| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/12/2006 7:17:02 PM | desperate and not picky
Thank You....its so NICE and GLAD to see someone finnaly said that and about time maybe some of those people will READ what you post and REALIZE it is NOT their/our kids that causes us to NOT get dates or NOT being able keep, a man/woman! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/13/2006 3:06:05 AM | LOL. well Ive sat here for the last half hour reading all the posts that have been placed on the forum. I understand alot of what the single mums are saying . It is hard to find a GENUINE ( not out to just get laid ) male that will take out a single mum. I have to laff at some of the stereotypic guys that think that a single mum is a easy lay. ( very amusing ). I also am a single mum of three kids . Two are teenagers, and fair enuff they are able to look after themselves when I wish to go out. I do however have a 2 and half year old as well. This does tend to cramp the style of some males that wish to go out with me . A lot of males are like kids they want all the attention and when realising that they have to share the attention with a younger child, they run and sulk.. LOL. so on Both parts of this forum . Yes single mum do tend to use their kids as a reason that they dont go out and that guys dont want to take them out. I have come across that frequently myself. so Both sexz basically need to grow Up. Accept what there life is and move on . And if the guys dont want to date you. IT is THEIR lose not yours . and males you need to realise . your mum brought you up . NOw its your turn to share the attention with the kids of the woman you are choosing to date. That is life . You want a woman with kids . THEN we are a package . Deal with it both sexs .
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Joined: 7/11/2006
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/13/2006 7:12:01 AM | I think it is not the fact of having kids, it is that most women I know won't stop talking about them. That gets old very quickly, for anyone.
I date for myself, not my children, and have no trouble finding excellent, interesting people to go out with ... but I leave my kids out of it, and have enough of a life that i can talk about art, or politics, or soccer, or the latest book. Let's face it; even our friends don't want to be around us if all we talk about is kids.
Same goes for guys: If you have kids, that's great: but I don't want to hear all the endless details because that is their mother's area, not mine. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/13/2006 8:21:31 AM | | I know how you feel i have a 2 year old and a 1 year old and i find guys that like kids but dont want them around all the time and i dont have a sitter or money for one. Is it wrong to want to find a good guy. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/13/2006 9:54:50 AM |
I think it is not the fact of having kids, it is that most women I know won't stop talking about them. That gets old very quickly, for anyone.
It's the same not only for single mothers, also for single fathers and married couples. I've known married people who have nothing to talk about but kids. It gets boring after 2 seconds.
It's very important to have a life outside kids and work. Art, movies, politics, religion, etc. are good subjects. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/13/2006 12:41:00 PM | do women actually exist that date men that have kids? i am a full time dad if you are out ther here i am most run when they finde out i am a full time dad and like famly life better than bars and running wild but my son just has me we have no famly here we do have a dog max he is a trip he is a puppy that my son loves he has falen off are boat a time or to looking at the dolfen when we go camping well if you see some one out ther for us send them are way | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/14/2006 7:13:53 PM | yup. I run into the same thing. I'm in Slidell, north of New Orleans and it seems like every woman worth dating is either married or not interested. I think I actually got more notice when I took my friends' kids to their various activities to give their mom a little free time than when I was alone. Now, I love those girls, but I want to find someone who's interested in me rather than the instant family.
*shrug* I look at a single mom's children as a great way to see what kind of person she is. What kind of parent you are tells a lot about a person and is pretty easy to see in the children. This isn't always good/bad but a matter of preference. Unfortunately I guess being a generally nice guy who doesn't do the bar scene means I spend my time single.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/14/2006 10:45:39 PM | | i think alot women let themselves down when they have kids.. meaning most times they use having kids as an excuse ... take for example the comment: i'm bigger now as oppose to before i had kids.. come on ladies doesn't mean the fact that we have kids we can't look good ? why does the man not change his physical shape because he has kids? yes our body changes when we have a baby but that doesn't mean we can't get back in shape... the same way we could get a man before we had kids we can get one after the fact.. just get back looking good as before or even better............... and yes you can ..tell a man that u have kids don't let him figure it out because of the way you look. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/15/2006 12:47:49 AM | As long as you're not one of those been there, done it all types...
The children in the past give you the characture.
Let's see and hear more from just the lady who is looking. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/15/2006 2:50:05 PM | | Actually I prefer woman with kids - probably because I have kids too and it's easier to relate. I find mother's to be sexier as well. They have seen a bit of life and are interesting to talk too. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/15/2006 5:58:35 PM | | i would date a single mom my brother does and i've met the kid and there cool any back to why i'd do it my mom raised 5 of us by herself so i have a good idea how tough it is for single moms i'd have to add a conditon though if it worked out i'd at least want one kid of my own with her | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/15/2006 9:56:42 PM | Parknfly...I have to say, your message was probably one of the nicest to us single mothers :) Thank you!
