If she left HIM, then that means there is a guy out there who
lost his love and has schedule visitation times to see his kid.
So anyway here we are with this scnario where a guy is pissed that
his wife stopped loving him, and now he's stuck seing his kids once/twice a week.
He's paying alimony, he's paying child support. He's semi broke now because of it and
living in a small apartment instead of the house he's paying for his wife and kids to live in.
Now here I come in, dating his x-wife.. that he wishes he could patch things up with.
She tells him that I'm moving in and we will be getting married next may.
Yeah.. I really want to be the object of THAT guys rage. Just my luck he's 6' 2" 270 lbs,
and has a mean right hook. "You basterd, you keep away from my family!"
It's not worth it. There are plenty of single women who wouldn't come with that
fun filled package. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/1/2005 9:48:12 AM | | Well, I hear people say yes to this question but in my exprience the answer is no. They either want to move too quick or get to you throuygvh your kid. Using it against you. Telling you they care about your son or spending time with you and your child and starting a relationship with your child. It scares me and I don't know how to deal with it so I am pretty much not dating anymore just friends Ill date when Jerrin moves out Because I don't want to mess up his life and get him confused. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/1/2005 11:02:55 AM | Actually your right it is a stigma! I am however trying to see you guys as single until proven married when i see you in the mall! However dealing with the wives of the ones who are is not going to be fun. Realistically, I would rather meet you in a mall ar market than at a bar! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/1/2005 2:46:35 PM | | I'm a single mother of an almost 9 month old. My daughter will be 9 months November 10th, and her biological father hasnt seen her since the day i left which was May 26th. Every persons situation is and can be different from wat u said. My ex can only see his daughter through a supervised access center and at the descretion of CAS. CAS will not allow him to see her until he is willing to make a commitment to miss a day of work every 2 weeks to go in and see her. hes the one missing out. I know that as of November 26th i can deny him access because it has been 6 months since he has seen her and from 6 months to a yr the parent that hasnt seen the child becomes a stranger and u can deny access they take you to court and have to explain tot he judge why they havebnt been around. Anyways my current bf is known as "dada" because he has been there for her and hes more of a father then her biological. i hope everyone finds a great guy who can accept them for who they r, and their kid, no matter the background. good luck everyone. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/1/2005 5:09:04 PM | This thread sounds more like a man bashing thread. Nobody forced you to have children. Now that you had them, deal with all of the circumstances of it. Quit blaming us men for all of your problems.
The men ran out on you women for a reason... take a good look at yourselves before pointing fingers at everyone else. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/1/2005 5:23:10 PM | i have not met a single dad who was raising his kids alone in years. I have met d/s men with kids tho. And even they get scared away when they find out i have 4. And one is a teen. I did meet one gentleman who doesnt live with his kids but does care for their needs and sees them often. the only problem i have is that he has been so hurt that his heart has an iron door and i have not found the key on my giant keychain to open it.(lol). It is more than commendable that a man cares for and spends time with his kidsAND will be with a woman with kids. It is down right respectable. Where is that great guy hiding? I need to meet him.
