| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/26/2006 10:56:46 AM | | I'm the father of two teenage boys. They have been with me for more than three years. They are my world. Women are the same way, once they find out about two teenage boys they seem to lose interest. I was young when I became a father, so my boys are a bit older then my girlfriends kids which can be very difficult too. Anything from age 15 to 2years old. Yes it takes work no matter what. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/27/2006 1:27:49 AM | | I use to see a guy that had two teenage boys. I really liked this guy, but I guess it was just not clicking with the both of us. Because ever since I met his teenage boys and they met not just me, but my teenage daughter .... things died down from there with the guy and myself. The boys went and told their mother about me and my daughter and the guy decided not wanting to see me after that. Oh well! I just keep on searching for someone who can understand where I'm coming from and really like kids and understand my situation a little better. Especially with not just being a mother of a teenage daughter, but a mother to a very special little boy with autism. Are there guys out there can understand what I go through with a special needs child, along with a teenager? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/28/2006 3:19:04 PM | | I have six kids. I can tell you that I dread that kids question. But I am always honest. Some men are ok with it..some ain't. It is their choice. I am not asking a man to date my whole family, only me. I never bring anyone around my children unless I know they deserve to meet them. So trust me when I tell you that has not been too often. I do try to have a social life..after the baby is in bed...which makes it hard. Kids do get attached easily....so this is why i choose to have a late evening social life. If a man wants to be with you and only you it really doesn't matter what your circumsatance he accepts it because of you. If not then you know he wasn't the one for you anyway. So ladies keep your head up...all men are not like Mr. htown....peace...eventhough I can respect him for his choice to say that he won't date a woman with kids. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/28/2006 3:59:48 PM | | I have a son and when he is with me i get all kinds of woman comeing up to me and saying oh how cute but none want to date i would date a woman with two teenage kids where is she send her my way | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/30/2006 4:25:30 AM | | Yep...they are out there..just make sure they have a good relationship with their own kids...because if they don't...having one with your's is going to be impossible for them. I just went thru that and it is truly heart breaking for all. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/30/2006 11:54:42 AM | This is totally my personal opinion and does not reflect the opinions of other men. I am at the age now where I don't really have a choice but to date someone with kids. From my personal experiences, I don't really like to get involved because there has been a tendency of a lot of drama that comes up with it. The problem isn't the children unless they are brats, but the situation that involves the children. If the father does something that the mother doesn't like, guess who is the first to hear about it? Me. At that point it makes me feel the relationship is Me, Her and Him. I don't have my old girlfriends in the picture and don't really want to deal with her ex's either and children will keep ex's in the picture in some form or fashion.
Also some guys feel that they are sometimes looking for a father for their children. I have been assured by several women that was not the case. I still have no conclusion on that one yet.
The other issue I have seen is step children punking out the boyfriend/husband girlfriend/wife and he/she has no say what goes on.
I do own my own house and I doubt if that would fly with me very well, even though they are not mine but I am supposed to treat them as if they were mine but have no say when they do something that I do not approve of in my house.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/31/2006 1:28:09 PM | | I have found a lot of guys willing to date a women with 2 kids. it is just they do not understand that i can not get out as much as the women who do not have kids is were we run in to the problem. and the fact that there is no over nighters. but i have also ran into those guys who only want to date me cause i hve kids and they tend to tell me how to raise my children and want o be "daddy". i acualy had a guy say to one of my sons " come to daddy"! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/31/2006 6:08:42 PM | I am a single mom.. and I believe it comes down to the relationship between the adults.
By which I mean any relationship requires good communication as a basis. If you have that and understand where each other is at then there should be no prob. In my experience you need to make sure you've got the grounds for more then a short- term relationship before doing the whole "family" thing.And dont ever enter into this kind of situation without a firm understanding that theres going to be adjustments for everyone, you & ur mate as well as for the kids, these adjustments make take a while to iron out before everyone is settled but if you care enough about the person you're involved with you deal, as she will deal and so will the kids until the "family" comes together.....its not easy for anyone but in the end its not only worth it, but can be the greatest thing in your life. You havta have communication, consideration and patience for all people involved... nothing worth having in life comes easy, and you really will get out of it what you put into it, it just takes a bit of time   | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/1/2006 10:22:29 AM | I just started to read the forums and I came across this and wanted to provide my feedback. I always dated women with kids but not settle down with them. As much as I love kids I didn't want someone else's responsibilties. I did meet a women in my 30's with 2 grown boys and I ended up married to her and took the boys on as my own. So to answer your question, yes there are men out there. Now that I have a Daughter and I am a single parent, I know it's hard to find someone that will except my situation.