For everyone else that reads this...our children whether we be single Mum's or Dad's aren't a hinderance to whether we date or not. If someone appears interested in you and then turns up their noses because you have children that is the first red flag to run now! FAST lol.Yes, everyone that has children knows that their child(ren) come first and foremost. I think though you have to fully get to know someone before bringing someone else into the picture with your kids. The only thing I have ever had a problem with is hearing people say...OMG you are dating someone with kids? (that has been said to me..I have dated a full time father and it was a great experience). People said to me..are you sure you want to carry that extra baggage? I just about died. I have never once looked at my children or someone elses as baggage..I like to think if you have to coin a phrase on dating people with children as the kids are our extensions. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/16/2006 1:38:21 AM | | Us women *and men!!* with kids have more to offer, and i believe are more grounded with heads on our shoulders than other people. Now, I am not insulting other people or trying to get on anyones bad side, I just think that myself having a child means respondsibility to me, but, in turn i am also willing to offer that respondsibility and grounded personality *with a wild side* to whomever I am with. So, shouldnt that be more of an attractant and appealing than something such as having a job, and just a single life? Sorry if i offended anyone, wasnt meant, just think I have more to offer as a single mom than just a single woman. :) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/16/2006 10:34:46 AM | | I agree with everything that has been said about single mums with kids, its hard to meet men,and any guy with kids who say its the same for you its not, you can easily go into a pub on your own for a pint i wouldnt feel comfortable going into a pub on my own. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/16/2006 10:43:25 AM | There are just as many woman that hit the hills, when they find out about a guys children. What I mean is, you post that you have children, you tell them when you start to talk-that you have children, and are very active in the lives of your children, you say everything short of "My childrens happiness will far exceed my own right to happiness, should the two ever oppose each other". The problem seems to be, because of the stigma of the "dead beat Dad", that you ever get taken seriously. When you have to pass on a weekend date for a couple of weeks, due to a busy work schedule and having the kids, it turns into, "you are not interested, not serious, just looking for a "booty call" or you are dating multiple women. I just feel that dating, from a single Dad's point of view, is alot of heart ache. I do not introduce "Dates" to the kids, until I feel comfortable that it is going somewhere positive. That always seems to cause problems, almost as if they are not good enough for you to introduce to your kids. If it is going well. be patient, it will happen, but not right away. It takes time for the level of commitement to develope to bring the kids and their lives into the picture.
It never amazes me though, that when looking through adds, I tend to look at the adds of a single mother, after all, they should understand what it is to have children, but I have seen countless adds of single mothers who do not want to be contacted by a man with children already. Its a double standard that goes unnoticed, I think.
In short, yes! Guys do want to date women with children, as long as the woman is willing to do the same. Single guys are hard to speak for, maybe they are just not ready for the commitment yet, any way you cut it, leave the kids out of it until you are sure that they will have something to offer your family..... | |
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Joined: 4/9/2006
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/16/2006 12:11:19 PM | yes men actually exist that would date women with kids. thats how i actually had my own child Mattao. The men that are all into girls until they find out they have a kids are kids themselves. Dating a girl with kids is actually really cool. You get to enjoy alot more things then just partying up and getting drunk all the time. Yes it means that there is alot more responiblities, but it pays off in the end. dont give up girls, ull find that man outta all these kids on here!!!! good luck fishing | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/16/2006 1:13:42 PM | As a single full time father myself (seven years) i also find the same to be true of women.
Personally i have the deepest respect for all single parents , the love and effort it takes to be both parents is tremendous, you are all heros to me.
As for me i am looking to develope a relationship with a fellow single mum the phrase "it take one to know one" takes on a differnet meaning here. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/16/2006 1:51:26 PM | Hi everyone
I thought I would share my story on men dating women who have children. My son is 14 soon to be 15 and my ex had two boys whom when he gets a chance to visit them he does. They are younger. I was told by his friend that while we were dating he thought maybe it would be better to date a girl who had no children, so he wouldn't have to feel responsible for another man's child? He knew in the beginning that I had a child and this really upsets me. I am not looking for someone to be a father to my child or give my child money as he said that if he had to it would just take away from his kids?? A double blow I would say. He ended it friday over the phone as he is out of town and I felt insecure because I know he desperatly wants to go visit and ex girlfriend who lives in Toronto. He says they are great friends but he never made me feel secure about the whole situation. He turned off his phone at nite when he would sleep over or fail to tell me when she called him or never return her call when I was around... AM I loosing it or asking too much?? | |
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tadger
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Joined: 7/11/2006
Msg: 825 | |
| hot daddies...
Posted: 7/17/2006 2:49:42 PM | Men with children, who are involved and interested in their kids, are showing responsibiltyand integrity. Well, and fertility...
Who wouldn't want to be with a man who loves his children?
There is something very sexy about a person that shows commitment and compassion to another human being. | |
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