colshy
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Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 1076 | |
| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/12/2006 5:08:19 PM | | i have dated girls with kids and it has never been a problem but now i have a baby boy on the way i am finding it extremely difficult to even find a girl that is ok with it and when i do she does not understand when she is not my main priority i think girls are worse than guys with the isea of dating someone with kids? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/13/2006 6:38:18 PM | | well tell you what i was with my ex and she had 5 kids and i had 2 of my own and i took all the kids on as my own and helped her and all i got out of the deal is she left me for a drunk | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/14/2006 1:31:23 PM | | I proudly give preference to single moms. I WILL date a lady who doesn't have kids, IF she can prove she's child friendly, but honestly, if you don't have kids, are you REALLY going to be able to not go crazy with my four kids around? So, to answer...yes I date single moms. I prefer them. Jeremy in Florida | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/14/2006 9:25:55 PM | | OH WOW. i totaly agree with you. I have a 7 month old baby and people still get mad at me and ask me why i can never go out..Its called taking on your responsiblities..Talk about opening your eyes a bit eh.....shit. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/14/2006 11:15:11 PM | I have never dated a single mom, but that wouldnt stop me one bit. The one thing that would scare me is how would the kid view me? I think that would be my biggest worry. Assuming the relation goes very well and the two of you are together you have to raise him the best you can no?
Yet what i see in many single mom profile is "I dont want him to have a dad, he already has one". When i see that i see it has a; well you can be my other half but the kid is off limit as far as you raising him and loving him. So personally and i am sure many guys may feel that way is we're good enough to be your BF but we cant be good enough for your kid? That's awkward and in a certain way being hypocrite if you ask me... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/15/2006 11:13:59 AM | well diva if your on this site then you decided it is time to start going out,
but you child is very young yet, this would be a difficult situation,
obviously the need s of the child must come first, before you can start
having fun, may be you should hold on for a couple month s, | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/15/2006 6:10:05 PM | I'm with you, shedevil! I find a lot of guys SAY they have no problem witht he fact that I have kids -- but it often seems when it boils down to it that they are scared to death of the whole darn thing! My daughters are very accepting and warm, and as soon as my girls start showing some affection, it seems like some guys pull back and don't want them to become "attached" to them. I don't get it! ( FROM CHRYSLERGRIL)
WHY US GUYS ARE SCARED TO GET ATTACHED TO YOUR KID(S) ARE THE REASON MOST WOMEN USE THE KIDS WHEN THINGS DON'T GO THERE WAY TO HURT US GUYS. THAT IS THE REASON WAY....
I LIVED WITH THIS WOMAN FOR 7 YEARS AND I WAS THE ONLY DAD HER KIDS KNEW. I LOVED THE KIDS AS THEY WERE MINE WITH EVEER HEART BEAT OF ME. WHEN WE BROKE UP THE FIRST THING SHE DONE WAS TELL ME I COULD NOT SEE THE BOYS ANYMORE. IT HURT ME VERY BADLY. THE BOYS ALSO. WE ( MEN ) ARE TIRED OF BEING USED ALSO. LIKE I HAVE SAID MANY TIMES SO FAR. IF YOU WANT US TO LOVE YOU AND YOUR KID(S), THEN TREAT US THE SAME AND YOU'LL GET THE SAME. NOT ALL OF US MEN ARE DRINKS AND BUMS,DRUG USER,WOMAN BEATER.
ALOT OF US ARE WANTING THE SAME AS YOU DO. GIVE US A CHANCE. IF YOU DO... YOU MIGHT LIKE WHAT YOU FIND... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/16/2006 6:59:32 AM | I suppose I wouldn't mind dating a single mother, as long as she was from another state or country and didn't have her loser ex follow her everywhere she went. I mean, what guy in his right mind would want some drunk ex-boyfriend or ex-husband come around drunk at 3:00 in the morning banging on the door hollering: "I wanna see ma kids!"  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/16/2006 8:34:51 AM | I have been on my own for a few years now and have managed to meet men that say they have no problems that I have 2 children (now teenagers). In reality though once the going became a little tough they got going and always taking something with them.
I have not given up trying to find Mr right to cuddle up with at night. That is why am here but in reality resigned myself to being alone forever.
I'll keep my eye on this link and see if there are really any happy endings.
