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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/4/2006 11:21:27 PM | I love women with kids but remember that for many men it brings back memories of how the courts have screwed them with their own children.
Can you understand why one might have reservations in loving anothers children when the criminal courts have ripped your own away? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/5/2006 8:29:07 AM | I've been noticing the fact that i have an 8 week old infant...i can't find men that are willing to accept that. Either that..or they want me to be able and jump up and go out at the drop of a hat.
I love my son, and i solely provide for him. Not lookin for no sugar daddies or someone to take over as a father (i'm hoping one day the actual father will come around to fatherhood)
I was raised without a father and I know i can raise this lil one without one. But mommy needs someone too hehe
I would move to canada but its kinda far for me. Texas girl all the way! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/5/2006 9:11:42 AM | Hey!
What exactly is your neck of the woods?
I have no problem dating women with children, or women with ailments, or whatever. It all depends on the heart and soul of a person. Turn-ons are intelligence, strength, passion, determination, respect and humbility. I'd take a Rita MacNeil with those qualities over a Avril Lavigne with no qualities any day (it just so happens that Avril is really intelligent and has most of those qualities).
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/5/2006 9:50:53 PM | Hey there all,
I know this is an old post but it's an itneresting and dear topic to me...because, you guessed it! I'm a mom!
I just wanted to mention a rule of thumb that I follow. Because my children are my first priority and because their emotional wellbeing is of primary concern, I never introduce them to my dates. In fact, I don't introduce them to a man unless I truly feel like the relationship is going somewhere. This means that my kids have only met two men, in four years. One was a 14 month relationship and the other was the man I sincerely hoped to marry (but no, he found a girl online in China!). As parents, it's far more important to put our children's psyches before our own and if we can't, then we'd better darn well be prepared to deal with the emotional issues that bringing strange men in and out of their lives, will most certainly produce. Kids are precious and they are only little for a short time - we can't be selfish and think that dating only effects us, it doesn't, it effects everyone involved.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/5/2006 10:24:09 PM | I agree jullor, you have a good point. However when my daughter turned 16 she said "dad don't you think it's time you dated." I'm sure she was thinking about it long before then. As parents we are protective of our kids. Buy they will let you know when it is OK. Many may be ready before others will be ready. We all have to follow what we think is best.
Side note: My daughter said that I am in a better mood and happier when I go out on a date. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/5/2006 10:46:35 PM | | well some of them do not all cause that don't want to take care of the kids and then on top of that when you want them to help take care of it they be like them is not my kids you ask the daddy to help but like i said some take care of them some just leave | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/5/2006 11:18:31 PM | | sweety yes ther are men out ther that date woman with kids i kno this for a fackt as this is how i met my ex wife she had a boy and girl i fell in love and did the one step higer like a fool i merryid her rased her childron wee have one child to gether he is 8 yers old after 10 yers of merig ITS ALL A BLUER TO ME NOW but as soon as her dauter ternd 18 she left me with my sun all the debt but most of all a crusht hart i triyd for 2 and a haff yers to patch up the merig she never came home and now has a new bo so on i go may be this is more info than you nead but it helps me to leaveat the hert and ther are giys out ther that will date you sweety im one ok so smile ok | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/6/2006 5:54:18 AM | are there men out there who date women with kids,im a single parent of a 16 year old girl
when raising my daughter i actually found it difficult to find women who date guys with kids
so i think its a question that cuts both ways,but there are men and women out there who
do date people with kids,personally ive found it easier dating women who already have kids
some childless women ive been with have thought they could handle the commitment
a child can bring then realise they cant but the child has already become attatched to them
being a parent is a 24/7 thing but some people get scaired of that responsibility
realising they cant go where they want and do what they want puts them off
but there are men and women out there who will take on other peoples children
then there are men/women out there who think they can then realise they cant
then there are men/women who cant take on other people children. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/6/2006 7:37:58 AM | | Everyone that I have dated has been accepting of the fact that I have kids. They are ok until they realize that what I told him in the beginning that my kids come first is true. When I make that visibly clear then they tend to back off. Not all of them (most of them) and those who do stick around tend to fall in love with the kids. I don't bring every guy around that I date just the ones that I deem worthy enough of my kids. In the six years I have been divorced it has been 3 men. One didn't like the fact that I made my kids number one in the end. One who didn't have kids (fell in love with them) and one who had his own Kids and fell in love with mine. Everyone is different. This I know to be true. Don't ever think that a guy won't date you because you have kids. I have heard several times kids being refered to as "BAGGAGE". That statement infuriates me to know end. My kids are NOT baggage nor the ever will be and in the end they are number one until they are old enough to care for themselves. If a guy can't understand it then he needs to move on and move on fast. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/6/2006 11:06:52 AM | actually...i would prefer to go out with a guy with kids..level playing field,i have to and i dont get any babysitters,apart from during the week when my eldest can babysit..as for weekends no way so a guy in similar situation is perfect,that or we could see each other with the kids.
