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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 8:38:54 PM | | i always wonder the same thing do guys date girls with kids? i'm very protective over my kids and i'm very straight up about them.my profile before i changed it was pretty much to the point i wasn't looking for a dad or anything. i don't know i've only been in long term relationships and both were to single dads. but now it seems like guys are judging women on alot of things just because we have kids in our care full time dosen't make us have no life or things like that, were human just like anyone else we just have more responsibilities then most at the same time of having f/t jobs we have f/t responsibilities of our children.although we can make time for someone else if the right person comes our way, but they have to prove that they are worthy of us taking a couple hours of getting a babysitter for the kids and going out an having some adult time. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 8:58:25 PM | the ladyinred,
i agree i'm a single mother of 2 kids. and my sons father has not paid 1 cent in over 5 years in child support or anything, he dosen't even send him cards for holidays or anything. i don't need his money i already have the better part of him and not any amount of money in the world can amount to him so in my eyes i've already robbed him blind.lol. i pay my own bills i work my butt off i take care of my kids and live my life i'm happy with or without a man in my life it would just be nice to have someone to hang out with once in a while.well good luck to u and your child. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 9:19:00 PM | I joined P.O.F. and met what I thought was a nice lady, she was a single mother and things seemed to be going well for 6 or 7 weeks, we were spending 3 or 4 days and nights together each week and her daughter and I got a long very well...then suddenly she sends me an e-mail saying she is breaking up with me, no explaination given...it would have been nice to at least get her reasoning, a few days later I checked her profile on this site and I noticed where until then I was the only one that had her on my list of "favorites" she has a few other guys that have her on her list. I hope these guys do not spend too much money on her or else they may regret contacting her as she clearly has no consideration for anyone's feeling feelings or class. Yes guys willing to date single mothers are out there but we do not like feeling used. I do not think using men is just an issue for single mothers men use women, women use men and it has nothing to do with single mothers. She just went on and on about how guys she dated in the past only wanted one thing and wanted nothing to do with her daughter, well she met a guy that wanted her and would accept her daughter as well and she does this?
I think breaking up face to face is best, you may not like to do it but it is only fair, plus she does owe me a small amount of money.
Next after her I meet another single mother on a differant web-site, after a few expensive dates that she has me pay for she says sends me an e-mail saying that she does not see herself falling in love with me but would like me to spend time with her 2 children.
Again yes guys wiling to date single mothers are out there but please ladies, do ot use us, the ones that do give all single mother's a bad name. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 9:20:01 PM | | Actually I was thinking the opposite. Seems like most girls don't like the fact I have kids! Weird but true, it's all good though I'd rather have my kids than anything (including a woman) Not bitter but there has to be others out there that will be ok with me having my kids. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 9:57:07 PM | | This is the way i see it. As a mother and from experience dating someone who had a child, Mothers are very protective and territorial (for lack of a word) when it comes to their children. My ex has a child and his mother did everything in her power to get between us until he finally gave in. And I was the one pushing him to have a relationship with his son. Now my daughter won't have a relationship with her father. I have seen it with friends and family you date a Man who has a child, and the mother is still alove all hells breaking loose. But if you date a woman with a child, men think they are being roped into fatherhood. If the fathers out of the picture, the child can latch onto the father figure relatively early and has a 50/50 chance of being let down. If the father is in the picture he can be nice ( has his life back on track) or he can be a royal pain in the keester (deadbeat dad or Jealous) NOw the jealousy has a 50/50 chance of another man sleeping with "his" woman, his "childs mother" and for some reason tat gets to a guy. or the 50/50 chance the jealousy is about another man spending time with his child he wishes he was doing. Does this make any sense to anyone. Im getting sleepy and this might just not be wording correctly. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 10:06:02 PM | | But I must add that any man that is stepping up and raising his child alone I think you all deserve a great pat on the back. Its happening more and more often and I think thats wonderful. But with everything said it does all depend on the person and facts behind their life. I wont sit here and say Id never date a man who has children, because how can I than expect someone to date me when I have a child. For me being a single parent is hard enough without worrying if your gonna be penialized in the dating field for doing so. Id take my child over anyone. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/2/2006 10:13:37 PM | | i am a single father, and i will say i date women with children ONLY, but what the problem is for me when dateing a single mother, is the EX.....they are jealous or just cause problems in a lot of ways......but its really only that fact for me........ | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/3/2006 8:00:41 AM | | Get used to it bro the fact is i am connected to my ex forever and yes she does cause problems but you know if the woman is worth it she will understand and the two of you will get through it together and for the record ex's do cause lots of problems, but what can you do mothing! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/3/2006 8:54:16 PM | First i wanted to take a min to say.....its fantastic to see so many posts from fathers who are "dads" that in itself speaks to your qualities... in our society where family unity is almost obsolete and more and more fathers are becomming more and more rare.... /cheers to you !!!
The ex's thing i have seen posted about a few times on here , but it isnt solely a single moms issue, i have seen my fair share of female ex's who think its fun to use children against their fathers to "punish" them for moving on, and being happy with sumone else..... without a thought to the damage they cause to their children in the process... revenge and jealousy is immature, but happens on both sides... I dont believe you can hold that against your prospective partner as they really have no control over sumone elses behaviour....again something you just gotta deal with till it settles if your someone means enough to you...