Jennie  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/16/2006 8:41:14 AM | I really don't know about that. I don't have teenage kids mine are alot younger, but it does seem to be a major issue! Actually the dating it not the hard part, finding a date hasn't been all that hard its finding a man to have a relationship with. Its just too much to take on I guess:( | |
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solo36
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Joined: 3/27/2006
Msg: 1093 | |
| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/16/2006 9:25:35 AM | Its like this..We all want that perfect love but in this day and age,its damn near impossible with kids especially.Its so hectic at times where do most married couples find time in the morning and then at night for what a total of 2 hrs..I stil hold alot of hope in destiny and the fate thing but im coming around real fast that its a long and lonely road...LOL..But without being a downer i do date women with children and women without.Both relationships end the same way.
Its always the same thing...u work too much...well i have too...LOL..i have to support my self and my son and my lifestlye which is soo bland its eerie.So its either we work too much or have no job at all..its a fine line...its not making any sense now...best of luck to all of you... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/16/2006 2:33:03 PM | yes men that date women with kids exist,i like them because if they are home seeing to kids,
then they are likely not cheating,im a lot of a home body,so they are for me,i like kids and i dont mind a girl with them,because i dont like going out all the time.
steve
chihuahu_99@hotmail.com | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/16/2006 11:00:33 PM | | Well, I have before, and I must confess, won't do it again. It's hard enough to try to make things work with you and the woman, kids make things even harder. To each their own, but if you're going to date a woman with kids, do yourself a favor, and find out EXACTLY what is expected of you. If she is looking for a father-figure and someone to assist with the bills for hte kids etc, and you're not into the family thing, make your exit quickly, vs wasting your time and hers. I'm 32 and single, and, and I work a LOT of hours. I don't really have the time and money to fork over dough for someone elses kids, and take care of my own bills too. I'm really not into being a family guy or the stand-in dad. Its a personal preference, but that's my opinion. I would only consider dating a woman with kids if I am not expected to be the dad and a father-figure. I'm not your kids father, and not going to be held to that standard. Problems is, in west michigan, difficult to find a woman who has a good job, intelligent, doesn't have a stank attitude, and doesn't have kids and/or baby mamma drama. Talk about mission impossible. I'm not knocking guys who do want to actively date women with children, but really not my cup of tea. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/16/2006 11:25:38 PM | | I am a single mom to 1 child and I admit I am a little bit hypocritical on this subject but with reason. If a man shows he is interested in me and already has 2+ kids I won't bother with him. The reason is simple, they do not want any more children. I would like to have 1-2 more and I am not willing to sacrafice that. If God doesn't want me to have any more kids then so be it but I'm just not willing to walk into a relationship knowing from the start he doesn't want any more kids. I wouldn't mind dating a single father that has 1 child though. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/17/2006 12:18:49 AM | | I have stated before that it is usually men with kids of their own that date women with kids. And I am talking about men that take care of their kids and have them on a regular basis. They tend to go through the same issues as single parent moms which means a better understanding when it comes to canceling dates and last minute plan changes. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/17/2006 3:18:21 AM | | it wouldnt bother me dating someone with kids,although i have a child of my own,before she was born i married a woman who already had a child,i brought him up as my own,unfortunatly the marraige didnt last,but i still see the child,we are out here | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/17/2006 12:24:03 PM | I just wanted to give some kudos to MrGecko, Jaberwoky, and especially Simbadsailer. It's nice to see some men actually standing up for men, especially in a manbashing thread like this. I'm glad I'm not the only male left with a backbone that is willing to speak his mind, even though it isn't a "nice" or "politically correct" take on the subject. You guys are awesome, and if you need some backup or someone to cosign something you said, I'm right here for you guys. MEN WITH BACKBONES UNITE!!!!!!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/17/2006 2:15:15 PM | THANKS ROB, I AM ALSO A SINGLE DAD AND GETTING BASHED BAD ON HERE FROM WOMEN WHO CAN'T STAND THE FACT THAT MEN CAN RAISE KIDS ALSO. NOT ALL WOMEN BUT MOST ON HERE.
I CAN'T MEET A "GOOD" WOMEN AS THEY CALL IT CAUSE I HAVE A CHILD WHO LIVES WITH ME FULLTIME. MOST WANT ME TO TAkE AND LOVE THERE KIDS BUT NOT DO THE SOME FOR MINE. | |
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