Robyn
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/1/2005 8:07:06 PM | | This is an interesting question. I was married very young and had two daughters during the marraige, then divorced. So here I was 19 years old with 2 girls and single. I was quite certain there wouldn't be a man on this earth that would want to date or commit to me- for two reasons alone me being young and having children. But it changed quickly I met a very great guy who I started dating. Never took the girls around him at first, and it developed into a great relationship, he accepted my girls, he played with them and fell in love with them also and, we had a son together later on. Everything was great almost too perfect, it really felt like a family. He sadly enough passed away soon aftero ur son was born, and now here I am again 23 with not two kids but three. I have now been single for a year and a half. Recntly I have attempted to start dating again with no luck- I seem to now attract immature guys who say things like "mother you want another" or the infamous term "milf"......Which makes think that maybe I just got lucky with my last relationship and the man accepting kids. And there isnt another man on earth who is the same as him..........So im torn between believing there is a man out there that exists, and that there isnt a man out there left that exists who will date women with kids, all at the same time..........*sigh* | |
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Posted: 11/1/2005 10:49:42 PM | WTF!!!! onehotmomma4u i cant speck for ppl but you cant just take day off of work every 2 to see your kids dont matter how much you love your kids.beleive me ive tried it i was fired for missing days. now back to men not datin women wit kids, most of my frineds date women wit kids lol shit i know guys that only date women wit kids. i think tha problom is that your lookin on a datin website wgitch is for...well most men ( NOT ALL) a easy place to pick up one nite stands. just my 2 cents feel free to bash me if need be  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/2/2005 6:38:16 AM | | So True, why is it that these deat beat dads get off without any responsibility..i have 2 boys and no father...but i guess its better to be alone than to be with someone that wouldn't appreciate the children,and when you have children it really goes to show you how most men are with them when your dating. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/2/2005 6:45:46 AM | | i'm sorry but that is a rude comment...at least we are responsible for the children..if it wasn't for 1 responsible parent (either mom or dad) the poor child would be abandoned. You should shake your head!! As for the men running out on us, does him being an alcoholic or wanting to go to bars make that our fault! I think not.....some parents need to grow up! No child needs that. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/2/2005 7:08:28 AM | Well personally I find it hard too, I am not looking for anyone to financially support my kids either, their father pays child support and I'm financially stable to support myself and my kids.
When I first start talking with someone I make them fully aware that I have kids, if I don't hear from them then they were not worth it from the beginning. I try to email profiles of men that already have kids.
I can see why men/women don't want to get involved for a number of reasons. It's never easy dating with or without kids. It just makes it more difficult when you do and your single looking to date. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/2/2005 7:28:22 AM | working is part of life. Don't give me that crapola that you have to miss work to spend time
with your children. Unless you have a job that requires you to work odd hours or very long hours, you can visit with your family. I think what is more likely going on with the lady who
posted that "complaint" was that she wants to control when he comes to visit. She only wants it when its convienient for HER and could care less about the scheduiling needs of the father.
I have a friend (a bit of a mope in my view for hooking up with a girl who already was birth control challenged) who bends over backwards to spend time with his son. I know because he's very vocal about his situtation.
She gets pissed at him if he's even a minute or two late for a scheduled visit.
Yet, she routinely cancels visits for questionable reasons, and delays visits for questionable reasons.
He's a responsible guy when it comes to his kid. He pays a boat load of child support (usually ahead of the due date btw) and he takes care of all of his kids extras. He spends alot of time with his kid, but again its all on HER terms. She controls the schedule, if he
has a scheduling conflict... tough, she won't reschdule. Yet she expects him to at the drop
of a hat. He feels powerless to do anything about it. He has complained before and
he response was to threaten to remove his visitation rights.
It's very selfish when you think about it, becuase she is threating to basically impact the life of her son who has a right to grow up with the love and guidance of his dad. Even if his mom
hates the dad, she has no right to cut her son off from him.
Like I said he's my bud and he likes to gripe about "the wife". All of the responsibilities.. none of the perks. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/2/2005 7:38:02 AM | i should also point out.. that I felt my friend was birth control challenged as well.
he made the stupidest comment when he first told me that he had gotten his then gf (now psycho host beast) pregnant.
"Well, millions of couples a year have a hard time getting pregnant, I thought what are the odds she will get knocked up? ... a million to one right?"
Umm.. it only takes once to get pregnant or catch an STD.... i was floored.
I was like "you and I went to the same high school right?"
"yep"
"We both were in ms 's health class right?"
"yep"
"did you come away with a different interpretation of the rules then I did?"
"Well we were drunk, and horny, and well..."
Yeah.. guess what I did when that happened.. YOU find other stuff to do besides
penatration!! A 1 dollar condom saves thousands of dollars of child support and possibly your life!!!
Like I said.. my bud is a mope....but he's a good guy.. ju | |
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