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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/18/2006 6:10:12 AM | | To Nightphantom, I also have two older children, however I think it's incredibly sexy when a man has children. I myself cannot find one - but i am definatly looking!!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/18/2006 6:16:55 AM | Well I ask the same question, I am a single dad, with two daughters and I can't find women to date, I am 55 but young at heart and body, all the women my age are grannies, I feel that I would like to date a woman in her 40's for we have more in common and energy levels are compatible
if there are any out there in the Kootenays give me a shout | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/18/2006 7:14:55 AM | | I have been wondering the same thing. I am recently separated and have a 3 year old son. At first I worried about things like how soon as I should tell a guy that I have a child or how soon would I let him meet anybody etc, etc...But now, even in this short time, I have decided to just put it out there right off the bat. We are a package deal so take it or leave it. I am not looking for a "dad". He has one. So if someone is interested in me, the fact that I have one shouldn't be a problem but I'm sure it is for some. But I understand the feelings of having "baggage" etc and know that it probably will be tough. I also know that some men take advantage of that and that's something to watch for too. I guess I will be better equipped to answer this one after I have dated a few...lol. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/18/2006 2:53:48 PM | To tina 1976
Take it from me, I thought I met a guy on here who was ready to be with me regardless of my boys, but in reality as time went on he told me that he didn't think he could be responsible for my son...I just wanted him to be with me, my oldest son lives with me and will soon be 15, so really not too much he has to be responsible for.. Some men just like some women will tell you what they think you want to hear until one day they decide NOPE this is not for me and walk...it only hurts the kids involved. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/18/2006 4:15:59 PM | Some men just like some women will tell you what they think you want to hear until one day they decide NOPE this is not for me and walk...it only hurts the kids involved. Exactly the reason why kids should not be involved in the dating process altogether. If you want to date, do so when the kids are not with you. There is really no reason to involve the in their parent's dating. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/18/2006 4:25:01 PM | Holy cow, this topic has a lot of posts! I have found men that will be involved in my kid's lives, but they turn and run when it comes time to actually make a committment to ME. Is it me? Do I offend??
I don't care. I mean, sure, I want love and committment and all that, but at the end of the day, as long as I am a great mom and true to myself, all is well.
Why don't all you single dads who say you can't find dates contact some of the single mom's who can't find dates and see where THAT goes??? Sheesh, ya'll got 34 pages to chose from!  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/18/2006 8:38:04 PM | ACTUALY:
The men who wont date women with kids are down right stupid.
Drawing from my own experiences, women with children are more pleasant, caring and affectionate, etc. etc. than old maids that think their crap don't stink.
Anyone who's been in the dating scene very long knows that women who have never had children or have never been married for that matter are ****y, self-centered, etc.
Sometimes I think men worry too much that kids are going to tie them down. When in fact, they over look what might be a good companion. Now I am not refering to women who just wants money or a daddy for the kids. I am refering to women (Or men) for that matter, who are looking for something for themself. Marriage has a lot more to be considered, but where talking about a man and women dating or lovers. Having a lover is healthy having kids are healthy, but old maids are prudish. When I think about it, we were all kids once.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/19/2006 12:26:18 PM | | For sure...If I am interested in that person, I have to accept whatever conditions they are in. I would be loth to restrict my heart to only those who had no children, and I truly despise that type of male who cannot invest care in children that do not derive from his own paternity. My mother was a single parent, and so I have seen firsthand the difficulties such people face on a daily basis, be it the ignorant attitudes of some men or the ridiculously antiquated social prejudices against single parents. I do not think that a man who dates a single mother should overcompensate in being a role model father either, since these terms should be set by the mother in all cases. For me, I am interested in the mother, and invariably I will have an interest in the children, too, since they play a significant role in that person's interests. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/19/2006 7:43:03 PM | I'm a single mom, professional that works full-time, share custody of my 3 kids aged 15-10 1/2 and 7 1/2..I have been separated for 4 + years and let me tell you...i have never had any trouble finding a guy...my last 2 serious relationship were with 2 single guys with no kids..And i still don't have a problem with dating....don't give up...There is someone out there for each one of us..
Sincerly,
Annie | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/20/2006 5:24:04 AM | Actually, there are those of us who would actually prefer a 'Package Deal". The only site that I have found that you might try is Single Parent Meet.com. Great site with lots of nice people, but you have to be a member to even read your mail. So if ya join and write someone, you're never sure they even got the message.
There may be other sites like this one that are more user friendly. Maybe FISH could set up a catagory, who knows.