And i dont have issues dating single fathers, If it wasnt for men willing to raise thier own child/children, or the men that are substantial enough to take on a child and make a difference in that childs life there wouldnt be such a thing as step-dads, and alot of children would grow up with no positive male role models... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/4/2006 4:19:14 PM | | hi everyone!!! I want to put my 2 cents in here,,,,,, I am a grandmother with a grand child to raise,,,,,there are no men that want that,, even though she is well behaved and a great child...I would love for someone to answer my problem....anyone got any ideas? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/4/2006 6:12:57 PM | | ok, i've read a few of the posts, and yes i'm new here, however, i do have to agree with shedevil on this question. Being a mother of three, I know how shedevil feels very much. Ok, so if a guy doesn't want a relationship with you, is there a problem with keeping in touch as friends? I mean come on people!!! I'm sure I'm not speaking for myself when I say this, but did you ever stop to thinks that some of us single moms who don't get to go out once in a while might actually like to have friends to come visit once in a while?? I myself have no problem accepting a guy who has kids. My ex had kids when I met him and I got along great with them. All I'm saying is, why not start out as becoming friends and see what happens? Even if you introduce the person to your kids and it doesn't work out, you could easily become the best of friends and still hang out the odd time with the kids which I might add there is really no harm in doing that at all | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/5/2006 6:09:00 PM | Im not so sure it's not us as "Mothers" who cheat ourselves out of the possibility of having a meaningful relationship. For the fear of "doing the right thing for our kids" When really there are more than enough men going around to "date" and willing to stick around. Im positive I have more than likly ran a couple off with my "independent" attitude. It's not the kids ALOT of the time ITS US!!!! And then you do have some men who just dont want too, which is fair enough I think. I just want someone to be honest. I have 9 yr old triplets and dont have a problem getting "dates" but im bad to assume that nothing more is really wanted.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/5/2006 9:33:58 PM | | I know I posted on this topic already but I remembered something that went throuigh my head when I became single again. I immediately thought ok, I can move on but how.....I mean before it was well,safe sex,good job,not a mommas boy :) etc. then it was like um do I get a background check, police clearence. I mean I have to protect my daughter and there are men out there sorry guys but it is a fact that there are these men who prey on single moms to get to their children. It scares the hell out of me. I know guys who only date "mommys", im not sure about their reasoning but im thinking its because they know they put out lol. my baby brother is one of them, and the older the better. see its the sex thing again. The other scare we have is getting close and getting pregnant again and another man leaving. everyone is different I know, and you dont just hop into bed with just anyone but people do it all the time. My main goal in life is keeping my daughter safe. How do I do that. I cant really ask a guy for a criminal clearence. Can I? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/6/2006 2:27:11 PM | This is a good question, my girlfriend of 4 years has just left me for another man and i told her that for about 6 months now i have been dropping hints that i want us to start a family and have a lovely little baby, she told me that i should have been upfront and told her whilst we were still together because she wanted the same,
she aint willing to come back to me cus obciously this new guy is on the scene, but if im honest, if there was a lovely lady i really really liked, she could have 40 kids for all i care, i like the woman, not the situation, id love to get into a relationship with someone who already has kids or was willing to have kids with me.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/6/2006 2:37:15 PM | | Just like anything, it's limited people that will not even try dating people outside of their closed ideas. We need to call for people to think outside of the box. Obviously, single parents only want to date someone mature enough to handle it x | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/6/2006 8:53:12 PM | WELL SAID! My kids are not baggage either. They're the best thing that ever happened in my life. We choose who we're with and not with. Kids, on the other hand, they're ours from start to finish. If I'm told my kids aren't good enough for someone, it's really the other way around. That someone isn't good enough for my kids.
The other thing is WAIT before making introductions, and even then, don't expect instant acceptance. Give all parties time to really know each other and move forward. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/7/2006 3:45:49 PM | | i would certainly date a woman with a child it matters not to me but i agree that there are a@#holes out there that would not i guess i am one of the rare men out there that would but you be the judge of that | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/7/2006 4:31:11 PM | Okay you know what that is just a typical ***hole, man attitude to say. Becaue speaking for myself, I don't need a man to help me financially, I don't need a man to be a father to my children being that they have one.
But what is wrong with single mothers wanting a good man in their life who will love them and THE KIDS THE MAN KNEW THE WOMAN HAD TO BEGIN WITH.
What is wrong with a single mother wanting a good man in her life so her son will have a good decent, respectable man to look up to and for nothing more.
I figure: to hell with it ladies......... those kinda men aren't worth it any damn ways.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/7/2006 5:58:33 PM | I think you hit the nail on the head.. just read the profiles.. alot of women spend most of their profile typing how they don't need a father figure, and their kids come first, and if you don't want the package deal.. etc. etc.. not that I don't agree with the points to a degree.. but I think the "independent" attitude can be a turnoff.. give a guy a chance.. if you're any kind of judge of character you should know real quickly whether he's the type of guy for you and your kids.. or better yet.. don't involve the kids at all until the you feel the relationship is working out..
RE: assuming nothing more is really wanted.. that's stereotyping.. there are a few nice guys still left out there..lol | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/7/2006 6:40:23 PM | I also asking the same question, it seems that all men want is sex. They don't care about the kids in my life, whatever lengths they need to go to get what they need, they will and then they leave. So then your left feeling like garbage. I'm not saying all men are like that, but I'm starting to think maybe I need to find a single dad as well, cos at least there would be some understanding there and no judgement!
At least I hope | |
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