So the question I ask is "are there any women out there that will except single Daddy's?" | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/1/2006 11:52:30 AM | I would much rather date a woman with kids, because I am a single parent myself. I think I have a lot in common with other parents and it is easier to date someone who knows, you just cannot go out when ever you want to. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/1/2006 6:04:45 PM | | I would pretty much only date a woman with kids, I have 3 of my own, and it takes a pretty unique woman who has no kids, to jump into a relationship with 3, and the vice versa exists. I personally love kids, of all ages, I have a lot of respect out there for single parents whether they be men or women, it is not easy, but everyone made a choice to not be in a bad situation, with the exception of those that are widowed, and to those people, my deepest sympathies, I can't even begin to imagine, how hard that would be. I hope everyone has a very safe and awesome holiday weekend. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/1/2006 8:39:34 PM | You nailed it and not just to protect the kids... I lived with a woman who had a dog, and it was hard enough saying goodbye to him. I cannot even imagine if he was human child  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 3:51:08 AM | | I would like to think so. My dad married my mom and she had 8 children from her first marriage then they had 2 more. He has been my dad since I was 2 and I thank God for him every day. The funny thing is that he was the officer who responded to the domestic violence call. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 8:15:46 AM | | As a single father of five girls and raising the youngest myself, i can understand this question. Although most of my girls are older and on their own now with their own kids, my nine year old and i are very close. her mother is in the picture also, but rarely. As for dating single women, Yes I would date a women with kids and look forward to meeting them. They too have situations and experiences to share. It's fair to say that this question can work both ways also, Do women actually exist that would date men with kids? I just thought that being a single parent (for whatever reason) is one of lifes situations and the man up above is testing everyone. But back to the main topic, as before yes i would date a women with kids. Dating is tough enough for all and even harder when their is kids involved, but after time getting to know each other and after the both of you agreeing on when each should meet the others kids so they too can be involved in your relationship. I too would like to meet single women with kids, not just because of the kids but for the women as well. Thanks for the chance to give my view..A single father | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 9:19:54 AM | | Im not quite sure if they exist.. i am single mother of a 4 year and old and soon to be 3 year old.. its not easy.. my last boyfriend was so sweet and got close to kids and then after 3 months left.. kept on maken excuses but i think it was the kids.. :( | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 10:04:36 AM | Yes we exist..BUT..Single Moms must understand the train of thought of some of us men.
-We are seeking a woman for companionship etc.And with a child now there are 2 (or more)relationships happening...but that not the problem, it's the Dad(s).
I have seen way too many realationships go sour because of dads that can't let go of the fact that "IT'S OVER!" . That lack of maturity alone will turn many a man off of ANY situation where children are involved. YES, I realize that the Father(s) should be seeing thier children and that's not a problem...It's the 25-35 year old fathers that show up in the middle of the night or constantly call or just cause any chaos possible.
Now if I was a father that didnt live with my children, I would expect every right to know who is going to be around my children on a regular basis, but thats where it should stop when it comes to your (the moms) new personal choices.
whith that being said...we are out here and willing to try, but dont be suprised if we cool off after some ***hole ex starts using the kids to get back at you (ie. screw up custody plans on purpose) or get in your way of living your life. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 12:16:54 PM | We actually exist...just apparently not in the same state as you and the other million females out there that over look us and say not my type but you realy dont know what your type is untill u date them . you need to start looking on the inside and not what we are on the out side than maybe we both can be happy
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 4:43:10 PM | Dude i hear you and from my point of view (single Dad) what about the ladies that we are looking for as single dads do they exist soon as i drop the bomb that i have kids its all over.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 5:07:37 PM | Trixter:
I find a similar problem when telling people I have a son full time living with me. I find I have to explain that in detail to alot of girls. But once that shock is over I instantly become that stable guy... The one who is safe...
But then, and even with singe moms, it seems once they realize they will always take a back seat to my son, they lose interest in me. And to boot my sons Autism is alot to deal with as well, so I don't fully blame them. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 6:41:53 PM | Spider:
Thats funny cause i get that all the time but the stable guy only lasts till they get bored or its old. What i hate are the ladies who like kids but when yours wears off they just dissappear. Any single moms opinions would be nice too.
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