I'd ask ya out myself, but it's a long swim accross Lake Erie from Toledo. Smile.
Bill | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/20/2006 5:27:59 AM | | Hey Tina, Maybe he really was into you, but was honest enough to express his doubts about dealing with your son. Moving in to a pre made family isn't the easiest thing a fella can do. And the kids can either be accepting, or NOT. The not ones may be worth all the extra love and attention. Or they can just be a permanent pain in the......... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/22/2006 11:55:10 AM | I am finding out that there is no one of my age or even a few younger ladies that do not have children. I myself have visiting rights to my 2 children and can't convince my X to let me see them more often.So what id like to say is that i see here that DAWN you are looking for some1 that is just a yr younger than i am ,...(36) ...and it sounds to me that what some of you ladies are looking for are GUYS that are just imature or nowheres near ready for the comitment of children! lol the men are out there that WILL date women with kids,its just that u might be looking in the wrong places ...(i think).  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:21:17 PM | | Well were out there, i think what scares off most men is the fact they fear if a relationship lasts short term eg 6-12 months do the kids get too attached? kids are great, and when a parent gets involved with someone else they wonder why, is that my new daddy mommy if a guy hears that hell run, But i think also women with kids offer a lot more, they are skilled as a parent, they are set with routine, know how to budget. they tend to be less conceded, a good thing in this guys books, myself if i had no kids would also love the chance to test the waters (family), | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:22:57 PM | | Where i live (in the back of beyond lol ) most of the men that i have met are only after one thing , the one's that say they dont mind me having a child use that as an excuse to walk away .. But i still believe there are alot out there that do date women with kids ( just got to find them ) | |
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| I date single mums
Posted: 7/22/2006 4:09:21 PM | I think men generally do date single mums,
I know I do, but thats because I'm a single dad and have my own children 2/3 times a week. My little girls come first in my every thought and decision and only a single mum can truly appreciate that.
I find mothers much more attractive than childless women and I'm sure lots of other guys do. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/23/2006 11:30:53 AM | | I have a really hard time with this! Guys hear the word "kid" and run the other direction. I have no problem dating a guy with a kid, so im not sure why it's such an issue for the ones I meet?! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/23/2006 7:29:15 PM | Well in the past 10years since i've been dating..I've never turned down a single mom! The sad part is that sometime being a single man without the responsibly of taking care of a child it becomes a problem for the single mom. Usually the single mom want the guy to be reasonably right of the start(or even dad). Remember most men aren't ready for that...and that's why so many single men won't date a single mom. Single men like there single lifestyle. Bar hoping, being selfish,dating different woman etc...
I've always been selfless, was never a bar hopper And always seemed to be more mature then my years.
I've almost always dated older woman with kids(the oldest being 13years my senior). I liked older woman because they seem to judge men less...and realize there is more to life then just stuff...but what a person thinks and feels.
But when it come right down to it...making a good match doesn't matter about kids..love or whatever.. It's weather you can be happy with you...and then someone who is happy will also come into your life..and want to Join you. Anyway..that's my two sense worth. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/23/2006 7:33:07 PM | | After message "845" mine makes (846) you would think some of us would get the picture that MOST men do exist that date women with kids i mean not all men will turn us down just because we have kids and same as for men who have kids not all of, us women will turn him down because he has kids/baby. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/23/2006 8:12:55 PM | | Seems like in this day and age alot of people dont want to take responsibilaty for there own kids much less someone elses. I have cusdody of my 14 yr old daughter and almost feel guilty asking someone out that does'nt have kids . so yes we exist, but it is hard. for all of us, men and women. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/23/2006 10:37:16 PM | I can answer that question with ease,I don't think I've been on a date with a woman in years that didn't have children.I personaly want a woman that has kids because thats something I can't produce.
Women always seem to let a guy know that its a package deal. The only thing they seem to forget is that men are also part of that very same deal,& for us to get involve we have to be involved.Its important to remember that we are caring people as well & for those of us hoping to find a wife some day we should love her kids as if they were our own.Not to say we are there new dads just that wer'e more than the kids personal ATM.Alot of guys talk about this subject to other guys but they seem to shy away from it around the women,not me,I guess thats why I'm single lol... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/26/2006 1:17:34 PM | | men need to stop lloking down on single mums! realatoinships end-fact of life! if men put more more effort into a relationship there wouldnt be as many of us single mums around! we are to be admired cus we do all the hard work!SINGLE MUMS RULE! | |
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