i find guys are either very heavy and want to control you,and they have no humour,or they are inpatient and cant wait to meet and get you into bed,id like to meet a genuine nice bloke whos fun with kids...are there any of them left!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/6/2006 11:49:19 AM | | I so agree with everything you just said, I feel exactly the same way. My boys are 8 and 12 and they need a structured household. If I was to continually bring home different men, it wouldn't be right. My X husband has had many different girlfriends in the last 5 years and my boys have said on numerous occasions, that they were never really sure where they were waking up on is weekends. I just don't think it is fair. My 8 year old told is father, he thinks he needs a scorecard to be able to keep them all straight. Its just not right. My opinion only. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/6/2006 11:54:42 AM | | You are so very right about that. I feel that the kind of personalities my boys are they would get very attached to any male figure I would bring into my house. My children are my first priority. I do have time for a relationship without them knowing about it. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/6/2006 3:36:49 PM | | That's so true and I have NO problem dating a guy that has kids that live with him, I think that's absolutely awesome but yet when a guy finds out we have kids they run for cover. All of us single moms are NOT looking for an instant replacement daddy thank you, just for a nice guy to give us a chance. Are there any nice guys still out there? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/6/2006 3:41:11 PM | | To mssg 763 O YEA you got that right. My kid is the biggest thing in my life and I love him so much. Any man will have to accept that he will be #2 (haha no pun intended) until my son is old enuf to care for himself. But hey, being #2 isnt bad lol its not the # we are in line its what we do when we get to the front that matters. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/6/2006 3:46:58 PM | | its a two way street, Im a single father of an 8yr old with me full time and two more on occassional weekends (they dont hang with dad to much anymore, they are teens and not cool to spend time with dad) and I find that woman are reluctent to get together once they find out Im a single father with responsabilities other than my social life | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/6/2006 8:24:10 PM | | Looe, You posted along while ago. Has your statis changed or are you still looking for a taker. I have three kids and yes they are a hand full, but believe me, when mommy raises her voice they listen. I am looking for someone that has kids and understands the rules. You obviously do, so if you are still single and looking drop me a line. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 8:28:38 PM | DW Canada, It isn't every woman that has a problem with not having an active social life. Me I hardly get to try to find someone because I have 3 kids in toe all the time. I try to find the time, but I understand, It is hard to do both. Don't give up, some of us are more understanding to this situation than you think.    | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/6/2006 8:35:52 PM | | I know it's an old post. But I thought I would put in my two cents worth. Iv'e done it, and swore, I would never do it again, but did, with the same results. I only scanned the posts, but have never seen my concerns mentioned. Children, particularly boys, seem to get very attached to me rather quickly, and suffer, when the relationship fails. Not only that, but I had the teenage daughter of a partner, somewhat hostile to me, in favour of my partners Ex, who was still hanging around. She invited him to her birthday party, at which time, I was out on the street, while the Ex was staying, long after the party, to try and win back the effections of the woman. He was a control freak, but there were other factors, I only learned about later. Oh, isn't love grand! Anyway, that's my perspective. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/6/2006 8:55:12 PM | | yes, we do exist in fact. To be honest about myself, I would rather date a mother with children....they would better understand the fact that their is times that I wouldn't be available due to my 2 boys needs or activities than a person with no children. And another thing is by watching how she acts with her own children, see how the disapline and behavior of the children to know if your family values are more of togetherness. But have to say that it just seems hard to know when a mother is single with a child is around. especially someone that i seem to be more attracted too. | |
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